good afternoon all.

I am in a very delicate situation that I dont know what else to do.
truly, am jobless but am still searching but my mom wouldn't allow me rest, she's always embarrassing me in public that I have not been bringing anything home.

I wasn't like this a year or two ago, I have lost so much that I don't even know where to start from again. though I am job hunting like a hungry animal, I have got loads of interview invites which I have been going but they will say they we will get back to me. i also thought about doing pos, which I have registered with some money with me, but if I don't have enough money, how will make transactions for customer.

because I am frustrated already, with the way am being treated already by my mom and how life is unfair to me. I have begged and borrowed money tire, especially here on nairaland which I have not even cleared. and yet, still stagnant..

yesterday, I saw the worst to ever happen to me.
I went out very early for an interview at ejigbo, for an housekeeper job in hotel. I collected d money I kept with her for my transport fare, she initially didn't want to give me Cus she asked what will my son eat if I collect d whole one thousand. I just had to beg her that am late already for d interview. by the time I came back from d interview, mom has already mobilised everyone in our compound that I stole the spoilt alternator that was removed from her bus to sell to aboki. I was so shocked and embarrassed when I saw these scene. meanwhile, the alternator was kept by jnr brother.

why would my mother do this to me? why did I deserve this? has she ever caught me stealing before? why now? I started thinking about a lot of things. now, she told me to leave d house for her. that i should go and look for money, even if its ritual. won't i work even if atleast i wantvto make money. where did she want me to go? I don't have friends. and also my son, will I leave him for her? if at least I want to go, Cus am thinking about looking for a church to sleep as I continue my job search.

a lot of people are telling me to ignore her, at least its my father's house, and she doesn't have the right to send me away like that, but no, I don't wanna disrespect her, Cus truth be told, she has tried a lot for me in taking care of my fiancee and my son. yes, I made mistakes when I was younger, but is that affecting me now? why is good things not coming my way? do I need a reorientation? if yes, how?

she knows I don't have friends, where does she expect me to go?
is it my fault that things ain't moving well with me?
should I leave my son for her?
where can I go?
is there something am not doing right?
is it my fault that my business shop was burgled by thieves that wrecked me financially?
am I the employers who are not giving me jobs yet?

now I know why a lot of people commit suicide out of frustration, because there was nobody to talk to them.

so here I am elders, I need ur opinions please,
please someone should talk sense to me if there's anything am doing wrong. am planning to leave d house either today or tomorrow, though I don't have a destination yet, but I know God will show me the way, to live and work for a better life.

thank u all

This is quite touching and I feel so sorry you are going through this.


First of all, please suicide should be the last thing on your mind, commiting suicide has no benefit, it is just leaving this earth to continue the hard treatment elsewhere.


I don't know what to say about your mom, and concerning the jobs you ain't getting, why not try out lesser jobs which are easier to get?


It might be way below your standard or level of education, but you need something to start with.


I don't know your gender, but jobs like sales assistant, a join man (if you learnt any handwork), delivery person, laundry assistant and the likes can help you gather something to start your POS business until other jobs click.



To save your sanity, please find somewhere else to stay, a church, a mosque, anywhere good to lay your head. You need space to think and breath fine. You will go back for your son when you are balanced.



You will be fine..

Incase you need someone to talk to and always check up on you, you can message me on WhatsApp via 081*

Ohteebee:
This is quite touching and I feel so sorry you are going through this.


First of all, please suicide should be the last thing on your mind, commiting suicide has no benefit, it is just leaving this earth to continue the hard treatment elsewhere.


I don't know what to say about your mom, and concerning the jobs you ain't getting, why not try out lesser jobs which are easier to get?


It might be way below your standard or level of education, but you need something to start with.


I don't know your gender, but jobs like sales assistant, a join man (if you learnt any handwork), delivery person, laundry assistant and the likes can help you gather something to start your POS business until other jobs click.



To save your sanity, please find somewhere else to stay, a church, a mosque, anywhere good to lay your head. You need space to think and breath fine. You will go back for your son when you are balanced.



You will be fine..

Incase you need someone to talk to and always check up on you, you can message me on WhatsApp via 08*

thank u ma, the stated jobs are the ones I have been applying for recently. I just hope to get any soon. I appreciate this a lot. will message u, pls remove ur number, I have saved it already

You don't have a job and yet you have gotten a girl pregnant and is living in your parents house with your baby mama and son finishing her food. Ogs she has every right to insult you, cos any sensible fellow will secure his future first before talking about his sexual desires.

felong:
You don't have a job and yet you have gotten a girl pregnant and is living in your parents house with your baby mama and son finishing her food. Ogs she has every right to insult you, cos any sensible fellow will secure his future first before talking about his sexual desires.

yeah, thank u for this piece. though, I was doing fine when I impregnated someone. but it is what it is.. it is well sir. I appreciate ur view, u have a valid point

Don't Live With Ur Mother Again. Try & Get Or Do Any Job 4 Survival. I Mean Any Job. It Could Be Bakery, Canteen, Sales Boy Etc.

Being alive is better than being dead.
It is well with you

Truvel:
Don't Live With Ur Mother Again. Try & Get Or Do Any Job 4 Survival. I Mean Any Job. It Could Be Bakery, Canteen, Sales Boy Etc.

yeah, am working on it already thank u

mosdii:
Being alive is better than being dead.
It is well with you

yeah true.. thank u bro

felong:
You don't have a job and yet you have gotten a girl pregnant and is living in your parents house with your baby mama and son finishing her food. Ogs she has every right to insult you, cos any sensible fellow will secure his future first before talking about his sexual desires.

Calm down. People make mistakes

felong:
You don't have a job and yet you have gotten a girl pregnant and is living in your parents house with your baby mama and son finishing her food. Ogs she has every right to insult you, cos any sensible fellow will secure his future first before talking about his sexual desires.

Chill bro, I believe you've made mistakes in life as well.

My brother keep going. Everyone has a story I have lost everything at a time as well but I was lucky I had a supportive mother who encouraged and supported me even though she had her moments of embarrassing me. Where is ur location? Perhaps we on nairaland can recommend you for any job that gets available.
No lose hope brother, better days are coming I swear to God. I have been through it faced hell for two solid years, in a whole year sometimes I won't even have 10k In my account but I thank God for today. God will provide bro, just stay strong.

My brother, you will make it. I am telling you this as a friend. The life of a man is by grace and not by strength. Just remain focus. As for your mom, enjoy her problem. whenever she comes with her problems, just look at her and smiles. She is your mom, people that have lost their problematic mothers to nature are still wishing to see them again, but it's just too late. Meanwhile, when their mothers were alive, they didn't know their importances because they saw them as problem. So, enjoy her problems, flex it, okay! Tell God thank you for giving you such a mother that is pushing you to ur goals. You may see her as a problem, but she is a divine catalyst that will facilitate your success. I knw it's not easy, but try! Just tell her to blessing u with good words becuz the future is bright.

[quote author=Ohteebee post=98459832]This is quite touching and I feel so sorry you are going through this.


First of all, please suicide should be the last thing on your mind, commiting suicide has no benefit, it is just leaving this earth to continue the hard treatment elsewhere.


I don't know what to say about your mom, and concerning the jobs you ain't getting, why not try out lesser jobs which are easier to get?


It might be way below your standard or level of education, but you need something to start with.


I don't know your gender, but jobs like sales assistant, a join man (if you learnt any handwork), delivery person, laundry assistant and the likes can help you gather something to start your POS business until other jobs click.



To save your sanity, please find somewhere else to stay, a church, a mosque, anywhere good to lay your head. You need space to think and breath fine. You will go back for your son when you are balanced.
Ohteebee, u are fantastic! kudos to you!

PattyMike:
My brother keep going. Everyone has a story I have lost everything at a time as well but I was lucky I had a supportive mother who encouraged and supported me even though she had her moments of embarrassing me. Where is ur location? Perhaps we on nairaland can recommend you for any job that gets available.
No lose hope brother, better days are coming I swear to God. I have been through it faced hell for two solid years, in a whole year sometimes I won't even have 10k In my account but I thank God for today. God will provide bro, just stay strong.

amen. thank u so much for this piece sir, I appreciate it very much.. am in Yaba Lagos.

Anfield247:
My brother, you will make it. I am telling you this as a friend. The life of a man is by grace and not by strength. Just remain focus. As for your mom, enjoy her problem. whenever she comes with her problems, just look at her and smiles. She is your mom, people that have lost their problematic mothers to nature are still wishing to see them again, but it's just too late. Meanwhile, when their mothers were alive, they didn't know their importances because they saw them as problem. So, enjoy her problems, flex it, okay! Tell God thank you for giving you such a mother that is pushing you to ur goals. You may see her as a problem, but she is a divine catalyst that will facilitate your success. I knw it's not easy, but try! Just tell her to blessing u with good words becuz the future is bright.

yeah, I understand everything u outlined here. thank u very much sir.

Slimslimqq:
good afternoon all.

I am in a very delicate situation that I dont know what else to do.
truly, am jobless but am still searching but my mom wouldn't allow me rest, she's always embarrassing me in public that I have not been bringing anything home.

I wasn't like this a year or two ago, I have lost so much that I don't even know where to start from again. though I am job hunting like a hungry animal, I have got loads of interview invites which I have been going but they will say they we will get back to me. i also thought about doing pos, which I have registered with some money with me, but if I don't have enough money, how will make transactions for customer.

because I am frustrated already, with the way am being treated already by my mom and how life is unfair to me. I have begged and borrowed money tire, especially here on nairaland which I have not even cleared. and yet, still stagnant..

yesterday, I saw the worst to ever happen to me.
I went out very early for an interview at ejigbo, for an housekeeper job in hotel. I collected d money I kept with her for my transport fare, she initially didn't want to give me Cus she asked what will my son eat if I collect d whole one thousand. I just had to beg her that am late already for d interview. by the time I came back from d interview, mom has already mobilised everyone in our compound that I stole the spoilt alternator that was removed from her bus to sell to aboki. I was so shocked and embarrassed when I saw these scene. meanwhile, the alternator was kept by jnr brother.

why would my mother do this to me? why did I deserve this? has she ever caught me stealing before? why now? I started thinking about a lot of things. now, she told me to leave d house for her. that i should go and look for money, even if its ritual. won't i work even if atleast i wantvto make money. where did she want me to go? I don't have friends. and also my son, will I leave him for her? if at least I want to go, Cus am thinking about looking for a church to sleep as I continue my job search.

a lot of people are telling me to ignore her, at least its my father's house, and she doesn't have the right to send me away like that, but no, I don't wanna disrespect her, Cus truth be told, she has tried a lot for me in taking care of my fiancee and my son. yes, I made mistakes when I was younger, but is that affecting me now? why is good things not coming my way? do I need a reorientation? if yes, how?

she knows I don't have friends, where does she expect me to go?
is it my fault that things ain't moving well with me?
should I leave my son for her?
where can I go?
is there something am not doing right?
is it my fault that my business shop was burgled by thieves that wrecked me financially?
am I the employers who are not giving me jobs yet?

now I know why a lot of people commit suicide out of frustration, because there was nobody to talk to them.

so here I am elders, I need ur opinions please,
please someone should talk sense to me if there's anything am doing wrong. am planning to leave d house either today or tomorrow, though I don't have a destination yet, but I know God will show me the way, to live and work for a better life.

thank u all

Brrrh. ..u ain't no kid no more. Home doesn't have anything to offer except free food.

Lock up brrhhh.. Leave house.. find a real level man... Find updates... Cashout big... Come back after a month and surprise momma with a Lexus 400.

All those ur momma called to insult will bow down from afar just to greet u...


Even ur dead-lost ex-girlfriend would locate u ASAP.

Life ain't funny no more brrhhh. This 2021... It's Either.. You Go Hard or Go Home✌️

Sorry about your situation Bro

You sound like someone that one to do anything to survive as long as it's legit. Since you've been submitting applications here and there without any positive response, could you look for someone that could link you up with anyone that gives tricycle(keke maruwa) on hire

You're gonna be riding it, balancing the owner daily and most importantly have something to take care of yourself and your son(and maybe mom)

That's the only thing I can suggest that will pay you financially in a short time time,and will help you get a foot holding of yourself financially(to some extent) until you bounce back to normal,and then reorganize yourself. One more thing, don't live the house yet, unless you have a place you're going to stay

Mayannar:



Brrrh. ..u ain't no kid no more. Home doesn't have anything to offer except free food.

Lock up brrhhh.. Leave house.. find a real level man... Find updates... Cashout big... Come back after a month and surprise momma with a Lexus 400.

All those ur momma called to insult will bow down from afar just to greet u...


Even ur dead-lost ex-girlfriend would locate u ASAP.

Life ain't funny no more brrhhh. This 2021... It's Either.. You Go Hard or Go Home✌️

thanks for this piece...

Slimslimqq:
amen. thank u so much for this piece sir, I appreciate it very much.. am in Yaba Lagos.

Send me a private message with your contact information and then forward ur CV so I can send to a friend of mine there.

Site job na 2k daily bro

SavageBoy:
Sorry about your situation Bro

You sound like someone that one to do anything to survive as long as it's legit. Since you've been submitting applications here and there without any positive response, could you look for someone that could link you up with anyone that gives tricycle(keke maruwa) on hire

You're gonna be riding it, balancing the owner daily and most importantly have something to take care of yourself and your son(and maybe mom)

That's the only thing I can suggest that will pay you financially in a short time time,and will help you get a foot holding of yourself financially(to some extent) until you bounce back to normal,and then reorganize yourself. One more thing, don't live the house yet, unless you have a place you're going to stay

I really like this idea, I will go out to make now to get a link for the tricycle or Korope on hire. and also if u have anyone who could give out on hire pls kindly quote. I so much appreciate this ur advice.

PattyMike:


Send me a private message with your contact information and then forward ur CV so I can send to a friend of mine there.

ok, will pm u now. thanks very much

IceColdVeins:
Site job na 2k daily bro

do u have anyone u can link me to, I will appreciate it. thanks sir