DailyNews spoke well.

Decency,humility, focus, these should come frm d heart.

A lot of single ladies pretend 2 be good and a lot of single guys are blind 2 such pretense.

A 'pretending-2-be-good' lady is most times overly nice and friendly 2 U and pple close 2 U e.g. Family members. Then she shows her true negative colour 2 strangers or pple dat probably depend on her 4 one thing or d other.

A lady dat's good will show respect 2 ALL.

I wish guys knew how 2 read facial expressions, tone of voice, body language....

Its so easy 2 seperate d Weeds from d Wheat, and yet so hard...

d guy no no say maya na strong gal.... or lady or woman....

Winneygirl: DailyNews spoke well.

Decency,humility, focus, these should come frm d heart.

A lot of single ladies pretend 2 be good and a lot of single guys are blind 2 such pretense.

A 'pretending-2-be-good' lady is most times overly nice and friendly 2 U and pple close 2 U e.g. Family members. Then she shows her true negative colour 2 strangers or pple dat probably depend on her 4 one thing or d other.

A lady dat's good will show respect 2 ALL.

I wish guys knew how 2 read facial expressions, tone of voice, body language....

Its so easy 2 seperate d Weeds from d Wheat, and yet so hard...

pls sister teach me how to read these expressions dont want to fall into wrong hands again.

Winneygirl: DailyNews spoke well.

Decency,humility, focus, these should come frm d heart.

A lot of single ladies pretend 2 be good and a lot of single guys are blind 2 such pretense.

A 'pretending-2-be-good' lady is most times overly nice and friendly 2 U and pple close 2 U e.g. Family members. Then she shows her true negative colour 2 strangers or pple dat probably depend on her 4 one thing or d other.

A lady dat's good will show respect 2 ALL.

I wish guys knew how 2 read facial expressions, tone of voice, body language....

Its so easy 2 seperate d Weeds from d Wheat, and yet so hard...

I concur!.
Watch the way she treats people that might be lower than her in terms of financial status e.g maids,drivers, receptionist etc.
Watch out for facial expression and body language.

eimuhb:

I concur!.
Watch the way she treats people that might be lower than her in terms of financial status e.g maids,drivers, receptionist etc.
Watch out for facial expression and body language.

hmmm. interestin but are u sayin dat her facial expressions could b 'forced'?

temi4fash: d guy no no say maya na strong gal.... or lady or woman....

hehehe am a strong chick freshest lol

Maya2pretty: @simayanki4real, yeah thanks, but it's stale news now, gotten over d whole stupid thing a long time, emotions should b put under control, no matter how hard it is especially 4 a very emotional person but it's necessary.

U're welcome maya-darln (or doll if u prefer)...
The lessons of relationship aren't often learnt over dinner tables, i too have had my share of heartbreaks!

Maya2pretty: hehehe am a strong chick freshest lol

u comw add freshest ni... I hop so ooo..

Eh en wat happen to carm n d pics dat year. did she finally upload it. I hooe i didnt miss dat partt..

missblanche:
Pls do go for the training..i really love baking,it just makes me happy and i love making people smile thank you so much..

Why not initiate a training platform and charge something for it. U̶̲̥̅̊'ll be surprised by d no. Ơ̴͡f pple dat will sign up.
ℓ̊ as well luv baking and cooking stuffs like that just dat ℓ̊ nid to horn my skills again.

Ladies are d cause of their problem....Ready Made Man is what they all want they can fight,charm or even kill for it,u all watched how dis Naija Artiste practically impregnated 5 diff. ladies who taught they can trap him with pregnancy.. last week i met a lady in a shopping mall, she screened me like an X-ray machine and placed me on a low fin. status she even said she won't give me her number that i will bug her with calls,she don't even know me?i later laughed at her foolishness..

SimplYeahmee:

Why not initiate a training platform and charge something for it. U̶̲̥̅̊'ll be surprised by d no. Ơ̴͡f pple dat will sign up.
ℓ̊ as well luv baking and cooking stuffs like that just dat ℓ̊ nid to horn my skills again.

Is that possible here?i would love to try it out if its possible..thanks for the idea..thank you

Hello guys and ladies here...

I have something else to say today just like I always do...but pls not that I am a wisdom box or that I am a perfect person, just that out of curiosity to learn and to impact knowledge on others, I have grown to become a very... ...person, and I give God the glory, so I share most of these tips, stories I hear and events around me to teach others and to entertain those who are okay with it cos I know its not all that would like my long stories and write-ups, but even if its one person that learns from them, glory be to God!

I am a realist by nature, I don't believe in pampering words to please people, either my- siblings, parents, relations, friends or colleagues, I am always hard with words so long as I said the truth that I know.

Let me break the write-up here for easy read.... ...to be continued shortly....

We all (guys and ladies) should try and understand that life is no longer as easy as it was some 20 years or more ago, this won't make you a pessimist or a fearful person or whatever, it makes you a realist, and will equip you better to face the future challenges that comes with life.

Human have by all means devised so many means- technologically, scientifically, etc to reduce death or possibly wipe death off, but we all want to have offspring, new babies, which means- the world's population is increasing geometrically, while opportunities for life survival is increasing minimally.

This rapid rise in population in the world has affected a lot of things in the world, and we all are witnesses to its devastating effects in- European economy, American economy and even Chinese economy. it is not because humans aren't working hard like in the past, it is because more humans are now competing for one opportunity, making it a rat race for all!

In the past 20 years, only few Nigerians were medical doctors, engineers, professors, etc but today, we have as many doctors and engineers as there are sands on a sea shore...you can imagine a situation whereby medical doctors who used to be in scarce quantity are now in surplus to the extent that most can't even find job to do after graduation. believe me friends, there is fire on the mountain and we all needs to run and find solution

don't be afraid, its well....read on....

To make this short, what am I trying to say?

Population increase in the world has made everything in life to become a rat race, a competition, a hot seat, including finding a marriage spouse, and making money.

Remember the Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs, which goes along way to tell us that man (male and female) must first satisfy his/her basic needs before any other needs. How can a sane man who hasn't fed himself twice a day, clothe himself, shelter himself appropriately, etc think of getting married in this modern era? Its very difficult, and this is one reason so many guys aren't thinking of marriage, and the sisters aren't helping matters, aren't encouraging them to even desire marriage with what's happening in our society today.

This population explode has resulted to- rampant infidelity amongst couples because there are so many other randy and desperate people ready to share your partner with you so long as the man can provide them some level of financial security, they don't mind cos majority of the single young guys aren't financially buoyant and they aren't going after the single ladies, and the single ladies are pushed towards going for the few available buoyant men who are most times married or in a committed relationship.

Again, because of the population explode in the world today, employment opportunities are scarce, and the recruitment processes are becoming more and more tougher to eliminate more candidates, not because they aren't good anyway, but just to eliminate as much number of applicants as possible.

Now, as a job applicant looking for job thats not forthcoming despite all effort, are you going to tell me that you will keep applying for job and waiting to be called for interview for the rest of your life when your mates are out there hustling through alternative ways of survival? Nope!

Employers don't want to hire you for reasons best known to them then prove them wrong, how? Activate your innate or natural entrepreneurial skills and start your own business, develop it from scratch- it won't be easy, be ready to toil, suffer, and then build it to your dream and surprise those who went for an already-made job by turning into an employer of labour yourself, yes you can if you are determined to.

This is exactly what I want the single ladies and guys to do when it comes to relationship and marriage.

Your dream man isn't forthcoming right? Your dream woman isn't accepting to date or marry you right? All hope isn't lost, in fact, be happy...read on....

Instead of waiting for that your presumed dream man to come to you and woo you and take you to the altar, who isn't showing up, why not build your own dream man? Learn from great employers today who searched for their dream jobs and couldn't find and were forced to startup their own businesses from scratch and today they are biggest employers of labour than to be like those who out of fear and desperation accepted to work below standard welfare forever and never achieved anything in their life besides peanut pension and gratuity?

Take the bull by horn, remove all negative mentality about men- find a promising young guy, work with him honestly and check the outcome soon. I believe so many guys in Nigeria now are ready to grow with a focused and decent lady, so stop listening to evil-sent ladies cooking up stories to fool others. And even if their story of how they helped a guy become Aliko Dangote and he later dumped them for a younger girl is true, be positive and tell yourself, your God, your spirit, etc what you want and be open to the guy, and when you embark on this journey, be wise too, don't invest all your life fortune and whatever on him...and pls remember the watch word- NO SEX TILL MARRIAGE, if at all you would hid to my advice.

And while building this your business, if a wonderful company offers you that your dream job, don't just turn it down, sit down and think critically, pray about it, listen to your conscience, discuss it with the person you are with, and take the right step...but pls, don't just sit back and be waiting for a dream man that may never come because not all our dreams in life do come true, thats the hard truth about life.

...and lastly for the guys who keep dreaming to have a cinderella for free....I see you. You have less than a 100k in your bank account, and you keep dreaming to have Kim K as girlfriend or fiancee, hey! Wake up, today life doesn't work like that unless you just want to be an errand boy or a back-bencher. The world of today has brought so many pressure on women, lets face the truth- they need to dress trendy to meetup, they need to look good, and most times, they don't have the resources to meet up with this, and then someone must meet this need for them, and all of a sudden, you just appear and claim relationship, you keep bragging that that pretty girl is my angel, and you have never contributed a dime and not even planning to...you better stop dreaming because if her parents aren't very buoyant, she herself isn't working and earning big, have it in mind that some men somewhere are footing the bills, so stop acting like you are her hero cos you aren't.

There are not-so-pretty good ladies out there whom most guys ignore and keep rushing for the hot girls who are of course high demands, develop a honest committed relationship with those not-so-pretty girls out there and watch out how pretty they would look in mere future. befriend her for good, give her good counsel, direct her, channel her attention and mind to positive things, and if you can, help her build a career or business, and make her your dream woman and stop daydreaming to reap where you did not sow. Both guys and ladies should learn to stop reaping where they didn't sow, the world is changing, if you are fortunate and one comes your way, thank your God, but stop waiting for something that maybe eternity and go for your dream....Peace....

DailyNews: And even if their story of how they helped a guy become Aliko Dangote and he later dumped them for a younger girl is true.

Most girls brag to hell.. A guy can't just dump someone that helped him achieved something in life without no just cause, the lady in question might have insulted him just because she's the bread winner in the relationship... Stories abounds like that... Most girls lack that spirit of humbleness in their life... Some girls might innocently tell a friend a secret (na me dey feed my guy, buy cloths for am) that friend will tell another friend and that's hw the "secret" will be circulated untill it get's to the guy... How do u think he will feel?.. The guy will just deciede to play along untill he gets what he want's then it's to ur tent o Israel...

DailyNews: and pls remember the watch word- NO SEX TILL MARRIAGE.

I remember a gospel song I loved back then (I've forgotten it but when I quoted this comment of urs, I just remembered it again)... It's titled "O test and see"... You are saying no sex till after marriage, what if a guy decieded to do just that then when he want's to consumate the union he finds out that he's just like a straw in a coke bottle?... No friction, she's as wide as a saclux paint.... (him don fall mugu to for better or for worse na).. Or if the lady has a high libido and the guy can't go more than 1 or can't last up to 1 min (Missy Elliot 1 min man).. To me (unless maybe I born again)... My watchword and hit track is O test and see ... Let me quote this portion of the Bible... " Be ye as wise as a serpent"...

nbright: Most girls brag to hell.. A guy can't just dump someone that helped him achieved something in life without no just cause, the lady in question might have insulted him just because she's the bread winner in the relationship... Stories abounds like that... Most girls lack that spirit of humbleness in their life... Some girls might innocently tell a friend a secret (na me dey feed my guy, buy cloths for am) that friend will tell another friend and that's hw the "secret" will be circulated untill it get's to the guy... How do u think he will feel?.. The guy will just deciede to play along untill he gets what he want's then it's to ur tent o Israel...

Yeah, you are right. some even rob peter to pay paul, how? They date other guys who have money and then spend the money on one guy they believe is quiet and calm, believing to buy him with money and pretence of not being demanding, but Karma or nature always pay such people back in their own coin.

Honestly, I don't think any sane guy in his right senses would dump a deserving lady that laboured with him to success, its rare and most times have more untold truths about the situation. But in all, I condemn guys who do such, its pitiable and atrocious, all guys- poor or rich should desist from use-and-dump cos it is an act of inhumane! In all, people need to depend more on God and God will help them make the right choices in life cos no matter what, we are humans and bound to mistakes if we fail to rely more on God

nbright: I remember a gospel song I loved back then (I've forgotten it but when I quoted this comment of urs, I just remembered it again)... It's titled "O test and see"... You are saying no sex till after marriage, what if a guy decieded to do just that then when he want's to consumate the union he finds out that he's just like a straw in a coke bottle?... No friction, she's as wide as a saclux paint.... (him don fall mugu to for better or for worse na).. Or if the lady has a high libido and the guy can't go more than 1 or can't last up to 1 min (Missy Elliot 1 min man).. To me (unless maybe I born again)... My watchword and hit track is O test and see ... Let me quote this portion of the Bible... " Be ye as wise as a serpent"...

If you make God your solid rock without just pretending to make people see u as good, and then u work according to God's directives, you will know the right woman and u will marry the best meant for you, so I don't subscribe to your belief, sorry if it sounds harsh. just saying my own mind.

Remember, you father didn't sleep with your mother before they got married, I am assuming that cos my own father didn't and he married his best half and they are like lovebirds even at their age All these statements, stories, etc are cooked up by people with hidden and deceptive intentions to lure others into immorality and waywardness, trust me

hello guys!

I want to know if its wrong to turn down a guy who loves you very much bt u dont feel a thing for him.

Cuz there is this guy who has been asking me out for a very long time now, but the problem is i don't feel anything at all for him.

I have made it clear to him that i don't feel anything for him but he keeps begging me to love him.

I have tried to develop feelings for him but its not hapenning.

This guy is well to do but i just cnt love him back.
So guys help me out, how else do i make this guy see that i cnt love him in return in a way he wouldnt feel so bad?

One thing about me i dont feel easily no matter how goodlooking, rich or whatever a man is.
I dont want it to one sided i want to love an be loved in return.

ichidodo: pls sister teach me how to read these expressions dont want to fall into wrong hands again.

Bros, its hard 2 teach.

A lot of guys get carried away wt wat they see.

Ask a guy 2 look into a lady's eyes and tell U wat he sees. U'll hear....

'She's got lovely eyes....piercing, captivating...I could spend my whole day looking into those beautiful eyes'

Ask a fellow lady, she's likely 2say..

'Erm...her eyes are o.k.....I guess...But when she looks at U, dat look in her eyes tells me she's out 4 Ur money. I hope U haven't emptied Ur account because of her...'

Haven't U noticed how hard it is 4 some 'girlfriends' 2get along wt other female friends of Urs??
D enmity is usually thick.

They knw we will read them and read them well.

Winneygirl:

Bros, its hard 2 teach.

A lot of guys get carried away wt wat they see.

Ask a guy 2 look into a lady's eyes and tell U wat he sees. U'll hear....

'She's got lovely eyes....piercing, captivating...I could spend my whole day looking into those beautiful eyes'

Ask a fellow lady, she's likely 2say..

'Erm...her eyes are o.k.....I guess...But when she looks at U, dat look in her eyes tells me she's out 4 Ur money. I hope U haven't emptied Ur account because of her...'

Haven't U noticed how hard it is 4 some 'girlfriends' 2get along wt other female friends of Urs??
D enmity is usually thick.

They knw we will read them and read them well.

@ bolded, girls are there own worst enemies.. Just as we guys can't read the facial expression of a girl or what's on her mind so also girls can't tell what's going on inside a guy's mind...

Winneygirl:

Bros, its hard 2 teach.

A lot of guys get carried away wt wat they see.

Ask a guy 2 look into a lady's eyes and tell U wat he sees. U'll hear....

'She's got lovely eyes....piercing, captivating...I could spend my whole day looking into those beautiful eyes'

Ask a fellow lady, she's likely 2say..

'Erm...her eyes are o.k.....I guess...But when she looks at U, dat look in her eyes tells me she's out 4 Ur money. I hope U haven't emptied Ur account because of her...'

Haven't U noticed how hard it is 4 some 'girlfriends' 2get along wt other female friends of Urs??
D enmity is usually thick.

They knw we will read them and read them well.

o.k so u r sayin readin feminine expressions comes wit a feminine born instinct? hmmmm. are u sayin i have to be feminine or have to be emotional 4 accurate readin?

nbright: @ bolded, girls are there own worst enemies.. Just as we guys can't read the facial expression of a girl or what's on her mind so also girls can't tell what's going on inside a guy's mind...

i thnk girls can get into d mind of a guy, and a guy can also get into a girls mind.

A lot of girls want 2 love and be loved. Dis desire is usually very strong and quite capable of drowning out basic instincts.
Dat's Y when d reltnship ends, U hear stuff abt how she 'allowed' herself 2be blinded and treated wrongly etc. How she 'ignored' d signs.....

Let's face it! A lot of guys have multiple relationshps, bt on closer look, U find out dat d love might actually be missing from those relatnshps. When U start a relatnshp on a 'Let's-see-where-this-leads-us' basis, most times it doesnt lead anywhere. If she dumps U, U'll come here crying heartbreak.

Whether guy/girl, if U start out dat U want 2love, want 2 make a commitment 2 someone, want 2groom a relationshp dat will lead 2 marriage, then U are on d right track 2finding someone special.

But if U choose d 'Let's-see-where-dis-leads-us' route, U never can tell. It might actually be leading U 2 a Bush, or a Pit. If U are lucky, it might lead U nowhere!!

Big ups mr daily news, i sure love ure articles but i wil pitch my tent wit nbright on his tasTe and see policy. My aunt would have been spared 14yrs of grief if she knew early enough of her husband's weak hoo-haa or my uncle would not have adopted as a result of his wife's infertility. Even i am a product of taste and see which has done a marriage of 26 yrs no harm. This is real life, people should not leave these things to chance HEAVEN HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES. no sex b4 marriage is an age old crap coined by individuals deluded by their sense of self-righteousness hence are not into touch wit the vagaries of REAL LIFE as we know it to be.

Cutejay: hello guys!

I want to know if its wrong to turn down a guy who loves you very much bt u dont feel a thing for him.

Cuz there is this guy who has been asking me out for a very long time now, but the problem is i don't feel anything at all for him.

I have made it clear to him that i don't feel anything for him but he keeps begging me to love him.

I have tried to develop feelings for him but its not hapenning.

This guy is well to do but i just cnt love him back.
So guys help me out, how else do i make this guy see that i cnt love him in return in a way he wouldnt feel so bad?

One thing about me i dont feel easily no matter how goodlooking, rich or whatever a man is.
I dont want it to one sided i want to love an be loved in return.

There is nothing wrong in turning down someone you dont feel anything for...just make sure you dont make the person feel like a loser.
The feelings are meant to be mutual and anything short of that will sooner or later result in heartbreak and frustration.
My dear you got your answer in your hand.


can u explain what u mean by the emboldened part?

ichidodo: o.k so u r sayin readin feminine expressions comes wit a feminine born instinct? hmmmm. are u sayin i have to be feminine or have to be emotional 4 accurate readin?

You essentially have to be able to lock out any input from your dik to read properly.

2buff:

You essentially have to be able to lock out any input from your dik to read properly.

That is so very impossible except if u r not sexually attracted to the person and u know how impossible it is to be in a relationship where sexual attraction is not on the menu.

Cutejay: hello guys!

I want to know if its wrong to turn down a guy who loves you very much bt u dont feel a thing for him.

Cuz there is this guy who has been asking me out for a very long time now, but the problem is i don't feel anything at all for him.

I have made it clear to him that i don't feel anything for him but he keeps begging me to love him.

I have tried to develop feelings for him but its not hapenning.

This guy is well to do but i just cnt love him back.
So guys help me out, how else do i make this guy see that i cnt love him in return in a way he wouldnt feel so bad?

One thing about me i dont feel easily no matter how goodlooking, rich or whatever a man is.
I dont want it to one sided i want to love an be loved in return.

My dear doll-y, i am happy that the world still has a lady as you. Please i advice that you try to turn him to a friend, make him understand that all you need is a friend. If he loves you for real he will consent, & just maybe somewhere along the line you'll be good friends.

If he refuses on the other hand, then know he was looking for something temporary.

Cutejay: hello guys!

I want to know if its wrong to turn down a guy who loves you very much bt u dont feel a thing for him.

Cuz there is this guy who has been asking me out for a very long time now, but the problem is i don't feel anything at all for him.

I have made it clear to him that i don't feel anything for him but he keeps begging me to love him.

I have tried to develop feelings for him but its not hapenning.

This guy is well to do but i just cnt love him back.
So guys help me out, how else do i make this guy see that i cnt love him in return in a way he wouldnt feel so bad?

One thing about me i dont feel easily no matter how goodlooking, rich or whatever a man is.
I dont want it to one sided i want to love an be loved in return.

dagr8:

There is nothing wrong in turning down someone you dont feel anything for...just make sure you dont make the person feel like a loser.
The feelings are meant to be mutual and anything short of that will sooner or later result in heartbreak and frustration.
My dear you got your answer in your hand.

can u explain what u mean by the emboldened part?

Yeah I agree with that, if you don't like a person you must thank the person for appreciating you enough as to make advances/want to be with you----and as gently as possible let the person down easy without hurting his feelings. If possible still call once in a while and say hello to the person so that it won't be like you turned your back on the person as if the person is nothing, this is especially helpful in a situation when the person feels very disappointed and hurt, your calls and kindness will still help the person get through it.
I mean some humans are so fragile that "rejection" send them into depression.