Mystic216:
This protest talks is actually gaining massive momentum all over north, I hope they protest and don’t leave their course to start attacking Igbo people’s businesses.

Leave the talks of them going to stage a peaceful protest, that’s a facade on the actual agenda

Y’all should vent your anger towards the politicians and the political infrastructures and don’t end up attacking innocent people, just because they are from the southern part of this joke called nation.

To compliment your point.
What happens when different ethnic nations find themselves crammed up in a cage by an outsidee who laughs at their stupidity to share the same state apparatus while vying for power ?

GanagiBitrus:

Nature's way is usually the best & safest.

Blame western form of capitalism

duruZed:
Also a woman/man that do not have regard for God is more likely to cheat.

Na those people dey cheat pass. Mtschew! Fear of God kee all of una there.

Slimlord:


Tems an Saida in one sentence. I would probably consider smart by her songwriting skills. I mean they are really good.

So it's by songwriting you guage smartness. Well I'm not surprised sha... The standard of things had for a long time fell in naija, little wonder today's generation would find Ice Spice and 6ix9ine lyrical songwriting has a reflection of how smart they really are.

chucky101:
No wonder I never got the hype about this girl. I know someone like her in real life.. Getting her to engage in conversation was tedious business and she was always stressed.

Isn't that how the majority of them are, but the complaint from guys and men isn't what I don't get, tbvfh!

meobizy:
My guy, @funshografix is not a female. Do with this announcement whatever you want.

Just as you aren't a female.

Namaster:
The reason for this is NOT far-fetched. You are more likely to have a more stimulating conversation with a rock than with the average Nigerian girl.

What made Nigerian girls into the bimbos they are, it's the society, which gender mounts and control the mechanics of the society?

Namaster:
And she's one of the smarter ones.

Ayiti ko'fa, ifa tiin ṣẹ
This your statement just proved my previous point. If celebrities like her and Saida Boj are consider to be the smart ones by the majority of naija guys who give volumes to their following, why hell are you complaining when you don't know the likes of @funshografix who are actually female intellectuals.

turmacs:
shebi as the guy has successfully scattered the marriage now he is happy? Look at how he just scattered the years upon years of happiness and love they've shared together, just because of ordinance DNA test, shior 😒.. I wonder the kind of weak men we have nowadays.

Wait a sec. I don't understand. You mean he should just sulk it in, pretended nothing happens, just to keep that charade of a spectacle called family working. You don't have to put yourself in his show, would you support so if he was your brother or son?

BloomingDale:


If men could get pregnant, it would have been worse.

What does this mean...

EmperorCaesar:
Marrying older women doesn't usually end well

This lady is 10x smarter than Kayodes father can ever be

Bro Bridgette Macron is 24 years older than her husband. What are you saying? What's playing out in Nigeria is a more than what meets the eyes. There is a pattern to this and it spells sinister targeting of a class within a particular ethnic group. Real life examples abound.

BloomingDale:


Maybe if you husbands leave all your side chicks and be satisfying your wives at home, they won’t go and be looking for outside pleasures. Oloriburuku men always opening up their dirty buccal cavity to complain while doing the same cheating.

Seconded.
My exact same point to monogams, why I wrote all this HERE

diesel86:
It is just unfortunate what happened to Kayode, we his homies from Ibadan call him Tyson.

The Lady successfully isolated him from his Family, his immediate brother still scots with friends around Ring-Road area Ibadan, his mama self no really enjoy his wealth . When Baba Taiwo Ogunjobi died this Lady just took total control of his life .

Moral of the lesson to Men, everything is not all about money, try and build yourself up Emotionally, Spiritually and Financially, this world is a cruel place and only the fittest would survive it (I guess women understand this from earlier than Men, that is why News like this would keep happening)

Bro this is not just about men and simp anymore. There's this long term rumor about Yoruba guys/men who rich and well-off specifically targeted by non-Yorubas ladies for motives such as what has befallen the footballer and the the late Gov. of Ondo. I usually dismiss it as untrue and mere coincidence. When I got more and more revelations, it jolted my memory to recall a similar situation that occurred to the second brother of a late great grand uncle who was very rich with wealth, married a non-Yoruba who after dying under mysterious circumstance the wife ran off with the children to America after selling off the properties, never to be heard of till date since the time of of regional govt. So there is a pattern to this that is way more than just simping and not guarding your self as it is said when you're targeted, you will fall for them because of youre not aware.

BloomingDale:
Who will win? Like for Yahweh and Share for Allah.

Who is the referee Zeus or Odin ?

lululovesblue:
I've already responded, sir

I got it, your sirlutations just weakened me from replying.

^{Most big / rich men prefer monogamy because it truly affords them the opportunities to misbehave as they so please when they see fit...}

Before I proceed, polygamy as used in my opinion is within the scope of 'Responsible Polygamy'. So shelve whatever presumptuous thoughts you may have in your head.

Contrary to popular views, polygamy would make a man live long than these much touted nuclear family system called monogamy. I can make a table chart where both can be compared and contrasted side by side with their list of advantages and disadvantages.

Monogamy in that table only has just one advantage over polygamy, and it is a factor which I've been unable to resolve theoretically stating. However, polygamy check marks all others bearing more advantages than disadvantage.

One of the advantages is an assured peace of mind, one which has to do with the management stability that renders the life of the husband to last much longer than those trapped in the quisling and wilderness of monogamy.

Importantly, I've noticed that most of the reaction to that word is founded on false assumption, which in its own reality is prevalent in the society. The idea of been a 'loose cannon' is what fills up their thoughs at the mere mentioning of "polygamy". It is high time 'polygamy' should stopped been miscontrued as promiscuity.

They are in fact not the same. More precisely, polygamy will curb whatever tendency in a husband married to multiple to not live like a wild-dog, it will curb it, it will force him to become sexually and socially responsible. Why would he want to screw around when he's got nine beautiful ladies at home.

Monogamy on the other hand, do not only affords hypocrites the unhinibited opportunities to scale a fence, cheat, manipulate, even in spite of all the matrimonial vows made. It verily provides so much leeway for promiscuity in all forms of adulterous activities.

Polygamy is the marital commitment between a responsible and capable adult man with at least two sensible and matured wives.

Based on the reality of today's world, it is advised to ask your ori before going into polygamy, personally I will not recommend it if you're not capable. I repeat do not go into polygamy if you are not prepared to live a life of commitment to stark responsibilties. Otherwise you will suffer your wives.

Ensure you have capital to run it. It is not just by having lengthy and bulging member or been tall like dongo. Capital is the most important factor that trumps all in today's capitalistic and materialistic world.

Do not betray your wife by imposing yout right to bring in a second wife. That is not polygamy. That is abuse of contract which you sworn, and so you must leave with or at best, settle for divorce which I personally frown upon.

Polygamy is ensuring your would-be first wife knows what she is getting into from the onset. That's part of been responsible. Not after one lady has been with you through thick and thin, some even aborted since you weren't ready, and finally boom, you blew, then you saw reason to marry a second over her while citing ruse such as saggy boobs and wrinkles tummy. Oga you no normal.

Femininity has reserved curse that afflict men that does so, I'm not asking you to believe it or not. That curse go worry you.

And finally,
Most big / rich people prefer monogamy because it affords them the opportunities to misbehave as they so please when they see fit. With their wealth, they have the mechanism to ochestrate it without the spouse they are sworn to to knowing, polygamy gives you restrain.

Check out the excess population of young females luring about, who are their preferred targets 🎯 ? Married rich men trying their best to live a monogamous life, they argue that such married men are responsible to their wife, and so when he's budgeting, he adds their demand and expense to his budget.

It's so worse that these ladies do not want to settle with a moderate guy who is ready to settle but prefer to become the N^th baby-mama to a rich man, yawu boi or politician. These are the deep result of a society pretending to make monogamy work. All the hotels and brothels are patronized by monogamous spouse.

jmoore:
What killed Fela? Aids! Aids from the drilling many holes up and down with community penis. So polygamy didn't stop Fela from cheating.

Why is it only Fela Kuti you see as to cite example, why not many successful polygamous white folks like Brigham Young who is the second president of Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Saint Date, marrying a total of fifty six wives. Their are many list of people out there who live a successful polygamous life, now even world celebrities are popularizing polyandry which is Life Version of it. Why in your shallow understanding made you conclude HIV/AIDS don't kill monogamous couple(s). There are individuals who have compromised themselves before settling with their innocent partner into a me-and-my-wife monogamy.

iLoveYouToo:
That won’t work too, women should also be allowed to have multiple partners (male and/or female) 😆

Polyandry is allowed for those who want to engage in whatever it technically means. But think deep about it. How is that viable. One woman responsibly married to multiple husbands. Well, let's imagine a capable and wealthy woman married multiple partners as husbands, so each one of them gets offsprings from her or how does this work. Polyandry/Adelphy sounds like formalized promiscuity to me.

jmoore:
What killed Fela? Aids! Aids from the drilling many holes up and down with community penis. So polygamy didn't stop Fela from cheating.

Why is it only Fela Kuti you see as to cite example, why not many successful polygamous white folks like Brigham Young who is the second president of Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Saint Date, marrying a total of fifty six wives. Their are many list of people out there who live a successful polygamous life, now even world celebrities are popularizing polyandry which is Life Version of it. Why in your shallow understanding made you conclude HIV/AIDS don't kill monogamous couple(s). There are individuals who have compromised themselves before settling with their innocent partner into a me-and-my-wife monogamy.

iLoveYouToo:
That won’t work too, women should also be allowed to have multiple partners (male and/or female) 😆

Polyandry is allowed for those who want to engage in whatever it technically means. But think deep about it. How is that viable. One woman responsibly married to multiple husbands. Well, let's imagine a capable and wealthy woman married multiple partners as husbands, so each one of them gets offsprings from her or how does this work. Polyandry/Adelphy sounds like formalized promiscuity to me.

brain54:

Polygamy comes with too many problems!

Can you make a list of them in short phrases.

Kobicove:
In actual fact monogamy is not natural...but we're not ready for this conversation

Not ready because the perks and opportunities monogamy affords cheating monogams is not worth speaking the truth over. Polygamy is an herculean task, even as a rich and wealth husband, but that which has it rewards while making you gainfully responsible.

ZionVents:
Don't marry more than one wife if you want to live long.

Can you make a study in your locality or area, to 📝note down the statistics of widows who are still within the age bracket of marital activities and extrapolate which category they fell into, is it monogamy or polygamy. Come back here and present it to us... Then, I can believe you, not the presumption you posted up there.

Azazyel:

You're too much. You truly did research and it came out spot on. See all those people saying polygamy is bad are actually being deceived by foreign religion. Europeans and Americans don't believe in it. They believed in monogamy. However this is Africa and polygamy has always been part of our culture. Infact if you look at the same Bible, you'll see that most men there were polygamous. In monogamy, the man would eventually have to be begging his wife for knacks. Imagine the humiliation! Whereas in polygamy, they compete to have the man.

They don't even have to compete. Every one knows when it's their turn. It is in monogamy either spouse can for whatever selfish reason weaponize snacks to blackmail one another. That's not even the real concern. The main issue is during when the man is randy as hell but the wife is truly going through a period of menstrual pain battle or genuinely tired from her office work as the newly appointed director or CEO, or as a coordinator which can be gruelling, and yet the husband is sexually frustrated and couldn't withstand hearing what he considers to be excuses and blam - it happens, and we see on Nairaland front page topics like Husband Rapes Wife, Hits 👊 Scrotum With 🔨Hammer, Arraigned Woman Pending Trial, nonsense. The wife has as much right to her comfort as much as the husband, but the conundrum still exist. Imagine the possibility of that ever happening


This topic was discussed here https://www.nairaland.com/8059332/men-really-happy-only-one#129398694



Update:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-pF6_MZrLw

lululovesblue:
I've already responded, sir

Alright ma,
Please don't sir-nitize me.

Why is this not on front page?

1Sharon:


There is no such thing as taking the surname of your spouse either. But alot of men will flare up if their wife wanted to keep her surname.

Oh! I get it now.
I said patriarchal, not patriloneal which your response got me confused about. There's marked difference.

1Sharon:


There is no such thing as taking the surname of your spouse either. But alot of men will flare up if their wife wanted to keep her surname.

Nibo la tu ja si bayi... I'm not exactly interested in this chapter you just deviated to.

lululovesblue:
Isn't culture full of yet another set of social constructs? I know I'm arguing semantics,but still. Isn't it then a matter of cherry picking, for you to tell me to unburden myself from one construct and use another construct to prove your point?

I get your point either way. Mine was to point out the hypocrisy in the way a lot of people on here think. I guess I got sidetracked.

Certainly you miss the mark. The other is not a construct but philosophy of life. Complimentary Dualism is so extensive to start explaining than I have time to on here as I surf through threads. I PM'd you sha.

lululovesblue:
I honestly don't understand these replies, but it's nairaland after all. What's going to happen if he's not ready for marriage? Financially, emotionally, etc? I've also heard from a lot of guys that girls taking the lead in relationships emasculates them. How would you view a woman that proposed to you, realistically? How seriously would you take her? Can you promise you wouldn't see her as desperate? I know men are not a beehive and have individual preferences, but I'd still like to know which one women are supposed to do.

Personally I view this as embarrassing. Especially her having to walk back to her seat. Abi she's going to pay his dowry and make him a househusband while she becomes the breadwinner as well? There's so much to unpack.

Unshackle the chains of your mind from rigid social construct. You and 1Sharon are worried about concerns that are the imaginary pitholes made real in a patriarchal system. In the Yoruba belief system, no such thing breadwinner or home keeper, Ifa teaches about the fundamental nature of complimentary duality. Both gender can always work out the flexibility of roles inter-play just to make it work, eben in this modern times with many factors ro contend with.

uvie66:
...it is not mockery, but facts, majority of girls prefer to tender what is between their legs for quick bucks that is Olosho business is lucrative for them.

Which gender controls the system that enables such condition for them to survive unless you are stating ladies are naturally like that with no sense of dignity, regardless of the system.

uvie66:
Girls and Oshofree is like 5&6

Even if girls dey find oshofree... Does your mockery justify them been endangered by your gender ?

banjicom:
It is not as if i am supporting the girl ooo, but the guy too is also childish. The curses/abuse at the end of the chat is not necessary. He should have just ignore the girl. Most of this online ladies na poverty and inferiority complex dey worry them. I dey sure say na man buy that iphone 12 for her.

That aside. Which gender is responsible for rendering these ladies the way they are, no be same MAKE GENDER... Yawu boys, big zaddy, politicians, rich alhajis, senators, wealthy abokis, big done etc etc.... no be dem don first spoil these girls, tear their mouth, open their eyes to extreme material life, only to wipe and ditch them, making them unmarriable for the guys wey no fit afford the high tastes they have been attuned to.

Same gender go come dey abuse and blast these ladies without calling out how the menfolk wey no relent in their act of societal destruction, giving rise to these messy cycle on a steady.

Just ignore them abeg.






PS*
Babe ask for b'day gift, YBF tf her N10mula...
U come expect make she settle for hardworking sensible guy for future.

Make all of una dey play.
Una never see sontin.

E ti ya werey!

Ecbatana:


Originality is dying, there's a lot of copy and paste and IP theft out there. People have become intellectually lazy and A.I is not helping matters. Some years back, a particular president's inaugural speech was a product of IP theft.

Nigerians has always been comfy with mediocre, lacklustre stuff. They prefer to rinse and repeat copy-copy sh!t than think innovate or generate original contents forged iwith substance. Check out the music videos, gorywood etc. When one genius comes along with something that's never been done before, everyone jumps into that wagon until it's gets stale and crashes waiting for the next one.

isabi2lof:
Allahkaduna homeboys dishing out what they know best on nairaland

Person say she no do again, dem begin talk about body counts , like dem fit do without women for their lives , same NL boys wey dey advise married men to get side chicks ...

Well ,online dey different from reality, everybody holy for online ..

I no no say dick dey gum woman body .

You dey mind the swines!
Nairaland incepted in 2005, I knew about it 2006 and registeres then. This is not my first and only account NL. I've known KoboJunkie and many others I can't recall as huge and intelligent contributors to the revival of this forum, I inclusive. These kiddos were still writing jamb back then or about to face their WAEC. But these days social media has erode all sense of disparity making everyone equals.

Kk4:
Nigerian men no dey fail to dissappoint.
OP point out alot of red flags and most replies are focusing on the toothpaste and body count.
As a guy, if you are not organise and hygienic, you never ready date proper not to talk of marriage. Nne don't lower your standards because you want to be with a man.

The thread is littered with so much childish comments I almost wanted to exit till I saw yours. It indicate the low calibre of kids with no sense of decorum, hygiene and self-standard swarming Nairaland. Imagine one kiddo saying he doesn't know it's a wrong habit to squeeze paste from the middle. Tells a lot about today's generation. Hence I always say Africans just copied westernism in a warped form. They call me afinju whenni was a kid just so you know how intolerant of uncleanness I was to a chronic level, those who knows what afinju means would understand how afinju just can't stand the tiniest of dirt, not to take of filth. We don't get comfortable and can't proceed well with an activity unless we sweep that floor several times, clean that dirt of the table before I can touch the mouse. I remember when living in an area filled with red muddied sand that I always washed the white sole of my converse sneakers so much every time that folks I didn't know where noticing it and one day gave compliment that they have never seen me with a dirtied shoe, I naturally sweat a lot so I sometimes pull off as when the discomfort gets unbearable, one day a woman joked at me that I wouldn't have done that if my white boxer was dirty. Impying I was showing off. I gave her a cynical look that suggests she is not to be blamed na, she's so much used with males with dirty boxers.

The only moment I can be found smeared with dirts and dusts is when the hustle or grind demands it like an oil-rig worker getting his hands soiled just to earn that mullah.

Personally I will judge your hygieneness by my own standard. Privately, I can't tolerate ẹgbín and I don't need no Whiteman to tell me cleanliness is next to godliness.

Ps
All the guys needlessly attacking the females here are suffering from deep seated insecurity. Like WTF are you hypocrites concerning yourselves with their sexuality or matrimonial desire. Stay on the topic by sharing your view or JGTFO!

Eriokanmi:
They can only stop after we've successfully disintegrated. There would be no resources from the southern part of the country to waste anymore. On yoruba nation I stand gidigba. No matter how long it takes, it is inevitable.

As long as we still staying together as a nation, I rep Naija and crave her prosperity through good leadership.

What's pathetic is how despite southerners pride themselves for being so-educated in law and whatnot, yet they cannot see the treason in the governmental setup of the North overshadowed by Shariah Constitution enforced by Hisbah police in a so-called constitutional democracy!

How have they not splitted already? According to the report, they even exist a General Commander among their rank, maybe ScarletBrace and InvertedHammer can come help ♏🅰🎋📧 this makes sense if that is not what's called Parallel Govt ?

frankblinkz:
why banning me

because you're been baddie
I was referring to you and another member whose name is banneduser to respond. Hende the cc.

Jakumo:


It is fascinating to see how so many Nigerians who stumble into great wealth regard morbid clinical obesity as a desirable goal to be achieved by stuffing their faces with fatty foods and eschewing all forms of physical exercise. Perhaps even more entertaining is their desperate scramble to seek medical help when that hideous obesity takes its predictable and inevitable toll on their mortal existence.

In his heyday, Emperor Asari Dokubo proudly displayed his 200-liter beer gut, but now that deformity has proved too heavy for his legs to support, and he is confined to a wheelchair in preparation for the final excruciatingly painful chapter of his greedy life.

Perfectly captured.
Difference between him and Tony Ngrube
Frederickn Fasehun and Gani Adams who is getting obese too.

millionboi:
the brain behind crypto is smarter than you and Nigerian government,so u no fit stop m oga.

I'm not concerned about all this nig govt vs crypto wahala. My question is - is cryptography the only way to manufacture digital currency?
cc frankblinkz banneduser

Babalegba:
The US dollar,naira and other fiat currencies do have tangible intrinsic items of value behind them. The nigerian government for example could print one billion naira knowing fully well that it has oil ,
other tangible products and services to back up the paper money
When a country does not have the resources to back up the paper money,then there is a problem like we currently have in Zimbabwe.
You then have a scenario where a bar of soap could cost one trillion.
I do support the federal government on this matter as I don't want the Nigerian economy to be destroyed because of a fad.
Money should be based on concrete things like the gold standard.

What is the British Pound Sterling backed with?

Villagesquare:
A youth that is into Crypto trading is more useful and more economically viable than You propagandist. Only if you know the capital base some of the people you call Lazy youth trade with. You can't fight innovation that have come to stay, even all mighty great nations know very well about this.

https://www.nairaland.com/8081356/reply-opay-threat-cryptocurrency/1#129783164

Threads like this is an anathema to the likes of Eunoiaa, the Greek wannabe who's so swallowed up in her la-la-land fantasy world simulated on Nairaland. They definitely avoid comenting on a thread like this.

Wickedfacts:


Which is better?
To marry 2 wives or to marry one wife and have many girlfriends?

You dey mind them hypocrites. They know polygamy makes a man out of been a man as one is saddled with true responsibilities which can be avoided in the same Monogamy that afforda the liberty to indulge in wanton adultery while still keeping up fake appearances. I made solid points here

Difrent:


Go back and read what I wrote and this time carefully.
I said Legit hustles won't say they will pay with crypto ONLY...there will be options

I sill stand by this assertion, FYI I be early crypto adopter and enthusiast.....e no get wetin your likes wan tell me about crypto

I think there's a mistake in who you're addresses this response to. Carefully reading your posts, I think we are on the same page regarding crypto sort of. I never quoted you nor did any of my reply intend to have you convinced to leave crypto regardless you been an early adopted or not. Go back and read my post where I mentioned countries that had no issue with their citizen using it, or you didn't see that?

huptin:


Most of the Fintech funds ends in commercial banks, most of the investors in FINNTECHS are commercial bank's owners, in fact most commercial banks have their tech subsidiaries....Wema - ALAT, UBA - Heirs tech, Access - Oxygen. etc.

So there is no war...commercial banks are not threatened.

Access fintech is Hydrogen and not Oxygen
You didn't mention GTBank GTCo's Squad

Jagabanbattle:


You said legit hustle can’t pay with crypto? That is absurd. Even Hostinger receive payment for Domain registration, hosting services and other services they render in Cryptocurrency. And many more companies do this.

Just ignore folks that reason that way as I did. Personally I dislike Crypto from the very beginning. But I'm a big supporter of innovative tech. Nigeria reason to ban cryptocurrwnct is baseless and anti- progress. Before crypto came, weren't there terrorism (Mutalab), laundry and corruption (Haliburton, Panama Papers exposing many Nigeria corruptionists). Sometimes back, I was due to pay for the renewal of my domain name and so NameCheap suggested I used crypto since I was having issues with the usual VISA/Mastercard channel, I had no idea memo wasn't supposed to bear 'crypto' in its message. The transaction got flagged, never funded as Naira4Dollar and my bank played ping-pong with me for months for this same damn reason. So when I say Nigeria is not a country nor a nation. I know what I'm saying. Democracy, Federalism and terms like that only exist on paper. Nations that ban crypto have genuine reasons for doing so, not because of laudry and FX currency. The president of Ecuador now is the first country in the world to openly legalize BTC as their legal tender. There are several countries in Europe that allows its citizens to trade in crypto.

seunpayne:


You’re not as good as you think. Go online and put your money where your mouth is. Division 10 all the way to division 1 and I’m sure you go find your LCM.

You’re probably avoiding playing online because the settings are competitive and legacy defending is disabled. We know the sort.

Go online…no come Nairaland dey strong prique

Why do Nigerians love to presume. What makes you think I'm a legacy player. I don't even use tactical anymore sef.
Oga no be every champions for naija dey play online. You put your money where mouth is by coming to play my champion if you dey lag.