Come on guys, he needs our advice not us bashing him. @OP I believe that if the lady is worth fighting for you will fight for her. Meanwhile, if you really want to settle with her, you will be the one to convince your parents

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

No go use because of Toto disobey your parents....are girls in your tribe finished.... Why una dey craze for Igbo girls seff

Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

Tell them!


In as much as we all want to act civilized and also encourage peace, unity and diversity through intertribal marriage.....it comes with a lot of pitfalls.....my parents once advised an elder brother against this but he felt he was too civilized and married from another tribe.....his marriage today is like hell and on the brink of total collapse all because of cultural disagreements as a result of cultural differences ad misunderstandings.


Whenever there is marital issues, intertribal marriages hardly survive the turbulence unlike same tribe.


Op, please listen to your parents

Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

I don't think you are sincere with this your statement.

Do not see this as a time to challenge your parents. There are reasons God kept them alive for you. If the girl shows genuine willingness to learn your language and culture, explain to your mom/dad that you understand their concerns about tribal cum cultural conflicts and convince them that your spouse will definitely overcome all that with time, I believe they will then encourage you to marry her.
The fact is that the more resolute and adamant you sound, the more you make them believe that eyen Uneghe don give you kop nno mi.

Graysons:
Which state in the south south are you from?

Dont mind him. Its a cooked story without maggi nor salt.

Always good to reason with your parents but at the end of the day its our decision to make. At 33 you should be telling your parents how you want things done and not them telling you. At 33, your mates are on their own, running multi million Dollars company, and employing thousands of workers.......
The thing you have to look at here is if they start to dictate for you now at 33, then when does it stop, next will be something else, time to stand your ground and be a man...and god forbid, it does not work out, then you can only blame yourself and not your parents.

I still find it very difficult to believe that we still have parent who still dictate who to marry to their children. Imagine telling a 33year old who to and who not to marry. Bro u should be able to decide what u want. U are an ADULT for God sake

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

Can't you guys breathe without mentioning SouthEast?

nyzeo:
Akwa ibom

and you want to marry a Igbo?! I pity ya mama.

nyzeo:
You're Akwa Ibom. Let me speak to you as an elder. Dismiss that love immediately and go do your mother's bidding. I won't state my reasons. You were told o



Please I would like to hear from you.. Whts the advice.. You sound like you have somthing really interesting to say.. Am curious.. Please speak out..

He has nothing to say, just another upcoming tribal clown.
Meanwhile back to ur topic, I think you're old enough to stand on ur decision. Because if your parents can have a say in an issue as big as marriage in your life, what else will they not have a say in concerning u. They'd probably tell u how many kids to have and where to live.
33yrs is no longer a baby, u must have sat down and made up ur mind on why you want to marry that lady. Share these same reasons with them. And for crying out loud, minimize the the kind of communication you have with them

humilitypays:
Tell them!


In as much as we all want to act civilized and also encourage peace, unity and diversity through intertribal marriage.....it comes with a lot of pitfalls.....my parents once advised an elder brother against this but he felt he was too civilized and married from another tribe.....his marriage today is like hell and on the brink of total collapse all because of cultural disagreements as a result of cultural differences.


Whenever there is marital issues, intertribal marriages hardly survive the turbulence unlike same tribe.


Op, please listen to your parents

I disagree on this because mine is completely the opposite direction. I married outside my tribe and we have been fine and happy. Say something else...

nyzeo:
Akwa ibom

I know it will be AKS....your people are always like that.
I had this kind of issue some years back, fought with my strength, and finally sluggishly my parents accepted, but later the girl disappointed and walked away, but the good news was that I got another girl from the same tribe and whom they accepted and am happily married now....both girls are from South East and am from Rivers.

Don't blame then because in the olden days non of them love before them get marry to themselves

EVILFOREST:

I believe you.
No doubts at all.
After all you people had a direct encounter with the Devil.

You are wrong. We are the devil herself.

Lastorator:


anyunn unam Finn dier ?

You don chop?

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

me I have two questions to ask
1. Are you the only child? Or are you the only male child?
2. Do you truly love her?

Pls stop being a baby in an adult image... Op you ain't a man enough


Facts

My bro i went through this hell u're going through now. Was supposed to marry from Ivory-coast and brought the lady here just to respect my parents and they messed the entire thing up. Cant write much here, there are times u obey them and it wil work out fine and situations u obey them and get into real hot soup. The binding factor in marriage is love and love knows no tribe. Once both of u truely love each other, i advise u from personl experienc and God's word to go for her as u wil live in burning hell if u bend to their dictate and it turns out bad. cfountainoftruth@gmail.com

ignis:


You are wrong. We are the devil herself.

We are saying the same thing
Finally, you have agreed.

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nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

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AFONJA GO AND SLEEP.

STOP YOUR SS/SE HYSTERIA

YOUR STORY IS FAKE.


FAKE NEWS.

Nawa oh. This is the 3rd time I am coming across this kind of life from same akwa ibom state people. A friend of mine told me her mother will be very angry if she sees her dating a guy who is not from her state(akwa Ibom). And the same mother is pressuring her to try and get married by end of the year. And she works and stays in Abuja. Which kind life be dis abeg.

I understand your mum's fear, but you can talk it over with her

As she met the lady?

But if my mum say I shouldn't marry a lady, I won't marry her

For me I will say you are your problem, at least you are supposed to know your family's rule before choosing to build a close relationship with a girl from another tribe, now you got to deal with the consequences.
You ve not even met with the girls parent o
If they have the same sentiment, their own will be worse.
My advice for you, never start what you can't finish

ignis:


I haven't

I don’t understand, are u joking or what?

See am tribalism and we want Nigeria to divide oo....na we dey do ourselves as for op your decision should stand if she's worth taking in as a wife.

All I have to say is, when you finally decide to go with your mothers bidding please inform the innocent girl you're dating on time that the relationship is over so she can move on.

Did you send your mother to school to be speaking English to your wife; better send her night school and assign a professor to brush her well well to start understanding her daughter in-law, else, marry from your tribe, mbok.

I rest my case.

You are 33 ffs .

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

Edidiong?

Op, if you like Eti well well its better you listen to them cos truth be told Akwa Ibom girls sabi Eti well well.

Another thing is being able to cook your local delicacy.

Finally if you are the insecure type how will you cope with language barrier?

Inter tribal marriage is serious business o.