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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 8:20am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Who are you to decide who remains single? dafemnet: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by romenna: 8:21am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:u r a very wicked woman. So u still hav wat u can term ur money after taking vows that the two of u have become one till death do u apart? U lived with him wit an individualistic mindset. If he used his part of the money for his parents for anytin, one shud expect that the two of u did it for his parents. And since u also decided to build a house wit ur part of d money, it is also expected that the both of u did it as well. Having only ur name in dat document is wrong as a married woman. U can only do dat wen ur single. Anytin n everytin u acquire during marriage it's on behalf of the family for peaceful coexistence to be assured. Dnt bring unhealthy competition into ur home. If I was ur husband, it's either u include my name in dat document or I renaged on my responsibilities to u as a husband. I cannot be working to take care of u with my money n u will be amassing wealth. U r selfish woman! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 8:21am On Jul 15, 2018 |
paulynpen: What's the purpose of this thread since the man has left everything for her and left already. Why is the lady crying all over the place, playing the victim card, let her go n marry the house n stop crying now. The divorce she planned for is here already, what an evil woman that destroyed her home for common property. The man is very right to get angry over this massive betrayal of a devilish woman. Let the woman move on too like the man since the man is not even dragging anything or do his bidding as her husband n stop crying already. Submission of a married woman is not negotiable, do the will of your husband or divorce him period, u can't eat your cake n have it. I hope the house is a mansion and worth all these stress after all, good luck to both parties in their future endeavors 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by RedAlert08(m): 8:23am On Jul 15, 2018 |
iamochyglows:You're a professor. I love your reasoning. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sacramento1212: 8:24am On Jul 15, 2018 |
RedAlert08: Oya, tell the husband of Chinwe to come narrate his own story so we can all offer good advice. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dratine(m): 8:26am On Jul 15, 2018 |
My dear in as much am trying to figure out how best to advice you on this matter I think divorce is far from it. But I can tell from the look of things the kind of person you are. You are very crafty. You intimidate your husband maybe because your own family background which I think is may be a little above average financially. Your husband believed so much on you. Loves you. And cares about your welfare.A business that primarily to be his and his alone both the profit and the loss. You insisted to be part of it. He concurred. Shared the markup and told you that he is using his on his family members which are in dire need of financial help. You agreed. Now you turned out to use yours to buy a land which he is not in the know about the documentation. Yet my beautiful lady he trusted you that you are doing the right thing. Now he felt that he now has a project at hand which is building the house. Put in all his resources day and night. Fight the spirit and the physical to make sure that place stays. Now you open your mouth and tell him before his face that the house is yours. Maybe adding a little money in the building project now makes you a co builder. My dear you have an attitude problem. Children are involved. Yes. His children. Yes. He loves you more than he loves the children. Change your attitude. Change your mindset. What you have on this earth is him and God. He has left the house for you. Not the best but a strong man don't take shits. Ask for forgiveness from him and desist from the likes of some feminists in our society. I can see from the write up that you don't want your home to break up. But let it not be because of the children. Let it be because of God who doesn't support divorce. See a king in your husband and a beautiful queen in you will manifest. All in all give him the documents of that land to him wherever he is and sincerely let him know how remorseful you are ,from the beginning and promise that it will never happen again. My dear all that you had wanted will be giving to you. How your husband will ask you to maintain the status quo will be amazing. He is going to let you know that you are more important than the property and will still leave the document in your name. I think this will help you. And above all I wish you and your husband a quick re union. God bless you. NB. BRIDLE YOUR MOUTH 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Princewell2012(m): 8:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Timekeeper: The reason why this case is different is because this woman is well to do right ![]() Have the woman told you why her husband wanted her out in the first place? You should know that this story is not complete. Have you heard the other side of the story? May be the woman might be Rollin on the begging if she don't have that property? But now instead of her showing remorse she is threatening her husband. Yes I called it a threat. At this junction the man felt l insecure and decided to leave the so called property for the woman. But you want her to break her marriage because of this so callled property hmmm Mind you this man might not even mean what he is saying it might be a mere threat to bend his wife to oder, because no reasonable man will send his wife and children out of the home. Believe me that story is not complete she was only looking for sympathisers so she can Cook up anything to gain it. I knows why I made that comments that if she is still interested in her marriage she should do the needful though you will not understanding. I have comes across so many cases of this such and by the grace of God I were able to reconciled them. Finally you said you don't want to insult me, but I have put it to you that you have already done so. Shalom. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by iwomen(f): 8:28am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: once had such experience... PM me for a private chat. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Obason22(m): 8:28am On Jul 15, 2018 |
bukatyne:She have not said the truth yet. this man never ask u for house documents until now that u piss him off, that was when he noticed that u used only ur name on the documents, all the same let hear from ur husband. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jazmiynne: 8:28am On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by romenna: 8:29am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:u see, if u had done dis ab initio, all dis issues cud av bn avoided. Kip begging him to accept this option. I dnt support that u take ur name out for his either. Mr n Mrs is very ok. Tell him it was unwise for u to tink the house belonged to u alone. He is just angry u were selfish n centered. Apologize profusely and let peace reign . Dnt listen to all dis single n frustrated pipo advising u to let him stay out oh. They will just destroy ur home for u if u take their unwise advice. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Igbins70(m): 8:29am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:MA u did right that your husband is a wicked man imagine now that you bow to his request and transfer the house to his name if such a thing happens again my dear u are doomed becos nobody can save you 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by miracle4(m): 8:32am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Here's the summary, from all I have gathered in previous replies: 1. The man treated his sick father with his share of the profit as well as did some house renovation for them 2. The wife acquired a land with her own share 3. They both built a house on it jointly 4. After a minor disagreement, the man realized that the land was acquired in his wife's name alone. 5. This affected his ego which should be same for every man. Soln: Retrace your step and work out a solution ASAP. With time, everything will come to normal |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 8:32am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Save your advice for your sisters with low self esteem. divinelove: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by OgogoroFreak(m): 8:33am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:You are a BIG thief! And not a wife material. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Amberon11: 8:34am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Keep quiet mumu Someone asked his wife and kids to leave his house and was humbled when his wife broke the good news that the property was in her name. CrazeMan69: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by padresolomon: 8:35am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: You are a fool for saying this. Do you want the family to be scattered just because of property? Haba. Do you know what it means for children to grow up in a broken home? Haba we kill ourselves over material things which that are really irrelevant. Let the woman humble herself and change it to her husband's name and let peace reign. Haba he is the head of the house and the woman did wrong for not letting him know the house docs were in her name. What was she thinking when she put her name there? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by RedAlert08(m): 8:36am On Jul 15, 2018 |
sacramento1212:Mr/Mrs Adviser, you better get your ass busy. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by romenna: 8:36am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:wait wait wait. U r beginning to change ur story like its common wit women. U said u used it part of d money to build a house n now ur saying u both built it togeda. If I get u correctly, do u mean u bought a land wit ur part of d buz proceed n d two of u build on it? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by tempest01(m): 8:37am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Una women, sometimes na una mouth dey do una. The man got angry and said you should leave the house. Maybe and most likely he was not serious about it. Instead of you to find a way and pacify him, you let out your secret just to score a point. Now you've made him feel helpless. The way forward is to change the documents to both of your names even if he wants full ownership. Tell him it's not possible. Do that, then tell him about it, then turn it around and blame him. Tell him so he means he would have had the mind to throw out his wife and kids to roam on the street if the property was not in your name. Tell him he has proven your action as right. He should feel guilty and accept the joint ownership. Try to be subtle and sweet when confronting him. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LePrezident(m): 8:38am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Woman, better don't try changing anything. He used his money for what pleases him and you used your money to build the house. The house is yours. Simplicita... if he wants to leave let him leave. He's a very self-centred man. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by romenna: 8:39am On Jul 15, 2018 |
LewsTherin:stewpeed advise with stewpeed likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dafemnet: 8:40am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Amberon11:Lol, why are you so pained,even if you are a lesbian,u must submit to the stronger partner. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by tollyboy5(m): 8:40am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:You said he is a good man. Lemme tell my mile sorry first ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 8:41am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Amberon11: Do I still need to reply a goat like u, get lost already demented goat |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by pafo(m): 8:42am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Whatever you do, do not change that name. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by yinnyme(m): 8:43am On Jul 15, 2018 |
That man is heartless and you should be grateful that God has exposed him, my advise: Dont do anything, get closer to God and pray for him. You are very lucky. Dont feel guilty, i have men who used the names of their wives on all they bought. i used my wife's name and mine on our property and i think its good cos you never can tell relatives can be funny at the demise of the man. Lastly if push comes to shove, put your children's name or joint name. Dont let love or tradition deceive you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by lindseykibler(m): 8:43am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: First of all, what is the cause of the problem? You can’t just have a minor misunderstanding and your husband will ask you to park out of the house and for you not to involve your family over this is fishy too. Did you cheat on your husband? He asked for transfer and you still don’t want your parents to know what’s going on and his parents already knows. I don’t think your story is complete because your husband can’t just ask you to leave the house all because you both had a misunderstanding. What is the cause of the problem madam? Did you cheat on your husband? Spill it out and let’s know how to help you out. Ur story isn’t complete. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by tunize(m): 8:45am On Jul 15, 2018 |
2buffagain:Is a 50/50 case of him just trying to claim is ego of i'm the man, or he might as well have anoda plan of trowing the wife out any time. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by tollyboy5(m): 8:46am On Jul 15, 2018 |
tempest01:One of the best advise so far he threatened you and instead of apologizing you felt you have advantage now you are on your own since he has moved on. and some dumb ladies here on nairaland pushing her when guys have rethink the matter. na you dey cry for help now, abeg call your pastor apologize to him but it must be both ownership |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by princetom1(m): 8:48am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: U are underestimating yourself... So, he can tell people he left u because of property bt u can't? My dear, u better open ur eyes well, now that the lord is showing u vision... May being on the street and begging never be ur portion... No family will be ur husband and care for u if he eventually get wat he wants and another fight comes up and chase u out... Thank God u already have kids... Don't go tell any pastor o, u will see how the Bible will be twisted, that Man is d head of the family... Someone that should be proud of u, is now jealous of u... He wants to have it all... He can't be grateful to God that he used his money well too and work harder if he so badly want his name on a property... Don't be the enemy of your own self, if he refused to come back to his senses after so many talk, pls dear, sell the house if u must and get a smaller apartment, so that u can invest what u get to take care of your children... This is total nonsense from someone who call himself a man... Gosh, i wount even be able to take it to be away from my kids 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 8:49am On Jul 15, 2018 |
emelda86:You have no respect as small as you are. |
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