It is all cheap blackmail.

Same way women say "real men"

A real man or wife material in Nigeria is someone who behaves the way the other party wants. Nothing less, nothing more.

I don't buy such crap. Definitely not from entities on the internet.

But for people who keep reinforcing such ideologies- I really do not pity them when they end up with the best pretenders.

Is this a thread on war between our male and female counterpart?

What could the world would have been without the female folks? ...it would have been nothing less than sad men frowning their faces forever.

Sandra8:

Some minute few like it, as for us feminists babe we will pass over

Feminists are welcome into Polygamy too..

A feminist can be one of the wives.. Since she is capable of birthing children and mother her children in the Empire..
It doesn't stop her from working or earning..
The man that paid her bride price cannot seize her certificate. . Impossible!!

All i know is that she will behave herself unlike her monogamous counterparts!!!

Op You really can type sha.
Trust me, with the right dick hammering at the right time una go leave story for story tellers

Sandra8:
After all has been said and done, men take pride in telling a woman, "you won't marry like this"- if you support feminism or women's right.
Truth be told that is a last resort by men to bend you to do their bidding against your common sense.
This is a cheap form of bullying, tactics kids employ on each other and not for adults. If you are old enough to date as a man, and you still use this tactics to silence your fellow woman you should be ashamed. Bullying is a crime under United Nations, in fact “Being protected from bullying is a fundamental human right,” said Marta Santos Pais , Special Representative of the Secretary-General on Violence against Children UN. That been said sensible guys will toll accordingly.

Times change and we must change with the times, women's movement, feminism etc will not seize but grow from strength to strength daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. As hard a pill as this is for men to swallow, they must certainly still swallow it. Many men here will eventually marry feminists in one form or the other with time. You can't stop the TIMES, you can only DENY it.

The power dynamics in relationships have long swayed to the females side than to mens side. Some ladies may not yet realize this but it's true.
Men make it look as if it's easy to get into a new relationship or even find a bride these days unlike women. Men spends weeks, months even years wooing their crush to agree to their love proposal. Time is even more valuable than money because once spent cannot be recovered unlike money. Men not only spend time in this pursuit they also spend loads of money(they tag this as investment in hopes it will pay off later on)

Now ladies imagine the dissapointment he must feel when you still turn him down despite all these. It's very painful to fathom.

You must also realize that men see ladies as trophies to be won and displayed to the admiration of others, that is their fellow guys.
Of cause we are more than trophies, we are human beings but just to buttress my point a man who finds a woman he desires that agrees to marry him feels blessed cause many men tried but failed to win you (their treasured trophy).

The point is men are as vulnerable in relationships as women but they never like to highlight that point (but majority of romance post on nairaland will confirm my view) , truth be told even more vulnerable because they do most of the hard work in relationships, women are mostly the beneficiaries of relationship.

Lastly relationship status of either male or female should never be a yard stick to judge or discriminate against anyone. Marriage just like any personal pursuit (higher education etc) in life is a personal matter and everyone should be entitled to their choice.

Korllami007:


But kings live longer than any man. Our fore father and ancestors marry more that one wife but they live longer than today's men that marry one wife and later die of heart attack, stroke at the age of 55, 60.

Dear your logic has nothing to do with the number of ladies but how bad the standard of living is in Nigeria dear. Don't get it twisted

Sandra8:


Naughty, naughty. You still have loads to learn. What is sweet also kills don't kill yourself OK dear

seems you created this trend to pick fight with anyone that disagrees with your argument..me I just dey watch the trend..

True is to marry you will have readjust certain mentality if not you go old..

eni4real:
[b][/b] Feminists are welcome into Polygamy too..

A feminist can be one of the wives.. Since she is capable of birthing children and mother her children in the Empire..
It doesn't stop her from working or earning..
The man that paid her bride price cannot seize her certificate. . Impossible!!

All i know is that she will behave herself unlike her monogamous counterparts!!!

Better go marry those village girls honey. Feminist cant even touch you dear

horlique:
seems you created this trend to pick fight with anyone that disagrees with your argument..me I just dey watch the trend..

True is to marry you will have readjust certain mentality if not you go old..

I know my type of man dear, go find your type of woman too

Sandra8:


Men's influence in the raising of children outside of marriage will always be downplayed by women. No kid will ever support a father who disrespects his mother by first not marrying her (making him a bastard in the process) and also by cheating on her with multiple women .
The respect this kids end up having for their mom always supercede whatever respect they may have for their dad.
And yes a man's greatness is linked to the quality of his offspring. Man is a social animal dear. So after all is said and done. After all the man has achieved personally and in his good old age all his kids turn out different than he did, or failed in life or failed to acknowledge him after being successful which most are doing now, what joy does the man gain from that my dear. Absolutely nothing but pains. Wake up dear

I beg to differ in some assumptions here. I believe a man has a different life from his kids. Although he owes them good training, upbringing, and discipline, but everyone must work his or her destiny out.

Where is Azikiwe, Awolowo, Shagari, Ekwueme children today.
Where are children of John D Rockefeller, Henry Ford, Kennedy family etc.

A great man doesn't transfer his greatness to his children, everyone must work his own greatness. The only thing a man owes his children are good education, good training, good upbringing and good discipline to become better members of society.

Sandra8:


Better go marry those village girls honey. Feminist cant even touch you dear

That is where you are getting it wrong...

I guess you are not a born again Muslim??

Anyway, Polygamy is our ways as Africans..

We must not allow fake movements to distract us..

Men should Hustle hard... I know the economy is not helping

But 1 beautiful feminist and another homely young beauty will be a perfect combo for any real man that desire a good empire!!

Never give up!!!

Omo see Aunty

eni4real:
That is where you are getting it wrong...

I guess you are not a born again Muslim??

Anyway, Polygamy is our ways as Africans..

We must not allow fake movements to distract us..

Men should Hustle hard... I know the economy is not helping

But 1 beautiful feminist and another homely young beauty will be a perfect combo for any real man that desire a good empire!!

Never give up!!!

Backwardness is always Africa's way babe

Sandra8:


Dear your logic has nothing to do with the number of ladies but how bad the standard of living is in Nigeria dear. Don't get it twisted

If you are talking about Nigeria economy, you are right. But some people have the ability to do it and they are doing it in Nigeria.

The biggest recipe for men to live long is to marry more than one wife.

djon78:



I beg to differ in some assumptions here. I believe a man has a different life from his kids. Although he owes them good training, upbringing, and discipline, but everyone must work his or her destiny out.

Where is Azikiwe, Awolowo, Shagari, Ekwueme children today.
Where are children of John D Rockefeller, Henry Ford, Kennedy family etc.

A great man doesn't transfer his greatness to his children, everyone must work his own greatness. The only thing a man owes his children are good education, good training, good upbringing and good discipline to become better members of society.

Azikiwe kids are in London, that I know for sure babe. If you mean their political relevance that's because of corruption, if they can't play the dirty game of politics then they get out dear. So I'm right.

LilMissFavvy:
The origin of this lies in the society and their beliefs towards women, fortunately, some women are not intimidated by negative comments thrown by the male folk. The earlier women learn to rise up against the negative concepts the society throws at them, the better for us.

U re rite though. Women should also learn how to pay bills without telling de whole world

Korllami007:


If you are talking about Nigeria economy, you are right. But some people have the ability to do it and they are doing it in Nigeria.

The biggest recipe for men to live long is to marry more than one wife.

Dear you are obviously drunk ,who takes a drunk man seriously

eni4real:
Men should just Hustle in order to marry 2..

Once money is involved, making then happy will not be a problem..

Most marital problems I've read here are from monogamous relationships..

When I see a lady boasting to be in charge of his man's life, I know it is a monogamous relationship

When I see a guy complaining about the excessive character of his wife, or her hypo sexuality, I know that it is a monogamous marriage...

Men should Hustle and stop being lazy...

You will not appreciate the good side of women, if they are not up to 2 in your house!!

Hustle hard and pray for blessing...

Don't waste that money, marry the 2nd wife ASAP!!!

It worth it!! It makes you to enjoy what women has to offer better!!!
It is allowed!!! Don't restrict yourself!!!

Will you handle the jealousy, going to babalawo, being fetish on the children, and rivalry between the children?
Both of my parents came from a polygamous homes and I know how it was. Its better you manage one woman, the peace is better. The children will have more synergy between them as siblings.
Like I know how close I and my siblings are. We got each others back

Sandra8:


Backwardness is always Africa's way babe

You are not proud of your race... I don't expect that from you!!!

I have seen many very successful polygamous homes..

They are living in this generation.. They are educated... Their children are first class...

Men should just Hustle to be able to afford at least 2 wives..

Monogamous relationships are like games.. Both parties are playing games of superiority... Very boring...

In polygamy, the man is the king of the Empire.. The queens give their children the best of care so that they come out great... Healthy competition..
It suit feminists very well!!!

But man must get money to finance it.. It is more financially demanding but its outcome is way better than overrated Monogamy!!

Never settle for a man who doesn't respect your views. Better be alone than settle for less. Life isn't so difficult but you will make it difficult if you end up with a man who isn't ready to respect your opinions an views.

Sandra8:

Azikiwe kids are in London, that I know for sure babe. If you mean their political relevance that's because of corruption, if they can't play the dirty game of politics then they get out dear. So I'm right.

They are in London doing what?
Are they great names like there Dad? Not at all. Everyone must work his own greatness, if not you end up just anybody

djon78:



Will you handle the jealousy, going to babalawo, being fetish on the children, and rivalry between the children?
Both of my parents came from a polygamous homes and I know how it was. Its better you manage one woman, the peace is better. The children will have more synergy between them as siblings.
Like I know how close I and my siblings are. We got each others back

Life is not a bed of Rose..
You will pull through..

Not all polygamy look like that!!!

Everything comes with pros and cons..
How you set up also matter!!

Never give up!

Polygamy is our way in Africa..

Sandra8:


Dear you are obviously drunk ,who takes a drunk man seriously

It has been proved and tested.
If you think it's bad, ask Alaafin Oyo and all the kings you know and the people you know that marry more than one wife. The wives will be check mating each other and there won't be any stunt like I have been the one taking care of the children can't have sex because I'm tired, no sex. If you are tired, hot wives are warming up to help you out. I think everyone woman should be happy about this because whenever they are having hormonal imbalance, they will be helping each other out. Or you promise me money last week and you haven't given me so no sex for you. I'm tired because I've been working all day long so I can't cook.

Help your husband to live long by letting him marry second wife or more.

eni4real:
You are not proud of your race... I don't expect that from you!!!

I have seen many very successful polygamous homes..

They are living in this generation.. They are educated... Their children are first class...

Men should just Hustle to be able to afford at least 2 wives..

Monogamous relationships are like games.. Both parties are playing games of superiority... Very boring...

In polygamy, the man is the king of the Empire.. The queens give their children the best of care so that they come out great... Healthy competition..
It suit feminists very well!!!

But man must get money to finance it.. It is more financially demanding but its outcome is way better than overrated Monogamy!!

We should call a spade a spade. No Matter of pride in race.

No one is saying a polygamy is wrong, as long as polyamory and Polyandry are all welcome.

Feminist won't be complaining about your obsession to dominate, if you acknowledge that a female could assume same domineering role. Have 2 husband and let then care for the kids and she is the boss of the house.

If you want to be fair be fair

djon78:


They are in London doing what?
Are they great names like there Dad? Not at all. Everyone must work his own greatness, if not you end up just anybody

Google search about them dear and find out. They are doing fine by the way. The must not be politicians themselves to be successful in your eyes. If that is your reasoning you are still wrong dear

Korllami007:


It has been proved and tested.
If you think it's bad, ask Alaafin Oyo and all the kings you know and the people you know that marry more than one wife. The wives will be check mating each other and there won't be any stunt like I have been the one taking care of the children can't have sex because I'm tired, no sex. If you are tired, hot wives are warming up to help you out. I think everyone woman should be happy about this because whenever they are having hormonal imbalance, they will be helping each other out. Or you promise me money last week and you haven't given me so no sex for you. I'm tired because I've been working all day long so I can't cook.

Help your husband to live long by letting him marry second wife or more.

And give birth to those children you posted that are not properly taken care of dear.... No no

eni4real:
Life is not a bed of Rose..
You will pull through..

Not all polygamy look like that!!!

Everything comes with pros and cons..
How you set up also matter!!

Never give up!

Polygamy is our way in Africa..

Maybe your own belief. But I don't believe in polygamy. I have seen the ills

tunjilana:
In all thy writing....remember a man can start a family and raise kids at 70 but a woman will likely not at 50....secondly, due to hypergamy...A man's marital value increases as his wealth and social power increases while a woman's value decreases with age and body changes...regardless of a societal standing....In economics....A man's supply of women increases as he ages and does well with his life.....As for marriage...most men are beginning to see it as an hindrance to their access to more women....they see it as a limitation to being able to enjoy all the women they can afford.
..so if u observe, the benefits are being unbundled and realized without the actual act....Baby mama secures kids for him while he is out there living his life as long as he provides and maintains a level headed relationship with her....In conclusion...He who has all the time has more power. ..she who gas less time should put on her best behaviour and pick the best she can get while her value is high.....It is basically biology and little about societal reprogramming....

Then why those this mostly occur in third world countries?this ain't necessarily biology but society stereotype....
Aside reproduction, there is no other way a woman body detoriate! Why do women in developed countries don't bother like Africans over marriage?is a stereotype that needs to be unlearned

Dearlord:
Is this a thread on war between our male and female counterpart?

What could the world would have been without the female folks? ...it would have been nothing less than sad men frowning their faces forever.

All women ask is not to be treated less than they are. No respectable man should ever think less of a woman. Only an intelligent man will stand tall and say men and women need each other equally

tunjilana:
In all thy writing....remember a man can start a family and raise kids at 70 but a woman will likely not at 50....secondly, due to hypergamy...A man's marital value increases as his wealth and social power increases while a woman's value decreases with age and body changes...regardless of a societal standing....In economics....A man's supply of women increases as he ages and does well with his life.....As for marriage...most men are beginning to see it as an hindrance to their access to more women....they see it as a limitation to being able to enjoy all the women they can afford.
..so if u observe, the benefits are being unbundled and realized without the actual act....Baby mama secures kids for him while he is out there living his life as long as he provides and maintains a level headed relationship with her....In conclusion...He who has all the time has more power. ..she who gas less time should put on her best behaviour and pick the best she can get while her value is high.....It is basically biology and little about societal reprogramming....

I wonder why we have so many 1 min men in their prime and so many sexually capable men in their 70s....

You'll need new threats... These ones are not working

Sandra8:
After all has been said and done, men take pride in telling a woman, "you won't marry like this"- if you support feminism or women's right.
Truth be told that is a last resort by men to bend you to do their bidding against your common sense.
This is a cheap form of bullying, tactics kids employ on each other and not for adults. If you are old enough to date as a man, and you still use this tactics to silence your fellow woman you should be ashamed. Bullying is a crime under United Nations, in fact “Being protected from bullying is a fundamental human right,” said Marta Santos Pais , Special Representative of the Secretary-General on Violence against Children UN. That been said sensible guys will toll accordingly.

Times change and we must change with the times, women's movement, feminism etc will not seize but grow from strength to strength daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. As hard a pill as this is for men to swallow, they must certainly still swallow it. Many men here will eventually marry feminists in one form or the other with time. You can't stop the TIMES, you can only DENY it.

The power dynamics in relationships have long swayed to the females side than to mens side. Some ladies may not yet realize this but it's true.
Men make it look as if it's easy to get into a new relationship or even find a bride these days unlike women. Men spends weeks, months even years wooing their crush to agree to their love proposal. Time is even more valuable than money because once spent cannot be recovered unlike money. Men not only spend time in this pursuit they also spend loads of money(they tag this as investment in hopes it will pay off later on)

Now ladies imagine the dissapointment he must feel when you still turn him down despite all these. It's very painful to fathom.

You must also realize that men see ladies as trophies to be won and displayed to the admiration of others, that is their fellow guys.
Of cause we are more than trophies, we are human beings but just to buttress my point a man who finds a woman he desires that agrees to marry him feels blessed cause many men tried but failed to win you (their treasured trophy).

The point is men are as vulnerable in relationships as women but they never like to highlight that point (but majority of romance post on nairaland will confirm my view) , truth be told even more vulnerable because they do most of the hard work in relationships, women are mostly the beneficiaries of relationship.

Lastly relationship status of either male or female should never be a yard stick to judge or discriminate against anyone. Marriage just like any personal pursuit (higher education etc) in life is a personal matter and everyone should be entitled to their choice.

Cc
Funmmyastic
Blackivy29
Guest007
Fountainofyouth
Seun

Is there any proof that Feminism have improved the lives of women?

D feminism card neva expire...?

Sandra8:


Google search about them dear and find out. They are doing fine by the way. The must not be politicians themselves to be successful in your eyes. If that is your reasoning you are still wrong dear

I stated in my earlier post what a man owe his children. A man achieving greatness has no bearing on his children's destiny. You talked about Azikiwe children, are they great like there father? No. It doesn't have to be politics. A great name is not just political. Dangote is a great name, is he a politician?
They will still be living there normal life.