I'm married for the past 10 years so I can relate.
It used to be a big deal eating @ home for me. But as the children pile up and u see the stress your wife goes through. You will prefer to reduce her stress whenever the opportunity presents itself.

For we that eat out. Sometimes, it's preferable in the morning to waking up your wife to give you food when you know she spent half of the night taking care of a baby.

Very simple.
It is human nature.
For those that study hard and pass an exam with flying colors, do you still see them studying hard after the results of the exam is out
No, they mostly want to rest.

I believe most girls are to blame. They feel that playing hard to get will make the guy value them.
It only happens if the guy has deep feelings for them or they are way above the guys standard, or they have something that stands them out from other girls.

Personally, I dislike girls that play hard to get and I don't value them after getting what I want because I believe I worked for it and earned it. But those girls that go with the flow and agree because they like me, I value and respect them more because I know their likeness and love is a gift and they are taking a chance on me.

Your present situation is a double win for you. Don't throw it away by the urge to be independent.

Your stay with your sister is also helping her and you manage your bills.
She is not fully recovered. I suggest you talk with her on if she wants you to still stay, or she wants her privacy. With no hard feelings.

If she wants you to stay. Then stay and save more ND plan your future better

Come on. It's normal human nature to still miss someone you were used to for a couple of years after just few months separation.

If you didn't miss him, then your bond then was not strong.

I will advise you try as much as possible to stay up to year. Move on with your life.
I can tell you, that you would look back and wonder why you even took long with him before breaking up.

The only thing that can make you miss him is if the current person you are dating does not measure up.

Just relax and give it more time. You also need to start going out, meeting people and socializing. Your introvert nature is not helping.
Makes your mind fertile for the devils job.

You are a big idiot with an entitlement mentality.

Why don't you also get angry and jealous when people you senior by age die before you or have accident.

Imagine the stupid post.
Know this truth and stop being stupid.

Some people whom you senior will always be better than you and will always be your oga.
It is how the world has always been.

For example, if your father was brought before the French president, even your father would call him sir and be respectful. Yet that man is just in his 40s.

In the Bible, Joseph's brothers had the same mentality as you. Jealousy made them sell him.
But finally, they realized the truth that destiny is not by seniority, and that this life is deep.
They eventually humbled themselves.

Try and learn to be humble. If you are, there would be no need for your post.
CAST YOUR ARROGANCE ASIDE

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The flag shows USA as the location.
I think the person represents the president whom in turn represents the country.

The guns are available at normal height which shows they use weapons and war handily.

By climbing the stool reaching for a book whilst disregarding the guns shows that their leaders keep reaching for a higher intellectual calling - democracy.
But the fact that his hand hasn't touched it means they are yet to achieve their goals a

For where,
Me back off ke!

That is when I fire on all cylinders and 90% of the time, I win.
It can be a powerful feeling when ur knacking the girl and one of her toasters is on the phone simping for her.

Or when u have Been in there, done and dusted and she is still madly in love with you whilst those ones chasing her are still being friend zoned. ☺️

Both options look good and would work.

However, it's the finer details that determine which would be successful and place you on a sound footing.

Are you assured of getting admission at the ibadan polytechnic? Also, what is their school fee?

Have u started processing admission in Lagos and what is the sch fees??

What kind of person is your uncle. Is he reliable, or is he playing an angle that you are not seeing that concerns your future?? Is he a good man and would the accommodation he is offering be a good place with no drama or a way to trap you down??

Once you have answers to these questions, you can make your decision

Partial liquidation of a fixed deposit is allowed.

You would just lose a part of the interest you otherwise would have earned.

How much is Toyota sequoia 2001 complete engine.

100k per month.
You will work for almost 5 years to make 5m and it won't be bulk cash 5m as it is difficult to save 5m from ur salary when u also have expenses.

My advice, take the 5m and look for a good business to invest

No be juju be dis?

You have eyes but not reading the handwriting on the wall. The good part is that you are not married to her yet.
Candidly, she doesn't see you in her future plans which is why she is not even hiding her negative character or trying to impress you.

My advice is, work seriously on yourself and improve your life. keep her as a sidechick and get a better lady you can use to pepper her

Life is simple.
Why make it complex

His wife is an adult and has all her faculties intact. If she insists on going back to her parents house or she will commit suicide, he should let her go.

Just give her 1 or 2 months and go back to discuss with her and her parents.
If it ain't working, the man should let her be.

It's live and let live.
He should learn the lessons and move on with his life.

He might even be happier in future

A breast in hand is worth 2 in d bra that just left

Good day house,
My first application was refused in May. I obtained my gcms notes and want to reapply.

I'm I to resubmit a fresh statement of account or use the same documents from my sponsor originally submitted?
Also, do you advise I perform an upfront medicals or await their prompting for medicals?

Kindly help me with necessary clarifications to avoid stories that touch.

Are you seriously serious
You sound so holier than thou.

Please, urgently leave the guy as I think you do not deserve him.
Let a reasonable lady have him.

I see your type everyday. So caught up and brain washed by pentecostal pastors.
You should even wait for a vision from your pastor for your life partner.

My advice is that you should leave the young man since you are no more comfortable with going ahead with the wedding.
This is because when the marriage starts experiencing challenges lik every other marriage, you would always second guess and blame yourself for choosing a wrong life partner.

Also note that Christians marry Muslims and they live happily. Christians even marry other non Christians and they are happy. Methodists marry Anglicans ; Anglicans marry Catholics ; Redeemed marry Living faith., etc. And they are all happy.
The key ingredient required is love and understanding which you seem to lack.

The answer is simple.
Look at Michelle Obama, Hillary Clinton, etc.

Your mom is a wise woman. A woman that grows with her man6has a say and can never play second fiddle. At a point, the much feared Abacha could only be approached through the wife whom new him and struggled with him when he was a nobody.

Imagine marrying a rich already made man. You are entering another kind of prison where your voice will never count.

My advice, marry an upcoming man, but hardworking, with dreams and visions

What makes u a loser.

Ur simply being childish and need to take a larger view of the world and its happenings.

What of your colleagues that are dead, or the ones in hospital? Better park well man.

Guaranteed, you will naturally feel bad. But give it a few days and d pain fades. Focus on your self and do what makes u happy.

Some people make it early in life only to lose it all at a later age. Some make it later in life and live happily ever after. I have seen oil workers with hefty salaries die poor. I have seen Bank managers and MDs live their old age in penury.

You need to borrow yourself sense and know that every man runs his own race as everyone came into the world alone and their coffin is for them alone. You also need to swallow your pride and make the call. It might be from there you would get your upliftment. You only don't associate with such persons when it becomes clear that they are useless to you and only want to use u to feel good about themselves.

It's simple. The family representative that brought the news to you seems to be part of the deal to make you cough out some more money.

Don't show any apprehension. Just inform him that you are waiting for any untoward action from anyone, then they will know the village you come from.

Meanwhile, make a prior report @ the police station and put them on notice. If you have a top brass police officer, now is the time to make use of the connection and prepare for whatever Gbege wan happen.

I commend you man.

However, your situation is a bit dicey. It's smart to stop spending on her until marriage since she is also using the religious angle as an excuse not to know your place.

On the other hand, what if you finally marries her and for the reason should could not pay the fees on time, it affects her graduation and you are stuck with a wife that is not a graduate and as such is limited in achieving things a graduate can easily achieve like jobs, etc.

My brother, think carefully and weigh it.

I will advice you pay if the money is available.

If I were the president of Nigeria,
I would do the following :

1. Massive security reforms: make the police laws and criminal justice system more effective. Nigeria is massively under policed. Create federal, state and local government policing and make sure all members of the federal police are university graduates with a good welfare system, and modern federal police stations with well equipped ICT systems in every state. Also create an active forensic department. And get the best and brightest to head the various units in the police force.
Also create excellent welfare system and modern equipments for the army, navy and airforce

2. Undertake massive infrastructure works for roads and railway networks in the country. No need for awarding contracts as it is just a waste to the country's treasury and another way to steal funds. Under the ministry of works and ministry of labor, create a database comprising graduates and secondary school leavers. Create a skill to work system which certifies artisans and apply them under the ministry of works to build quality roads and lay quality railways across the country using raw materials that we have in abundance. (this plan takes care of unemployment and fixes all federal and state roads in a period of 2 years) To make this work, utilize the services of Nigerian Society of Engineers, COREN, and the various engineering departments in the universities that cover each zone of Nigeria to oversee and make sure the quality is standard. Also stop all importation of heavy equipments, engines and railway coaches. Our polytechnics, universities, and home companies should be encouraged to partner with the foreign based ones for a transfer of technology and technical skills for assembly and eventual production of these items. (a detailed national plan as regards industrialization should be put in Place and activated). Also ensure persons of impeccable character and goal getters whom are well qualified and understand the overall goal and bigger picture are put in charge of the affected ministries, parastatals, and agencies.
Pass laws that make it a criminal offense and makes it possible for the prosecution of directors of companies involved in contract scams as well as everyone linked to a poorly executed contract done for the people of Nigeria.

3. On the economy, create entrepreneurial labs in all the LGAs of the country manned by well qualified personnel whom have a good welfare structure in place for them, and are accessed on the successes of the various entrepreneurs they incubate and bring up. Every graduate and every business man with a business plan should be given direct access to these entrepreneurial labs whom will assist them in fine tuning their plan, recommending for funding and activating the business plan. There should be a direct linkage between these entrepreneurial labs and the various business schools/business Admin departments of various universities /polytechnics scattered around the county. The funding for these entrepreneurial growth should be at least 15% of the budget with contributions from the profits of firms as well as the CBN and Banks.

4. Massive investment in the education sector and the health sector. Give ASUU, NASU, and every university / polytechnic union what they want and more. Then put in place adequate monitoring mechanism to take care of truant Lecturers, lazy Lecturers, those that engage in sexual exploitation, cultism, etc. and completely deal with them and flush them from the system. The system should be merit driven and reward hard work and research amongst the academic community.
Concerning the health sector, immediate upgrade of 1 teaching hospital in every geopolitical zone of the country to international world class standard. To achieve this, create a solar farm/alternate power for the supply of electricity in each of these teaching hospitals as the lack of it is the No. 1 problem hospitals face. Also head hunting of the best doctors and nurses and continuous training and certification programs for them. This would halt the medical tourism to other countries. Revamp the NHIS and make it a citizen friendly scheme to bring quality healthcare to every Nigerian. Also unveil a road map /long term plan for the health sector and protect the plan through the use of certain laws/regulations. This would enable different players in the health care sector key in at various levels and plan sufficiently as well as make the required investments.

5. Immediate institutional reforms for institutions such as INEC to make the electoral system more transparent, and make all votes count, and make it impossible for violators to go scot free.
Prison service reforms especially as regards this on awaiting trial. Pursuing a complete computerization of the prisons service which would be linked to the police force, and also the Judiciary.

6. Creating a clear cut foreign policy of "Nigeria first". And implementing same for all Nigerians in any part of the world.

7. Proper manning of Nigeria's porous borders by deploying technology. Having a border station at every 50km of the border and utilizing drones for aerial surveillance. These border stations must all be linked by quality roads and a wire gauze fence erected with mines placed properly to stop any incursion through an unauthorized pathway. (this particular proposal is very doable and achievable especially in the far north. And for the riverine communities, proper mining of unauthorized zones with video and drone usage would halt entry through unathourized pathways)

8. Finally, creating a framework for illegal oil bunkerers / refiners operating in the Niger delta region to be supervised and enable them operate legally. Also setting up as much privately operated modular refineries as possible.
Making sure that Ajaokuta steel and other steel companies are operating effectively and efficiently (liaising with NSE & COREN) to achieve this.


To achieve this, I would need to appoint the best brains even if it entails head hunting Nigerians from any part of the world. To make up my aides and ministers. I should have a coordinating secretariat at the office of the presidency that would serve as my war room, and it would be operational 24/7

I'm a man and happily married.
The Bible says - two cannot walk together unless they agree.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment until death and not always a bed of roses, but it is worth it.

It might be painful, but I think you should start handing off the relationship.
What makes you think he is the only one? Infact, I see him as not fully matured for the next stage of marriage with his stance.

Just concentrate on being you, improving yourself and getting better everyday.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is He. At least he was truthful and gave you a heads-up. It would have been double jeopardy if you found yourself pregnant, and he starts giving you all these stories and reasons and you automatically become a baby mama. You would not be happy and would hate yourself and him for a long time.

Also, change the way you think and start affirming that there are lots of wonderful guys out there and he is just 1 of them. That you would definitely meet others that are even better.
Cos the train of your thoughts subconsciously attracts what you believe.

Stay cool lady.

Place a high premium on yourself, and don't settle for less.

Remember, you only live once. So make the best of it.

Candidly, you need to change how you see things.
You seem to be the type of man that would blame a woman for giving birth to a female child, not knowing you are the cause.

Why are whites different from the black man? The answer is obvious. They ascribe happenings to cause and effect and not any ill luck or supernatural.

The fire that razed down your shop could be caused by a number of factors, the least being your wife, unless she went there and deliberately set fire to your shop.
Moreover, having put all your goods in one place without the foresight of dividing them in case of fire, or having a fire insurance policy in place shows the fault is yours.

Kindly man-up and strategize and hold your wife close cos her help and added emotional support is needed for you to bounce back

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Science has shown dat women fall in love. But for men, its a matter of choice. They were not created dat way.
Oxytocin is a hormone dat is linked to love feelings, and females secrete the hormone. A woman secretes it in large quantities when she orgasms during sex which probably explains why d feelings a lady has for a guy gets more intense once they have sex and He is able to bring her to a climax.
Women also secrete oxytocin in large quantities during childbirth and during breastfeeding.
In other Words, Oxytocin is the luv hormone, and men have it in minute detail. Which is why the Bible commanded men to love their wives. Cos for women, once she is given gr8 sex and have a baby, d luv feeling flows naturally. Every other feeling not linked to dis which a woman experiences is infatuation.