I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

When your parents died and you are not happily married,who do you blame,the dead?

The OP is a small, immature child of 33 years

Let us not hate ourselves as africans,that is hindering our progress.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is also from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating we really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year. The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state somebody who speaks the same language it has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry. Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

Which state in the south south are you from?

Akwa ibom

Still not mature @33

Iyammi

@ 33yrs ur parents still decide who u mingle with?
Well u still have 7 more years to be a fool forever

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state.. Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

nyzeo:
Akwa ibom

You're Akwa Ibom. Let me speak to you as an elder. Dismiss that love immediately and go do your mother's bidding. I won't state my reasons. You were told o

Op leave your spouse, marry your mother instead and if you feel that'll be incestuous, then marry your female cousins.

Since your mother is so keen on you marrying from your tribe, satisfy her by going many steps further with marrying your relatives, so you won't have any problems whatsoever in your marriage.

Realli
It's not fair to see or hear parent interfering though some parents still see their child or children as young lads / mate but they should know better by now...

Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

Are you for real?

Really, don't lemme talk oooo

You're Akwa Ibom. Let me speak to you as an elder. Dismiss that love immediately and go do your mother's bidding. I won't state my reasons. You were told o



Please I would like to hear from you.. Whts the advice.. You sound like you have somthing really interesting to say.. Am curious.. Please speak out..

Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

Hahahah LIES from the pit of hell......In these days and times?

OP Your parents made their choice and they are still making yours @33

nyzeo:
Akwa ibom

Akwa ibom hmmm. Maybe you should consider your mother decision there's more to marriage than I" love you".

It's just my opinion tho, I wish you well.

You are getting married to a man, not to the tribe.

... I'm always surprised at issues arising from tribal differences. Isn't it confounding that our parents will allow us marry "rich" people from another tribe but when it comes to the average person, all laws immediately come into foray. Tribe should be one of the least things to look out for in a spouse. Humans are the same, though our environment influences our morals, social life and character. In my humble opinion, the environment which is primarily the family one grew up in is a better precursor of an individual's values. A fellow tribesman/woman can be your downfall as well as your pillar of support. Evil knows no tribe, religious beliefs, family, country or whatever denomination you may be from. The earlier we start seeing people as individuals instead of tagging "yoruba person" "aboki" "omo igbo" to their heads, the better for our country.

In addition,

You only limit yourself if you let yourself be blinded by tribe even your own family can frame you up. A complete stranger can be the helper of your destiny. Many have lost valuable people due to nonsense tribal sentiments.

We are never born to hate on a particular tribe or people but it's often learnt from our parents or a general misconception arising from one person's experience of another from a tribe. Let's not allow a person's experience guide how we treat our fellow humans.

Be cautious, trust no one because evil knows no color or religion.

Ok.

Infact, Marriage is Overrated

Your a man. They shouldn't dictate for u. Gone are d days when parents force children to Marry from the same state or tribe. The only reason they would bring tribe as an issue is if they just don't like d lady naturally and they use it as an excuse. If it's dangote or adenuga's daughter they will never reject her.

Hmmm

Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
This op is just a pussy asss niggarrr

Whichever advice our parents give us they mean well for us

But that doesn't mean you should not use your discretion on issuues like this.
continue your relationship niggarrr

You need to understand that you are now a man and no one should make decisions for you.
If you allow anyone control who you marry, you would keep bowing to their pressures and control even after you get married.
Take your stand ! . But be very sure that she is a good choice. You are good to go.
Make your mom see reasons why you are making a valid choice. Make her see what you see in her.

Yes. It's normal for your parents to advice their child to marry from the same tribe. Many people can attest to this fact and this is due to the experience they've seen other people have. You as a couple might be in love but the extended families are usually the issue. Take the p-square case as an example for people who are familiar with the story.... I don't like to type much else I would have delved in toto into this matter.
However since you're hell bent on marrying this lady from another tribe, it is for your parents to give their blessings and accept it.

because you don't have Men's PAPA's Mask!
This is Covid 19 era! and the want you to maintain Good Nose Social Distances
Oder for 1 right away!

The madness of tribalism....Young Man stand your ground because at the end of the day na 1 demon dem go carry give you as knife not wife...
What's your dad take on the matter?

Racist parent