softnigga:
[s]HISS..........MY BROTHER THIS YOUR STORY, IS KIND OF TOUCHING TO ME OO, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU SAID, THAT YOU BOTH ARE MADLY IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER BUT YOUR PARENTS ARE AGAINST THE UNION OR RELATIONSHIP COS OF RELIGION ISSUE, I THINK THE BEST SOLUTION TO THE ISSUE IS FOR YOU TO APPROACH THE LADY'S PARENT SINCE IT IS HER THAT IS AT RISK HERE, SHE LIKES YOU SO MUCH AND IS READY TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU IN ORDER TO SUSTAIN YOU BOTHS RELATIONSHIP OR EVEN MARRIAGE IF IT WORKS OUT........ITS EASY FOR A MAN TO QUIT A RELATIONSHIP AND STILL FIND ANOTHER LOVE AT ANY GIVEN AGE AS FAR AS YOU ARE IN GOOD POSITION BUT FOR A LADY.....HER CHANCES ARE SLIM AND TIME BOUND OR LIMITED EVEN IF SHE IS OF THE OTEDOLA'S NOR ADENUGA NOR ADELEKE'S NOR DANGOTE'S, REASON BEEN THAT NO MAN WOULD WANT TO MARRY A LADY OF HIGHER AGE DUE TO RESPECT SAKE ONLY FEW WOULD ACCEPT THAT PROBABLY DUE TO BENEFITS OR GAINS THEY WOULD GET.......SO I SUGGEST U HINT HER TO USE HER ADVANTAGE AS THE ONLY DAUGHTER TO PERSUADE HER MUM N DAD MORE ESPECIALLY HER MUM COS SHE WOULD BE THE ONE TO CONVINCE HER DAD VERY WELL FOR HER.......EVEN HER BEST SIBLINGS ALSO CAN BE OF HELP TOO, N U AS THE GUY SHOULD DO AS IF U ARE NO MORE INTERESTED IN THE RELATIONSHIP SO THAT SHE WOULD INCREASE HER EFFORT IN CONVINCING HER PARENTS RATHER THAN THINKING OF THE IDEA OF ESCAPING FROM THE COUNTRY WHICH WOULD AFFECT U BOTH AS IT WOULD MEAN DISOWNING OF U BOTH BY UR PARENTS WHICH IS NEVER A GOOD SITUATION BECAUSE THE STIGMA N TRAUMA IT LEAVES IN UR MEMORIES IS ENOUGH TO TRUNCATE THE MARRIAGE FROM LASTING.........IF AFTER ALL PERSUASION HAD BEEN MADE AND HER PARENTS DID NOT CONSENT, MY BROTHER TO BE SINCERE WITH U, I WOULD SUGGEST U QUIT SUCH RELATIONSHIP COS A DESTROYED RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER OFF THAN AN ACCURSED HOME DEVOID OF PARENTAL BLESSINGS......THOSE TELLING YOU TO IMPREGNATE HER ARE NOT GIVING YOU THE RIGHT ADVICE COS IT MIGHT WORK FOR OTHERS BUT IT MIGHT NOT WORK FOR U, N JUST AS U HAD DISCOVERED THAT HER DAD IS A NO NONSENSE MAN, THAT CAN EVEN IMPRISON YOU, I GUESS YOU WOULDN'T WANT THAT TO HAPPEN AT ALL, SO 'IT'S BETTER TO CRY FOR A WHILE NOW AND LAUGH LONGER LATER THAN TO LAUGH FOR A WHILE NOW AND CRY MORE LATER' THANK U, THATS MY ADVICE TO YOU.[/s]

Why did you use capital letters to type? Don't you know that it is annoying ?

Teebaba30:



So u mean we should arrange on how to leave the country.

Sit down for a minute and pick the signal that flashes through your mind in a millisecond.

The signal is either 'yay' or 'nay'

Guys, generally, don't receive same level of love signal as girls. When a girl is in love, she throws cautions to the air. She can do anything to have her man in her arms but guys feel choky and little uninterested.

For the record, any guy that God wants to make very great, he attaches him to a girl who sees him as her soul mate. If the devil want to punish you, he will make you feel choky and a bit less interested in the girl. You think you are handsome and the world will always rotate around you ba? Hmmmmmm

My brother, let me reiterate, if you loose that girl, you will regret it

Pay a little more attention to my comments. Did I ever mention religion? Religion is immaterial.

well... u should probably Act Indian movie on this... take the RISK and confront her parents then confront yours also... �

My brother teebaba or what do you call yourself abeg run and leave the girl sharpally
Am speaking from personal experience, I have found myself in your situations when I was in the university of Ilorin, dated this girl,we love each other bla bla bla, I even fund her education due to the fact that am a federal civil servant then,and her parents are not that rich and since we both agreed to marry after school, my brother her parents is aware of everything am doing for her but unknowing to me that they have another plan to separate us immediately after school, fast forward na African magic dey take do the work oooo.
let's just leave matter for Mathias, leave the girl that's my candid advice

You can have a bad wife, o guy don't ever try to have a bad in-law.
Good luck

Let people who have experience in matters like this advise you. But Improve on your written English. What you wrote here can give one headache after reading it

Triplerg:
Now it seems like they are about to forget the way that leads them home. When problems set in, their union might crash due to faulty foundation. Parental approval is no joke in anything you want to do

I'm telling you. They think marriage is child's play or "Romeo and Juliet" love drama.

Don't do it.




It wont work

VillagePeople11:
A bird might love a fish, but where will they build a home together

Riverside

Teebaba30:



So u mean we should arrange on how to leave the country.

If only you can climb down from your horse of youthful and handsome exuberance, if only you are mature enough to start arranging for a beautiful family, if only you can switch your emotions to accommodate and accept this woman who sees you as her hero, with her, you can never do wrong. If only you can pick up this call of life of wealth and richness with your beautiful wife to be... If only..

Op I am reading ur story and I am wondering why one of u has to convert to the other. I have seen Muslim women marry Christian men and they both retain their individual religious beliefs and practice freely. I feel the issue is from u because as it seems she is making more effort for the relationship to survive than you. Have you gone to meet the father with some Muslim friends that can vouch for u and he chased u away?
If you love her as you claim then you have to fight for your relationship

I dare you to ditch that girl. You may be rich and great but one thing will surely be lacking in your life.. I drop my pen at this point

Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?
Amos.3.3.NLT
If you are a true Christian, by now the spirit of God must have spoken to you. All your options are wrong. God has been telling you that this is an impossible union but you are blinded by love (lust). If you are having difficulty with the foundation of your marriage, just imagine what will happen when you enter marriage. Her tears are temporary but yours will be forever. My brother flee!!!!!

enemyofprogress:
Wetin you go find for mosque? You want her to convert you to their head slamming?abeg come make I find you better fine Jehovah witness girl wey I chop remain

You go marry left over las las...and na like this you go take know...one day you go catch your wife for where boys dey escavate her hole...and by den she go don born like 5 children for you, for 5 different men!

I will like u to fellow ur heart.

I don't think the issue of religion should stop your love for each other and I don't know why African parents don't see this but not all of them in most cases. You guys should meet each others parent and tell them your stand. i pray God put you through.

efficiencie:


You go marry left over las las...and na like this you go take know...one day you go catch your wife for where boys dey escavate her hole...and by den she go don born like 5 children for you, for 5 different men!

no problem.

Hmmm

I cannot tell you how much i'm overwhelmed right seeing this wonderful thread, like it has given me a better insight on my situation and it happens we share absolutely thesame issues at the moment. Mine will be succintly but i hope so, i met this muslim lady during my registration in the university days but i am a Christian and we were from thesame department, we were caught up in the moment where i grew to love her beyond the way i could imagine maybe for the reason that she completes me entirely and she eclipse all the females i have dated put together. She was the only lady i dating althrough my years in school so fast forwarding it to now that we are both graduates and it happens we are both in thesame fix as you; comtemplatin' lettin' go or damning everybody for the sake of love because we have dated for 6years now and religion seemed to be our greatest problem but my people got to know her and accept her since they've got no choice but the problem lies in her family although her mom, sister and brother knows me but the dad does not know a thing about us. Even as the mom knows me she's still against it since she prefers a muslim guy to a Christian one so this is the situation. I read through your thread and it was like you were speaking my mind so i thank you so much for this eye opener because i have been following the comments and believe me we all got to decide and chose happiness over some man made stuffs. Where lays the one Nigeria that is so much preached when it is a taboo to date a gal from a different ethnic group or religion, this has dragged us back but we're yet to notice. Nowadays you see people gettin' married to whoever that is ready and love has been thrown out of the window but i believe its all of this that has gave raise to prevalence in divorce cases and assaults in homes. What matters in life is compactibility and not all these religious whatever and this has taught me to be an open minded person. We can aswell reach out to each other via email whayatink

The solution is easy. In the case of Dr. Bukola Saraki, he is a Muslim while his wife is a Christian. Let each stick to his/her religion.

As for the children, they will choose for themselves when the time comes.

I won't even bother to read your epistural epistle. You are a Christian, yet you didn't see where in your Bible it is written not to unequally yoked? Abeg free me jare. That is how you will go and dump your self in wahala and come back to load us with pls advice me.



God has given us all he created a manual, if you can't abide by it. Na you Sabi. His will /word can't be broken, you go against it, you get broken.


Make your own choice and face the music and dance kerewawa yourself. No time to advice somebody who know what to do but waste 11yrs of his life.

Teebaba30:


NEVER!!. I can't convert to a Muslim, am the youth pastor in my church.

Youth pastor my foot. What are you teaching others? Are you leading by example? Iron sharpens iron. You are unevenly yoked. Mend your ways and seek the light.

I won't even bother to read your epistural epistle. You are a Christian, yet you didn't see where in your Bible it is written not to unequally yoked? Abeg free me jare. That is how you will go and dump your self in wahala and come back to load us with pls advice me.

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God has given us all he created a manual, if you can't abide by it. Na you Sabi. His will /word can't be broken, you go against it, you get broken.


Make your own choice and face the music and dance kerewawa yourself. No time to advice somebody who know what to do but waste 11yrs of his life.

Teebaba30:


Am not the English freak type, am an accountant by education, do with me like that,

No worries �

my wife is a Muslim, am a Christian, we saw pass the religion barrier. I used to wake her up in the morning to pray in the Muslim way. anytime we have to pray together, we pray in Jesus name. she follow me to church anytime we are having a special program or anytime she feels like. now she did not really see herself as a Muslim again. she's more of a Christian. What am trying to tell OP is Religion is never a barrier in marriage just as language or tribe should never be a barrier. its your life and none of your family will live it with you. Start by promising each other that you will allow each other do their different religion. what is religion after all? Note we have been Married for 4 years now. NO REGRETS

Teebaba30:


Yes we have plan this, she even said she is ready to foot the bill, we should leave the country, but wot if her parent starts disturbing my parent

Dude let her finish her studies then she should travel for masters degree in this case you self should plan your movement to join her and never come back again till after you have 3 children.

Best choice ever

Future boko haram husband

If she's a Yoruba Muslim, no wahala, she can be converted, but if na Hausa,/Fulani, na fatua them go pronounce for your head.

adams123:
No try fornication because Bible says NO to it. Convert to lslam then get ready to learn lslam because lslam requires a lot of learning. And if you can't convert then leave the girl alone because is prohibited for a Muslim lady to marry Christian guy. But Christian lady can MarryMuslim guy.

Stop this hypocritic life already abi them don exchange your brain for bag of beans

give what belong to Muslim to muslim ooooo,that is just what i can say right now

jericco1:



What are you even saying? You as a Muslim, can you get married to Christian and change your faith?

Its not about that bros, no one decides for me. Its disgusting he's seeking his parent's opinion on who he should marry at this age. Love comes above any other thing, both of them does not have any religion, so even if they marry someone from their faith, it doesn't keep them for being obedient to either Christianity/Islam. And also does not prevent them from having sex with people of other faiths. If these two are not allowed to marry, it will only cause problem for us in the society, as they would continue fornicating, the guy may marry someone he doesn't love, might end up maltreating his wife, his children would become depressed because of their daddy's treatment towards their mother, the children start drinking and misbehaving, join bad gang etc the problem would continue and unfold in different ways which would lead to pollute our society.
I can't marry a Christian because I don't want to and I have a firm faith, not because I'm afraid of my parents or what anyone would say. Thats the difference.
The parents are disgusting because they don't care if they fornicates with opposite sex, but only care if they marry opposite sex. If you train your children well, they would see people of their faiths to marry and not choose from a different faith
The fool parents failed to train their children properly, so they don't have the right to make them sad at old age