crackhaus:

If she had made a move to sweep immediately the accident occurred, do you think her mother-in-law would have let her continue or not?




@bukatyne,
This is the context my question to you seeks to address.

It also explains what I meant by this bit in my first comment:
Second thing I would want to know is what your wife did immediately the mirror fell, did she act like nothing happened and was going about her business, or immediately felt remorse and instinctively (forgetting she was 7months heavy) rush to get a broom?

Whether she picked the broom instinctively or looked like an entitled princess, 7 months pregnant is not the time to treat her fvckup.

I agree that the wife is a drama queen sha. She is Nigerian for goodness sake and knows the expectations of her husband's family. If the husband shield's her from them is another thing altogether.

How do you hold a 2yr grudge against your MIL because she asked you to sweep the mirror you broke? If she was talking about her biological mother, I hear. In fact, I wouldn't sweep it if my mother asked me to in that state. If my MIL did, I would jump at it. .

The OP should humour us and tell what grudge the wife has against her SIL.

crackhaus:

Talk for another day.

You are running abi?

JoannaSedley:
Your wife is a fvcking as.shole, an ingrate and an utterly disgraceful cunthole. Pardon my language.
When I was 9 month gone with my first child, I Knock over and broke my glass drinking jug in the presence of the whole family, i ran and got broom and swept the dirts without fuss. They were like "nne gimme that, gimme that, lemme help " but no way, I am not having that. I was ashamed of myself for spoiling something at my age talk more of in front of my in laws.

Your ingrate of a wife wanted to be treated like royalty for spoiling something instead of rushing to clean up the mess before it injure someone. She is lucky I am not the sister in law, she would've seen hell.

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brilliant write up

jombo21:
Thanks so much, for your contribution. i wasn't there when it happened, though my wife told me about it sometime ago but i never took it serious, i never knew she ve been in pains about it all these years until last week. I dont know the tone at which my mum used in telling her that, and i dont wish to ask her how it happened because it will deeply hurt her, because i know how much she loves my wife

She should get over herself, it's been three years.

Unless there are other things she's not telling you.

Mother in law: My daughter, the mirror I was holding
has broken... please get a broom and
sweep it while I check on the soup...

Daughter in law: Yes mother...
Is that a big deal? Was she asked to sweep a cathedral?
I remembered the story of Macbeth..when he said " there's no art to find minds construction on the face "

Your mother must have been genuinely laughing and joking with her daughter inlaw for over two years that both of you were married ...No one knows that she was faking her own affection... I don't know what to say but to ask if she was from ALUU in port Harcourt?

The sacrifice a mother will make for you is different from what a mother in law will ever do. If your wife was her own daughter, she will sweep those broken bottles for her but as na mother in law, I don't expect anything more than what she did. Let your wife take heart

lol, so funny

bukatyne:


Whether she picked the broom instinctively or looked like an entitled princess, 7 months pregnant is not the time to treat her fvckup.

I agree that the wife is a drama queen sha. She is Nigerian for goodness sake and knows the expectations of her husband's family. If the husband shield's her from them is another thing altogether.

How do you hold a 2yr grudge against your MIL because she asked you to sweep the mirror you broke? If she was talking about her biological mother, I hear. In fact, I wouldn't sweep it if my mother asked me to in that state. If my MIL did, I would jump at it. .

The OP should humour us and tell what grudge the wife has against her SIL.

well, let me drop my sisters part. while going back home after our traditional marriage rite 3years ago, i was chatting with my sis on how the even went, i told her that my in-laws were so hash on me that i was billed a total of 500k, my younger sis on reading this exclamated jokingly that if i ve to pay such amount then when she(my sis) is getting married hers will be 1m. My wife saw the chat and never said anything about it until last week when she spewed it out angrily that she will have been nursing it in her mind and that she will never forgive my sis for comparing herself to her.
I was dazed at this, because i cant even remember if i had such chat. Am so in shock about this, just like someone said above, i never knew my wife have been faking affection with my family over the years.

bukatyne:


Whether she picked the broom instinctively or looked like an entitled princess, 7 months pregnant is not the time to treat her fvckup.

I agree that the wife is a drama queen sha. She is Nigerian for goodness sake and knows the expectations of her husband's family. If the husband shield's her from them is another thing altogether.

How do you hold a 2yr grudge against your MIL because she asked you to sweep the mirror you broke? If she was talking about her biological mother, I hear. In fact, I wouldn't sweep it if my mother asked me to in that state. If my MIL did, I would jump at it. .

The OP should humour us and tell what grudge the wife has against her SIL.

jombo21:
well, let me drop my sisters part. while going back home after our traditional marriage rite 3years ago, i was chatting with my sis on how the even went, i told her that my in-laws were so hash on me that i was billed a total of 500k, my younger sis on reading this exclamated jokingly that if i ve to pay such amount then when she(my sis) is getting married hers will be 1m. My wife saw the chat and never said anything about it until last week when she spewed it out angrily that she will have been nursing it in her mind and that she will never forgive my sis for comparing herself to her.
I was dazed at this, because i cant even remember if i had such chat. Am so in shock about this, just like someone said above, i never knew my wife have been faking affection with my family over the years.

Oh brother, I knew I would be humoured , thanks.

Now, your wife NEEDS to grow up faster than I would say Jack Robinson.

She is immature, petty and unwise.

Your sister's response is actually very friendly and instead of the natural instinct to side with you, stood with your wife and supported her in-laws.

That said, you knew her before you married her, talk to her where she understands (in the living room, ozza room, prayer room, bedroom, eating room etc.) and tell her she needs to grow up.

She has a daughter to raise and I am sure she wants her to be of good behaviour.

Mizwisdom:
The sacrifice a mother will make for you is different from what a mother in law will ever do. If your wife was her own daughter, she will sweep those broken bottles for her but as na mother in law, I don't expect anything more than what she did. Let your wife take heart

Very true.

Thanks alot dear.

bukatyne:


Oh brother, I knew I would be humoured , thanks.

Now, your wife NEEDS to grow up faster than I would say Jack Robinson.

She is immature, petty and unwise.

Your sister's response is actually very friendly and instead of the natural instinct to side with you, stood with your wife and supported her in-laws.

That said, you knew her before you married her, talk to her where she understands (in the living room, ozza room, prayer room, bedroom, eating room etc.) and tell her she needs to grow up.

She has a daughter to raise and I am sure she wants her to be of good behaviour.

jombo21:
Thanks alot dear.

*hugs*

bukatyne:


You are running abi?

Yes I am oo. That man vs woman argument is not what I want to have anymore with you or anyone on nl for that matter.

Been there, done that.

Florblu:
Why is your wife so hard on herself? If it were her mum that told her to sweep the floor won't she sweep it?

I'm sure your mum and sister would have forgotten about that small incident but here is she holding on to 3years issue.


I think she's always sleeping whenever your pastor is preaching that part of the Bible that says "Remember not the things of the past". Record it and add beat to it, let her put it on repeat

A lot of people go to church just for the sake of it or miracle. How can she harbour that in mind for 3 years?

If it were his mother that broke the mirror I will understand.

crackhaus:

Yes I am oo. That man vs woman argument is not what I want to have anymore with you or anyone on nl for that matter.

Been there, done that.

I am here briefly...

Hopefully!

Opened my laptop for something else and branched here.

Where all these kaiin women dey from come out sef

Unfortunately, you have married a foolish woman. There's nothing wrong if a 9 months pregnant woman bends down.
She isn't the first woman to ever get pregnant, and she's not birthing baby Jesus, so she needs to get a grip.
I will advice you to limit the contact between them as practicable as possible, and stop talking about your mother to her, and vice versa.
It's not compulsory they are friends. The main thing is mutual respect for each other. She can keep her forgiveness for herself, as she seems to need it more

bukatyne:


While I understand your wife's pain, she should forgive her and let go.

I doubt a biological mother would watch her 7 month pregnant daughter sweep shrads of glass off the floor.

Ordinary 7 months pregnant? Is she still not bending down and touching her toes in her condition to receive the D?
How many minutes will it take to clean the broken pieces of glass mirror off the floor?
Did any Dr advice her not to bend down at all?
I sympathise with pregnant women, as I know how difficult it is to be pregnant, but that's not an excuse to start thinking stupidly even after delivery(I know the hormones can mess up some people's brain cells, but it normally goes back to normal after birth).
She's just trying to create a problem where there is none, and believe you me its joblessness that causes this type of thinking.
OP, does your wife work?
She should see women who's inlaws are giving them stress, and she would be grateful and do thanksgiving that her own MIL just asked her to clean up after herself.
Imagine if she was working, will she say she will never bend down at work for whatever reason? Is it even possible she never bends down at all in her own home?
Pregnancy is not a disease jare, but I understand it's a very stressful and difficult period.
However, old age is also a difficult time where all your bones ache, and all your joints are riddled with arthritis causing constant pain.
Pregnant or not, I won't allow my own mother sweep a mirror I broke off the floor, and I definitely won't take it personal if she asks me to sweep it so the shards dont cut my feet.

Sorry to say this but your wife has a big problem

Whew, learning everyday, marriage is not easy.

Pregnant women should be pampered...it's not easy

I have a question for all these morons (pardon my French) shouting "if it was your sister"..."heavily pregnant"...yen yen yen. So she is justified in keeping grudges for 3 years with someone who does not even know they hurt you, eh kwa? OP, I'm sorry but your wife and all those morons (again, excusez moi) can kill. They are what is wrong with humanity. These types people hardly make serious progress because of all the unnecessary baggage they heft around.

Person go just siddon, carry her own hand spoil her marriage by herself and later blame innocent village pipu.
Such a pity!

bukatyne:


While I understand your wife's pain, she should forgive her and let go.

I doubt a biological mother would watch her 7 month pregnant daughter sweep shrads of glass off the floor.

Of all the people on this thread, you are the first to look at it from the wife's perspective. That's impressive.

My view is the wife's anger has to do with the fact that she was made to go through that in such conditions when the mother in law could have easily helped. He shouldn't invalidate his wife feelings by taking his Mom side. If possible, he should help her make peace with that incident and let his mom know in a peaceful way.

Don't be shocked. Understand it from her point of view and let her see it's time to let go and heal. These are part of your job description as the head of the family. Do your job bro.

Well about your mum,I think she is wrong to some extent (asking a preg woman to sweep). Sort of exercise if you ask me.
Your wife is wrong when you look at it from all angles.
Asking an elder to sweep for her,holding grudges against her mother in-law..........
Analyse it properly,you will discover the mistake made

What's there in sweeping a broken mirror off the floor? Does she need to be told especially when she accidentally caused it. Haba. Pregnancy is not a disease or illness. It doesn't take forever get the task done.


Your wife have unforgiving spirit and a ticking time bomb. She needs help.

Your wife is crazy and mister man u ursef no get sense

God bless your mother

Thats too hash bro!! hope nobody forced you to comment?

sparog:
Your wife is crazy and mister man u ursef no get sense

God bless your mother

MatthAnn:
Well about your mum,I think she is wrong to some extent (asking a preg woman to sweep). Sort of exercise if you ask me.
Your wife is wrong when you look at it from all angles.
Asking an elder to sweep for her,holding grudges against her mother in-law..........
Analyse it properly,you will discover the mistake made

The embolden is rubbish. What do you mean "asking a pregnant woman to sweep"?Was she not supposed to do anything again because she is pregnant? What type of stupid entitled mentality is that? She shouldn't even be reminded to clean up if at all she was well brought up.

Her actions and inaction reeks of a premeditated plans to prejudice her inlaws for no reason .
What am i saying sef, the league of slay mamas won't see anything wrong with what she did.

jombo21:
Thats too hash bro!! hope nobody forced you to comment?

Op, I'm sorry for being harsh

bukatyne:


While I understand your wife's pain, she should forgive her and let go.

I doubt a biological mother would watch her 7 month pregnant daughter sweep shrads of glass off the floor.

What's your point.... You've just showed you hate the woman too...

one love

sparog:


Op, I'm sorry for being harsh