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Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 7:41am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Acidosis:well said. In times past, it wasn't even the norm for women to work after marriage.The op's husband doesn't love her. That's the long and short of it all. When a man loves a woman, he can spend his last dime to see her smile. Forget o. 3 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 7:56am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Acidosis: Hmm... why cant you clone yourself and make more monickers so that we will be reading something good on a regular basis instead of all these women-haters 2 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Kaycee54321(m): 8:08am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Ladyboobae: Then the man either didn't Love you then or something happened along the line. When a man Loves his woman, you won't need a prophet to tell you. Don't fold your hands and pray and try to kiss his ass by giving him good sex and all that. What you need now is to call him, sit him down and communicate all these things to him very firmly. Make him know that he's not treating you fairly and you deserve better. Please, don't massage his ego or try to pray for him to be better. Take the bull by the horn. 2 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Kaycee54321(m): 8:16am On Oct 16, 2019 |
I just went through this thread properly. Ma'am, your offshore husband is likely to be cheating on you and just keeps you there as a nanny that keeps his home and takes care of his daughter. You have a small blame there because you I think you haven't confronted him firlmy enough. Don't play the cool card. Prayers are good but it's time you take it a step further and really demand that you be treated like the wife you are. Some men ehn. 3 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by GHoJes: 8:59am On Oct 16, 2019 |
midnighter:With the time she married and the age of her baby as someone pointed out, it is obvious pregnancy trapped the man into the marriage and he is taking his pound of flesh. Perhaps ordinarily he would have fallen in love properly with OP but with the likes of his mum constantly reminding him of the OP coming to his life to milk him, that may not happen soon. 1 Like |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by GHoJes: 9:13am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Ladyboobae:You really need to get up and pray long hours at midnight, it sure works. But you also have to add work to your faith/prayer. That man doesn't see you as his wife for now, all the time and effort you use in making you to see him as one just channel into getting something for you. With the insinuation that even ICAN won't guarantee you job in your location you might need to look for money for business instead then certifications can come when you can well afford it. Infact one of the quickest way to get that man to see you as someone he can wife is when you first stop giving him all that attention you are wasting and when you pay bills by yourself confidently, when you move around him confidently like someone with enough worth just unfortunate to be with an ungrateful soul. You give him so much power with the esteem you have now, the way you look and the way you indirectly confirm to him that you won't survive without him. Wise up now and stop wasting time. 2 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 9:16am On Oct 16, 2019 |
baby124: So, yours can be submitted as ignorance, but his is purposely? Humans. Please, whatever she chooses as you said. I've made my comments. |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by lereinter(m): 9:49am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Did you force yourself on the man cos he's working in offshore |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by nuelyoyo(m): 9:51am On Oct 16, 2019 |
ifyalways:Exactly what I observed when I read her story, she clearly got pregnant before they wedded. That you dated your man for years doesn't mean he has made up his mind to marry you. I just think the pregnancy forced the man to marry her. Then she said her mother in law doesn't like her and called her a peasant that wants to eat the husband's money and also send to her family, so I think the mother in law has poisoned her son's mind. Op Should shed more light on how she got pregnant and what led to her marriage, maybe people commenting can get a clearer picture. I really feel for the Op. Cc ladyboobae |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 9:57am On Oct 16, 2019 |
GHoJes: Hm. I wish she had just said it herself instead of leaving people to dig it out and begin to use harsh words on her.. doesnt she know this already? Well I believe the man will respect her more and she will feel better if she just leaves his issue and gets her own money. At least, he can still grow to love her later on once he sees her resourcefulness and how she took up the challenge and made a bright life for herself. 1 Like |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 9:59am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Acidosis: I pity the women who’re going to take your words seriously . Life isn’t a bed of roses my friend, life is though so you gats be rough. If you know moving to bayela will make you jobless for life and the man also knows this it’s either he moves to Lagos or you guys get married interstately (long distance marriage ) or you don’t go ahead with the marriage . If you do much desire a family and marriage then there are thousands of men in Lagos to pick from. |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:03am On Oct 16, 2019 |
midnighter: Lmao , so acidosis is woman lover because he said women shouldn’t work abi? Nigerian women never ceases to amaze me . Laziness will make them support any rubbish that supports that laziness ideology. Acidosis is a traditional alpha male who shuns out misogynistic words on this section/forum at large about women.. of all the comments on this thread I haven’t seen anyone hating on women but it seems you just knew the word “hate” |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:06am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Redberyl: If you like don’t get a good job before marriage ... you’ll be the one coming to open a thread ranting Seems you’re mistaking 2019 for 1965 NB ; btw, this story seems so fake ...people do a lot of things for clout on this section ...posting fake stories for purposes only them know |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 10:10am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: I havent seen such from him, Ive only seen him make balanced comments but I may be wrong You are actually the one coming across as bitter and hateful in this thread..i doubt you even read up to half of the posts before you started cursing For your information being an alpha male has nothing to do with misogyny; it just denotes a particular set of personality traits seen in certain types of man... in fact alpha males are more likely to treat women well because their masculinity is not threatened by minor issues 4 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Ladyboobae: 10:13am On Oct 16, 2019 |
sisisioge:what do you think I should do? |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Rehoboth97: 10:15am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Ladyboobae: Do you know if your mother in law was repeating what her son told her about you. I wish I knew all about covert narcissist traits when I started questioning my own marriage. Please do not waste your time focusing on your husband's behaviour as this may drain you emotionally. Focus on developing yourself and have a plan. Believe in yourself and do not let anyone dull your sparkle 3 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by sinaj(f): 10:17am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Its obvious your husband has a babymama and a child outside but you blind to see that. There is no difference between you and a widow so pretend you are one and do what you ought to do to help yourself before reality hits you harder. Im so sorry ladyboobae but your husband wont flinch or even think of changing if he doesnt see any change in your attitude or the way you carry yourself, same with his people. I guess you are the calm type, so start by ignoring him/give him the silent treatment while you look for ways to improve yourself. It might not be easy, but you have to forget about your husband or how much he earns since you not benefitting from it. I wish you well on your new journey. 3 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by MissOffpoint(f): 10:24am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Sometimes, I wonder why there is this thing called MARRIAGE. Depressing stories Every day. 1 Like |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:27am On Oct 16, 2019 |
midnighter: I’m bitter and hateful because I said women should get good paying jobs/money before accepting marriage proposal from men/getting married ? Because all my posts on this thread so far have been about women having jobs. There is only thing I’ve deduced from this ; you’re probably a lazy woman who believes women shouldn’t work and should be pampered all the time with no hard work that’s why you seem to think I’m bitter for saying if you don’t have a good paying job don’t get married or else you’ll create your own thread on nairaland to cry. Life isn’t a bed of roses my friend |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:31am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Owiii:Pls tell her o. Even the saints in them succumbs sometimes. After seeing their lifestyles, I advice my friends to run but everybody want to marry oil company man All of them oil company boys both offshore on shore are like that. My cousin is not an exemption. Stopped the wife her teaching job and made her a housewife. If u see big house, u will think she is enjoying. Though he later changed after almost killing her bc of his mum. His issue then was no male child. Our men dey fall hand honestly. I always advice. Don't rush in. Its for life most of the time bc of our culture. Men hardly marry divorced women with kids. But a divorced man can marry miss Nigeria anytime. Take your time and check out temperaments, who u are, flexibility and compatibility before u rush in and rush out. Marriage is very sweet o if u marry the right person. 1 Like |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by sisisioge: 10:32am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Ladyboobae: Now you're being clowny, right? Move in with your neighbor o. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 10:36am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: Not at all, you sound bitter because you cant seem to voice your opinion whilst keeping another perspective in mind. You didnt even get Acidosis' point. What is wrong in marrying with the intention of being a housewife if its what you people discussed already? Running a home is hard work if you dont know. I dont intend on it myself, but I respect another couple's right to choose that path. I dont see that as being pampered, its just another way of designating roles in a relationship. You cant say being a homemaker is bad just because OPs husband doesnt care for her again This is the problem with people like you.. I have enjoined OP severally to start supplementing her income and ignoring the sadistic husband, but you wont read that or any other comment. You'll just quote me and start typing inanities to make yourself feel better 2 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:41am On Oct 16, 2019 |
midnighter: Marry with the intention of becoming a housewife in 2019 when the said husband isn’t a billionaire ,GOOD. Not my business, just don’t come wailing on nairaland after some time that he’s not giving you money for whatever . Now move forward with your fellow lazy sheeples who share the same thoughts with you |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by NoToPile: 10:41am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: What if she loses her job after and doesn't get another in years? What if she never even gets a good job but just teaching jobs that pay around 12k, wont she get married. How many Nigerian graduates have the so called 'good jobs' I pity the OP sha, I just know when she eventually breaks through and if she gets a good job she will most likely be vengeful and then the issues of the wife is not supporting husband will come up. He cant even support his wife?? Thats terrible. Even men that earn 50k still try to take care of their woman with the little resources they have. 3 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 10:43am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: You seem to have comprehension issues dear... move forward yourself and try not to get so angry on somebody's matter next time 2 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:45am On Oct 16, 2019 |
NoToPile: That’s why I said earlier that have a good paying job/have money or save enough before accepting a marriage proposal from anybody /going into marriage . The fact that a man is forming alpha male before marriage and doing everything for you 100% doesn’t me she should be trusted .... there are men who stop their wives from working (I personally think women who quit their jobs because of their husbands directive and not because of their own sake eg sickness or birth for the meantime are foolish) and become housewives only to start seeing the women as liabilities years after even though they were the one who stopped the women from working. Mehn, this isn’t my business sha. |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:45am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Rehoboth97: Listen to this advice. |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Nobody: 10:46am On Oct 16, 2019 |
midnighter: Weytin concern me? If you like don’t get a job before getting married (that’s if you’re not married already) you’ll end up like her because as it seems you lack wisdom and you’re very arrogant. |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Acidosis(m): 10:48am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: You're seriously missing the point bro. It was never mentioned that she used to live in Lagos before marriage. I only mentioned the reality when it comes to marriage and employment in Nigeria. It doesn't matter where they live, marriage limits married women in terms of employment opportunities, travels, etc. How do you wake up one day in Bayelsa for a Lagos-based job with kids?? These are steps men should take. A woman is not supposed to leave her family behind to search for greener pastures. I do not believe in that gospel. 2 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 10:48am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: You are correct + you have a point on the bolded. The problem you are having is being 100% focused on the reality without minding the theoretical, which is what we are talking about. We didnt say that what happened to OP was unrealistic or that she shouldnt have seen the writing on the wall, but it doesnt make it right and it doesnt give her husband the right to oppress her.. if he didnt want to marry her he didnt have to 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by midnighter(f): 10:50am On Oct 16, 2019 |
Plead: You have a problem with arrogance yourself which is why you cant seem to empathise with somebody who is experiencing a crisis Knowledge is not exclusive to you alone, why not help her instead of being abusive? 5 Likes |
Re: An Unhappy Nigerian Married Woman by Acidosis(m): 10:50am On Oct 16, 2019 |
midnighter: Thanks for coming through |
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