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Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by sley4life(m): 11:43am On Jul 11, 2011
the luf of mony
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 12:04pm On Jul 11, 2011
Sacarstic:

True talk, I`m married to a girl who stood by me when i had nothing,got married in a room apartment and i must confess that i never knew what she saw in me because hell was let loose on her by her friends and family who refused to my marriage proposal, she got pregnant to let her family and friends know she is not going back and that was the only reason they allowed the marriage. Today,it is a different ball game,after six years,we have our property,two kids and a good family business,a Toyota Camry 2002, a Pathfinder SUV and i just bought her a Toyota Highlander 2weeks ago which marks her birthday, When i look back, i just smile and wish ladies can really see beyond today and for the guys always stay with those ladies that stood by you or just tell them to go off now rather than push them out when it is better. The above is not a show off but to let ladies and guys out there know that it is worth believing in someone when the challenges seems insurmountable.

LOL, the bolded part sounds like a Timaya Remix. On serious note some of our ladies need to be patient with a man who has prospect. I remember a particular PH gal I got close to few years back reminded me of d need to get a car to make a relationship work. Today d Agip guy she ran to who had everything has dumped her at last when she is nearing 33 yrs already. Every young man will not make it at the same time!

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Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 12:14pm On Jul 11, 2011
Beautful.B:

@poster: thanks dude

The best reply from a Lady on this topic.
@ other ladies, d OP just gave his honest advice. I really cringe when you'all try to be defensive on dis issue. We need to wake up & smell d Coffee. . . angry
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by clemcykul(f): 12:27pm On Jul 11, 2011
most women marry? embarassed
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jul 11, 2011
clemcykul:

most women marry? embarassed

sowie, how do u mean?. . .
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by hjamiu(m): 12:41pm On Jul 11, 2011
What are d criterior 4 choosing a wife
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 1:38pm On Jul 11, 2011
clemcykul:

most women marry? embarassed

grin grin grin lwkmd.
Lady, you just hit the nail on the head. I will tell u the genesis of this thread.

I just finished pinging with a relative of mine and she was in tears over if anybody was going to come and marry her. I remember in her prime years, guys used to almost literally "kill" themselved to date this girl and I remember how jealous her sister used to get cos even guys who came to toast them diverted to their sister. She picked and chose the richest only. If you no get big car or jeep, nothing for you. Now come and see as this girl dey cry on top ping say how I do am and make I advice am on what to do cos no guy dey ja her face. Wetin man go do na?

Now do you know what made me laugh earlier? Its because she used to say(back then in her prime years), "is it by force to marry? What do I want to marry for when I can stay on my own and not have to please anybody or have screaming children around me?" Now that all her friends are marrying, she is crying.

You statement and her's seems strangely similar.

Abeg women must not marry oooo! cheesy
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 1:40pm On Jul 11, 2011
clemcykul:

most women marry? embarassed

grin grin grin lwkmd.
Lady, you just hit the nail on the head. I will tell u the genesis of this thread.

I just finished pinging with a relative of mine and she was in tears over if anybody was going to come and marry her. I remember in her prime years, guys used to almost literally "kill" themselved to date this girl and I remember how jealous her sister used to get cos even guys who came to toast them diverted to their sister. She picked and chose the richest only. If you no get big car or jeep, nothing for you. Now come and see as this girl dey cry on top ping say how I do am and make I advice am on what to do cos no guy dey ja her face. Wetin man go do na?

Now do you know what made me laugh earlier? Its because she used to say(back then in her prime years), "is it by force to marry? What do I want to marry for when I can stay on my own and not have to please anybody or have screaming children around me?" Now that all her friends are marrying, she is crying.

You statement and her's seems strangely similar.

Abeg women must not marry oooo! cheesy
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by agitator: 1:54pm On Jul 11, 2011
Cuddlemii:

U are fond of comments like this. No one is supporting babes to go after money. Why can't guys to go after abnormal or unusual babes.  Are u saying they were not made by God. If you are going to criticize women then we might as well trash out men too.

The money thingy, is not your same sex that started it? They used money to take their friends wife, they used money to date teenage girls young enough to be their grand daughters. Women only went looking for jobs and funds for their sick mom or dad. Men decided to exploit their vulnerability and started the exchange for exchange thingy. All those aristos, yahoo yahoo, 19 19, Transfer, armed robbers; politicians etc. are all to blame. Kill these oppressing classes or bourgeois or ruling class of men then no one would be available to issue money to women or expose them to luxury again.

How about the Nigerian soldiers that impregnated 250,000 Liberian women and left them to their fate. How do you expect these kind of women to feed and cater for their kids. How about Governor Yerima who wanted to acquire a 13 years old as a wife by paying the girls dad off.   The genesis of this problem is men. It’s their money isn’t it? Which gender is devious enough to start such…obviously men? Now u are complaining about what your same sex started.

Instead of you men to advice yourselves and make this world a better place. You would be saying rubbish about women and money. If men decide that NO MORE MONEY FOR BABES AGAIN then there won't be money because it’s a man's world and a woman can not live in isolation. So a collective effort on the men’s part can stop money from circulating to women illegally. YOU can orchestrate that movement rather than cry wolf because of the pain women have caused men in the past. Everyone has had their own fair share of pain but it’s meant to make u wiser not a sulker. Snap out of it!


100% correct
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by MosD: 2:02pm On Jul 11, 2011
Na so @ pDude. U'v said it al. I wl jst ad dat d problem wit dis gals is dat wen they ar at dia prime age of 24 to 27 n guys ar rushin dem,they fl on top of d world 4getin dat they ar lyk flower dat wl soon wither out. And 2 make mata worse,d economy isnt favourable 2 guyz so guyz ar nt jst ready 2 setle down. Hw many single ladies n mothers 9ja wl hav in d nex 10yrs is wat we shld start debating.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Cuddlemii: 2:48pm On Jul 11, 2011
agitator:

100% correct

kiss kiss kiss kiss Thanx
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 3:12pm On Jul 11, 2011
@ Cuddlemi , sexkillz
You guys take it easy on the guy and talking about being a hypocrite I think you , cuddlemi , are the biggest one
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by hbrednic: 3:20pm On Jul 11, 2011
why should a woman keep up with a broke ass,
there is no guarantee that he will eventually make it.
simple" NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE"
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Abuloma80(f): 3:24pm On Jul 11, 2011
@hjamiu (m)

What are d criterior 4 choosing a wife

True love & not base on materialism
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by estman: 3:42pm On Jul 11, 2011
the truth is dat some ladies have learned their lesson and also some men makes it difficult for ladies

but i pray we all dont make dis silly mistake of loving for material thing.

anyway hoping i finds the right girl and be ready for us
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 3:43pm On Jul 11, 2011
hbrednic:

why should a woman keep up with a broke Bottom,
there is no guarantee that he will eventually make it.
simple" NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE"

Here goes anoder short-sighted & myopic lady. Are you God to determine if a dude will eventually make it or not?  angry angry
He may be cald "broke bottom" or wateva 2day, but will he be lyk dat 4eva? Is he focused, determined & hardworking?
those r d qualities u shld luk 4, not d size of his present wallet. .

No Romance without Finance? You're damn wrong der  angry. . .True love exist even when ders lil' or nuffin on d table. cool wink
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by kenkruse: 3:50pm On Jul 11, 2011
Girls that have good career prospect or profession are mostly victim of this circumstance, A guy on the street cant walk up to a lawyer girl nawadays without getting bashed. They always feel on top of the world at their prime thinking that their profession will always do magic for them. Time shall tell undecided
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 3:53pm On Jul 11, 2011
@pine_ed- may you prosper in all you doings in Jesus' Name. amen. you have summarised it all in your last paragraph.

there were times in my family when money was scarce and food wasnt flowing as it should. did my mum pack her bags and desert my dad because, "there is no romance without finance?" no i dont think she did such. she hustled it out. that is the true worth of a woman.

that person that formed that phrase, "there is no romance without finance" is a slowpoke. cheesy
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Cuddlemii: 4:03pm On Jul 11, 2011
apocalypse:

@ Cuddlemi , sexkillz
You guys take it easy on the guy and talking about being a hypocrite I think you , cuddlemi , are the biggest one

When I saw your username,

I first thought about salvation thinking you came to warn us about the end time and rapture.

I didn't know u were one of those false prophets that ignore the truth

You call me the biggest hypocrite, lolz

No 1, I didnt dispute the fact that women collected money bla bla bla. I said men also have a part to play in this. Who gives them this money, men. Who abused this money, men. Why would a man blow huge amounts of money on a woman unrealistically when there are poor pple in Ajegunle and on the streets who need this money. They spend this money for their own selfish desires. So now women are capitalizing on it too, big deal, u men brought it on urself.

In the old days people started together from the scratch but u whats up homey men brought in luxury to the whole thing so live with it. All those Polo top these, man u jersey this, baby boy car, I-phone this, BB that, Blings, aloy spinning, gbedu blasting, TM shirt that, I-pad that, mohawk that, Perfume this, ice that, crystol, moet, rolex etc.

No 2, cant u men form an organization to wipe such act of indecency rather than chant here all the time. Why are u all avoiding abnormal babes sef haba thats unfair.

Please change your username to Chris Okotie instead of using his favourite word afterall he took his fine wife from another man with his money. Hiss!
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 4:10pm On Jul 11, 2011
^^^Hmm! Ten Girls in One wink
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 4:18pm On Jul 11, 2011
A good number of nigerian girls really do miss it.They spend a better part of their time running after middle aged married men and they think they are living it large because such a man spends money on them which they use to buy expensive clothes,handbags and shoes.They are not ready to spend their time with a young man who is focused in achieving his goals but would rather cling to the pot bellied sugar daddy because he has a big house and fleet of cars.When they nigerian lady hits 40 yrs old she now realises too late that she"s now getting old and she runs to some of these evangelical churches begging the pastor to pray for a husband for her.Money and clothes is not everything but what you really make out of your life that really matters.There are good nigerian girls yes but the bad ones with their materialistic greed are really corruptiing the good ones like i said earlier on another thread.If u are a young lady that spends a better part of your time running after sugar daddies then it would be very difficult for you to get a young man as a husband.You certainly cant eat your cake and have it at the same time.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Scash(f): 5:04pm On Jul 11, 2011
u knw somtyms, SOME girls just doesnt decide dt dy want a guy wt a heavy pocket

like me nw, av gone out with one xra ordinary broke guy, God, i loved him. Then he didnt av a job, kept on encouragin him. Infact i was proud of maself, Bt as tym went on, dis guy got a few offers, his parents told him nt to take some n he said some were too up north. Six yrs no job, his parents still send him 10k per mnth, Am supposed to do wt?? Stay Naaaaa! Will u call me a gold digger
Apart from d fact dt hes broke, he s nt smart, at 29 his mates wld av found somthin to do

so nw, If i dnt find a ready made man, i swear i no deeey
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by hustla(m): 5:17pm On Jul 11, 2011
chase the money,and watch the girls do the chasing, dey jus didnt have insight naanii, even wif thick magic shades,they stl wouldnt see into the future,
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Logba: 5:21pm On Jul 11, 2011
My people,  lets be practical and business like for once on this topic. There are many Nigerian girls involved in this. You can find them in every corner of the society. It is no loger an issue to jike with. What we need to do is put heads together on way out of of this predicaments.

I have seen ladies in the region of 40 years who have never tasted marriage. They are everywhere and many of them are ok and well to do. One even confided in me recently that she is ready to agree for any man to impregnate her and she will just train the child alone as a single mother.

It calls for serious delibration.

My suggestion howerver is that the idea of one man marrying only one wife does not fit into this society any longer. That is the thruth. We have more ladies than men in the last population cencus-widows,singles,divorced etc. If each man should take only one woman, then what happens to the left overs. That is the main problem by my analysis.

If we must help these ladies, then some of us must go extra mile of sorting them out even if it will be based on arrangement.

It is now humanitarian service to help fellow unmarried ladies .


This is no joke and we need to help them out. God bless you as you do that.  I am happily married but now has to consider how to help out(sincerely). So others should think along with me .
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 5:27pm On Jul 11, 2011
Scash:

u knw somtyms, SOME girls just doesnt decide dt dy want a guy wt a heavy pocket

like me nw, av gone out with one xra ordinary broke guy, God, i loved him. Then he didnt av a job, kept on encouragin him. Infact i was proud of maself, Bt as tym went on, dis guy got a few offers, his parents told him nt to take some n he said some were too up north. Six yrs no job, his parents still send him 10k per mnth, Am supposed to do wt?? Stay Naaaaa! Will u call me a gold digger
Apart from d fact dt hes broke, he s nt smart, at 29 his mates wld av found somthin to do

so nw, If i dnt find a ready made man, i swear i no deeey

abeg girl, for your own good, dump that guy jor. in the heat of the Aba kidnappings and violence, i got an offer there and i relocated there. unfavourable climate is not necessarily an excuse to reject a job offer. what has he been doing for 6 years? i guess he is waiting for a very favorable situation and offer. pls that guy is plain lazy.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Rocktation(f): 5:31pm On Jul 11, 2011
@OP- Thanks. Just what i felt like hearing.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by ODUANKPA: 5:43pm On Jul 11, 2011
your advice is ok, but must times some guys are not usually serious they only stay and be faithful with their bebes when they are poor, once money begin to flow they will complain of her attitude and old age.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Scash(f): 5:46pm On Jul 11, 2011
av done dt o,

So, if a broke guy asks me out nw, i dnt tink i'ld like to go thru d stage of readin a million n one newspapers searchin for a job ad, i'ld turn him down. FLAT.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Scash(f): 5:47pm On Jul 11, 2011
av done dt o,

So, if a broke guy asks me out nw, i dnt tink i'ld like to go thru d stage of readin a million n one newspapers searchin for a job ad, i'ld turn him down. FLAT.
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by MikkyT1(m): 6:07pm On Jul 11, 2011
Well said bro, cos i actually cant wait to settle down with somone who's gonna love me for who i am, i work with a stock briking firm, dont really have that time and money to waste on boyfriend and girlfriend syndrome, seriously searching for a wife, am still very young "87" but would have loved to get married lets say 4 years from now, saw a cute lady, cud tolerate ourselves but she's same age with me, even older than me with a month, lolz so you can imagine,

Still on the search,
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 6:09pm On Jul 11, 2011
Scash:

av done dt o,

So, if a broke guy asks me out nw, i dnt tink i'ld like to go thru d stage of readin a million n one newspapers searchin for a job ad, i'ld turn him down. FLAT.

****Shakes My Head**** Chei! Broke Guys Like Us Are Finished! sad
Re: A Little Word Of Advice For Searching Ladies by Nobody: 6:10pm On Jul 11, 2011
do what you have to do Scash.
Global trends affected Naija long ago so now like some1 said,what's going to be the population of single motha's in the next ten years since the advent of the MTV generation?

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