The bases for marriage is love and companionship any other thing you are on your own.... with love you can become everything you wanna be... if marriage is your desire then marry for the right reason... speaking from experience ..... nothing can replace love..... we cant be smarter than God. As long as he is serious with life and ready to work.

We all know regina aint happy?

willingheart:
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

Is there a financially stable man ready to marry you right now?

Jidibia:

Those rich guys you broke girls follow, where do you think they got their money from? Rich money rualists need more sacrifices to grow their monies.

Broke guys do rituals by using ladies to get money

Rich guys use ladies to renew their riches

So who should we now date? Air

Chiquitq:
Everything in life is based on chance.

It looks easy on paper to marry a financially stable person that you don't love.

Also, marrying the one you love is the best decision for long term goals or better put, marrying the one that lives you.

The problem that I have in this scenario is the fact that he is 35 and has no tangible source of income. It is not even biblical for a woman finish her own bride price. It is okay for a woman to be richer than her partner but not that the partner can not afford basics at 35. If he was from a supportive family, it would be tolerable but everyone minding their business is a red flag.

How do we know for sure that this man loves you not for what you can provide for him? How character may change when he has money.

Where does he live? Does he not pay his own rent? Would his family not support him when he wants to get married?

From my experience, you can not undermine the importance of marrying the one who truly loves you. Money may come and go.life happens. The one who would stay through thick and thin is important. He may be rich tmrw and he may not. Marrying a rich man guarantees nothing. He can have the money and use it to frustrate you.

You might be fortunate to meet a better guy who loves you and has the means to cater as a family man as well. You might also be unlucky to leave this poor dude and regret it marry him and still regret. Only God knows. It is all based on chance.

Nigeria is hard but it is not an excuse for a man to be dating a successful lady and have no means of his own.

Wow the kind of woman I want to marry, I can detect you are very intelligent judging by your write up

Ihatebuhariwith:

Lol, you never heard of renew bah?

Broke guys do rituals by using ladies to get money

Rich guys use ladies to renew their riches

So who should we now date? Air

willingheart:
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

why is it that you are in love and good understanding with a guy who is broke and incapable while you have access to others who are capable but strangely the 'love' is not there?? Haven't you sat down to think about it?

When the devil want to properly mess up your entire life, he ties up and makes you feel VERY comfortable the wrong person. All the signals would be present and loud that this is not the right person at all but you would just 'love' and understand the person well. Your village people may currently be going through your case file

Check your family antecedent in such matters, when your elder ones got married, was it the same kind of situation? The person they 'loved' and got married to was just like your current guy?? If so, the powers that processed the wrong partners for your predecessors have relocated to your life for immediate action

And if that's not the case, you know he has nothing so if you are going ahead to marry him, den you must be ready to be the breadwinner for the main time or for a long time pending when your man is able. So are you ready?

Money and love are not everything. Choose the one you think Like God is telling you this is your husband to be, If you are yet to make up your mind yourselve.

Marrying the financially stable one you love is the best option. If you don't love him, don't bother about marrying him no matter his wealth.

Ikjosh04:
The key to his prosperity could be unlocked when he get married.

To me, you can marry him, in as much as the man is reasonable and doing everything possible to break his entanglement with poverty.

Btw, no where In the Bible was it written to marry who you love.

The scripture says we should love who we marry.

Love is not feelings or emotions.

Love simply means commitment, passion, pleasure and above all sacrifice!


The distance between dreams and reality is called action and as long as anyone is intentional about their progess in life, the breakthrough will come.

It's also important to note Success in life depends more on who you know than what you know.

You nailed it, nothing to say again

JovialJune:


Broke guys do rituals by using ladies to get money

Rich guys use ladies to renew their riches

So who should we now date? Air

Come date me now. I no broke likedat n I no rich.

xProfx:


Oga, there's nothing wrong with what I asked. Marrying with money as the only motivation is a very bad idea. A lot of financially stable people do go broke later in life and only love can sustain the marriage during those periods.

Forget about any Nollywood, this is reality. If you don't buy the idea kindly move on...

Lol bro ... Your words won't sell, Most people HARDLY think in terms of long term . As much as it's not advisable to marry person who doesn't have something to sustain the Family, It's also not ideal to go into Marriage just because the man can provide. That comfortable Guy can be SACKED, Experience Downturn In business. Etc No wonder most marriages crumble once the man lost his source of income or his business ain't making waves like before. You will hear " my wife attitude has changed just two weeks after sack " , She was never there because she love him for who he is , It was just because he can provide.


Another issue lately is that So many of those marrying who they don't love for money, CHEAT In the Marriage with who they love . So are we suprised at the rate of paternal fraud ? Now watch, in most cases the guy who owns the child doesn't have as much asset or money like the husband, simply because that's who she loves . ... This generation is gone.

Ikjosh04:
The key to his prosperity could be unlocked when he get married.

To me, you can marry him, in as much as the man is reasonable and doing everything possible to break his entanglement with poverty.

Btw, no where In the Bible was it written to marry who you love.

The scripture says we should love who we marry.

Love is not feelings or emotions.

Love simply means commitment, passion, pleasure and above all sacrifice!


The distance between dreams and reality is called action and as long as anyone is intentional about their progess in life, the breakthrough will come.

It's also important to note Success in life depends more on who you know than what you know.

" love is not feelings or emotions" This statement is very deep!!! Lemme go and tell my sisters!

Organsmuggler:
Rich or poor they still gonna cheat on u, marry the rich/financially stable man cuz it's better to cry in Dubai than your village farm

All my days...

My problem is that money changeth man while poverty humbles him.. You need to understand this guy well, most time the marriage sponsored by women ends sadly when the guy pick up or the man even become careless knowing well he didn't spend any for the marriage....

I suggest study him very well, examine to know if he's pretending or honestly sincere

JovialJune:



Broke guys do rituals by using ladies to get money

Rich guys use ladies to renew their riches

So who should we now date? Air

This question is who should you now marry? Anyways, date the one your mind tells you.

CsRockefeller:
This is quite dicey. I don't want to act as if your current bf isn't human but what is he doing with you when he knows he's not capable?

For me, he should be the one to pull out of the relationship and let you be, in other words, he is very selfish.

Money is very important in marriage, very important that by the time you enter you'll realise that love isn't a currency that will pay rent, put food on the table and pay your children's school fees.

Use your tongue to count your teeth, don't be naive. By the way, what's all these rubbish talk with "he's the one I love" bla bla bla......., my sister everyone is capable of loving everyone and anyone don't let your heart deceive you.

For me, I can't even date someone when I earn nothing, and I can't even date/marry someone who isn't working. If you want to be the husband as d woman while your bf becomes the wife as d man it's in your court.

Things can change tomorrow for him but hope isn't a strategy. On the other hand, things can even get worse for him.

OP, take this advice.
I have seen how a woman married for love yet decades after, she's still footing bills for the entire household, suffering and smiling.
You're too old to let yourself be blinded by love.
Your children will not eat love. Love will not pay your bills. You never marry you're paying bills already. And his family no send am. You are walking a tightrope ma'am.

My own little advice, first find out what the guy is doing to change things around for him.. Is he still carrying CV all around? As we all know that doesn’t work anymore in this country.. If he’s really trying other ways to change his status, give him little more time, like say 1yr and let him know he needs to ginger himself but please don’t put too much pressure on him

Hathor5:


Fertility clinic at 30? And you think you made sense?

So all 'big men' marry 20+ year old girls and women should retire at 30? How old are you? How about you use your brain a little bit? If the average woman gets to become 70 or even 80 years old, she is old at 30/40 for the rest of her life?

Please, face your books instead of typing rubbish on NL.

Just like we have alpha male you are alpha female kudos

Benoxvals:
OP I will give you a better advice if you answer these two questions precisely..
1.How much do you think a man should have before you tag him “Financially stable”?
2.If the man you loved have saved up to 3 Million naira,would you have given in to marrying him??

1. If he has a source of income. No matter how little
2. Yes. I would have suggested we use little to get married and invest the rest in business that we can grow

obowunmi:


Always choose a financially stable man. Love does not put FOOD on the table nor does it send your children to good schools.

Nor does it guarantee ya happiness in marriage.

12inchess:
Nature is unkind to men sha. If the reverse was the case, this wouldn't even be a topic for discussion. Broke girls getting married every week.

I tell you my brother

CsRockefeller:
This is quite dicey. I don't want to act as if your current bf isn't human but what is he doing with you when he knows he's not capable?

For me, he should be the one to pull out of the relationship and let you be, in other words, he is very selfish.

Money is very important in marriage, very important that by the time you enter you'll realise that love isn't a currency that will pay rent, put food on the table and pay your children's school fees.

Use your tongue to count your teeth, don't be naive. By the way, what's all these rubbish talk with "he's the one I love" bla bla bla......., my sister everyone is capable of loving everyone and anyone don't let your heart deceive you.

For me, I can't even date someone when I earn nothing, and I can't even date/marry someone who isn't working. If you want to be the husband as d woman while your bf becomes the wife as d man it's in your court.

Things can change tomorrow for him but hope isn't a strategy. On the other hand, things can even get worse for him.

You deserve to be the next president of this country..I don’t know your age but I really respect your wisdom keep it up it’s well with you my brother

As for the OP this guy just you the gospel truth. Listen to him

Is your guy jobless because he has never been able to secure a job or was his joblessness as a result of him resigning or being sacked from a previous job? If yes, how many jobs has he left or being sacked from? Is his joblessness as a result of not being able to find 'suitable' jobs or because he has no marketable skill? If he's skilled, what's stopping him from launching or at least getting a job to at least keep body and soul together? Could his location also be a contributing factor?
Without knowing what caused a man to be jobless at 35 and the steps the guy or you have taking with regards to the situation it's hard to give a balanced input. Even more, honest answers to those questions will reveal the true state of the guy's predicament - and whether you should be talking about love or taking your leave.

I will always remind myself neva to marry a broke lady....Never!

CsRockefeller:
This is quite dicey. I don't want to act as if your current bf isn't human but what is he doing with you when he knows he's not capable?

For me, he should be the one to pull out of the relationship and let you be, in other words, he is very selfish.

Money is very important in marriage, very important that by the time you enter you'll realise that love isn't a currency that will pay rent, put food on the table and pay your children's school fees.

Use your tongue to count your teeth, don't be naive. By the way, what's all these rubbish talk with "he's the one I love" bla bla bla......., my sister everyone is capable of loving everyone and anyone don't let your heart deceive you.

For me, I can't even date someone when I earn nothing, and I can't even date/marry someone who isn't working. If you want to be the husband as d woman while your bf becomes the wife as d man it's in your court.

Things can change tomorrow for him but hope isn't a strategy. On the other hand, things can even get worse for him.

It just can't be realer than this

Gabbriell:


Oil dey your head

engrMikemd:
Op I need to check your profile to be sure you are not my fiancée cos the scenario you described here is exactly what I am passing through for real. The ages and everything describe everything about me. I am suspecting the op



@willingheart respond to ur mail

No. I'm not.

willingheart:
Alright. Thanks for sharing

Life does not always go the way we want it. Have you ever thought of this?;

What of you marry a richer guy who doesn't love you
Who sees himself as a great catch for you
Who feels he virtually bought you over with what he has and doesn't value your feelings
What if he has concubines too
And has many bad habits you will have to cope with for the rest of your life
What if he is stingy and arrogant and doesn't respect your family.

And then what if this your present guy gets on with life financially.

Dont you think you will stalk him for the rest of your life?
Dont you think you will wish you had waited
Won't your conscience disturb your peace.
Won't you pretend to be happy for the rest of your life?

Organsmuggler:
Rich or poor they still gonna cheat on u, marry the rich/financially stable man cuz it's better to cry in Dubai than your village farm

I love your comment

willingheart:
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

This question is meant for regina Daniel and Ned Nwoko,me can't answer you ooo.

Ned once said that he married then love come later.

One person can't pay the bill oooo

Divoc19:
Marry for love o.

Have you heard 'The Rich Also Cry'?

The poor today might be rich tomorrow.

The rich today might be poor tomorrow.

Make a history with your poor boyfriend and grow in love, experience and riches.

I believe you are not a lazy girl too, so things will be fine later

God bless you the first girl I heard saying the truth hope you are not a feminist

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