Amya, if you give it to me, I promise I'll never go on Facebook again. In short, my FB days are over!

@Rockchick,

Nobody can tell you what's best to do but know this - if he's cheated on you already during the relationship and you decide to stay, you'll be faced with dealing with mistrust for a long time. He might be apologetic now, but when years have gone by and you havent gotten over his tryst, you'll start hearing "If you cant get over it, maybe we shouldnt be together" and the like.

Plus, I'm a guy and I can tell you that we hardly get caught the first time. It is sooooo unlikely. But you are funny o! You had the presence of mind to take a good, long look at the girl and to see her "Mercy Johnson" type attributes. if she's so endowed that you, a babe would notice, perhaps you shouldnt blame a defenceless bloke after all. 

Here's what you need to do;

The Strategy

Change the dynamics of your relationship. You need to throw her a curve ball. She don see you finish and so she's out to have a little fun, enjoy attention from this fellow and she isn't even doing a good job of hiding it (fortunately for you).

The Tactic

Cut off communication completely without any warning. Dont call, dont text, no FB or BB messages. You sound like you talk to her everyday, so give it a couple weeks or more. Make sure it's for a period that will have her worrying, doing the calling, sending the messages. It'll be hard, heart wrenching perhaps, but you're a man . . . bite the bullet and it'll pay off.

If you somehow take her call without knowing it, be polite but distant. When she asks why you're different, dont give a reason. Make an excuse and get off the phone quickly. It's all about who comes out tops in the mind game and if you can persuade yourself that she's already gone you'll be able to be brutally efficient at blanking her.

The Result

She'll have to make a decision. That's what you want. Dragging out the end is pointless and if she's gonna stay with you, she needs to know that you will not tolerate philandering.
She'll either decide her boss is the one or she'll come to the point where she decides that he's not worth losing you over. There is one other scenario though - she could "wise up" and start keeping much more away from you.  .  .  .  eating her cake and having it. But it's a risk worth taking.

Mrs.Chima:

Good question OP.


Desolah,

If she is good enough to bleep then she should be good enough to marry.  NO EXCUSE. 

Even you cannot believe that. Some babes are perfect for bleeping, they're spontaneous, adventurous and wanna do me as much as I wanna do them. Unfortunately, that's a miniscule part of being take-home-to-mamma material.
In fact, I wouldnt wanna get up to the kind of "crazy" with my woman that I'd get down to with some babes.

Pweety4me:

"I Need A Girl Like You"


Is this a guy with genuine intrest?, or a guy with a desperate craving?


your views please.

Pweety, it's a guy with a desperate craving in a genuine interest.
He is genuinely interested in fulfiling his intense craving for you. I hope this helps!

rokiatu:

Love her back.

There's nothing wrong in sharing.

Abi o! The babe is generous jare. If she has enough to give both of you, then take your own fair share and stop griping. 

But on second thoughts, if all you get is a peck and the other bobo dey get the full monty, I suggest that you apply for equal distribution of her "allocation".

Michellin, you must've met a couple of my ex's right before you began this thread. If no be laptop, na phone, if no be phone na "money to hang out with my friends". Mchewww!

No way I'm keeping them. She was tooooo darn hot!

Darn! Aminalib, your bloke is so not sharp. If you're gonna 2 time, then at least do it right.
Dump him for good jare, cheating is second only to incompetence.

Cocoa, dial my number, I can give you some "free" consultation abiut this delicate matter!

rokiatu:

Sorry.

Even your forefather didn't know the answer to that question.


I am a woman myself and I can not even give you a straight answer that cuz women do not know what they want.

Roki dear, your honesty is refreshing!

Abekeade,

After looking at your profile pic, I've got just one question - Can I be your tree?

Amya, sounds like the perfect arrangement. NSA all the way. Oya come here now . . .

gangstaboo:

@Tru, correo electronico que se

Ga-boo, enviar correo electrónico a la dirección de correo electrónico en mi perfil.

gangstaboo:

TRU MANTRA!!!

hey do you have yahoo so we can keep in touch? I have been too busy to log in on NL much.

Ga-boo, mi dirección de correo electrónico está en mi perfil! Envíeme por correo electrónico?

ga-boo?!?

gangstaboo:

@Tru . . .

Touche!

si papi podemos tener muchos mas.

Ooooh Ga-boo, lo quiero. Lo necesito. Dar más a mí.   
Y quiero darte más.

G-boo, speaking Spanish with you is so much fun but I know a couple other ways to get you speaking foreign languages.
I could have you speaking in "diverse tongues" if you would "roll" with me.

gangstaboo:

@Tru . . . it's called google lolll! And nope, it's all about that dirty southhhh! Ayyyyeeee

West Coast or Dirty South .  .  .  we're on the same continent lol! I love the "dirty" south.

Usted sabe que yo amo cuando coqueteas. ¿Podemos tener un poco más?

gangstaboo:

-->Tru-man<--
Ohhh bien bien, yo tambien. Su coqueteo es tan sexy cuando. (Winks)
Anyways, do you live in the US? Am curious because alot of people either on here live in Nigeria or various other places in Europe, Asia etc

Now you've stretched my Spanish to the limit!
Yup . . . I live in the US. West coast baybay!

G-boo, mas o menos . . .

G-booooooooooo!

G-boo . . .

Queeneve, Ghana's just fine with the cows walking around. It helps with the ambience. And you know, a friend of mine had an accident when she slammed her vehicle into a cow as it sauntered across the road in Kansas so we've got em here as well.

gangstaboo:

Ooops, did not scroll up that far . Sowwiee Tru-man (: Ima call you that from now on !

Okayy, i stopped @ "I've got one that's big enough to last the long haul," That's all I need to know . Now I know what you working with and how we can get it popping .

You can dive to any depth, just don't be too rough, unless it's needed. Because pay attention, diving is an acquired skill: the initial dip should be gentle, you need to get the feel for it and then once you're suspended you should plunge down with force

G-Boo, the mastery of gentleness and force is the hallmark of a true man (pun intended).
I do have one habit though . . . each time I'm "suspended" in the waves when I dive, I like to explore. No nook or cranny escapes me, I go through em all.
Once I master the area, I can deep dive with force knowing that I have acquired the skill to grasp the "climax" of my aspirations - the pearl!

^ ^ ^
Ga' boo, did you read my last post?

gangstaboo:

@Tru Mantra. Yes. When you come diving for my pearl makes sure you pack extra swimwear and an extra big diving tank, you will probably get drenched . . . that is, if you know how to properly use the equipment. It is an acquired skill like you said (winks).

G-boo, I always don the right gear when I dive . . . got me swimwear in different shades and hues. No worries there.
As for a diving tank, I've got one that's big enough to last the long haul, plus I know how to work it like a pro.

Still, I know that every new vista requires new skills. Diving to different depths requires different methods. I love to "study" and I always pay close attention to detail.

Can I "learn" you?

G-boo, I'm ready to go diving for pearls. Like I said in my last post, do I get help?
Shelling clams is an acquired skill and who better to help than a pearl?

gangstaboo:

And Tru Mantra, Yeah I know I miss the beach &&Where I am it's been over 100 for the past two weeks or so, what a shame. It makes one want to walk around unclothed and be done with it . . . Well, like a clam I don't open up easily, but once I do, you'll discover the most beautiful pink pearl inside

Me want! Tru Mantra wants a pearl!!!
And I might just have the right "tool" to open your shell.

Do I get pointers or will I have to figure out your "combination" all by myself?

gangstaboo:

Awwww my bad Mantra boo, just been busy with school

How you been?? --Huuugggs--

School in the summer What happened to laying on the beach causing "blood migrations" and "muscle spasms" to members of the male species?

I'm good . . . still haven't gotten you to open up.

^^^
Where have you been G-boo
Tru Man is soooo starting to miss you!

^^^Corky, you're as mad as a hatter. Keeeeeeeewl!