Beey:
Well I accepted correction & edited.

Imustreturn:
its still very true.

He sounded so

NairalandFAYOSE:
pardon my blunders.
I was aware she has a baby before we met but still continued the relationship because the baby is with the father. she told me it was a mistake and the guy's family doesn't support their relationship. so they went their different ways while the guy kept the baby.

when we started, I found out she's humble, hardworking and she's everything I ever wanted in a woman. so we got married 4 years ago and have a 3 year old son and 2 beautiful twins (just 3 months old).

now the problem started when she went to church and her ex brought her 7 years old daughter unannounced. that he's married now and can't continue taking Care of the girl.
she called me from church and told me. immediately I told her not to bring a child thats not mine to me. she now took the baby to her mom and came home to meet me with my kids.
she has been begging me since to allow the baby in our home because the mother gave her 3 days to come and take her baby from her.

nairalanders pls I need your advice on this. those it make sense that I take the baby while the father is out there enjoying his life.

NairalandFAYOSE:
I don't Think My family will like this. they don't really like her that much Cus they say she is "AFTER ONE"

Nobodys:
bet if the tables were turned towards u, you wouldn't say that

..... Most of you failed to see where the man is coming from, what hurts him is the fact that a dumb lazy asz father trained a girl for 7year and is saying he can't do it no more... whose gonna do it for him?. If the father was dead, that's easier buh training and taking care of someone else's child while the person is chilling elsewhere isn't as easy as it seem......



Op....the first comment on the thread is the best. Adopt that child legally and treat her as your own please, She's a sibling to your children....their big sister.... I know it ain't easy buh if you can ,pls do........

Your wife must be going through alot, pls take it easy on her, its her daughter we're talking about.....

Take it easy on yourself too...get more ideas and advice from other people ( mature people)....

Goodluck..... This is touching.... Imagine what the little girl is going through....

babyfaceafrica:
lolz..all the options are bad oga..just say you will prefer he takes the first option.....

politicalpastor:
hey, it’s a pity for the little girl, my advice is
That if you allow that child home ur life will never remain the same, I have been there before , I don’t care[/color] what anyone say in this forum, mark my word , u either allow your marriage to break now by saying No or
Be ready to face hell in that ur so called marriage by allowing that child in,
No matter how good you are , I will never be appreciated in that girls life, don’t make such mistakes, a word is enough for the wise. Good luck.. [color=#990000]


I was aware she has a baby before we met but still continued the relationship because the baby is with the father. she told me it was a mistake and the guy's family doesn't support their relationship. so they went their different ways while the guy kept the baby.

when we started, I found out she's humble, hardworking and she's everything I ever wanted in a woman. so we got married 4 years ago and have a 3 year old son and 2 beautiful twins (just 3 months old).

now the problem started when she went to church and her ex brought her 7 years old daughter unannounced. that he's married now and can't continue taking Care of the girl.
she called me from church and told me. immediately I told her not to bring a child thats not mine to me. she now took the baby to her mom and came home to meet me with my kids.
she has been begging me since to allow the baby in our home because the mother gave her 3 days to come and take her baby from her.

nairalanders pls I need your advice on this. those it make sense that I take the baby while the father is out there enjoying his life.

MissRaine69:
The most heartbreaking thing is that there is child who seems unwanted in the middle of all this.
You knew she had a child so she comes as s package so this is no brainer. Accept the child and be the father she needs.
Secondly kindly stop having anymore kids as your hands will be very full from hence forth.

Anextin:
An sure the stupid man might have threatened and cajoled her into giving her daughter up now he feels it's ok to dump her like a sac of potatoes. God punish devil. Its hard to leave your child for another. Op if you reject that child, your marriage will crumble before your eyes cos your wife will never understand why you said no.
The dad dropping her off doesn't mean he won't contribute to her education and upkeep.
So you all can have a meeting and discuss how he will contribute towards her growth.
Don't make your wife chose between you and her daughter. Its not right, and in the long run she will chose her girl. Any mother would.

NairalandFAYOSE:
I don't Think My family will like this. they don't really like her that much Cus they say she is "AFTER ONE"

SUPERPACK:
do all the necessary documentation and adopt the child to be your own, you never can tell who she will be in future, don't abandon her, because it might hunt your wife and frustrate your marriage.
May God lead you towards the right path.

NairalandFAYOSE:
pardon my blunders.
I was aware she has a baby before we met but still continued the relationship because the baby is with the father. she told me it was a mistake and the guy's family doesn't support their relationship. so they went their different ways while the guy kept the baby.

when we started, I found out she's humble, hardworking and she's everything I ever wanted in a woman. so we got married 4 years ago and have a 3 year old son and 2 beautiful twins (just 3 months old).

now the problem started when she went to church and her ex brought her 7 years old daughter unannounced. that he's married now and can't continue taking Care of the girl.
she called me from church and told me. immediately I told her not to bring a child thats not mine to me. she now took the baby to her mom and came home to meet me with my kids.
she has been begging me since to allow the baby in our home because the mother gave her 3 days to come and take her baby from her.

nairalanders pls I need your advice on this. those it make sense that I take the baby while the father is out there enjoying his life.

NairalandFAYOSE:
being with the mum means being with me. I don't think I want that.
have read so many comments here where people are calling me names and saying am selfish without even considering if I have the means to take care of her plus my kids. but no one is blaming the useless father who abandoned her daughter because he is married.
I know for sure my woman won't take it if its the other way round.

I only seek advice and if you want to blame me, I will say you should first put yourself in my shoes

DCOMICLEGEND:
MY NIGGA, ASK YOUR WIFE TO CALL THE FATHER.
IF THE FATHER CANNOT ACCEPT HIS RESPONSIBILITY THEN HER MOTHER SHOULD ACCEPT HER GRAND CHILD.
IGNORE THEIR NEGATIVE COMMENTS ON NAIRALAND AND FACE REALITY.

YOUR WIFE IS DISRESPECTFUL TO ACCEPT HER CHILD AFTER 7 YEARS WITHOUT ANY FORM OF AGREEMENT WITH THE FATHER TO TAKE CARE OF THE DAUGHTER, IF THE WIFE OF THE FATHER OF THE CHILD CANNOT ACCEPT HIS OWN DAUGHTER THEN SHE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO MARRY HIM I THE FIRST PLACE.

TELL YOUR WIFE TO ASK HER MOTHER TO LOOK AFTER HER DAUGHTER.
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT THE CHILD IT'S YOUR DECISION AND IT SHOULD BE FINAL.
YOU DON'T OWE NO ONE ANY APOLOGY OR WHATSOEVER, YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS CAUGHT UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THIS BULLSHIT.
SHE'S NOT YOUR DAUGHTER AND WILL NEVER BE, TRAIN HER AND WHEN SHE GROWS UP SHE WILL END UP GOING BACK TO HER FATHER AND YOU WILL BE THE ONE TO LOSE IN THE END.
IF YOU WANT TO ADOPT HER THEN IT WILL BE THE BIGGEST PROBLEM FOR YOU.
TELL YOUR WIFE YOU CANNOT ACCEPT THE CHILD, HER MOTHER IS THE BEST WOMAN TO LOOK AFTER HER CHILD AND ALSO ASK YOUR WIFE TO TELL THE FATHER OF HER CHILD TO BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT TO HER MOTHER EVERY MONTH FOR UPKEEP.

THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE YOU'LL EVER GET.

Sap0:

your mindset is wrong though... you will not accept the child, the child born by your wife just because that child belongs to another man,what message does that even send to your wife?
honestly humanity has gone to the dogs

NairalandFAYOSE:
I don't Think My family will like this. they don't really like her that much Cus they say she is "AFTER ONE"

BabbanBura:


Why you guys sounding like he is obligated to hold that child? Why for God's sake? He is under no obligation whatsoever to do so.
He may decide to do so as a goodwill, a priviledge and not a right.
If the father of the girl is not alive, then we can say he is inconsiderate because there are limited options. But her father rejected her possibly because another woman wont keep a child that is not hers in her home and u all are here blaming an innocent man?
Why are u guys not asking the step mother to be considerate to take the girl? I will never accept a child of my wife whose father is alive and able.
She choses either to stay with me and our kids or she move out and stay with her daughter and leave me with my kids

NairalandFAYOSE:
pardon my blunders.
I was aware she has a baby before we met but still continued the relationship because the baby is with the father. she told me it was a mistake and the guy's family doesn't support their relationship. so they went their different ways while the guy kept the baby.

when we started, I found out she's humble, hardworking and she's everything I ever wanted in a woman. so we got married 4 years ago and have a 3 year old son and 2 beautiful twins (just 3 months old).

now the problem started when she went to church and her ex brought her 7 years old daughter unannounced. that he's married now and can't continue taking Care of the girl.
she called me from church and told me. immediately I told her not to bring a child thats not mine to me. she now took the baby to her mom and came home to meet me with my kids.
she has been begging me since to allow the baby in our home because the mother gave her 3 days to come and take her baby from her.

nairalanders pls I need your advice on this. those it make sense that I take the baby while the father is out there enjoying his life.

NairalandFAYOSE:
I don't Think My family will like this. they don't really like her that much Cus they say she is "AFTER ONE"

InvertedHammer:
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If you don't bring the girl in, your wife may start resenting you. But that won't be a problem, na small otapiapia for soup go settle am. Patapata, they will blame your enemies or an old uncle in the village. You will lose at the end for rejecting her daughter. Mark my words.

Don't forget the quote: A happy wife is a happy life.

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NairalandFAYOSE:
I don't Think My family will like this. they don't really like her that much Cus they say she is "AFTER ONE"

NairalandFAYOSE:
being with the mum means being with me. I don't think I want that.
have read so many comments here where people are calling me names and saying am selfish without even considering if I have the means to take care of her plus my kids. but no one is blaming the useless father who abandoned her daughter because he is married.
I know for sure my woman won't take it if its the other way round.

I only seek advice and if you want to blame me, I will say you should first put yourself in my shoes

femichill:

Sincerely, I will not accept the child. I will only take the child in if the father is dead.

janellemonae:


I feel so sad for the girl. In between 2 parents dt dont want her. Smh. She will grow up and resent all her half siblings if shes abandoned like this.

This op is just a selfish demon. All these pple dt live fake lives, controlled by what people will say. They don't even know their own self. Zero character. Nonsense!