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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by padresolomon: 8:49am On Jul 15, 2018 |
ObservantFellow: Am really shock at how we have lost our values. So because of property we want this beautiful family to be scattered. Haba na |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by reignpetee(m): 8:51am On Jul 15, 2018 |
You're begging him? Are you kidding me? Is this some Nollywood home movie? The man was about to kick you out with your children and you're begging? If you really believe he's a good man maybe cause of the heat of things he said some stupid things that you believe he didn't mean and you think he loves you and your children, suggest a joint ownership to him. If he really cares then he shouldn't have a problem with that no matter how big his ego is. If he refuses then let him be. He's not worth the headache. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 8:52am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Amberon11:I saw the rest of your other post. I wanted to reply, but it would be a waste of intelligence. I hope the woman in question is not as dumb as you. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by AK481(m): 8:52am On Jul 15, 2018 |
I won’t comment until I hear both sides of the story. What was the cause of the quarrel ? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by reignpetee(m): 8:53am On Jul 15, 2018 |
padresolomon: It would have been scattered anyway if the man chases the wife outta the house. Who says he wouldn't do it again if the house becomes his? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Mulatta(m): 8:55am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Aunty do not change it oh, if you change it he will throw you out. Find another partner or sugar son 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 8:57am On Jul 15, 2018 |
It seems many people here did not see where the lady said her husband is a good man. That means his action is not the norm. He has been a good husband before then. The lady have still not told us what prompted him asking her to leave his house. It may be something very terrible or may even be meaningless outburst on the husband's part. By the time she wrecks her home based on your collective advise, we won't be there to shoulder the responsibility. Wisdom is the principal thing. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by teemy(m): 8:58am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: To what end? Someone points a gun at you and fires, oops! no bullet. Then he asks you to load the gun for him. Once you do, what do you expect would happen. There is a reason he doesn't want your name on YOUR OWN house. He has already shown you his mind. Somewhere from the onset, you had a hunch to put the house in your name. Now years later, the hunch has paid off. You do not need to 'die' in a marriage like most of our women do only to being less happy than when they were single just to satisfy the public by bearing the title MRS. I hope you do not cause your own sorrow. P.S Keep your papers safe and inform your lawyer. Wishing you well - Teemy 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by tosyne2much(m): 8:58am On Jul 15, 2018 |
First and foremost, it is wrong for a woman to build a house in the negligence of her husband without including her name and that of her husband..e.g Mr & Mrs XYX.. I see that as disunity among couples. Secondly, changing the name at this critical stage is a disaster.. Only elders can settle an issue like this 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by reignpetee(m): 8:59am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Amberon11: Niggress. M sure if we were to test your intelligence It'd be far away from the average black man. Maybe you're just the blackest black man/woman there is! Rili? Jus take a critical look at the crap you wrote. Goes to show just how smart you are |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 9:00am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Your husband must be devil in disguise. Don't change the name to his name. If he decides to leave, life must go on. Everything is worth fighting for but nothing is worth dieing for 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 9:02am On Jul 15, 2018 |
michaelwilli:Have you asked what the woman did? The woman did not say what she did probably because she knows she has done terribly. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Surrey2Bimshire: 9:02am On Jul 15, 2018 |
sacramento1212: Mr and Mrs Xyz is not advisable,anyone can be mr and Mrs Xyz.its ought to be Mr John Smith and Mrs Annabelle (her fathers name) Smith . 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mfm04622: 9:05am On Jul 15, 2018 |
If he doesn't want to live in your house, he should rent a house for the family. Don't make the mistake of changing it to his name. Or you will find yourself out of that house in the future. Simple 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ObservantFellow: 9:06am On Jul 15, 2018 |
padresolomon: What useless values are we talking about here? There was a business venture. The man opted to use his own share different from what the woman opted to use hers for. Take a minute here and think what if she had used hers to open up a random business venture, what house are we talking about again? The man, for all his values, was ready to send her and innocent kids out so that probably another woman would come sit on it, irrespective of how it was gotten. So, you do believe the beautiful family is still together in this condition? For me, the kids are a bigger priority at this stage. She should secure their future first. If the house is a sure way now, so be it. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sacramento1212: 9:07am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ShenTeh(m): 9:07am On Jul 15, 2018 |
CSTR1005: Very correct. I am reading this from page to page and all I see is that THE ANSWER TO THIS ISSUE IS IN THE TITLE. I have seen very intelligent posts and not-so-bright ones. @Heseesall, The person destroying her marriage because of pride here is you and not your husband as you'd like us to believe. # You've always had your way with your "good" husband and are very shocked that he is not being a sucker this once. You initially thought it was a joke and that he'd come around like he's always done. # Your action portrayed you as one of those women who think money is everything (our Yoruba call it "ojuorolari" -someone not accustomed to wealth, literally).Properly put - Greedy. Your words suggest that your family has repeatedly warned you about this. It is the reason you know they'll condemn your action over a "mere property". # You have brought the symptoms of your failed management to the www, and conveniently left out the main reason your "good" husband asked you and 'your children' out of your matrimonial home. Why would a good man do that? Infidelity? I know good men stop being good when conversations get to that. # It is obvious your husband doesn't need the property. Let me shock you - He probably even knew this a long time ago and never thought much about it. He is shocked that what was important to you during that moment of his anger was the ownership of the house instead of showing remorse for your action (which led to his sending you out, which we still don't know yet). # One of the goods and ironically the biggest danger of social media, is the plurality of uncensored opinions. You'd rather be left more confused with the amount of information thrown at you on here. Interestingly however, go back to yourself. The answer is with you. # Don't change the name to his. Yes. I"d rather in the children's name like some suggest here. But in the heat of this moment, tell him you have agreed. When peace has been restored, tell him you have a much better idea. Then throw the idea of the children's name. A good man should buy that. #Ultimately, I have read from memoirs of the dying and aged and their caregivers that at the end it is family that matters. Not marriage. Not properties. But I see the one that is closest of the two. It is your call. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mfm04622: 9:08am On Jul 15, 2018 |
If he doesn't want to live in your house, he should rent a house for the family. Don't make the mistake of changing it to his name. Or you will find yourself out of that house in the future. As long as the money is yours (from your own share of the business) you are perfectly right in ensuring the property is in your name. Look, if he want to break the marriage because of the property, it just show the kind of person he is. He want to steal the property from you. Simple 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by olisaemeka1(m): 9:08am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem:just had to write my own like instead of ticking it Like like ..... 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by teemy(m): 9:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
I am already having the feeling he wants to live with someone else both from trying to get her out and him shifting location. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by TheKingMurphy: 9:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
My dear, call your husband and add his name to the properties. Betrayal is a bitter pill men can't swallow. Like u said, ' he is a good man'. They are very hard to find. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by reignpetee(m): 9:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
I'm itching to hear the man's part of the story. May not tally with hers. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by olisaemeka1(m): 9:12am On Jul 15, 2018 |
LewsTherin:I'm just gonna like reasonable comments and this is one.....like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by prettysassygirl(f): 9:12am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Look lady,something fishy is going on,he has another babe,why would a man quarrel with u,next thing is to pack out,he found out you couldn't ,then he is transferring out of the state immediately, something fishy is going on,but I advise u add his name to the property,but this is how u add it,don't write Mr and Mrs sosossososo,anybody can be Mrs sosososos,write your full names Mrs charity ssososososo then his full names too,this saved my mummy's friend when her husband wanted to sell their property at omole,it got to court,since her full names were there, he couldn't sell it,so just put his name there too as it keeps a link between two of u. Then u know your husband more than everyone here,do something to appease him fast,pray if u have to so that the relocation he is planning won't work out. He must not leave the same state,if not babe,your marriage might be overrrrr. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Platony(m): 9:13am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: If he wnts his name to be in charge,...den he's nt bn fair. Sorry to say,...i am a married man, i knw d height/level of his anger right nw, i deeply knw hw he feels. I am suspecting "INFIDELITY". I am nt intruding into ur family affairs, no....or, wnt u to tell us wat made him so aggravated to dis point upto d extent of him wanting to throw u out with HIS OWN KIDS. Anyways, wetin concern me, i av my own family issues. "Every Aboki wit him kettle". O Y O ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Surrey2Bimshire: 9:14am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Pearl05: Not advisable. Anyone can be Mrs “joy Philips” 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jazmiynne: 9:16am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:Ah ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ashjay001(m): 9:19am On Jul 15, 2018 |
naob: Bro, I hope u comprehend, we're on d same page? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by nenedima(f): 9:21am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Madam don't change that property to his name! ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Platony(m): 9:27am On Jul 15, 2018 |
bukatyne: Before a good man according to OP will abandon his wife & kids or wnt to throw dem out...... Hmmmm, am seriously suspecting infidelity. Dnt knw wer to point fingers at. Hope DNA issue isn't involved though. Jst saying. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by stanliwise(m): 9:32am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:I understand we are in Africa but the explanation of u breakin up for property is not your fault..... Maybe if you and your children are outside you will prefer to explain that one abi? Last last meet mature minds....A neutral person person o..like a marriage counselor not all dose traditional fanatic that would always want to favour the men. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by daclemx: 9:34am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: If he refuses to accept Mr. and Mrs. then I am afraid your husband has hidden agenda. You can suggest changing the name to your kids' so the two of you know it is in your children's name. MAKE him understand that you want it to be in the kid's name. If he refused, then take the bold step. Move on with your life. What if he renders you homeless or sells the house after changing the name to his? What will you do? Be wise. I am a man. And no man will ever tell his wife to get out of the house and leave with innocent kids. 1 Like |
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