xProfx:


Oga, there's nothing wrong with what I asked. Marrying with money as the only motivation is a very bad idea. A lot of financially stable people do go broke later in life and only love can sustain the marriage during those periods.

Forget about any Nollywood, this is reality. If you don't buy the idea kindly move on...

ednut1:
Financially stable man can go broke and vice versa. At 30 do you still have much options I doubt

dpassion8:
@ op I commend ur boldness coming out to share ur plights n being sincere with ur age. had u ever encountered such love from a guy in ur previous relationship sinc ur teenage age till ur late 20s .....d answer will give u d perfect advise ....listen 4get d ideology of marrying a rich guy... though I am not disputing d fact dat money is very necessary in marriage.... but.. I repeat.. but ask urself this very important question do I want to experience marriage life do I really wanna see my kids call me mummy... life is a mystery, just do things when its due.. age waits 4 no one.. God will definitely bless ur union I strongly belive in God.lastly marry who ur heart throbs for.. every other things will automatically fall in place cos God rewards all dat are hardworking of which u are, n I can vividly remember, u never called him lazy in ur post ...God neva built marriage on wealth as a foundation if not Eve would hv rejected Adam ....Wish u luck in which ever decision u take.... God is able.....

Verysmart101:

Look the mans condition wont remain d same again.All OP needs is to discuss with him on d way forward after d marriage,if he's to learn a basic skill fine,i bet you planning is all he needs.

tallerSSS:
Me I have just told my girlfriend to get married to whosever she chooses o . This life no balance again.. money slow to enter and age no de wait.

Chinehz:

I'm not yet married,so let's wait for the married people

ojuu4u:

Thank you for this very realistic point of view..

I think you are the one, align with nolywood stuff here, love can not push koboless marriage to anywhere, its either it grounded or scatter.

Someone who is working and got broke, can easily raise up again far much more that indolent lazy ass from Adam.

A guy of 35 with only ND cert refused to work since he clocks 27-35 now, forming handsome bobo with yeye love.

The girl in question is her bigger enemy, she refused to give space for financial stable guy in her heart, that is why she is loving him, if she tenders her heart and stable guy is good guy, the love will come up less than a month.

Bye Bye to yeye Boyfriend oooo

Just imaging a naija guy will want to go for marriage without doing anything! Where is Africanism in you?

zedegit:


Bad advice. Would you advise your sister like this?

SweetCunt97:
That love will easily turn into irritation when you marry him and things don't get better. Remember your kids, having babies ain't cheap.

zedegit:


Bad advice would you advise your sister like this?

Lucyspa:



Leave her na she dey form stupid love.

Mrscarter:


If you truly love each other don't listen to what anyone else says. I would still marry him and work things out as U go together

Teel012:

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?


nairaland is not a place to get good advice. look for older couples who have been married for over twenty years, at least, maybe in church or somewhere to talk to (never family members) neutral people that won't be biased. that being said,
1. your aunty who called you a fool, was her husband rich when they married? or is he very rich now? is she happy in her marriage?
2. majority of the people here telling you to marry a rich guy are not even in a relationship cos of that mentality, they jump from one guy to another. The moment you start looking for a rich man, you'll always meet one richer and finer than the last one.
3. if you're sure d guy loves you as much as you love him, support him to grow first before thinking of marriage. you know him better than anyone else, do what you can marriage and love are about helping each other develop first.
4. Lastly, only you can take that decision, so think deeply and ask from elders not people who become experts on relationships after dating 8 different guys/girls in a year.
Talk to him about the solution if you really want him and he wants you as much and then work together.
pls understand that I'm not saying you should not marry a rich guy Biko, but think deeply before deciding, cos we can't see the future, but we can create the future we want, not the present.

ojuu4u:


Ur advice is trash, go back and read the post again.

No where op says, her sister ask her to marry rich guy, financial stable guy not necessary rich person.

Its her family member who has married that will tell him nothing but pure truth, because when things go south, she is coming to them for undeserved financial assistant and not church members.

If you urself read the post carefully, op has confirmed that, her jobless guy's family OYO type.

Its only foolish, wicked and inexperienced will advice a lady to marry complete jobless guy, except if the Lady has spiritual problems of getting husband.

Teel012:


thanks, let her take what might be useful to her there and use.

jornwhite:



What is bad in her rendering support to a man she claims to love, or must help only flow from men to women.
Lets even assume the worst happen, he dupes her n run away, is it not better to lose money that to enter a one chance piece of marriage.
To secure the future we must take risk, no two ways about it.

MadeMan01:


Are you saying love is stupid/irrelevant? Why waste time dating if it's irrelevant? Why not just sit back and wait for arrangee marriage

ojuu4u:



I think you are the one, aligning with nolywood stuff here, love can not push koboless marriage to anywhere, its either it grounded or scatter.

Someone who is working and got broke, can easily rise up again far much more that indolent lazy ass from adam.

A guy of 35 with only ND cert refused to work since he clocks 27-35 now, forming handsome bobo with yeye love.

In fact, OP is her own bigger enemy, she refused to give space for financial stable guy in her heart, that is why she is not loving him, if she tenders her heart, provided the 2nd guy is a good guy, the love will come up less than a month.

Bye Bye to yeye Boyfriend oooo

Just imaging, naija guy wants to go for marriage without doing anything! Where is Africanism in you?

TransAtlanticEx:
The real question is,
Are financially stable men looking for you to marry or to sleep with?
Before you insult me or broke shame me,pleaseknow that I am very very comfortable and as such wouldn't look at a 30year old woman in Nigeria twice for marriage.
The earlier you all understand this the better for you.
Unless you are very lucky but no big man marries women that aren't in their youth no more.
I mean who get that time to dey jump from one fertility clinic to the other or seeing your old skin almost everyday in the name of marrying old woman and worse still upon all my money?
Never!!!Better marry that poor guy and brush him up with your funds,elsh e na 35 year spinster go clear you

Mrscarter:


Yeah help Ur man rise. That's wat love is

Chinehz:

I'm not yet married,so let's wait for the married people