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Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Nobody: 9:18am On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: Prayer is the key, pray is the key, prayer is the master key. 3 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by gulfer: 9:45am On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:That explains it, federal govt workers do not have tasking activities to do, he can get to the office anytime or not even go at all ![]() ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by benzinoman: 9:48am On Oct 04, 2020 |
Whenever he gets drunk arrange 10k, look for any police van to lock him up in thier cell. When he wakes up tell him d police found him in a gutter and that they said the next time they see him in d gutter he will be shot and labelled a criminal. 15 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Highesschief1: 10:07am On Oct 04, 2020 |
So sorry about your situation, I have seen a lot of the advice people gave but you need to do something practical here.. You will need the family doctor or any doctor he trust to work with you on this.. The doctor will check and tell him that his liver is going bad already and with any bottle he takes he is going closer to his grave that he has less than a year to live unless he stops drinking the liver will not recover but if he continues drinking that he will die in less than a year. On your part you should arrange a temporary break up tell him you are not ready to be a widow but since he is ready to die and leave you with the kids you might as well start getting ready for a life without him. The fear of losing his life, kids and wife will sobber him up fast. Good luck as you try this, it worked on some one I know 30 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by tot(f): 10:23am On Oct 04, 2020 |
Righteousness89: You call yourself a Christian but lack humility, you are self-righteous and judgmental like a pharisee, and also hate to be corrected. This is not the first time you have shown such character from your responses. Repent Mr "Righteousness"!! 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by jamoyakz: 10:35am On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:is he over stressed I.e out of job or struggling with life? mental health could be a factor. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 10:38am On Oct 04, 2020 |
jesmond3945:he does not drink execess when he goes to the bar on his own he only does not have self control when he sees too many drinks like in an event. secondly how do you expect me to stop a full grown man from going to an event 8 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 10:40am On Oct 04, 2020 |
benzinoman:thanks 7 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 10:43am On Oct 04, 2020 |
Highesschief1:we are under NHIS and not assigned a personal family doctor 3 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 11:04am On Oct 04, 2020 |
Richy4:thanks a lot dear 5 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Richy4(m): 11:22am On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: You are welcome |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Langdon12: 11:30am On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: Did you just jump into marriage or what? Looks at your response "when I complained to his brother he told me that that is one habit that everybody in the family keep complainibg about him that the thought he would change after getting married to someone he loves It means he's bee drinking and you never knew cus you never took your time to know him. 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by jesmond3945: 11:40am On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77:that's the only solution. Stop from seeing drinks, this would help him make a decision to stop the addiction. The more he sees drinks, it would be difficult for him to stop. |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by pattybf(f): 11:47am On Oct 04, 2020 |
Righteousness89: The husband has problem but the wife has to change ![]() 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by CHoccolaTE: 12:01pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
Ishilove: Don't mind the misogynistic hypocrite 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by CHoccolaTE: 12:06pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
@topic Many Nigerian men are truly devil incarnates You people have still found a way to heap blame on the innocent suffering woman and tell her to pray for a drunkard God forbid If a woman was the one doing the irritating nonsense Op husband is doing and peeing on the bed no single man will advice her husband to pray for her or treat her with love. The only advice he will get is to treat her with harshness and punish her or even send her out. Very evil people, Nigerian men. 22 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by CHoccolaTE: 12:09pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
Highesschief1: This is actually very good advice, your a good man sir. 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by TheCork(m): 12:13pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
dorin27: Gravitys too. wot ever that mean. Anyways good morning. Please can we go to sexuality section to talk about sexxx for only 10minute....my kondo hav been standing up for 3 days for no reason. Can u help? Please? ![]() |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Ishilove: 1:04pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
uboma:'Senseless' is a gross understatement. 7 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by Ishilove: 1:05pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE:Well said 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by bukatyne(f): 1:09pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
IamD18: Maybe 90% ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by bukatyne(f): 1:13pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
Dayoebe: ![]() ![]() Is she trying to reinforce his drunkenness by rewarding it? ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by bukatyne(f): 1:18pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE: Perhaps the men around you. 10 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by CHoccolaTE: 1:25pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
bukatyne: Oga get lost abeg, take your attention seeking elsewhere 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by CHoccolaTE: 1:26pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by bukatyne(f): 1:28pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: I have read all your posts and summarized that: 1. He has self control when he is at the bar (buying with his money) or at home (also with his money); 2. He goes gaga when he sees free drinks (the way done others eat to stupor in a party); 3. He sees nothing wrong with what he does. Thus is largely because you clean up after him. In addition to prayers (prayers is key), stop rewarding or enabling his excesses. Whatever he does in his drunkenness, leave him there. If he bed wetted or any other thing, leave him that way. If he is not getting the message that you would no longer condone his drinking, explore joining forces with a doctor or police or mortuary attendants. Do something to wake him up. God forbid his kidneys fail or liver damaged, you would be the one running around to care for him. 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by bukatyne(f): 1:29pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE: May you find peace and God's healing from whatever hurt men have caused you. Amen. 14 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by LadySarah: 1:32pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
pattybf:I started ignoring him a long time cos most times he spews gibberish! 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by diqxon: 1:34pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
MhisTahrah:o wrong now ![]() |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by virtuouswoman77(f): 1:41pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
bukatyne:exactly, am scared what if he gets drunk and while coming back has an accident what will I do with my kids, the taught of me being jobless fr now how do I fend fr my kids. 7 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by bukatyne(f): 1:49pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
virtuouswoman77: Why exactly do you have issues with his drunkenness? |
Re: Help My Husband Lacks Self Control by obyrich(m): 1:51pm On Oct 04, 2020 |
IamD18:You are 100% on point |
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