Hathor5:


When you talk to him, what does he say? Does he admit to his problem or does he deny it? Is he aware of his addiction or in denial mode/playing it down?

virtuouswoman77:
pls how do I handle this problem of hubby that does not have self control when it comes to alcohol he drinks to much and sometimes messes the bed up with urine have talked to him still no change pls I need practice solutions that will make him stop because he is the type that doesn't take things serious unless it gets to him and this his behavior is making me regret my marriage to him

virtuouswoman77:
if I talk to him about it with all his attention but will only say has had me within 2 months he drinks much again from one event. even when I reported to his famiy he told me and I quote" after reporting wat happened "

ojun50:

I will advise you info the family, someone he listen to or church leaders and lastly pray and help him out

Hathor5:


1. An addict can only be helped if he acknowledges his addiction. Many addicts live in denial for a long time.

2. If he acknowledges his addiction, he needs a rehab. You and family can't help him.

3. A recovered alcohol addict must never drink again, not even one drop or he will relapse.

Do you have children?

virtuouswoman77:
my dear wat you see in relationship is different from marriage we dated fr 9 months before marriage we didn't live together I only visit and during does time God be my witness [b]he didn't show such [/b]and when we got married nothing changed in me he do tell me how lucky he his to have so it is not from me

virtuouswoman77:
two kids

dorin27:
They (both male and female) never show their true identity till after marriage. That's the reason we have many failed marriages today. May God strengthen and give you the wisdom to run your home

virtuouswoman77:
I did report to his family in 2018 which the condemned his act even in my presence though the knew he had such character before. he was angry I did and told me recently that since I told them what has changed

lilmax:
Start cheating, coming home late, stop cooking


Just lose yourself and see your husband start focusing again

Your husband lacks self control because you tolerate it


My opinion

Righteousness89:


Madam Hope there is no Problem?
why do u have to quote me?
Why not Give her your PRATICAL Solution

Did I Hinder you from Giving Her your PRATICAL SOLUTION??

Don't allow the Devil to Begin to make use of u..

virtuouswoman77:
if he buys drink fr himself he goes fr his gauge 3 bottles but when he goes to an event where there is excess drink, my God he will be feeling like getting all the drinks into his mouth that's where the lack of self control comes in

dorin27:
They (both male and female) never show their true identity till after marriage. That's the reason we have many failed marriages today. May God strengthen and give you the wisdom to run your home

virtuouswoman77:
that practical solution is what I really need cos even if am angry and keep malice with him anything he does so he will never ask fr forgiveness and we look fr a better way forward what he will say is " getting drunk is the sweetness of drink

Yo husband nah one comedian..

Righteousness89:


Madam Hope there is no Problem?
why do u have to quote me?
Why not Give her your PRATICAL Solution

Did I Hinder you from Giving Her your PRATICAL SOLUTION??

Don't allow the Devil to Begin to make use of u..

lilmax:
Start cheating, coming home late, stop cooking


Just lose yourself and see your husband start focusing again

Your husband lacks self control because you tolerate it


My opinion

virtuouswoman77:
pls how do I handle this problem of hubby that does not have self control when it comes to alcohol he drinks to much and sometimes messes the bed up with urine have talked to him still no change pls I need practice solutions that will make him stop because he is the type that doesn't take things serious unless it gets to him and this his behavior is making me regret my marriage to him

gulfer:
Answer this questions @OP, does he work, if yes what type of job does he have

virtuouswoman77:
pls how do I handle this problem of hubby that does not have self control when it comes to alcohol he drinks to much and sometimes messes the bed up with urine have talked to him still no change pls I need practice solutions that will make him stop because he is the type that doesn't take things serious unless it gets to him and this his behavior is making me regret my marriage to him

UDUJ:


Wisdom and not showing any gender bias. Nice one.

Righteousness89:
Launch yourself Fully into God ...
Stand in Gap for your Home and Husband In Prayers.
At midnight call call on the GOD of Heaven
Prayers Changes things..
When He sees a New you, that Could Just be the Tonic..

Vyolet:
Marry men that don't drink, smoke or womanise, NO. You want the one that is razz.
Goodluck to you and your bed-wetting husband.

LadySarah:


This is unnecessary pls