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My Wife Just Delivered 2weeks Ago - How Long Should I Wait / Should I Wait For My Girlfriend Who's In 300L To Finish While Am Already 34yrs ? / "My Boyfriend Jailed For 15 Years Abroad, Insists I Wait For Him" - 29-Year-Old (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by greypencils: 12:28pm On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister:Please, address it and keep us posted. Same thing happened with me and my Fiancee. Real story. We met online in 2014. There was a mutual attraction but because of distance we couldn't see each other. She started the cold shoulder thing your guy is doing now. Pained, I withdrew. We stopped talking for over two years. Suddenly in 2017, we got talking again and this time the chemistry was stronger than before. This time we were in the same country, different cities though. We started off the relationship again and obtained that commitment before we physically saw each other. We have been together for over two years. We have never lived in the same city in fact, right now we are in different countries but our bond is strong, WE TALK EVERY DAY. I intend to make her my Mrs very soon. So if your guy is for real, and really loves you, he has to commit to seeing you. But if time/chance/money won't allow him come visit you, then you have to let him go...It's gonna hurt like hell but it is for the best. If you guys are meant to be, Time/Chance would have its way, you guys will get back together. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Realhommie(m): 12:28pm On May 18, 2019 |
czarina:Na una way, lol.. The average Naija girl no won use ear hear abroad based guy, na speed she go take follow am.. One of my girlfriends currently dey disco, serious one ooooo, all coz of abroad guy.. I just dey look her dey laff, coz i know say her eyes go clear las las. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by dingbang(m): 12:29pm On May 18, 2019 |
Girls and attention are like butter and bread, even when they know that a guy needs space to be productive, they will still want attention. Sister why cant you just focus your time on other things? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by SoapQueen(f): 12:30pm On May 18, 2019 |
ffo: Snatch who bawo? Abeg, better keep your leprosy-infested fingers to your d**k because constant wanking is why you have few brain cells. Odé |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Adviseasister: 12:30pm On May 18, 2019 |
dingbang: I don't bug him during work hours. Notice I said I send and call in the night when I am sure he is home, rested and done with work. I will focus on other things. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Nobody: 12:32pm On May 18, 2019 |
Kennydoc: There's ATTRACTION, There's INFATUATION, an there's LOVE. What you felt initially was an INTEREST or ATTRACTION. or perhaps an INFATUATION. obviously you came to LOVE what you saw in her when you finally met her. You really can't love something you don't know. You can be attracted to it because it looks or appears good. But it is love that makes you want to keep or remain with that thing after you get to know it better. It's almost like seeing a beautiful dress in a shop and it immediately catches your eyes because it looks good and ATTRACTIVE. You immediately want it to badly. But when you finally get it and realises it is not of good quality, you immediately want to discard it. On the other hand, if it is beautiful and also durable, that will make you want to keep it. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Realhommie(m): 12:34pm On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister:No wonder.. You're still very young and inexperienced, naive too.. You'll learn. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by jaksmillioniar: 12:36pm On May 18, 2019 |
czarina:Lol dear am not DAT kind of person how many girls I want date. am just friendly 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Biglittlelois(f): 12:36pm On May 18, 2019 |
AllenSpencer: Lmao, you're wicked 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Predstan: 12:37pm On May 18, 2019 |
safarigirl: I better not travel than travel to meet a lady who I never knew from anywhere. We met online and u want me to come visit u Nigeria. Nigeria Open your Brain. Read the first post |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by ffo(m): 12:40pm On May 18, 2019 |
SoapQueen:e pain am! |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by czarina(f): 12:40pm On May 18, 2019 |
Realhommie:The average right? You may be right, but as we grow older, we have dreams of our own. We realize abroad isn't all there is to having a "good life". We realize there are people here with us who live the life many "abroadians" only dream about. Na small pikin sense dey make person believe say "abroad" equates a "good life". Let's not go there. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Nobody: 12:41pm On May 18, 2019 |
lefulefu: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by darlenese(f): 12:42pm On May 18, 2019 |
some ladies are just too dull |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by LydayBobo(m): 12:42pm On May 18, 2019 |
iCauseTrouble:Please don't CauseTrouble |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by AgentGoat: 12:42pm On May 18, 2019 |
iCauseTrouble:
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Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by czarina(f): 12:42pm On May 18, 2019 |
jaksmillioniar: I trust you, boss |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Predstan: 12:44pm On May 18, 2019 |
greypencils: Yeah. I better not travel to meet a Nigerian that we only met online. From Europe to Nigeria? Infact, sex shouldn’t be what you decide to do or not. It should be a natural thing that comes from both hearts. What I’m trying to say is that. You and I met online, you pressurized me to come see you from Europe to Nigeria. I decided to come and see you because I Love u so much, then you are telling me I can’t have sex... Stupidity and Rubbish. I better not come. It’s possible to come and not have anything but u can’t tell me No sex beforehand |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by SoapQueen(f): 12:44pm On May 18, 2019 |
ffo: I ain’t buggin, u da one who is cappin. I’ve got a whole man for myself, why would I want to snatch someone’s man? You got your 5 minutes of attention from me, now go eat dust! |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Nobody: 12:46pm On May 18, 2019 |
Elliot2: That's the misuse of the word I was talking about. What you're probably describing is an infatuation, or a crush. All those are temporary. Love is more than just an emotion. It is also a quality. It is not just a passing feeling that gives temporary release. It is a permanent bond that unites two people together. These days everyone describes their infatuations and crushes as love. Love is a far more superior quality and emotion you feel for someone. It must have a solid base, not just superficial features and traits. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Adviseasister: 12:47pm On May 18, 2019 |
He just sent me a screenshot of some posts, asking me if that is what I really think about him. If he is the man described in that post. He is kind of angry the thread made front page and got to this stage. He thinks the advices here are too harsh and would worsen a bad situation. We have agreed to both go off NL and work things out like two people without the influence of NL. I am sorry for bringing it here boo. It all started here, so I thought we could also ask for their opinion. You told me we would post our pre-wedding pictures to encourage other Nlders. What happened to all that? 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by sommyboi(m): 12:47pm On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister: Honey bunny, you're such a baby, and that's why you're so adorable. With a straight face, quit being other people's business and start growing up. Is it losing him or losing face amongst your friends that worry you the most? Urrrghhhh! 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by ffo(m): 12:48pm On May 18, 2019 |
SoapQueen: Has he married you? |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by tomju(m): 12:49pm On May 18, 2019 |
Why would someone in love ignore a call? Can you recall how excited you get when someone you really love calls your phone? I can imagine how hurting it is when someone you really love or care for is not reciprocating your gesture. The truth though is, you cannot force someone and love him. People fall in love for various reasons. Love, beauty, boredom, convenience, revenge, just to be accepted by friends, pressure to get hooked etc. I will not bother to ask you why you fell in love with him in the first place, as we cant really place our hands on these things. However, from your post you seem to like him very much, and rightly so. But the thing is, does he like you as well? If he does, i feel he should reach out at least once in 2 days. No mater the amount of work pressure, atleast before you retire to bed, you can make a call to someone you love or atleast send a text. Listen, if you don't forget him now and move one, you will keep dwelling on the what ifs, what is, where did, that sort of line of reasoning and it can be so emotionally draining, upsetting and frustrating. What is he doing now? Who is he with? Where did i get it wrong? Can we ever come back again? Does she really care? My dear, there are a plethora of queries if you ask me. My simple solution to a complex problem is move on. Will it be easy? No. Is it possible? Yes. Atleast you were not engaged! I was, but i survived the drama and trauma. Its so unfortunate for certain reasons, i may not bare it all here, but that your post has all the tale signs of a guy who is not ready to commit. Sorry, i don't know if you are ready to settle, but i take it that most serious relationships should lead somewhere! Perhaps, that may be why you are disappointed that this didn't work. For you to seek help online, it means it really matter to you. You also raised the issue of being able to love again! Guess what, you will. It all depends on what you really want. You will definitely find love again. Lastly, do not let anther persons failure or inadequacies as it were, distract you from concentrating on your work. Personally, i found strength in working, when i went through my own crisis. I saw work as an "escape route" for my hurt. It paid off. I discovered a part of me i didn't know existed. Meanwhile, when i was heartbroken, i felt the world is over and does not make sense anymore, then i began to imagine that the things i was looking for, or the qualities i needed in a woman, was not fitted in the right body! Lol, i will meet one with so good morals and manners but unattractive physically or one that is drop-dead gorgeous but simply silly or wayward, and unreal on the inside. Your happiness is a function of what you desire in people. The qualities they posses matters here, but ultimately we should learn to love for more reasons than physical beauty or even so high standards-speaking for myself here. On a final note, i pray may you find love that will give you less stress and worry. Outcome is not in your control. What’s in your control is your effort and your intentions. I hope that you will meet someone else, and if you keep hope alive, anything is possible. Lastly, do not blame yourself that it didn't work out. Cheer up, let go. You will find love again....this time true love that knows no boundaries. I will leave you with a quote that worked for me in 2013, yes 6 years ago. "Someday, We will forget our Hurt, the reason we cried and who caused us pain. We will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way & Time, afterall, what matters is not the first, but the last chapter of our Lives". -Augusta Tommey. Stay Strong. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Realhommie(m): 12:51pm On May 18, 2019 |
czarina:I like your coinage of the word "Abroadians", lol.. And yes i am right when i say the "Average" Nigerian girl.. Finally, na true say na small pikin sense, especially with the females. Generally tho, when you get really close to people you'll realize that a lot of them do not have sense oooo.. That common sense is a flower that doesn't grow in everyone's garden.. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Realhommie(m): 12:53pm On May 18, 2019 |
ffo: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Boyooosa(m): 12:54pm On May 18, 2019 |
MariaLavina:You have already nailed it, don't redial again. The op wants to be sure of a better option btw the two of 'wait for' or 'move on' @op, pls move on. If anything positive will come out of ur relationship with him, it will depend on u moving on. Don't even look back at all, keep moving till u r convinced that u need to, keep moving I emphasize. All these; go and text him, be patient, he might be busy as claimed etc, are just scams, he might even be one of them sending in those messages, those like him or the few with little or no experience, don't be misguided, there is nothing like busy and flirting around in a genuine relationship. I hope this meets ur senses if u r even genuine on ur own... 1 Like
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Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by czarina(f): 12:55pm On May 18, 2019 |
Realhommie:I didn't coin that word. I actually saw it used above. You're right... Commonsense isn't always common especially when we're young. |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Gabbyz01: 12:56pm On May 18, 2019 |
Love no dy easy o |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by Realhommie(m): 12:57pm On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister:What right has he got to be angry, he forced your hands in the first place. At this stage it doesn't matter what anyone says or do, obviously you're sprung.. Best wishes This is sincerely hoping you won't cry out some other day seeking advice again. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by safarigirl(f): 12:57pm On May 18, 2019 |
Predstan: This is a different talk. Your initial post was that you want to travel for kpekus, and that you can't travel if you don't have a guarantee for sex. So, if you were sure of sex, it would be enough incentive for you to travel? Women travel all the time to visit men they never knew from anywhere, don't they? It's foolish, in my opinion, but they do it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Wait For Him Or Move On? by safarigirl(f): 12:59pm On May 18, 2019 |
Adviseasister: You don't have sense. When he is done with you, don't come back here and post any nonsense. Pre-wedding pictures indeed 11 Likes 1 Share |
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