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Re: I Was Raped Tonight by heniford2: 11:03am On May 04, 2020 |
AnonymousRebec:really your a virgin ma once you have not had sex or anal one you are still a virgin |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by turawaa(m): 11:04am On May 04, 2020 |
From your first paragraph, when I saw this "My female classmates are married or engaged and I felt left behind" I knew this won't end well. It has sent ladies to early grave. 1 Like |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Seylad2009(m): 11:06am On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: Please don't be bothered by insensitive comments, most of them are kids. I am really sorry and sad about the bad experience you encountered from someone you trusted. If you don't mind, can we talk outside here. Check my signature for my no |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Richy4(m): 11:06am On May 04, 2020 |
sisisioge: In the middle of Social Distancing... I guess some people got no respect for CORONA.. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Graxie(f): 11:10am On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761:Since your parents knows your rapist lover, I think it will be good to get them involve. You are 24 and so, he attempted raping you in the afternoon, you remained till he came back at night. What a wise decision, weldone. You can enjoy those that are petting you and claiming that he raped you, I can't be one of them. Since you couldn't use your head to leave his house when he attempted and failed despite your biting him, enjoy your day. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by bolaji3071(m): 11:11am On May 04, 2020 |
He clearly does not love you. Sex should be something mutual between partners. When it becomes something that happens without the either parties consent, then it is RAPE! Get his ass arrested asap. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by DeeMain(m): 11:13am On May 04, 2020 |
Lawly: And it takes a rapist to know such hidden rape victims, innit? |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by ednut1(m): 11:14am On May 04, 2020 |
Graxie:you dey mind am. They will. Claim rape or abuse but wont leave the abusers house. He left the house and you stayed put. This is not admissible evidence in court 1 Like |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Kevlar001(m): 11:18am On May 04, 2020 |
that is madness of the highest order .......my question to is that can't he wait for the right time?. To me the guy is not understanding, and he dose not acknowledge ur pain. And he claims that he loves u........my sister that is a terrible lie. My only advice to you is to leave him.... Because for a guy who can rape u all in the name of pleasure can do more to u. Please take good care of your self |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Eberechi24(f): 11:27am On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: you don't have convince nl men to believe your story. every story written from a female perceptive is fake and untrue. Do whatever that will make you justified. Don't listen to their nadada rubbish. Don't ever unghost yourself to any of these men in process of Convincing if want your sanity intact on nairaland. I pray you heal faster. Always place your safety first before that illusion they tag love. Stop Sleeping over in a man house if you don't want to share sexual history with him. You are 24, behave like one. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Eldrago(m): 11:33am On May 04, 2020 |
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Re: I Was Raped Tonight by taiwopapaya(m): 11:37am On May 04, 2020 |
forgive him, but you mostly sleep together, its not easy too for men. but he was wrong, most girl pass that stage when they are virgin, most were lucky after forceful sex and mary each other, why other were not, but forgive him, he may still be your good husband.....girls also hurt boys too, after men sacrifise alot for them without sex and waste of years in the hope of marriage, at the end the girl will no longer interested and found excuse to abandon the guy, most guy then commit suicide. that is life. please just forgive him and move on, what is your gain if he was jail. if is still hurting your mind report to his parent as a witness. if he try it again that is jail. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Eberechi24(f): 11:46am On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: Talk to Someone else offline. Nairaland has never been a healthy platform to seek support from esp. with this issue. if possible delete this thread and create a new thread in diary section, with that you don't need to read their insensitive comments. 2 Likes |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by oyatz(m): 11:47am On May 04, 2020 |
This is exactly my thought. I was wondering how one man can be doing all these and the lady cooperated with him or he had assistants? holocron: |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by DateMynd44(m): 11:49am On May 04, 2020 |
OlawaleBammie:I thought twas only me that saw this as a fake story |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by DateMynd44(m): 11:53am On May 04, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:oga that guy u quoted is saying the truth. Deal with it bro. BTW this is a Cooked up story. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Mizwisdom(f): 11:55am On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: You have stained tissue, what about stained pant and torn outfit, you can't tell me you don't have bruises? |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Mizwisdom(f): 11:57am On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: Use your old account and you will get help faster. There's nothing to hide if truly you're saying the truth. Use your old account |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Goldenheart(m): 11:57am On May 04, 2020 |
I feel sorry for you But If you don't want to report him, make him face justice You should be banned. Cos that would make you an accomplice. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Nobody: 11:58am On May 04, 2020 |
Eberechi24:see face like cow yansh . What are u doing on nairaland 1 Like |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Mizwisdom(f): 12:01pm On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: Now I know this story is made up |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Eberechi24(f): 12:02pm On May 04, 2020 |
Kekereekun123: Wait for Cheap likes, you will get them. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Mizwisdom(f): 12:04pm On May 04, 2020 |
heniford2: You rapist. She probably agreed because you threatened to kill her |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Nobody: 12:05pm On May 04, 2020 |
Mizwisdom:people are bored and making all manner of fake posts 1 Like |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Nobody: 12:06pm On May 04, 2020 |
At 24 I was already paying rent.. i was sharing a batcha house...no light, no water , no toilet, no bathroom...at alpha beach with a friend. We were contented, always happy..everyday we are out selling a product or marketing another. If one job goes next minute we’re onto the next....Today, its a beautiful story. Your journey to embracing your womanhood is really long and you don’t want to start with tales and woes of men. I don’t know your story, but staying with that dude is worse. I’m sorry what you went through, even though you don’t sound like you’re leaving that house anytime soon, .. I’d advise you pick your pieces and take the bold step! sending you hugs |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Mizwisdom(f): 12:10pm On May 04, 2020 |
dayleke: I'm wondering the same thing. I think it's a fake story because if she has time to respond like this, why can't she just go and report the case? why isn't she even trying to seek medical help, he might have HIV and STDs? she's so calm, answering posts instead of seeking help |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by doitforyou(f): 12:14pm On May 04, 2020 |
It’s a damn shame. I made comments on this thread, https://www.nairaland.com/5825659/fine-art-being-baboon#89009781 it was a post on the toxicity in Nigerian culture and the author highlights this toxic behavior. We learnt that you can rape and subsequently blackmail a girl into becoming your girlfriend. He went on to add Nigerian men and women are products of our toxic culture and Nigerian women normalize it. I disagreed with the author because I thought he was victim blaming. Reading comments from some real women (not the fake Fs) on this thread and those I’ve heard IRL, I now agree with the author 100%. It’s a damn shame. Our culture with its abhorrent rape culture does a great disservice to our men, that we laud grown men having NO self control is a damn shame. That as a culture we have NOT evolved to be more superior than animals, our instincts and morals are still like the animals in the wild is a damn shame. That we think it’s perfectly normal and appropriate to make the yam and goat analogy to excuse sexual abuse, is a damn shame. In college, from soph till I graduated I shared an apt with a grown heterosexual man it never crossed my mind that my living arrangement will result in a rape and if I had been raped, I’m almost certain I would get justice and if not at least I would not be shamed. The culture, while far from perfect, I reside in is evolved enough not to justify rape or blame me because I lived with a man. The irony, I knew Nigerian men, international students, that had similar arrangements and knew never to cross that line. Why? I am sorry OP that you live in a culture that says rape is ok and you are at fault for your own rape. I wish I had the power and influence to get you justice or at least to start the due process to get justice if due. Please, never ever blame yourself for your rape, co-habiting with a man is not justification for rape. Take the morning after pill. Go to a hospital (if you can, get a rape kit). Report it, even though you might be laughed at or shamed (or maybe not) go ahead and put it on record. Now that you know how some Nigerian men behave or how toxic the rape culture is, it’s a damn shame I’ve to say this, re-evaluate how you relate with Nigerian men. E.G when a Nigerian man apologizes for an inappropriate sexual behavior don’t believe him, he’s planning other ways to perfect his act. Never ever visit a Nigerian man in his house, most of them are wild predators and men and women in Nigeria endorse this animal behavior. Finally, please find a way to survive if one of such ways is starting and participating on a thread telling your story, please continue. Also, you can join Nigerian rape support group(s) on FB. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Cassperlee(m): 12:14pm On May 04, 2020 |
Feel so so sorry for you. Just stay strong |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Mizwisdom(f): 12:14pm On May 04, 2020 |
Kekereekun123: I was getting all emotional about it only to discover it's another fake one. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by OlawaleBammie: 12:15pm On May 04, 2020 |
DateMynd44:No b only u bro, we plenty |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by lowkeybahdguy(m): 12:21pm On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: I apologise to you young lady on the dastardly act suffered. I know you will bear the scars of the act on your breasts till the end of time. I however employ you to make peace with yourself. It was never your fault. You merely had the misfortune of meeting a wrong individual. Do not believe ALL men are beasts. Not all men act without consideration to the feelings and rights of others. Do not bear this grudge against men the world over for an offence they did not commit. Be sure to swallow some after sex pregnancy prevention pills like 'postinor 2'. I encourage you to move out from his apartment immediately and never return there. |
Re: I Was Raped Tonight by Nobody: 12:23pm On May 04, 2020 |
soulbroken761: Sorry for undergoing this ordeal. It hurts me to envisage what you narrated here. I'm not doubting the truth in this narrative,but try and plead with ur mum to first accept u,comfort u,then report to her. Also, there are NGOS or "doctors without borders contacts" you cld utilize. Just that you shldnt have stayed alone with him. The little time u had to run,u didn't but slept over. I commend your courage n openess to post it here,but, seek help of a counsellor too bcuz of stigmatisation. I wish there wld be a capital punishment for rapist in dis country,although, d lawmakers wld say that women also cause it by their dressing. |
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