luminouz:

[s]Will u quit it already?
.Goan make me some pounded yam jor!!![/s]

luminouz:

Nice moves!!!!
Only a few matured women will acknowledge this n won't turn it into some sort of ego- tripping shiiit!

Adebowale89:




all women are romantic, that they are forming hard doesn't mean they're not


as for me, I love hard lady and sometimes those with ego because I got their track so fast.

i remember sometimes when one lady told me she's possess and I reply, don't u know a lady that's possess is my specs

luminouz:
Lol... Me too!!! The ones i avoid are d psychologically fvcked up ones!!!!

Pipedreams:
SO many self righteous, religious, two-timing, manipulative pigs on this thread. Very quick to quote scriptures. Baba if u had a kid ur trapped and u must go beg cos of that baby. Its not working out niyen...Just focus on ur hustle. The beautiful ones that would be good to you and respect you arent born!! Divorce will be harder on ur wife cos many african families frown at ladies not able to keep there home. Regrets will finally be hers. She will ask her self why she didnt grab u with her two hands when she had the chance. Pls dont be weak. Sometimes I get lonely too but I step out and rev up the streets!! Nothing do man. You can pick a wife at anytime so far you get the raba!

missyadorable:


Rantings of a very fooooolish man.
Your mates would have married a new wife now
Or got a sexx doll.
But you are here,disgracing men

doreto:
We are presently separated for 4 months with no contact/communication.The separation was not related to trust issues,but miscommunication,insults and the likes,no violence.

While I am in a great place emotionally,I want to attempt to reconcile our relationship.

I need ideas.Is it possible? If it is,has any one here seen a case of reconciliation after a deep marital separation? Please share with me.

Thanks.

Ishilove:

I tell you somtin, you come tink sey na anoda tin I mean, and you sef no kukuma cool down to query me wetin i min by di tin wey I tok, you com read opposite meaning. E com dey cause wahala, and the only solution na to separate.

Really fickle and immature people.

AnonyNymous:

No offense ma'am but the op asked for help and all you've done is just to castigate him and revel in your superior understanding of marriage. If you are really experienced in these issues then we'd like to hear your possible solutions so the op can apply them and we younger, unmarried ones can learn. Thanks.

doreto:
We are presently separated for 4 months with no contact/communication.The separation was not related to trust issues,but miscommunication,insults and the likes,no violence.

While I am in a great place emotionally,I want to attempt to reconcile our relationship.

I need ideas.Is it possible? If it is,has any one here seen a case of reconciliation after a deep marital separation? Please share with me.

Thanks.

olaremint:
Bros Four months is a long time and oceans have passed under the bridge, the fact that u people were married and she has made no moves since 4 months is a bitter but clear handwriting on the wall. you are not that important to her believe me when i say if a woman cares about u and marries u, even if u have physical disagreements , she would have soften up and people would have been coming to bother u on her behalf. move on bro and replace her so that you can rein your emotions.

Ishilove:
'Miscommunication' and boom! Separation. Smh

People of nowadays don't know the meaning of marriage. They just jump in and jump out like they are playing jump rope. It is no longer sacred or till death do part.

They just like the razzmatazz of pre-wedding pictures and the glitz and glamour of weddings, which is why when storm hits the so-called marriage it collapses like a pack of cards because of faulty foundation. 80% of people getting married nowadays are not emotionally ready for the rigours of marriage

Deprofessional:
Immediately after my wedding 7 years ago, my mother called me one night and gave me a piece of advice that has kept me a happily married man.

My mother told me never to allow any problem or disagreement with my wife to linger for a long time.

She told me that I should always make a move to reconcile with my wife even if she is the one at fault.

According to my mother, people will see me as not capable of holding my family together if my marriage fails.

There are times I will shout, scold and use bad words on my wife, but before the next day, I will make reconciliation moves. I will apologize, kiss and even make love to her.

With this strategy, my family lives in happiness.

What works for my family may not work for yours.

But from your post I can see ego and pride in you. Nothing kill marriage like ego and pride.


And please don't ever think that the next woman is better than your wife.

EgunMogaji:


Seriously!

4 months separation and he’s still talking about reconciliation

You guys give men a bad rap with women.

Move on already, use the experience here to make sure that your next relationship is based on solid foundation.

doreto:
We are presently separated for 4 months with no contact/communication.The separation was not related to trust issues,but miscommunication,insults and the likes,no violence.

While I am in a great place emotionally,I want to attempt to reconcile our relationship.

I need ideas.Is it possible? If it is,has any one here seen a case of reconciliation after a deep marital separation? Please share with me.

Thanks.

AntiBrutus:


The OP's wife might be somewhere saying "for a man to stay off for 4mths, he is done..."

But look at OP, is he done?

The problem most people have is pride. No one wants to be the first person to break the silence. Very bad....

EgunMogaji:


Seriously!

4 months separation and he’s still talking about reconciliation

You guys give men a bad rap with women.

Move on already, use the experience here to make sure that your next relationship is based on solid foundation.

Mariangeles:
That is why an Igbo marriage is way different from a Yoruba marriage!

doreto:
We are presently separated for 4 months with no contact/communication.The separation was not related to trust issues,but miscommunication,insults and the likes,no violence.

While I am in a great place emotionally,I want to attempt to reconcile our relationship.

I need ideas.Is it possible? If it is,has any one here seen a case of reconciliation after a deep marital separation? Please share with me.

Thanks.

spiritedtete:


Never use bad words in your home... you have been a good driver so far ... by what you wrote. May you grow in more wisdom to drive through even that darkest part of your marital journey. Weldone!

For the thread OP. Hmmmm I have read all people have been saying it's painful and pitiable reading some comment.. many don't know really what marriage should be about. And you see you are actually suffering from it now..(you were once in that nativity world). Now that you are a grown man... there are no many options for you.... do you know your wife is also thinking that if you love her you will come for her... And since you have not reach out she will assume you are a joke and a mistake.

Marriage is not secondary school relationship where u allow malice linger and wait for who to greet first. You are now a full grown man.. you have to been in control of your emotions and don't allow too much negativity block your senses.

To my point; Call your wife on phone that you need to talk and it's very important even if it is the last time you will ever see her. Never hint her on phone about reconciliation. Keep her insuspesense.

Your meeting should be one on one... look good and look calm. Look new too (But don't over do it). And be the man when you talk. Don't boost nor condemn any of her actions. And talk more about the future you envision with her when u guys got married and tell her the vision is still what you are holding till date. She is your wife and you still want her to be part of your future.

NB; if she insist on no reconciliation.... just know she doesn't love you really... And please let her move on. Take the lesson to your next relationship. If you decide to have one again.
Enough said!