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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by femichill: 11:34pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
UBGG:Better talk. Don't be emotional blackmail in making a decision. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by wakililipupuru: 11:34pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Mogbe |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by perfectedmee: 11:35pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE:What sort of slowpoke re u. Dis is 21st century. Wake up man. Dre is nothing wrong wit d child staying with u. My fiancee has a three years old boy. He is my bf. He even calls me Dad. D day her mum moves in wit m is d day d boy will also do. If any of my family don't want that, dey can jejely go hug transformer. 7 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by babyfaceafrica: 11:37pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Odobopa:the man is nice..just scared of taking another mans responsibility.. which is normal..he didn't plan for this..he has to be careful... you think all children are appreciative if there step father....he dares not make the mistake of favouring his child over the Lady.. even if it is oversight.. he will be burnt.... he has to be very careful 9 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobodys(f): 11:37pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
SIRTee15:. Perfect. I think the Op is still angry though... I feel his pain.pls take a decision when you're calm. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:37pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: Do not accept that child. This is the reason I can never marry an "after round 1". I cannot carry somebody elses load on my head. I'm a clean slate and so also deserve to marry a clean slate. No be me talk say make you go dey open toto upandan for person wey no go marry you. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by kcowen(m): 11:38pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Wetin dey worry this Op, be like brain dey pain you, then why did u come here to seek advice if you have already figured it out,u came here to seek help and everybody is telling you to Accept the little girl & u re busy saying No,why did u come here in the first place.. You are saying family this, she is after one what da bleep!!!! Didn't u know she's after one b4 u went to marry her. See i won't lie to you the best decision is to do every documentation and adopt that girl and it will be the best decision u have ever made, am getting married to a single mom whose daughter already see me as a dad, Abeg use your head ooh 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:38pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
UBGG: The grandmother might be in poverty with no help and dts why she rejected it. Do u think grandparents are househelps. Ur talking abt helping family from afar, this is her MOTHER! If her mother can reject her, what hope does she have again in this life? A mother dt is not even supposed to eat if her child is hungry. You people should fear God o. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MsGood(f): 11:38pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
poseidon12:He will never forget who raised him. Never! 5 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by pweetyphola(f): 11:39pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
I really don't blame you. You are definitely not at fault. Who I blame is your wife the poor girl's mum. Maybe because she was so desperate to get married she did not get married to a man that who will love her daughter as much as her, to a man who does not see the girl like an inconvenience. She should have considered that this situation might come up before even saying yes to you. Anyway "Almighty" man and head of the home, the decision is in your court. I just hope your wife does right by her daughter. 10 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by mcugo(m): 11:40pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
That is one of the things u swore to do when u exchanged vows. Remember marriage is for better for worse. Take the good as well as the bad. But it is not bad at all to take the girl as your own. Do as u have been advised by good n well meaning nairalanders. Adopt the child, do the necessary paperwork and take the child. Treat her like ur own n see if u will not be happy that u did. God will reward u. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:40pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:41pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: No, you should not, because unconsciously you will end up treating the child differently thereby Alienating her. knowing her real dad is out there enjoying his life while you take care of his excess baggage makes you a weak man. Personally, I will accept such children even if they are up to 20, as long as they have no where to go, as in the dad is AWOL, I knew about the kids before marriage, if everybody rejects them & am financially buoyant to take care of them. In summary, tell the biological dad to own up to his responsibilities 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by pweetyphola(f): 11:42pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Hedonini: I really don't blame him. He is definitely not at fault. Who I blame is the wife the poor girl's mum. Maybe because she was so desperate to get married she did not get married to a man that who will love her daughter as much as her, to a man who does not see the girl like an inconvenience. She should have considered that this situation might come up before even saying yes to him. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by meobizy(f): 11:42pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
You knew about the child yet still dived into a marriage. What do you want from us again? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by babyfaceafrica: 11:42pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
MsGood:lolz..and you know this?.. do you know the number of ungrateful people around?..nothing is sure in life...the child can either appreciate or bone the stepfathet 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by 1kingwriter: 11:42pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
This is one of the great wahala of marrying a woman with a child from another man 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by chris51(f): 11:43pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
I know how you feel, but in the name of Almighty God, take the child. In a civilized society the child could be adopted by the step father. An example is SEAL, the British Nigerian man, married to oyinbo model. Tge 1st child of the woman, born for oyinbo man was adopted by Seal. The model is Heidi Klum and panel on American Got Talents. She has 2boys and a daughter for Seal. Seal adopted Heidi's 1st child and when I watched Seal's interview on Ellen's show, he said Heidi has 4 beautiful children for him. Another example is Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. They have 3 biological children and 3 adopted ones. Please accept this child. I assure you, it will make your wife to be more loyal to you and love you dearly. Have no fear, you will have no regrets by God's grace. Good Luck |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:43pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
SIRTee15: Nagode Baba! You're the only person on this thread with a working brain. Ask the assholes telling the OP to accept the child to name just 1 biblical character that raised somebody elses pikin in their holy books. ![]() See them shouting "in the name of god" as if they will help the OP financially for the welfare of the child - brainless hypocrites! 10 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by chris51(f): 11:44pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:44pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
babyfaceafrica: He is not supposed to do it for the child to be appreciative in future. He is supposed to do this because that's the right thing to do to make his very good wife happy and also to help that kid. You can't just say no to your wife in a situation like this mehn... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:45pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
femichill: The father said no. The grandmother, same response. I cannot help but think something is off with the child. I most certainly cannot bring a child I don't know her/his behaviour, energy, emotional state or the environment he/she was raised to mingle with my kids. Let the heaven fall. Let folks cry tears of blood. No way!!! 9 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Afamed: 11:45pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
dingbang:But no one so far has blamed the man that abandoned his sole responsibility. What manner of man is the one that wants another man to raise his daughter up for him? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 11:45pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
pweetyphola:Well said. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by chloride6: 11:46pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by babyfaceafrica: 11:47pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Odobopa:that is his decision to make..I just pity the child though |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Trump4ril: 11:47pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Please Op,no human being is a "mistake". The dad is known and alive. I won't ask you to accept her or reject her, whatever decision you take, time will judge will accordingly, either way. All these things boil down to poverty. If the money is there, why running away from taking care of the innocent child? Your wife and her ex lover should agree on taking joint responsibility of the child till after her university education, so she can have a good footing to kick off her life . Finally, one thing you can never erase is the FACT that she is elder sister to your children. If she is well trained, it will rob off on your children positively, if not, you already know the other part too. Next life, if any, avoid, "after one" with all your might. Many people get hooked to " after one" often after s*x because they are well experienced, see where it has landed you now. Una dooooĆ²ooo 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MsGood(f): 11:47pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
babyfaceafrica:. So, its better to abort? Or even worse, lose one's womb and be crying for children on mountains? Mistakes are part of life. If you don't like women with kids or as you put it, 'baggage', then don't marry one. It's quite simple. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Princedapace(m): 11:47pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: Mr brother, thanks jaree. I love ur reply. Typical Nigerians argue out of sentiments.. First, ur wife promised not to live with u with her daughter. So, there was a condition before u married her of which she agreed to.. Secondly, dont allow anyone blackmail u with sentiments. I am not such a person.. Now, if u dont have the means, pls, let ur wife agree that the upkeep will be on her and not u. U guys should agree on that. But make sure everything is legal. U can involve the services of a lawyer. The father of the girl maybe compelled to support her upkeep by court order. But if ur wife can take care of her, no issue. I wish u all the best. But if u can really support the little girl, if u have the financial means, pls make the process legal and accept her as ur daughter, not becus u must do so, but for the sake of humanity. I wish u all the best bro and may God guide u at this time of trying times in ur marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Beey(f): 11:49pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Nobodys:You don't understand.The story pissed me off.I am trying to understand what's the worst that could happen if he takes in a 7 year old.How can he claim to love the mother while the child is suffering out there?It is very annoying to think about.Age is just a number.We have some sixty year olds who act 16.Wisdom is supposed to come with age but not for some. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MsGood(f): 11:50pm On Aug 05, 2018 |
Imustreturn:My point exactly! He might end up maltreating or abusing the girl. |
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