Iamundisputed:
Please report to the police as a first step. I hope you and your wife settle and reunite, but it's important that you inform the police & write a statement, just in case.

Also, your wife didn't pack out because you were only playing or flirting with a woman, she must have caught you cheating, don't tell lies please. Women usually change their attitude towards sex after birth cos of: 1. Personal insecurity because the vagina may not be as tight as it was. 2. Postpartum depression. 3.other psychological issues. This is where your emotional intelligence as a man comes into play. You need to have an understanding of her mood and help her want sex again.

Find a way to win her heart back, if possible, have your people call her people.
I wish u a happy home.

Why are you people this way , how can you be in your house and know that this man is lying? , this man said he didn't do what he was accused off and you are here saying otherwise.

Seems your mother in law wants a case of single motherhood for your wife.

ogawisdom:


First mistake never never marry a girl raised by a single mother. She saw what her mother went through bc of men and u will pay for it. She was raised to hate men. Her mother hates men bc of her failed relationship with them.

Second mistake how can you apologize when u are not guilty. I kw u are guilty Sha.

Since u are guilty and have apologize then u have to go and report to whoever gave her hand in marriage to you may be he can help resolve the matter.

No need for police, your children are with their mother and they are safe. No crime that needs police involvement except u want to waste your money.

Always avoid single mothers and their children when u want a serious relationship

And you are so sure that he cheated on his wife..... Stop all this nonsense, to avoid issue he still apologized to her probably by trying to.make her understand that he didn't do it.

All I can say is that your mother in law is a foolish woman, sorry to say, I usually don't insult elders but elders are known to act with wisdom, and use that wisdom to diffuse a situation like yours, instead she escalated it.

Babaj145:


If u like call it a womans kids dat is ur own headache..Yes involve d police if d woman decides to be stubborn and prevent d man from seeing his kids for one flimsy excuse dat she does not have evidence of..u can't just act on hear say hear say..if she is a good and reasonable woman she will call attention to d members of not just her family but also members of d mans family and state what is bordering her in d relationship and from there on see how dey can settle their differences not just keeping shut and running away with d kids.. Except the O.P is not telling us d whole truth in dis mata..if there's a case of domestic violence den I will support d woman here...and yes u can report a case to d police and there won't be any unnecessary arrest made...And can u state the crime d man committed to warrant dis action from d woman??..don't play d feminist card here..

Lol oga calm down sir.
I was just wondering how the police will come in, in this kind of situation.

I feel it's a family matter.
Bringing in the police is just really somehow.

MPESA:




Why are you people this way , how can you be in your house and know that this man is lying? , this man said he didn't do what he was accused off and you are here saying otherwise.

Bros... A Nigerian woman will never leave her husband's house just because of mere suspicion, especially not when the mother is around. I am just saying this is his own version and there is more to the story...

You shouldn't be marrying a girl whose mother has no man in her life to respect. Better to test positive to HIV and Coronavirus than be in that situation.

Iamundisputed:


Bros... A Nigerian woman will never leave her husband's house just because of mere suspicion, especially not when her mother father is around. I am just saying this is his own version and there is more to the story...

I pity una. Anyway, I have fixed the above ^^

My advise may seem harsh, but once a lady starts leaving the home for weeks over any excuse she isn't ready to build the relationship again. If they want to sue you, what for, no be divorce, and so?
The court wouldn't say u shouldn't see your kids. In fact, the court will want u to play an important role in their life like school fees upkeep etc. Since she has left, just call her and ask for an account for you to be sending some token for your children's feeding and upkeep. And tell her whenever they are ill, she should tell u so u can take dem or pay for hospital bills. School fees know the school so u can pay.
Ps na so divorce life easy?

sisisioge:
So she's going to sue you for alleged cheating? Whew! It's always a problem when couples allow extended families live with them!

Wat I know is dat "owu iya gbon lomo ma ran"



MIL is a single mum, what did u expect from the daughters??

Iamundisputed:


Bros... A Nigerian woman will never leave her husband's house just because of mere suspicion, especially not when the mother is around. I am just saying this is his own version and there is more to the story...

U need more sense bro, stop saying trash like joro olumofin.

Don't analyse a situation u have not found ur self in before.

simplexity:
I really appreciate your comments, I feel a lot better emotionally now,
I even actually agreed I cheated, and I have apologized, still she left.
Being a father makes u bear a lot and carry a lot on ur mind for peace to rain, I am not weak am just being understanding.

Thanks anyways

Four years into the marriage and you already cheated?

Let me not say what's on my mind

MPESA:



And you are so sure that he cheated on his wife..... Stop all this nonsense, to avoid issue he still apologized to her probably by trying to.make her understand that he didn't do it.

U sound dumb stop Mentioning me

ogawisdom:


U sound dumb stop Mentioning me

You are just opposite of your moniker.

ogawisdom:


Never apologize for what you didn't do especially when it is infidelity accusation. Stand your ground let them prove their case

good and in addition to this, @OP in any situation you find yourself... avoid see finish ... no matter how, avoid seee finish

What gives her the right 2 run with the kids in the first place. no be una pikin. women self

Stephenomozzy:
Don't go to a police station yet,

I believe your wife has family, and those families can be traced to a physical address, why not reach out to all those people in her family and let them help you trace where ahe might likely be. It's not like she's traveled out of your state.

Involving the police would not spell well for either one of you.

When she comes back home, talk to her, let her know you love her (make her feel loved the way she appreciates - love language), appeal to her to talk to you IF THERE'S ANYTHING YOU DID WRONG AT ANY TIME THAT YOU DIDN'T PROPERLY APOLOGIZE FOR THAT SHE'S STILL ANGRY ABOUT (Yes, some people keep that kind grudge).

Try to mend your relationship with her mother (you don't have to be her friend). Just don't be her enemy lest she turns your wife against you over and over again - the mum has alot of influence on her, it seems.

Even slowpoke will not reason this way.

@Op, don't beg her or persuade her to return home. Relax. Chill. Enjoy your life.

Give her just 2 months, she will come back begging.

Iamundisputed:


Bros... A Nigerian woman will never leave her husband's house just because of mere suspicion, especially not when the mother is around. I am just saying this is his own version and there is more to the story...

when a woman is tired of you, she picks argument at slightest provocation...

Sixfeetbelle:


Four years into the marriage and you already cheated?

Let me not say what's on my mind

where u there when he cheated. People sef

seanwilliam:
when a woman is tired of you, she picks argument at slightest provocation...

Indeed... Did you not notice that our "friend" mentioned twice he had been seen "flirting" with a woman? Half truth is worse than a lie... I can read between the lines.

Liposure:
where u there when he cheated. People sef

Are you blind? Did you not see his post I quoted?

Iamundisputed:


Indeed... Did you not notice that our "friend" mentioned twice he had been seen "flirting" with a woman? Half truth is worse than a lie... I can read between the lines.

I am not disputing your fact nor in support of it.. my response was just addition

seanwilliam:
I am not disputing your fact nor in support of it.. my response was just addition

Fair enough.

Sixfeetbelle:


Are you blind? Did you not see his post I quoted?

u can be 2 sure. He's speaking from both sides of his mouth

Liposure:
u can be 2 sure. He's speaking from both sides of his mouth

Why would he agree that he cheated if he didn't? It's because he's guilty in some way and he knows it. Now the wife believes it and is using it against him.

Forget story. He cheated and that's why he's begging and all that.

I'm in a similar situation, my wife even told me that I'm not the biological father of the 2 kids. The problem started when her mother came visiting when "we" had our first child. Her mother gave her a local sponge, black soap, a 5 litre liquid substance and other fetish items. Eventually, my wife was caught taking a spiritual bath right inside my sitting room. I don't even know the whereabouts of the kids and the wife in Ibadan, she didn't go to her family house at Barika and no money for DNA

My next wife must NOT come from Ibadan

What is wrong with marriages these days?.. from emotional blackmail to violence to cheating scandals.

Is it really worth it getting married?

Sixfeetbelle:


Why would he agree that he cheated if he didn't? It's because he's guilty in some way and he knows it. Now the wife believes it and is using it against him.

Forget story. He cheated and that's why he's begging and all that.

okay oh. if u say so

God knows I won't get married to any woman I can't control. This is what you get when you a pet woman too much.

This marriage of a thing is becoming so scary to me on daily basis, because I don't think I've got that chills to allow anyone to manipulate my heart and to truncate my peace of mind, I will just give her the space she's craving for...

Seems your wife went to school and "tear eye" now it's obvious she's contemplating she married the wrong man that's the reason for her change of attitude...

grafixdon:


Even slowpoke will not reason this way.

@Op, don't beg her or persuade her to return home. Relax. Chill. Enjoy your life.

Give her just 2 months, she will come back begging.

You're confidently dull for even quoting me.