shaksman96:
there little we can do 2 change that, the western culture is already taking over

It's taking over but as men u need to uphold to our tradition and traditional values especially wen it comes to sex and marriage

Make una no marry hoe and whores all because western culture ti take over oo

If you are not ready for sex , don't be in a relationship ,....but seriously women enjoy sex more

Ihatebuhariwith:
awon
Omo deedeereen

no mind them, set awon awon omo......them no know sey spending on ur gf is not wise, is called wasteful spending and God is not happy with it. is unGodly in any way u view, shebi them claim holy ni, yoruba proverb sey peageon no go eat, drink, dine with im owner make the day wex dem go kill am make e run. laye e no go sup.

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage.

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

I agree that sex doesn't keep a man.
The fact is that if I can have sex with a girl before marriage. The tendencies are low that I will settle with her.

DEMZEE:


It's taking over but as men u need to uphold to our tradition and traditional values especially wen it comes to sex and marriage

Make una no marry hoe and whores all because western culture ti take over oo

we go try dey uphold am, na by grace man no go fall into the hands of lovepeddlers, if no be because of giving ur pikin full parental care who 4 reason marriage matter. procreation go sup without marriage, as for societal pressure, na their own wahala be that.

DEMZEE:


I kinda doubt

But they might be the ones who stay married till death do them apart

Perhaps, who knows.

TheRedpillguy:
In all honesty sex will not keep the man and less be honest here. All that stuff he is doing for her, those manly things. He is doing it to get in her paints. I do like Virgins, I wouldn't want anything that will compromise that. If he wants the girl that much then he should put a ring on it and do right by her..

This is not pump and dump material.

Sex will not keep the man. 100% correct


However does financial commitment keep the lady ?

shaksman96:
we do try dey upload am, na by grace man no go fall into the hands of lovepeddlers, if no be because of giving ur pikin full parental care who 4 reason marriage matter. procreation go sup without marriage, as for societal pressure, na their own wahala be that.

Exactly family structure na the best to raise and train up a child or children.

It's not about societal pressure

Sex is a choice that has causes and consequences

Unless u no wan give birth sha

kazyhm:


Sex will not keep the man. 100% correct


However does financial commitment keep the lady ?

Ladies love conditionally

If he gives her commitment, attention and resources then she will submit to him naturally

That's how women become loyal to their men

Conditions are: she's a virgin and the man is planning to wife her

purples25:


Perhaps, who knows.

I know from research and experience

Sysdatek:
they want relationship without sex

the same relationship they will expect you to get them iphones and put them on a salary

yea, they can keep searching, still lots of simps out there, but men are wiser now

like the person earlier said, no sex, no financial commitment, that way its even..

they claim no sex but go around behind you sleeping with guys

the most painful part is that most of them girls claiming no sex have tasted it before and might still succumb in the future

If she is still a virgin she should not indulge in premarital sex she should let the guy know she's a virgin and if he insist he should marry her first otherwise flee

DEMZEE:


Ladies love conditionally

If he gives her commitment, attention and resources then she will submit to him naturally

That's how women become loyal to their men

Conditions are: she's a virgin and the man is planning to wife her

You gave a condition for conditions....?

Natural submission is an old school normal situation in a relationship.......this is a woke regime.

You wouldn't want to be at disadvantage while you provide 100% commitment, attention and resources......it doesn't work that way anymore.......

DEMZEE:


I know from research and experience

Hmm. Kudos.

World capital of hypocrisy

zedman1:
About this topic, I don't know if to answer yes or no. Well, I was a good boy and lost the first girl I ever loved because she wanted to have sex with me so bad but even my body said NO! I loved her and for the first time in my life then, I thought sex never meant a thing.... she left. I dated another and wanted sex so bad because I thought I made a terrible mistake for not wanting sex with my ex. She lied to me for three whole years that she was a virgin but these three years without sex was hell. She started loving me when we eventually had sex but left when she met a guy who had much more money than me. I then met another who upheld 'no sex until marriage' but I saw that as bullshit and did the do. I'm married to this good girl now so I don't know how to answer your question. I just believe GIRLS pretend a lot when it comes to sex issues, they love it but only pretend not to. I think we all should be real, if no sex works for you, fine, if it doesn't, sex your way up, if it leads you to marriage, no problem..... my opinion, not God's or any other's.

wooow! this your story seem familiar to mine, this babe just ran because I refuse to have sex with her even when she tried her possible best then........ I was thinking that was the best way to show my love for her, because I truly loves her so much...... funny enough this babe nah pastor pikin and a very decent girl ooo... the babe letter go do another bad Guy wey go dey give her front and back with a quick corner Loolzz

very very important

wirinet:


If she believes in no sex before marriage and her boyfriend believes opposite, why is she still in the relationship. Common sense dictates she quits the relationship and find someone with similar beliefs. It's obvious they are not spiritually compatible.

In this world there is what is called a niche. It applies to all spheres of life. If you find yourself with someone in a different niche as far as sex is concern, just quit and find someone in your own niche instead of complaining.

Exactly!

EmmyBiggy:
If she is still a virgin she should not indulge in premarital sex she should let the guy know she's a virgin and if he insist he should marry her first otherwise flee

simple as ABC, nobody is hurt, nobody is feeling used by the other party. there will be less NL rant like she chop my money run, he used me run.

softguy1:



wooow! this your story seem familiar to mine, this babe just ran because I refuse to have sex with her even when she tried her possible best then........ I was thinking that was the best way to show my love for her, because I truly loves her so much...... funny enough this babe nah pastor pikin and a very decent girl ooo... the babe letter go do another bad Guy wey go dey give her front and back with a quick corner Loolzz

na u dull ya self, if she say no, respect her no and flee but if she want am no dull the matter, give her hot hot. other ways dey to prove and show ur love

Personally, why should I abstain?

DEMZEE:


Sex is meant to b enjoyed only in marriage for the woman .

Why only for the woman?

Are you the one to determine how women enjoy sex? Many women are not even interested in marriage and are self sufficient and don't need any man to be materially, emotionally and spiritually complete.

Polygamy is our culture, but it is outlawed in the west and yet men in the west still have plenty baby mamas whom they may never marry.

That's hypothetical and not the law. Not all married men have baby mamas. And men is polygamous marriages also gave side chicks and baby mamas.
How do you rationalise polygamy with your views on virginity, sexual fidelity and family values?

I m not using religion, but I'm using biology, science and my traditional beliefs.

How do u want to raise good children under a single parent system??
It's the worst way,especially single mothers, to raise children.

There are examples of millions and millions of good successful children raised by single mothers.

Western culture that has promoted divorce rape through ur fem centric family court laws

Western culture promoted rape? You must be smoking your bible instead of reading it. It's African culture that promotes rape. Women that are raped in Africa are often stigmatised and scared for life, while the male perpetrators are left to go scot free and sometimes celebrated. How many rapists have been convicted in Africa?

Western culture promote divorce to make the man sit up. A woman does not have to endure neglect and abuse because of some misogynistic religious doctrine. If she woman is not happy in her marriage, divorce is an option.

We Africans hate divorce and value marriage, our women and children

False. We African men want to have our cake and eat it. We want to keep our women who we met and marry as virgins at very young age at home, sealed and wrapped for our pleasure and convenience, while we go conquering other territories (bodies).

HOES AND WHORES DON'T KNOW HOW TO KEEP A GOOD HOME TALKLESS OF RAISING GOOD CHILDREN

Just more Hoephobia (fear of hoes),

Social where is all this your hoephobia rants going? You want to enact sharia like laws banning whoring or hoeing? You want to enforce the stoning to death of hoes, whores and adulteress?

What punishment do you propose for single girls who are not virgins?

kazyhm:


Sex will not keep the man. 100% correct


However does financial commitment keep the lady ?

Start your own thread.

You need to date like-minded men who don't believe in premarital s**.

You must check the acidity and porosity of her 'abuna' and peruse the peripheral and determine its depth to verify her 'experience' or innocence before having her for keeps if you want a lasting marriage otherwise this may happen to you too.....

Someone in my church married in August this year and divorced his wife last month. When asked the reason, he said the wife was very religious and opted for sex after marriage. That she even claimed to be a virgin.

After marriage, the man tried to penetrate her and discovered that she was not only a 'borehole' but that the water that gushed out of the industrial hole smelt like rotten egg. That because of the money he spent on the wedding ceremony, he had to keep up with the situation for a few months before returning the 'damaged' product to the producers of the 'fake' product.

Next time, which verse of the Bible will you quote to convince the young man not to 'test drive' before 'buying'?

I've even told my son that the woman he would bring home for marriage must be at least 3 months pregnant for him before I would allow the union because many girls on the streets these days have done damage to their wombs.

A couple close to my house have been married for twelve years now and childless.

We should stop deceiving ourselves. Marriage is till death do you part. So, don't lose your head in making your choice. Shine your eyes or regret your decision later.

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage.

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

Whenever I read sensible comment like this on nairaland, I dont wish to continue reading other comments to avoid reading senseless ones. God bless you my Sister.We must fear God and not glorify what can unleash His wrath on us.Rom.1:18-32

imagrg:
You must check the acidity and porosity of the abuna and peruse the peripheral and determine its depth before having her for keeps if you want a lasting marriage otherwise......

Someone in my church married in August this year and divorced his wife this year. When asked the reason, he said the wife was very religious and opted for sex after marriage. That she even claimed to be a virgin.

After marriage, the man tried to penetrate her and discovered that she was not only a borehole but that the water that gushed out of the industrial hole smelt like rotten egg. That because of the money he spent on the wedding ceremony, he had to keep up with the situation for a few months before returning the 'damaged' product to the producers of the 'fake' product.

Next time, which verse of the Bible will you quote to convince the young man not to test drive before buying?

I've even told my son that the woman he would bring home for marriage must be at least 3 months pregnant for him before I would allow the union because many girls on the streets these days have done damage to their wombs.

A couple close to my house have been married for twelve years now and childless.

We should stop deceiving ourselves. Marriage is till death do you part. So, don't lose your head in making your choice. Shine your eyes or regret your decision later.

Thump up. My former neighbour has gone 15 years of marriage without any baby. In fact I know many people of over 10 years marriage without any issue. The couples go from hospital to pastor to babalawo spending hundreds of thousands of naira looking for just one child.
My wife's friend went all the way to America after 8 years of marriage without no child and all efforts failed in Nigeria. Imagine the amount of money they have wasted.

I don't blame parents that insists their son's fiancee must be pregnant before blessing the marriage.

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Rapture4real:


Whenever I read sensible comment like this on nairaland, I dont wish to continue reading other comments to avoid reading senseless ones. God bless you my Sister.We must fear God and not glorify what can unleash His wrath on us.Rom.1:18-32

Amen.
Thank you Sir.

Rapture4real:


Whenever I read sensible comment like this on nairaland, I dont wish to continue reading other comments to avoid reading senseless ones. God bless you my Sister.We must fear God and not glorify what can unleash His wrath on us.Rom.1:18-32

Bone that side. Not everyone follows your God or denomination of your own God.
If your want to continue reading comments that align with your own, go to the religious section.

shaksman96:
no mind them, set awon awon omo......them no know sey spending on ur gf is not wise, is called wasteful spending and God is not happy with it. is unGodly in any way u view, shebi them claim holy ni, yoruba proverb sey peageon no go eat, drink, dine with im owner make the day wex dem go kill am make e run. laye e no go sup.

Ladies of nowadays are something else. Naso one say make I give am 15k for just Xmas hair...

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

now if I may ask,apart From sex what else really does a man benefits from a lady in a relationship that the man can not get elsewhere without harming the relationship?the answer to your question is imbedded in the sincere answer to this question.