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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Demure1: 2:13pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
JAMESOJAY: If the same happen to your daughter when she gets married what would you say?, when her husband tells her to write only his name on the document of the house she built ehn? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by crackhaus: 2:18pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
There are too many holes in this story and I find it amusing that the discussion has spawned so many pages without getting any clarification from the OP. How is it this woman's husband had no idea the name on the documents of a home they built together up until now? This is the only information that will reveal exactly why he's so upset about her name being represented as the sole owner. The OP must have played a fast one on him from the beginning and led him to think otherwise. Every other thing written about how 'he said this' and 'he said that' is just sensationalism at its best designed to tilt opinions in her favor - it's that obvious and I must be nuts if I'm the only one sensing this. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by baby124: 2:24pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
wordbank:It was her part of the business to do with what she pleased. She could have put it in a bank and sat on it. Instead she bought land with her husband’s knowledge. Of course she will register it in her name and not her husband’s. Did he present the cash gift to his parents as coming from his wife? He didn’t bother to discuss ownership of the land with her when she purchased it so why now? Is it because he’s ashamed that she claimed ownership of the house to his face and his ego is bruised? His plans failed to throw her and HIS kids out. Now he abandoned his family and went on his way because of land. He’s mad. By the way, hat my dad did is acceptable. That is what fit his family and he’s not a unicorn. Many men do the same! 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by proffemi: 2:25pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Demure1: This is not just about whose name is on the deed, and I'm surprised that you as the head of a household cannot see that. This seems to be a man who feels betrayed because a woman he trusted so deeply is capable of such subterfuge. And by the way, I'm surprised that you cannot see she's withholding information from us. Is it not clear to you that the information she has failed to provide would appear to be those that would justify her hubby more than her? As per the part in bold font above, don't you think you're oversimplifying? She said they both built the house. What makes you think any reasonable man (as per your question) would refuse to acknowledge his wife on a jointly-funded project just because she spent money on her ailing dad while he bought the land? So why should she fail to do same? I cannot understand your defence at all. To every man his own, but if you simplify it to just a question of whose name is on the deed, you're guilty of gross oversimplification. Edit: I have indeed seen a previous post of yours, and realize you're a woman. I bid you good day. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by wittyt98(m): 2:30pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Demure1:exactly ma'am . some men are just so greedy |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by proffemi: 2:30pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
crackhaus: Oh, you're not nuts. Far from it, in fact. I was looking forward to the Op answering some of the questions already posed, but she's maintained a studious silence, even though she's come online a number of times. This too tells me something (unless "She's" a Nollywood producer after all ) |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by appsdope(m): 2:38pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
That your husband has other motives. What ever may be the case, never change to his name. Even if your dad asks you to, don't do it. When you bought the land he should've known that your name was on paper. For the sake of your kids, Madam no do o. Him go still leave u tomorrow. If he had bought the property I'm sure your name won't be on it. You bought the land and you built the house which means that you own 60% of the total investment. He has no right to ask you to put down his name. I know a guy that buys properties in his wife's name and his kids as next of Kin. That man is selfish and arrogant. Even if you had cheated on him or done something worse, he is wrong. What if you had purchased the land in his name? You will be on the streets right now and he will be bromancing with one fine baby. No mind am o. Just stay with your kids. Heaven no go fall if he leaves. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by superpundit: 2:47pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Sister don't be stupid by changing the document back to his name. He has lost his headship of the family long ago by trying to play a fast one on you, but he never knew you were wiser. For God' sake, how on earth can a man use his share of a business proceed on his parent and now rely on his wife's to build a house. A real man should be responsible for sheltering and feeding his wife. That is the ordinance of God. Any help that comes from a responsible wife should be welcomed, but honestly no man should make it mandatory on the wife. For your husband, the fact that he doesn't even know the house was not in his name shows that he is not a responsible man. who supervised the construction of the house? abeg sister, don't be stupid. if you change the name, the man will one day chase u out just like he did in this instance 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by crackhaus: 2:50pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
proffemi:I doubt she'll answer any of the questions when she has gotten exactly what she wanted from the majority of the comments here. Fortunately it's still her and the man she calls her husband that will settle their matter themselves, almost everyone here seems hell-bent on making sure the marriage falls apart. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Saltwater: 2:50pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Op, Let's assume you bought land for 1.5mil with your money, and hubby contribute probably 5mil to build the house. Does that make you the sole owner? Your intentions were not good from the onset. If not you should have made it a joint property from day one. We all know just what you told us. But you know the whole truth. Search your heart and do the right thing. Before you do anything, always put yourself in the position of the other person. And always be fair. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by wordbank(m): 2:59pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
baby124:Well, she got what she wanted and now she's yet not satisfied, WHY? The answer is simple, she's displeased with her actions that's why she swiftly proffered solution of uttering the titled document. She's a con artist and she know how to go about this to fix her family |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by kay9(m): 3:01pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
LewsTherin: OP, i haven't read to the very end of the thread (in case you've posted updates), but I think this is sound advice. However... However, there are ALWAYS two sides to a story. For your husband whom you have built a home, a business, and a house with, to just demand you pack out - and then find out it's not even his house AND THEN PACK OUT HIMSELF.... Mmmm, nawa o, forgive me if I seem to be playing the devil's advocate but this is waaay more than just "a major misunderstanding"; I strongly feel there's more to this than you said. That's all I'm saying. But of course it's your life... please keep private whatever you feel should be kept so. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by afroxyz: 3:07pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by kay9(m): 3:19pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
bukatyne: Exactly what I'm wondering. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by afroxyz: 3:19pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Not overlooking the fact that he wanted to send you and your kids out but You are a wicked woman. After you both agreed on what to use your share of the money for which was to build the house, you now decided to register it in your name? A man that trusted you till the extent of doing business together and didn't even cheat you in your share of the proceeds is whom you stabbed at the back. You are evil and not trustworthy |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by yomtek(m): 3:20pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
To follow peace with him, the best you can do is to make the property joint-ownership i.e. Mr hisname & Mrs your name Surname, not Mr & Mrs Surname as some advised. Removing your name entirely may result into 'shooting yourself in the leg'. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Excellentmind: 3:25pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
What I understand from this story is a deep sense of betrayal of trust. And why many are screaming keep the proceed of deceit is what amazes me. Op, said that her husband had asked her to leave the house before she spilled the beans, meaning that the betrayal was not the reason for attempting to oust her in the first place. Op, I see you are simply executing a well crafted plan of making maximum profit from the marriage. Indeed, it has profited you. You now have the property and the children irrespective of the life time savings he has spent so far to keep you all. If you don't want karma to visit you, surrender all to him and tender an unreserved apology. For men that are screaming everywhere " I LOVE MY WIFE ," this is an eye opener. Always watch your back, replay events else your victimization is inevitable. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by anselm791(m): 3:38pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: one word, Love. even when they are prideful and wicked. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by NoToPile: 4:08pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
I have laughed a lot at the comments. Well repetition is for emphasis, if you and your husband want to write your name as joint owners of a property (especially) or asset. Format is Mr Ciroma chukwuma Adekunle and Mrs Hauwa Nkechi Adekunle please not Mr and Mrs Adekunle. So that it will be clear. It doesn't mean your husband is not trustworthy it's also to save you as a female from evil inlaws as they can manufacture another Mrs. Joint investments can bear Mr and Mrs Adekunle as title e no matter, ot just name of account . what matters is your individual names on the forms and the mandate (I wonder why people don't take this serious) If your hubby or wifey has spending issues pls choose the both to sign option. One will check mate the other If trust is total and non of you is a spendthrift or a glutton and you have same values you can choose the either to sign option. At least you are almost certain he/she won't spend away your family investments. But then your husband can always dash you a whole property(in your own name) it's allowed |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Glorygrace(f): 4:45pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
I agree with the comments @Excellentmind.This is deep betrayal. There is more to this write up than meets the eye. I believe the op cleverly left out certain details which might indict her. Whatever it is, confess and ammend your relationship with your husband. Good luck in your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by paulynpen(m): 5:15pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Obason22: I will prefer to live under roof than steal her house! Yeye man, they believe in pulling down a woman to remain relevant. You don't remain relevant by pulling down your wife, you labour and plan. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by paulynpen(m): 5:31pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
divinelove: Submission my foot, you do not buy submission, you earn it. The woman know her husband very well and she is justified now by his action. She would have been on the street now and you are here talking about submission? Are you human? Do you have conscience? Why do you keep threatening women with divorce? Divorce affect both parties even the men more if the woman is really serious. It is because of people like you who spend their money on frivolous things that they speak I'll of men. You are caring because your kind has fallen victim of its own trap, if it was the other way round you will still find a way to blame the woman, you see why I called you a weak man?. Justice,empathy and sincerity has no meaning to you, but oppression and male chauvinism. Some men are men just because of their organ nothing more, its a pity 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by jadyclem(m): 5:38pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Demure1: if she wasn't cool with how he was going to spend his, she should have show objected. but she accepted and seem cool with. didn't you heard her say that they both planned for the house and built it together? bro, in marriage, whatever you are not cool with, you let your partner know and both of you trash it. sincerely, only very few men will accept what she did. such action has a very negative message it passes to the other partner. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dipoowo(m): 5:59pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
Martinez19: Please madam, I beseech you by the mercies of God. Do not change the name on the land documents. Give your husband some time, his senses will return. He is not a gentle man at all. How can he reject you and the kids over a quarrel? Permit me to ask: Is it infidelity issue or you called his mother a witch? My wify once left me for some months over a quarrel on my Mum. Guess where she went to?! My wife went to her Parents and they were able to resolve it. PLEASE TELL YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER ABOUT THIS. Do not bear the burden alone. A problem shared is half solved. Then, get a legal counsel to know what legal options you have. REMEMBER, Do not change the name on the document. He cannot reap where he has not sown. Imagine if you are the one that used your part of the your share to treat your parents!!! May you live long and reap the fruit of your labour on your children. PLEASE DO NOT SELL THE HOUSE. Try and adapt to the absence of your husband for now. Lastly, take solace in God, tell your Pastor to join you in prayer |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by divinelove(m): 5:59pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
paulynpen: Shut up already U are full of shit Demented goat without common sense |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by paulynpen(m): 6:04pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
divinelove: Hahahaha, another sign of a weak man. When they have no valid point they resort to mudslinging and threat |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by MarieSucre(f): 6:05pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
CSTR1005:So he should leave his 3 children? So his pride is higher than his family?? Damn the way y'all are really promote this #menarescum thing is scary. What is wrong with you? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dipoowo(m): 6:05pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
jadyclem: That action of the husband was selfish and lack commitment to his immediate family. I bet you that guy who decided to send his wife and his own children away over a quarrel CANNOT ACCEPT if it was the Wife the was in his shoes. Worst case, he sought transfer to another location. Let him go, heaven will not fall. HIS IS AN ARROGANT, WICKED, SELFISH DUDE. You don't know blood is thicker than water, he will still come back for his kids sooner or later. Give him time, 6 months maximum, he will come back. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by MarieSucre(f): 6:05pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
CSTR1005: He should hurry and abandon his children. He should really prove what kind of scum he is. Pride goeth before a fall. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by MarieSucre(f): 6:07pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
divinelove: Then he'll use that 60% and kick her and the children out that's when y'all will be happy, at least in her homelessness and poverty she had fulfilled her biblical calling. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by MarieSucre(f): 6:08pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
divinelove: Too much nonsense in your post. This is not about who can stay under who. If you cannot compromise to your partner and put the well-being of your family above all pride and ego, you have no business getting married at all as a man. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by MarieSucre(f): 6:09pm On Jul 15, 2018 |
LewsTherin:What book is this? |
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