bigpicture001:


Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head

Oga please forget about what any friend is saying now o. This is the not the best time to listen to dem say, she said.

I don't have any problem with what you listed but look at the amount she is earning. If she earns more than 80k, then with what you listed is no problem.

Women have needs and you know how things are now. I am sure she transports herself to work too and takes lunch atimes.

What if she is the type that sends monthly stipends home too?? Will the remaining be enough for her? Will she be able to save afterwards.
If she ran away after you guys have dated for years, it might not be just because of this alone.

I guess she must have seen something else and this didn't help also.
.If she has been nice to you over the years and will make a good wife material, have a dialogue with her o.

Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

Abeg help me ask o. on top how much?? 80k salary Na real wah. How much is left for her needs? What of her tfare and at miscellaneous to her work place or home

Oga make she japa abeg.

Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Oga relax, nothing is wrong with your wife or you. Being her first, body differs. It might take time for her to heal. So don't be in a haste, all she needs now is love and care. Engage in pre-intimacy before penetration. Vaseline also helps in soft penetration and healing too. With time, she will be okay and you both will enjoy well. Patience, patience, patience.
Congratulations....

Hillarie:
If you're scared of ladies of nowadays, the solution is very simple. Be faithful and stop cheating. It's a childish thing!

Thank you for this. Even the person you think won't retaliate can be pushed to do the unknown. Both parties should stay faithful simple or better still walk away if its not working.

BadRadio:
I am seeing one now... live !!!

and the headlines are saying, "Lady cuts off boyfriends manhood for cheating" and the images are graphic.

The other day a guy was stabbed in his sleep for cheating... he was killed by his girlfriend.

The other time a guy was poisoned by his Ex, a day to his wedding.

Does it mean the women we have now in the society are vicious and cold blooded?

I think its risky dating these days. The ladies are not smiling.


BE CAREFUL GUYS, WAKE UP & WISE UP !!!

The rule is simple. If you can't stick to a woman or be faithful, don't involve yourself in any relationship. Women of these days so a lot and it's scary. Guys should do better. It's better safe than sorry.

gloniks:
Most of these comments are so heartbreaking, seeing also that some of these guys talking are not yet married, I feel so so sorry. Most people think the woman's action of calling her mom and brother was too far, chai, really so she should wait till from a slap it gets to punches and then one day you will beat her blue black till she dies or becomes deformed and then you see her unpresentable as a wife abi.....so her calling her family was too much but your own slap was not too much..... Thank God you said you have a female child imagine her married and her getting a slap from her husband how will you feel

So she was shouting and yelling so that justifies your actions?

you said that was the first time you came back late so I believe she had never seen you coming back that late and you don't think she must have been sick and worried about you with the security issues especially in this festive season?

You were not drunk so where you were with your friends you didn't bother about her maybe to give her a call, you didn't consider her feelings at all?

If she was the one who came back late I am sure that house would have been hot for her, I am sure you would have been soooooo angry infact even if it was just dinner she didn't prepare it wouldn't have been condoned Come to talk more of coming back late I am not judgemental here but I think a slap was too fast


And all majority of the guys here can say is that she shouldn't have yelled or she should have left you in the room or maybe she should have said "bravo my husband for coming back late" and most guys are saying you should leave her alone fine you have done a mistake continue tendering your apologies she will definitely come back that's after you've signed an undertaking never to do such again

but I shake my head for most guys
#egocentric
#violent

soon all of them will say they don't support domestic
violence

Mtcheew

God bless you for this. Some comments here are sickening. That's to tell you that some men don't value women. Not just a slap, with blood o. kaiii. In this harmattan �

Dupalmer:
In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

Oga with this your advice, I'm not sure you are married. God forbid, what if at the process of trying to slap the woman, sth worst than this happened?? What if the woman was the one that went out and came in at 2am?? I believe they have been having normal misunderstanding and the woman never reacted this way by calling her people. There are many ladies young say? The devil you know is better o. You never jam one you go slap and you won't go free. He should have entered the room and lock himself up there. Let him go and win his wife back.....

madridguy:
She went into our room and locked the door , she was in there for a long time and the next morning , her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

Bros, this may sound somehow but you never get wife.

It's very easy to say. He did something very very wrong and injured the wife on top. No matter what, he should go for his wife. Yes, she and her people over reacted but you won't blame them o. She might be scared of the future. Na so e get start.

Dulpamer..... this your advice no follow at all

Oga don't take all the advice hear.
Use your head. what you did was absolutely wrong. Go and get your wife back and do not let such repeat itself. You don't blame her o. Na from slap e dey start.
Give her time to heal too.

freesinzu:
Don't think Dats her mum cos I saw a different person at MPFWA the day she won, probably someone she looks up 2

Same here o. I wonder o. Bloggers sef

Harmodle1:
I wonder o. Ibadan is so dry when it comes to looking for a job. God will make a way. Hmmmm is it only in Ibadan that there is no job?the solution is to pray to God to remember Us anywhere We are.

I didn't say it's only in Ibadan.

[quote author=nicerichard05 post=50546258][size=10pt]Kaffy How market

"wherever 2 or 3 girls are gathered there is a CUCUMBER in there midst" [/

yeye fellow. What has cucumber to do with this?

please o, am here too. U guys Shld help a sister. Ibadan is too dry

I wonder o. Ibadan is so dry when it comes to looking for a job. God will make a way.

You all needs Jesus.

Add me pls 07061923045

Please I dont know how I can reach u so dat I wld tel u my own experience and how I handled it. But believe me d pain wld soon leave on its own but wit constant love making. Vaseline is important. It works. Till we talk

misspicy:
In a Nigerian family setting,every child is mandated to do chores to keep the house clean and sparkling so things can move smoothly,some chores are classified as feminine while some are for the masculine gender to do,but in a situation where only a gender dominate in a family the children are forced to do all the chores whether feminine or masculine...

Below are 5 masculine chores i did as a female child

1) car washing : washing of cars is seen as a male duty but i did it though am a female,because we had no male adult except dad..inshort i bet no guy on nairaland can wash car inside out as well as i can

2) clearing of compound : this is weeding of grasses especially during rainy season so everywhere can look clean....this is a chores i do every last saturday of the month,inshort i don't think any nairaland guy can handle hoe and cutlass like me

3) slaughtering of livestock : slaughtering of sunday chicken is a regular routine for me,now imagine me killing the christmas goat ...though this is a masculine chore,i bet some nairaland guys are afraid of catfish which i slaughter for dinner pepper soup everyday

4) jeans washing : you all know how stubborn jeans trousers and skirts are,i remember how i do scrub dad's jeans every laundarying saturday....



5) shoe polishing : shoe polishing is a chore i will not forget in a hurry,my dad's black and brown shoes always got a shine every morning,most times i tell friends about this,they have this suprised look on their faces ...i know the best brand of polish for shoes but am not gonna tell you all

So guys,what are the feminine chores you did while growing up or are still doing,ladies lets see masculine chores you all did too....leggo

U no fetch water on wheel barrow or with four gallon

I really hope this would work out this time. May God help us

Please if there is Any vacancy in Ibadan, lets discuss here.

WoOOOWWW.