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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by HRtechnique: 11:56am On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Timekeeper: 11:58am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Princewell2012: I'm sorry in anyway I spoke rudely... But yet sir, we can't say d man doesn't mean it... A man that change his work place to another state is not a good man... |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Slimsly100(f): 11:59am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Then he has ulterior motives. If he doesn't want joint ownership, let him be, his brain would reset soon enough! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by HRtechnique: 12:03pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by HRtechnique: 12:04pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sweetlaw: 12:10pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
dingbang: Shut up jor. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by HRtechnique: 12:12pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by omonikiba(f): 12:18pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Everyone is saying she shoud use Mr and Mrs ABC, that is soooo wrong oo. In the law for a case to be valid, use Mr X and Mrs Y ABC. Where X is the man's first name, Y is woman's first name while ABC is their Surname. If he remarries that other woman is also Mrs, so her Mrs must be defined in the document. To the poster, how did you manage to get the property document in your name and also keep it away from him for years?? You have betrayed him. There is no way his own money wasnt part of the proerty in question. If you both built it why dont both of you run the document together? Why did he not also ask to see the document all the while? Secondly and most importantly, dont ever, i mean dont try to change the document to his name alone, once that is done, you are out forever. The only ground you should compromise on is join ownership. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Dameland: 12:18pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
My dear Sister, do not...I repeat, do not change the name to his name oooo ...Come to a compromise....Agree to change the name but to that of your First Son or First daughter. Dont allow sentiment cover your eyes ooo.I have seen this before. In the event that he throws you out, another women will be brought in to eat the fruit of your Labour. Please be wise....and again, avoid bringing Pastors into your family talk...try to resolve the issue within yourselves. Again, stop acting so desperate begging him like that. Tell him your concession and Leave him. When he is tired, he will come back home...over begging will make him adamant...he would not have begged you that way when he threw you out. Be wise...love with your heart but use your head. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Aadeyinka(m): 12:25pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:pls change the name to both,Mr /Mrs because it belong to both. else if dispute not settle at the end, the house can be sold and share the money among, life goes on |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by jadyclem(m): 12:28pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
justjeff: forget that gentle man talk. she did wrong. sine both of them planned to build the house together, the documents is supposed to be having both of their names. That's betrayal na. if she built the house when she was still single then no problem but she said they planned it together. it na you discover that kind thing, you go vex pass the husband sef. anything jointly owned or jointly planned in a marriage should have both partner's names - whether it's bought by the man or the woman |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by papascode: 12:31pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
MADAM YOU MUST BE A WICKED WOMAN. 1. WHAT DID YOU DO TO WARRANT HIM THROWING YOU AND THE KIDS AWAY. YOU MUST HAVE CHEATED. 2. YOU NEVER SAW HIS PARENTS AS YOUR PARENTS ELSE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE BUILT THE HOUSE IN YOUR NAME. YOU ARE A WICKED WOMAN. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by jadyclem(m): 12:32pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HRHQueenPhil: she should not change it to his name but to both of their names since both of them planned and worked towards achieving it. anything both partners work towards achieving in a marriage regardless of who invested more should be in the name of both partners. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 12:36pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: Don't mind her, my mum left my dad with five kids she had no job, no house, didn't even know where to start from but she took us all. Look at where we are today , God is really good for we never imagined we will be as prosperous as we are now, we give Glory to God's name. Here is a woman who has a job, a house, and just three kids not five and am sure she also has a car and is living comfortably. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by BIXYBABE: 12:39pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Don't change anything....... Some men are wicked Dan devil |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by jadyclem(m): 12:41pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: what you did is very wrong. if you had told him you were going to use your name in the documents your marriage would not have lasted to this time. both of you had the plan to build a family house, what you should have done is put both of your names in the documents. women like you don't go into marriage with open mind. you expected what is happening now a long time ago through your actions. no man will take what you just did 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by teewhydope(m): 12:42pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
divinelove: No sense in what you wrote Mr Man. your article reeks of idiocy |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by jadyclem(m): 12:45pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: if he doesn't want it jointly, then you should let him be. both of you had ulterior motives from the onset |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 12:48pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
wittyt98: Thank you ooo, I don't understand why a woman cant own properties simply because she married. I am married and my properties are in my name, have not seen the person that will tell me to change it to my husband's name. His properties are in his name too and everyone is happy. I don't even understand the whole rationale behind putting his name and giving him joint ownership when it's your house, only your name deserves to be on the document. Haba You claim you are thinking about the kids then why is he not also thinking about them too and threatening divorce is he not their father or you gave birth to them alone?. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by jadyclem(m): 12:51pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: you said you pple agreed that your share would be used to buy a property. he saw the Money as family money but you saw the other part as your share. both of you had the plan initially, you should have made the ownership a joint one 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by iPopAlomo(m): 12:51pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
bukatyne: was this question answered... Abeg wetin she do way the man wan pursue am...?? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 12:53pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
jadyclem: Yes they had plans but he went and used his money to build a house for his family like she doesn't have parents too abi?. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by JAMESOJAY: 12:59pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
If same thing happens to your son when gets married what will you say? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by proffemi: 1:04pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Demure1: Dalerudaleru. Are you married? She gave the impression that hubby's parents were in dire need. She never suggested that hers were. If you are responsibly married, then you should know that while striking a balance in terms of expenditure on the two sets of in-laws can be hard, when one side has a dire need, the burden doesn't get transferred only to the spouse from that side. She never gave the impression in her write-up that she was against spending on the hubby's family at that point. Her view (a very selfish one!) was that the burden for treating hubby's father and making them more comfortable should be borne by him alone. This lady has been selfish and calculating for a very long time. I will hold that view till she provides additional information. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by SmartyPants(m): 1:07pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Just for clarity, were your contributions to this business equal? And on an ongoing basis has your husband shouldered the lions share of responsibility? Did he ask you and your kids to pack out or just you? What was the nature of the dispute that led to this standoff? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by wordbank(m): 1:17pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
JAMESOJAY:HEseesall Kindly answer this little question. What would be your judgement |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:24pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
I totally disagree with you, before I got married to anybody, I came to this world alone and I will still die alone, why should I hustle, make my own money and put stuff that I buy in both our names? God forbid! We can have a joint account where we both donate equal amounts for the family's upkeep but for me to make my own money, invest it in properties and put it in both our names is pure bs. With the increasing number of wicked men and deadbeat dads now, women should heed your advice at their own risk. LewsTherin: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Unclesamo(m): 1:26pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Just wondering the way people of dis generation think... U only heard her own part of the Story ,which we don't know ow complete it is... . . She made mention of "MAJOR MISUNDERSTANDING WHICH WAS VERY INTENSE"..... . . No one care to hear/ask her Explain it.. Everyone just went to the Judgement throne dishing poos... Madam HEseesall , Abeg explain that phrase in other to get a better advice from ppl.... @ least d@ will help a little 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Ikpongiton: 1:35pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:two people built and one person put its name.the man trusted you with everything, including his life .you said that your husband is a good man,meaning that you're a bad woman who is eating her cake and still want to have it.you must have backstabbed him,knowing that there is nothing he can do because you hold the key to everything. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LeakPlug(m): 1:59pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: You didn't tell us what caused the disagreement. That would be the root of it all. Imagine if your husband was already feeling this much rage over this initial disagreement, how much more when he discovered after several years of sleeping in the same roof with his wife to discover that he was living in his wife's house after all. I'm Igbo, my mom has a house which she inherited from her mom and my dad would rather go and squat under the bridge than to live in my mom's house. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by middlebelter(m): 2:09pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: This is crisis management at domestic level. I will advise you initiate a family reconciliation meeting inviting his family and yours. At the meeting let them know you are ready to change the title to Mr and Mrs but let the Mrs show your first name e.g if you are Mercy and your surname is Daniel while your husband's first name is James, you will change it to Mr and Mrs James and Mercy Daniel. You will also request to keep custody of the title . Don't hesitate to let the two families know the reason you made the title of the property in your name because you envisage this type of development. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 2:09pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
proffemi: Gberudani, I am happily married read my previous posts to get a better view of my marriage. Are you married ?, because if you are also responsibly married you would know that if the table were turned and she used her own resources to help her family there's no way the man will put only her name on the document like he is imposing right now. She said joint the man refused and said he wants only his name there and am sure no sensible person will agree to that rubbish. 1 Like |
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