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Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by miredia(m): 3:38am On Apr 10, 2018 |
InvertedHammer:you have spoken well bro. That is the long and the short of marraige. Does she love you or was she into it out of convenience or societal pressure. I dare say, a large number of recent marriages are pretty much out of convenience. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Mayflowa(m): 3:52am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Ishilove: There has always been separation in Nigeria Marriages just that there is more conversation about it now due to internet and social media. Check around. You will see a lot of step children everywhere. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by CHIGIM: 3:55am On Apr 10, 2018 |
God bless u for telling him not to go to a pastor or imam, if 40% of blacks can think like this Africa would have been a better place. Lexusgs430: |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by arnyi(m): 4:13am On Apr 10, 2018 |
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Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Lexusgs430: 4:15am On Apr 10, 2018 |
CHIGIM: Unfortunately, it seems religious leaders have somehow warped the thinking mentality of our people...... Every little thing, the next advice people give is, speak to your pastor...... All of a sudden, the pastor has been converted into a master/mistress of all... 1 Like |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by arnyi(m): 4:18am On Apr 10, 2018 |
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Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by agarawu23(m): 4:43am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Be honest with yourself, if you are the one at fault before the break up, u can also lower your pride and call her back but if you aren't, case closed. She isn't looking back after 4 months, why should u? And mind u, she will probably feel like god and start acting funny when u call her back. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 4:44am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: Just shut up already |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 4:46am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:02am On Apr 10, 2018 |
@ doreto, This is one of the reasons why nairaland is one of the worst places to come to for relationship advice. It is littered with all sorts. People with their own personal psychological issues and bad experiences garnered in their own corner who are looking for people to misadvise based on their flawed perspectives and reactions. Mtcheew OP its cool to want to be a peace maker and to desire to fix your marriage. I do agree that 4 months is a bit too long to have let this linger but I also believe that with the right mindset and determination, anything can be fixed. Putting aside all the miscommunication you talked about, if you still feel your wife is a gem in other areas, then make an effort and get the ball rolling in that direction. At least now you both know better and once you know where both of you have erred and agree on this, then that makes the entire process and both your futures in the marriage a whole lot easier. Send her an SMS or call her or even send her a gift with a message from your heart. Woo her afresh. Make her feel special and let her realise that you never stopped thinking about her despite the 4 months apart. Ignore those who are asking you to move on. Move on to who? Do you think there is an angelic woman out there? There is a reason you as the man is called A BRIDEGROOM. You are meant to groom your wife to become the person you would be proud of. NEVER shirk this responsibility or take it for granted. With the right kind of love, you can bring out the best in your wife and also with a wrong attitude, you can bring out the beast in her. Be willing to accept the blame even when you are innocent. You are built to endure as a man, she isn't. Take much of the rap for her sake. Remember, she is a weaker vessel. Most of all, learn to fix things quickly. Fire dies over time. Never allow the fire of love and passion towards your spouse to die off due to procrastination. EgunMogaji and his likes this advice goes to you too. Marriage is not microwaved. Its not a drive through. It is a very special aspect of ones life that builds potential, worth, and matured views to life. Mess with it and you mess with you. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:09am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: I didn't ask for nor take marital advice from online numpties. |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:13am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: Its been given nevertheless and cannot be withdrawn. You call me stupid for disagreeing with you. It shows that indeed even you are still a kid when it comes to marriage and I who is still single, should be your marriage counsellor.....EgunNumpty. 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:19am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: Keep stroking yourself there ![]() You're worthless to me, a non-entity. You're like a piece of gum stuck to the sole of my shoe, that as useful as you are to me ![]() 3 Likes
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Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:21am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: Yet I am "worthless" enough to elicit a response from you right? I rather believe that i am the one giving you marital worth right now. Go ahead and bask in it. It surely doesn't come your way often. 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:22am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: Oh dude, I'll respond to bash your worthless head into the ground all night. Let's go ![]() |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:25am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: If you could only see how worthless you are making yourself look with the childish tantrum you are throwing simply because I disagreed with your position. This "I want my lollypop" childish tantrum you are tossing my way is simply an eye opener to the cracks you got going on within you as a man and much more as a married man. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:29am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: Lollypops? ![]() You're just a barnacle, a blistering one at that. You quoted me, you'll always be worthless. |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:38am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: Is that it? Is that the almighty "Oh dude, I'll respond to bash your worthless head into the ground all night" response? You mean "blistering barnacle" is all you could muster? Smh. Indeed you are a child. I am simply still offering you a modicum of respect by holding back my fingers from doing damage to your already deflated and torn manliness. I would politely ask that you do not let even that fizzle out. This is me being nice. EgunTintin 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:40am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: I don't need respect from waifs and online trolls like you, you're simply a worthless and incompetent oaf. Was that enough to stop you being nice? ![]() |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:42am On Apr 10, 2018 |
InvertedHammer: Gbam ![]() |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by wiloy2k8(m): 5:49am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Move on with your life .. this marriage don end . |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by jaxxy(m): 5:50am On Apr 10, 2018 |
doreto: In order not to waste ur time or go in circles. Ask urself do u still want this relationship? It caused u great distress emotionally and now u hv found emotional peace and sanity. Do u want to go back 2 wat caused u pain? Why? Who was at fault on the that lead to this seperation? Wat exactly do u want now? Resolved the issue or just walk back in because u want to keep ur marriage at all cost? Is there any love or connection still between u to? Has it relation always been difficult or is this a one of? These questions will help u know exactly wat u want to do and wat is best. |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:50am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: You are now sounding like a broken record. I keep hearing echoes of the word "worthless". Is there no other lexicon known to you? You are obviously a lightweight. The bashing would be unfair on you if I choose to offload. We are not in the same weight category. Suffice to say that my message has been passed to the OP and by extension, to you as well. I do not want you to give me credit for adding value to your marriage and helping you patch up the cracks you have zigzagging all over your marital and emotional life. Take it as my contribution to you towards a better world filled with mature minded men and not simpletons parading as men. These days men no longer know their role and their strength in a relationship. They whine and whimper like women over ridiculous and childish things when they should be the ropes deliberately pulling everything together in their homes even at the risk of the ropes burning their hands or the energy being expended. Real men fight for their marriages. Weak men make up excuses. Go figure. 5 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by InvertedHammer: 5:51am On Apr 10, 2018 |
If your wife/husband is out of town for three days and you can't wait for her/his return, then you are in love. If you have to do a quick stop at a bar before going home to your spouse, check yourself. You are only "managing". At the dinner table, look across the table. Do you see that lady or man sitting there? Your spouse right? That's the best you could do. / 3 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:52am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: Not interested in reading your diatribe. You're a worthless cretin to me. Sorry that it hurts you, but that is simply your value to me. |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:55am On Apr 10, 2018 |
InvertedHammer: To me, if neither of them can stay apart from each other without contact for 4 months without communication then what's the point of a reconciliation? Even when one spouse is on the space station, they still communicate ![]() OP and his Wife should be having a dying need to see each other. What will happen when kids start popping up? |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 5:56am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: The one it hurts is the one who just cannot stop repeating "you are worthless" like a playback loop. Its like you just have to keep trying to reassure yourself that you hold some worth right? Yeah I know the psychology. Its called an inferiority complex. 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 5:57am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Butterflyleo: It really grinds your gear, doesn't it? ![]() You're a truly worthless human being. You have zero value. |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by InvertedHammer: 6:00am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: / That marriage is over. Any reunion will be based on pretense or ulterior motives and tend not to end well especially for young couples. The wife has moved on but OP is still reminiscing of old times. Once another lady enters his life and fills the void, he will be doing thanksgiving in a church for being liberated from the machinations of the ex-wife and her family. / 6 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Butterflyleo: 6:01am On Apr 10, 2018 |
EgunMogaji: So you say. But in my supposed "zero value" state I have given you sound councel which obviously ground your gear enough to feel this undeniable urge to regain your self esteem by repeatedly calling me worthless. Make sure you do not misplace the piece of paper you wrote down my wisdom nuggets on alright? 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by Nobody: 6:02am On Apr 10, 2018 |
Re: I Need Ideas On How To Reconcile With My Wife. by NdiaraIGBO: 6:02am On Apr 10, 2018 |
BellaElla: See Amebo! Busybody...... |
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