ebila:

@Poster,
From day one that guy wasn't real.It's over so just quit worrying urself over him.Look for someone more deserving.

Finally some1 is making sense around here

agitator:

if you are not cheating why not let them know that the relationship is not serious? When guys do these same things the are classed as heartbreakers. You just need the five guys because of the dough you are getting from them. I think you are looking for a politician who can meet all you obnoxious financial demands. You are the type that when they get old will marry aany available man by paying the bride price.

Such a conclusion for such a fine lady, wow NairaLanders are just something else

OMO IBO:

umm threadstarter, are you actually 40?

No of cause not, way older than that

touchmeder:

babe keep dragging nothing do you
i'd never get this reasoning sha, if they are not what you want why drag them along? if they are not it, drop them and keep searching for the right one.  what do you now do with a whole 5people. if they are not the one what good can they be doing for you until you find the right one. surely they must be doing something that makes u keep dragging them. pray tell me?

I am a human being and humanity is flawed in every possible way

touchmeder:

Tracy121 where do u reside? i have a friend in the states that used to act like that too. she says she is still searching so those guys are simply dates (at times she had two or three)she tried to convince me that its something that obtains in the states and its not cheating by any stretch of imagination. i never really understood her but respected her decision. luckily for her she finally met the person she claims she is serious with now.

And she was right dude its not cheating blv me, coz when u feel like u havent meet the person, U have to go out there and look for him and u will never know which corner u will find him so u better not leave any stone unturned, I cant settle for less or dwell for what I know is not mine, so keep moving foward and if it means dragging some ppl with u then do that even if they are 5 as long as u know ur limits, it might just be what is written on ur book of life u came to play

sexybabes:

If u save them as Baby, my luv, honey, wateva u call them & they blv they in a r/s wit u then u r cheatin.
Keep it up!!!

Which should serve them right, U know what, in this 5 Bf's of mine I save one number as mobile 1, mobile 2, the other office, then home, and the fax

@MRbrownJAY
Only 3 words for u bro , , [size=20pt].OH MY GOD[/size]

sexybabes:

And u say u dont cheat, Now da truth is cumn out.
Whrz justwise? cum & read dis, Lol!!!

No honey, I dont cheat, a person is cheating when s/he is seeing someone whereas s/he is in a serious or committed r/s or maybe married, otherwise ur not cheating if ur not serious about the r/s regardless of what ur partner thinks or how s/he sees the r/s as long as u know ur limits and u know ur not committed, I means when ur in an affair/fling u have to keep looking for that special some1 n u'll never know where n when u will find him so No Babes I dont cheat, I am just looking for the right one and in all the 5 I have none of them meet the standards not even close, LOL

i havent tried them dear but my ex taught me a thing or 2 about cheating since i used 2 catch him everytime & that in the list is not it,  feel me?

He must have been a bad liar sweetie ha!!!! right now I am dating 5 ppl and I saved all their numbers in my phone book as "Baby", "Love", "Love of my life" u name it and then when they see that I saved their names as that they loose interest to go to my msges coz they know that I wont save them as Baby and all the crap if there was some1 else, last week I was with one of them and left him with my phone, the next thing when I come back he was all smiling with my phone in his hands, reading the msg I sent to one of my guys and he thought I sent it to him coz it says Baby, and when he dial his number Baby is written on the screen so he asked how come he didnt get the msg, told him it was probably undelivered, easy as ABC and XYZ LOL,

justwise:

Well, does that mean u don't do men?, ahahaha

You and ur questions!!!!! It actually means I do it but preferable with the right ones not with anyone
Is that enough to get u off my shoulders

justwise:

I guess u talking from experience, u and Tracey know one or two things abt this cheating game, ahaha

Dont even start associating me with that b1tch hey, whatever she does is Despicable and another thing I dont cheat, never cheated, never have a serious r/s but flings with no wings and no no no, Not one nights stand, my Pupu is too way precious to be tasted by any opposite sex I come across with, LOL

sexybabes:

Dont even try the list sweety otherwise u will get busted 1st attempt, lol!

So since ur one woman who have tried everything in this world I assume u have tried that too and u got busted, tragedy

sexybabes:

I know what you mean, Reason why I dont load my fone anymore its because I dont wana call my ex and if I do load it(& since its 4 contract they load it 4 me) when I get the urge 2 call him, I call my gf's so that I will finish it. I worked well in 4months, Lol!!! Talk about pride, hey

Thats why I stay the hell away from airtime these days, I know some female acquaintances who when they are drunk start thinking and calling their ex's, I know some ppl who wud stop at nothing just to get their hands on their ex's, the only ex's who doesnt give a damn about them, and I dont wana repeat the same mistake as them, u know the saying, life is too short we cant do all of those mistakes we can learn some from other ppl, so when no one is there to watch my back I do it myself hey, we have to discipline our urges once in a lifetime hey

justwise:

Hahahaha,  u are such a character, carefully chose ur words, well i know where u coming from, i keep the remaining questions

LMAO, Thank u for understanding my concern of unnecessary exposure, LOL

sexybabes:

@Tracey121
In this 40 yrs i'v known u, I can proudly say "Liar", Lol!!

SexyAssHole please we dont talk about those things here LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
we dont mention terms such as liars which according to ur interpretation is the vesion of a truth with a white lie
LOL

justwise:

HMMMMmmmm u never had serious rela/ship? does that mean u have had more one nitter then?
U can post my 5 , haha

Wow hang on buddy, according to my interpretation there 3 types of r/s
1. Serious
2. A fling
3. A Fling with sexual intimacy
And for the past 40 yrs I have been having flings and the good thing about them is that I can have those flings as much as I want and as many as I want without being attached or committed to anything whatsoever

Please don't held me captive with the above statements ok, Just go and figure out, No more questions from u coz I see ur this close to squeezing the truth out of me

sexybabes:

@Tracey
T-gal, Im nt an expect in dis r/s issue myself bt I wil tel u dt dnt evn bothr 2 stress urself ova da guy dt deleted u on FB bcz of jus cigars.
Bt 4 me, I like 2 hv closer coz it helps u 2 move on. Mayb u cud jus meet up wit him & found out why, dt shud give u closer & makn sure dt he dsnt cum bak lyin aftr a while & say he ddnt dump u. Coz if he tels u straight up in ur face dt means he wont hv an excuse lata on.

Yah ur right sweetie we all need closure but sometimes its not worth it, worse when it involves such assholes, but the thought of calling him makes me shiver

ubreal:

caugt my girl frnd in bed with my best frnd this mane, iam so confuse what do i do

U were suppose to be facing a life sentence in Jail for killing both of them

justwise:

Now u see my point? Told u that ladies does it better

Yah I do see ur point and if u were I'd be giving u 5 now, I never have a serious r/s so I never cheat, but I have had more than 3 ppl thinking I love them at the same time

lawrea:

how do u see polygamy between young people in the present day?

If ur a conflict seeker and enjoy problematic life, u go for it, u'd probably die with heart attack or stroke with that kind of life style

I guess Im gona have to do this more often, dude take ur head out of ur ass and use ur brain
How old are u and how old is she?

Oh My God, what does a person have to do to get rid of inarticulate dumb asses in this world

Now back to ur question
I dont think it will be ur choice to decide what to do with this situation, everything lies in ur BF's hands, he is the one to decide if he still wants the girl or not

So now if I were a guy I wud not go back to such an indecisive b1tch, she is not worthy to be with anyone in this world, first she turned the poor guy down and now that she sees that there are girls who are willing to go an extra mile with her ex she wants him, that's selfish

but now if we say maybe the girl was not ready by then, sure she wud have said so not to tell him that she has to wait for God to come down in order to say yes which everybody knew it was impossible, so if the guy is smart enough he'd tell the girl to take a hike coz she was a given a chance and she just have to blew it didnt she? maybe bcoz she thought no one would want the guy

sesman:

can some body translate please

If I understand this correctly, The guy dated a woman, propose to her and she refused, and then the guy moved on and date other women but the girl who refused his proposal could not accept that and he made or force the guy to break up with those women he dated after she refused his proposal, then again the guy meet the POSTER and again the girl start to do what she does best(Vandalize any r/s that this guy who suppose to be her fiance or husband tries to initiate) and the poster confronted her about it telling her that if she still needs or love the guy the poster can leave the guy for her and the girl claimed that she hasn't got a msg from God telling her to marry the guy so she will never marry the guy even if he was the only guy in the world until God comes down, so the relationship between the Poster and the guy mature and now the girl who refused the proposal was a bit jealous and decided to approach the guy telling him that she made a mistake by refusing a proposal and now she is accepting so I guess the question is if u were a guy or the poster what wud u do in such situation

galatico:

That serves the Girl right!!! You know guys are passinate about soccer, so you don't have to disturb them when they are watching soccer, what she did by switching off the Tv only made the matter worse, what she should have done was to ignore all temptations and just walk in, then after the match she should be outspoken and tell her guy what she dislikes,

Guys U cant be angry and think at the same time, its as hard as a honey guy to use his brain when he is with a sexy lady, so ppl some emotions cant be tempered with other emotions at the same time, do u have any idea how it feels to find everything all over the place and the person who messed all that up is busy enjoying soccer, yeah she was so rude and inconsiderate to do that so was the guy but it does not justify her actions but sometimes we do things out of anger and we regret after, no crucifying hey

justwise:

Maybe ur sister under-estimated him, she is used to been treated well, she failed to appreciate that, she might think its automatic to get those juicy treatment. He will not just switched off and start being nasty, something triggered it

And there is only one thing that change a man's behavior and that wud "He has or Got another pussy to Bleep" and trust me its always that or maybe he is hoping to get the new pussy soon so he is paving his way to a new pussy and now he wants his wife to be out of his case

They all sum up to one thing mainly depending on the situation but being cheated on sounds worse than the other and yet again cheating might results in u loosing the 80% of what is required to make love work for some 20% of a fling that was not gona go anywhere anyway and on that case I wud choose not to cheat and not to be cheated

Tough Situation that has been happening to my sister and I have never been able to pin down how to deal with it, I guess most guys turn to be monstors once they are comfortable around their women, I mean I cant handle that to my own sisters how do u handle it to ur BF or Husband coz those ppl tend not to listen and be stubborn, I think those kinda things requires both teams to sit down and talk about their concerns and how they can go about it but that isnt easy when the other party is as stubborn, guys can be a lot of work and stress at times and again some1 stands there and say get married so that u can be unhappy maybe? some things man just get out of hand, I mean my sister is been married to this guy for 10 yrs and he is been treating her like a queen and all of a sudden he changed to this monster that I dont even know myself

But Seriously now U shudnt have switched off the TV not in front of his buddies

oyinda.:

so how did u meet the current asshole ur with now? and the previous one? i'm very curious.
i mean he stores ur name as abc and xyz on his phone. that's very pathetic u kno? that alone should make u fall out of love in an instant. i'm very confused for u.  

I met the current a$$ hole in a party but we never talk to each other coz he thought I was with someone there and then my friends told me that he is been asking about me and I thought no man it could be someone else he is asking, I wasnt the only person who was wearing a white Jacket at that party so one stupid day I met him, I was on lunch and he said, "Hey I have been asking for u and been looking for u" I didnt know him by then I thought it was one of those silly pick up lines u know, and I said "Spare me the bullshit of senseless pick up line dude" and he explain that he saw me at the party and he never stop thinking about me and he is been asking my friends about me, who knew him b4 the party so Im like Gee we dont meet those kinda guys who sees u once at night in the party and never 4get u, so there I go asking him why he didnt say anything he told me I was with a guy there and I left with him early so he guessed that I was seeing the guy and I told him he was my friend giving me a lift to my place and that was honest truth so we exchange numbers, he called and we met and we date, exchange promises of love, do some future planning, share our dreams and all the shit and finally we broke up, So does this do the trick for u

I met the other ass hole in the concert, I loved him the very first moment I lay my eyes on him, he was spokesman in the concert, and then u know moss I do some flirting and all the crap and finally I won his heart only if I did anyways and then after on and off in the relationship, kissing and makes up and long boring conversations with him and ignorings of my calls and fightings I finally found out that he had a kid with some1 else while I was in a r/s with him and we were done and now he only came back few weeks telling me all the crap about the mother of the child, so thats how it goes, hope that makes sense, lazy to proof read

Love's a dirty game.

No Not a dirty game but a box full of horrible analogies which at times we find it practically impossible to leave it behind

C2H5OH:

Tracey, I for one would question your taste in men.  But I stop just short of doing that because I have come to realize that we all have different tastes.  There was the awkardness f you having to find out that your prior boyfriend knocked up your homegirl, and you were still in the process nursing thoughts of welcoming him back into your life.  Now with you having to deal with this I'm short of words.  I just think that with the caliber of men you date you should have seen it from a mile away that problems like this would arise.

If you have gotten the cigarettes from him once before, why exactly did you refuse to get them now?

If the guy can ditch you like that over a puff of smoke, I doubt he really cares that much about you anyhow.  But what do I know?

I have given up in trying to understand why u guys think that, bcoz I bought cigars once, I have to do that for my entire life even when I don't want to and thats why Im not gona try and defend myself on that one coz I personally think its crazy

Ok now back to my dilemmas with guys, I guess I am always falling for the wrong guys now aren't I? and I don't know how a person deal with that, we don't choose whom we fall in love with, when our hearts making choices its just not in our hands, so I guess Im gona have to re-do this more often hey

Some questions are just as lame as their answers