missblanche:
Not just for you doll...most guys have this crazy orientation about a lady and its so annoying..if a lady is rich,she can't get a man,if she has more than a masters degree..its f..king hard..she's independent and the guys want to take advantage...most of these ladies just want to be loved,that's all they crave for..but our men don't see that..i wonder what it is they see..

a master degree holder approached by a degree holder what do u think her reaction will be?... She might even shout down on the guy.. Some girls even say "see this monkey o, I no be ur level go find ur mate"... Some might even call him badluck...

@Dailynews maybe, but I believe in connection, if there's no connection then d guy is not just it, no matter what he has or hasn't, it's just me

eimuhb:

Complain??!

Yes... I was even suprised at that... She said he should give her some space... He should go out once in a while.... If u know me I don't mince words or pretend (though I also don't talk much too).. I told her she is not serious..

Maya2pretty: ask who out? oxygen or hydrogen? pls b reasonable

... Odikwa very serious

ichidodo: And so many eligible ladies but who will bell the cat? There comes a time once in the life of a man when he sits himself down and says 'charlie, i am tired of this rigmarole lifestyle. I just need me a cool-headed woman to settle down wit' Every African man must come to this point sooner or later in life and its mostly the ladies around the vicinity are wooed.The race is not for the strong nor swift ure time is ure time ure own ure precious own nobody can take that away from u. So my dollies, be optimistic, be happy, be hardworkin, be forgivin, be humble, smile and give love a chance. Look at mi, my heart has been smashed to bits yet am stil willin to give a love a chance because am a live human being and that is what we do best. LOVE. An unlovin or unlovable or unwillin-to-love human being is dead one. Just smile and watch Mr Right drop on ure lap.Plop! Dailynews how u take c am?

The problem here is- I don't even chase, not in my book, and can't do that...now ask me how I will find my wife, maybe miracle lol...I dnt chase cos I believe chasing ladies = chasing wind. Cos I believe that ladies dnt care abt guys, they dnt want companion (my own belief though), so I can't see myself worrying abt someone that doesn't care cos its unfair n biased. Y must u like me cos I am this n that? Y cnt u like me cos I act weird, write weird, etc? Must it be for materials and tangibles? Wot if I have none, so it means I am not worthy of love These r some of d questions dat pop into guys head involuntarily, n y some mistreat ladies who come their ways. Pls strive by all means u can wherever u find urself to disprove guys that u only want money n favour from them, cos guys are beginning to ask questions- y must she like me cos I give her money? Solve her assignment, give her job? Etc...wot if I have none to give her

@ichidodo the palm wine tapper...did u check ur palm wine this night? I need 2 keg tomorrow morning at eke market square

Maya2pretty: ask who out? oxygen or hydrogen? pls b reasonable

nbright might be right; maybe u need to woo ur own man cos u seem to have a very high taste n they may not have tym for wooing, most of such calibre of guys u seem to connect with don't always woo or chase or toast, so try and befriend one n subtly woo him, it will most likely work for u if ur sure u worth the kind of guy u seem to have as ur dream man else, it may be difficult to work. Just try one n come back for more tips if necessary

nbright: Yes... I was even suprised at that... She said he should give her some space... He should go out once in a while.... If u know me I don't mince words or pretend (though I also don't talk much too).. I told her she is not serious..

nbright: a master degree holder approached by a degree holder what do u think her reaction will be?... She might even shout down on the guy.. Some girls even say "see this monkey o, I no be ur level go find ur mate"... Some might even call him badluck...

Guy u too gbaski..
U go hear stuffs lik slippers get size...

Big ups to u guys.. Av really learnt alot i really hop n pray dat i will b better Mam dan ma fada is..
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@DN
U wil get.. I belief everytin all boils down to ur mind ser.. ur woman might even b among ur friends...

Maya2pretty: @Dailynews maybe, but I believe in connection, if there's no connection then d guy is not just it, no matter what he has or hasn't, it's just me

On a more serious note, from the little discussions we had been having here, I can write the biography (in terms of romance and relationship) of some of the females here. That's by the way.

@Maya, I think your kind of lady is not easily impressed or will I say u don't easily connect with guys in general, and from so many deductions, u need to find, toast or woo your dream man if u truly want that type of man u connect with.

Open up, don't be shy, remove traditional beliefs and befriend him casually when u find that type u connect with. Its very much easier for a lady to befriend a guy than for a guy to befriend a lady, so use that as an advantage.

Meanwhile, look attractive (not provocative), neat, smile well all the time and u will get him. When u are embarking on this journey, pls put ur guards on- NO SEX no matter how much u connect with him and be ready to accept turn down (which is most unlikely if u have 70% I am assuming already).

Why should do this is becos:

1. You seem to have a high taste and difficulty in connecting with guys who walk up to u

2. guy of your dream hardly chase for so many reasons that can make up a book

3. It will be easier for u to find your kind of man using this approach cos u must have connected with him, liked him, etc before making efforts to woo or get him, instead of sitting and waiting for him to come and only for the opposites to be coming. It doesn't mean u are unlucky or this n that, it just means this is a totally changed world, adapt to it. Goodluck dear. Come back here for more guide or tips if u need any.

DailyNews: The problem here is- I don't even chase, not in my book, and can't do that...now ask me how I will find my wife, maybe miracle lol...I dnt chase cos I believe chasing ladies = chasing wind. Cos I believe that ladies dnt care abt guys, they dnt want companion (my own belief though), so I can't see myself worrying abt someone that doesn't care cos its unfair n biased. Y must u like me cos I am this n that? Y cnt u like me cos I act weird, write weird, etc? Must it be for materials and tangibles? Wot if I have none, so it means I am not worthy of love These r some of d questions dat pop into guys head involuntarily, n y some mistreat ladies who come their ways. Pls strive by all means u can wherever u find urself to disprove guys that u only want money n favour from them, cos guys are beginning to ask questions- y must she like me cos I give her money? Solve her assignment, give her job? Etc...wot if I have none to give her

With regards to this I'd say that, you have not found someone you like alot. When you do, You will chase & chase,and you will not get weary.

Personally, I don't do things based on assumptions. Everyone is diff. I cant say "All" guys are this or that. I just believe in having principles and keeping my word.

Asides that, I believe relationships last when you dont just jump into it. Most guys & ladies are "Meet Lady>woe her>relationship starts!!"
I believe in friendship. If you can be a true friend, then you can be a true companion. I dont go all out looking for a guy to date.

If a guy can make the effort to be a friend, even if he wants to be more than a friend, it's a gradual process not a "kick & Start" process.

@Dailynews really? whats ur perception of this? do u mean physical taste in men or what? A connection in dis contest is emotional and mental, 4 instance, there's this guy, he's everythin I admire in a guy, his built, psychi, every every plus he has a very good job and all but I just like him as a friend, there's no connection and all. I dont expect u 2 understand, so stop makin assumptions 4 me, ave never done dat 2 u, it hurts when u dont get it right

Maya2pretty: @Dailynews really? whats ur perception of this? do u mean physical taste in men or what? A connection in dis contest is emotional and mental, 4 instance, there's this guy, he's everythin I admire in a guy, his built, psychi, every every plus he has a very good job and all but I just like him as a friend, there's no connection and all. I dont expect u 2 understand, so stop makin assumptions 4 me, ave never done dat 2 u, it hurts when u dont get it right

I seem 2connect wt Maya on dis. Sometimes, ther's just no spark. Nothn dat pulls U close. D best U can be is friends. There's dis guy I met back in schl. He went after me like crazy. I jst had 2let him knw dat I wasnt going 2 date him. If I had, it'd wud probably be out of pity.

Just no spark. No connection.

We live in d same city now. We are gud friends and he tells his friends dat I'm d one he's been chasing 4 years. He told me he wont give up till d day I get married.

I have thought abt it thru and thru, but d emotions are not there. There's just no spark.

Maya2pretty: @Dailynews really? whats ur perception of this? do u mean physical taste in men or what? A connection in dis contest is emotional and mental, 4 instance, there's this guy, he's everythin I admire in a guy, his built, psychi, every every plus he has a very good job and all but I just like him as a friend, there's no connection and all. I dont expect u 2 understand, so stop makin assumptions 4 me, ave never done dat 2 u, it hurts when u dont get it right

Hey Maya, see...from my own psychic reading and intuition which hardly fails, you have a strong taste....a very rare taste, and believe me, such men that I know you would connect with, hardly chase. you can only meet them by chance, luckily when they find something weird in you that interest them, thats the only time they can come after you cos they are not always moved by physical beauty cos they have seen enough of it in different packages, so this may make it rare or impossible for u to get that your dream man, hence, my reason for proferring another alternative solution- going for what you want, but not in a desperate way. Just like you said, befriend him, its very easy for a lady to befriend a guy, I will repeat it again. Then get him interested, and if he shows no interest, gradually move on, if he finds u interesting, he will definitely come back for you someday if at all u will be free by then...just try this Maya...cos I know u may not admit it, but u are hardly impressed by guys or u find it hard to connect.

Regarding me not chasing- you won't understand. No matter how I admire a girl, I can't chase her until I have seen a green light, and even at that, I won't chase, will only show light and if no positive sign still, I am gone forever! I don't chase to be honest, I am not trying to lie here God knows, I hate the idea of chasing a lady, it sounds weird and odd to me....maybe I am archaic on that, but friends and family know me too well, and as they read this, some do...lol, they will be laughing....

Winneygirl:

I seem 2connect wt Maya on dis. Sometimes, ther's just no spark. Nothn dat pulls U close. D best U can be is friends. There's dis guy I met back in schl. He went after me like crazy. I jst had 2let him knw dat I wasnt going 2 date him. If I had, it'd wud probably be out of pity.

Just no spark. No connection.

We live in d same city now. We are gud friends and he tells his friends dat I'm d one he's been chasing 4 years. He told me he wont give up till d day I get married.

I have thought abt it thru and thru, but d emotions are not there. There's just no spark.

Just like I told Maya, if you are the type that hardly connect with guys that walk up to you, it is more advisable to reach out for those kind of guys you connect with. if you can't find them in your location, then use other mediums, explore their likely location and make friends with such group of guys that interests you, and that will make it easier for you than waiting on him to come cos its most likely he won't show-up, more and more reasonable guys are quitting the act of chasing women, its mostly playboys that chase and chase cos they have a very hidden mission, and once they achieve it, they are gone and thats y you see most ladies crying- he was chasing me bumper to bumper and after this and that, he lost interest, of course the fun is in the chase for those that chase, get that

Maya2pretty: do u think single female billionaires r happy bein single, y do we have d cases of sugar mummy and sugar son so rampant in our society? no offense but I cant even start to argue, am not in d mood now

Not all billionaires are sugar mummies
Have you heard of gina rineheart. She is happy with her billions
Let's not be stereotypical here and say money is not important

Winneygirl:

With regards to this I'd say that, you have not found someone you like alot. When you do, You will chase & chase,and you will not get weary.

Personally, I don't do things based on assumptions. Everyone is diff. I cant say "All" guys are this or that. I just believe in having principles and keeping my word.

Asides that, I believe relationships last when you dont just jump into it. Most guys & ladies are "Meet Lady>woe her>relationship starts!!"
I believe in friendship. If you can be a true friend, then you can be a true companion. I dont go all out looking for a guy to date.

If a guy can make the effort to be a friend, even if he wants to be more than a friend, it's a gradual process not a "kick & Start" process.

No matter how much I like you, I won't chase you. I can only be your friend, tell you this n that, but will never chase u especially if there is no green light....and I easily loose interest in a girl, especially if...

missblanche:
Is that possible here?i would love to try it out if its possible..thanks for the idea..thank you

ℓ̊ believe U̶̲̥̅̊ ar based in Lagos, find a venue, get ur instruments ready (make it practical), make some handbills etc and advertise here as well and ℓ̊ believe U̶̲̥̅̊'ll record a success. With time U̶̲̥̅̊ make it regular and build a career from there. Just ensure U̶̲̥̅̊ are always up to date on new baking tecniques.

biolabee:

Not all billionaires are sugar mummies
Have you heard of gina rineheart. She is happy with her billions
Let's not be stereotypical here and say money is not important

Biolabee, try and understand her pls...she's trying to say that no matter how rich a lady may be, that she still crave for male companion, but in as much as I try to believe this, I can't...cos women have proven that once they are so financially empowered, they lose interest and decency for true companionship, reason nature don't really support a woman being so financially empowered outside marriage, etc.

Check out the list:

Opray Winfrey, she see men as gold-diggers, unworthy, etc just becos she made money and fame

Serena Williams, same belief and attitude

Tyra Banks

Linda Ikeji (yes, she is finding it hard to love or trust men, reason for her being single up till now)

Tiwa Savage only managed to get away

Onyeka Onwelu, hers is something else

Senator Chris Anyanwu (married and divorced)

Genevieve Nnaji

Eucharia Anunobi

etc, etc...etc....thats why men hardly aim for financially empowered women, cos women tend to be arrogant once they have this fame and financial empowerment.

But look at it- Dangote despite his enormous wealth got married, Bill Gates did, Mark Zuckerberg the facebook founder did, Twitter founder did, Schmidt the google founder did, Lashmi Mittal of Tata did, Mr. Forest of Australia did, Obama did, George Bush did, Sadam Hussein of all people did, just name it....men don't get so arrogant towards women cos of money or fame. in fact, they even prefer to go below their class to marry when they have money, but when a woman has one million, she wants to marry or date only a man who has hundred billion who may not care about her, is that right?

Once a woman has a Ph.D degree, she can't date or marry a man who has an SSCE, but a man who is a professor wouldn't mind dating or marrying an illiterate lady so long as he finds her interesting, he would go any length to even cover her up and upgrade her, but women would rather call such men below their financial, social or whatever class all sorts of demeaning names, and haul insults at them, thats y its not really good for a woman to have so much money and fame outside marriage, nature doesn't support it, or such a lady should be ready to stay single for live and be happy about it, thats her choice.

Unless she will humble herself and reason like a normal woman else, else.....I rest my case here....

DailyNews: Its very much easier for a lady to befriend a guy than for a guy to befriend a lady, so use that as an advantage.

@bolded... They don't seem to know that one... Like me, I will never (& I have never) stopped a girl/lady on the road to toaste her.. Some girl/ladies are so full of themselves that if a guy just say "Hi" to them, they will wash him down in the full glare of the public... Most guys don't like embarrasments (I inclusive)..

nbright: @bolded... They don't seem to know that one... Like me, I will never (& I have never) stopped a girl/lady on the road to toaste her.. Some girl/ladies are so full of themselves that if a guy just say "Hi" to them, they will wash him down in the full glare of the public... Most guys don't like embarrasments (I inclusive)..

Guys chasing after ladies is gradually going into extinction...I repeat, only playboys and men after something go out chasing a girl up and down like their life depends on her, its uncalled for, for what reason

I condemn that any day, any time! If it occurs by coincidence, thats fine, but chasing a girl who doesn't care and hoping to convince her to care is a total stupidity and idleness, simple! Guys won't hear nor learn anyway cos they are so freaky about skirts that has nothing in it...this things get me so pissed most times.

DailyNews: I want to start with your comment chichi...your name sound so kinky, like it though..lol...thats by the way. You see, like I pointed out earlier, majority of men of today believe 100% that ladies don't need men if not for when they need a financial favour or any other form of favour, thats the truth. Like myself, I always tell my friends- guy, that girl doesn't care about you o, she no send whether you exist or not, if you doubt me, don't call her again and she will never dare call you until she needs a favour, and most times when they try what I tell them, it works like that.

Because of this, we guys believe that Nigerian ladies don't enter into a relationship or marriage for true companionship, they only agree to date a guy just to date, to have a financial provider or a problem solver or a solution provider whether in the form of academic solution provider as a student, or financial provider when she is in need, and thats why most guys don't take relationships or marriage serious because they believe women don't care. Internet has helped to open our eyes a bit though, just like mine got opened to an extent today, courtesy of carmelion's post today.

So, that guy may have been believing this- that Nigerian girls don't really care, they don't give a damn about relationship or companionship, they want this and that, so he may have decided to try you and you proved him right and he moved on. Most men have learnt not to take relationship and sometimes marriage serious because of how ladies treat relationships and marriages.

So when u meet a guy you really like, make him understand that you value the friendship u have with him, the companionship and that u really care about him. guys are insecure too but u ladies dont know.

Hmmm. Its quite unfortunate dat girls are no longer seen as treasures they are but cheap articles that can be purchased wit money. But still Daily news, ther are precious jewels among them. It hurts me when a guy approaches me 4 friendship and starts bragging abt his financial prowess and achievments thinkin that all we care abt is money. Do they think that money is a prerequisite 4 luv?
Most times sef, guys are d cause of d problem. How would u approach a girl and strt confessin how u wouldnt allow her 2 suffer if only she says yes 2 u. By d time she says yes and later strt demandin, u guys will strt 2 complain again. Imagine, last xmas, a guy who i turned down his proposal was pleadin wit me severaly 2 send him my bank account numbr so that he would send me some money 2 buy xmas things 4 my self. This was som1 whom i hav told clealy dat things cant work between us. If i'm d type who beliv in eating som1 mugu,he would start complainin dat girls like money.
In my own case, i hav nevr sought 4 material/financial assistanc 4rm a man. this may sound unbelievabl conderin wat s hapenin now but it s true. Back 2 d guy in question, d only material gift i hav recieved 4rm him were a pair of shoes, hand bag,etc which he sent 2 me on my bithday. Though i accepted it but i told him not 2 send me anythin again and he stoped. so u see, he wouldnt say that i am materialy demandin @ all...

DN good points there are actually more ladies who are empowered and still can't see themselves SUBMIT to the authority of any man

I am not talking of abuse o

to my dear guys on dis thread thats where d connection sets it, when I met my ex, we just walked pass eachother but I could feel d connection, we always stare at eachother, but one day I walked up to him and smiled, lol, Kennedy was taken off balance and when I asked his name, he stuttered, I told him my name and walked away wit a smile. That was enough greenlight 4 him, we kept on bumpin in2 eachother since den, became very good friends and started datin 1yr after memories

Like someone on twitter said about Tiwa Savage "that's not a proposal, that's rescue"...

chichi254: Do they think that money is a prerequisite 4 luv?

I like your write up but just accept you are an exception
The rule is MONEY FOR HAND BACK FOR GROUND

Maya2pretty: to my dear guys on dis thread thats where d connection sets it, when I met my ex, we just walked pass eachother but I could feel d connection, we always stare at eachother, but one day I walked up to him and smiled, lol, Kennedy was taken off balance and when I asked his name, he stuttered, I told him my name and walked away wit a smile. That was enough greenlight 4 him, we kept on bumpin in2 eachother since den, became very good friends and started datin 1yr after memories

Awwww nice story however the reality is that some of us will marry for love, others companionship, some security and for so many reasons as we are diverse

You may need to be pragmatic going fwd

@nbright
Is it not that guy that tweeted himself on a toilet
SMH for t savage

biolabee:

Awwww nice story however the reality is that some of us will marry for love, others companionship, some security and for so many reasons as we are diverse

You may need to be pragmatic going fwd

@nbright
Is it not that guy that tweeted himself on a toilet
SMH for t savage

yeah thats true, when I do get married,I want it 2 b because we r so inlove wit eachother, best friends that cant b seperated #Ilovemyfuturehusband

ichidodo: Big ups mr daily news, i sure love ure articles but i wil pitch my tent wit nbright on his tasTe and see policy. My aunt would have been spared 14yrs of grief if she knew early enough of her husband's weak hoo-haa or my uncle would not have adopted as a result of his wife's infertility. Even i am a product of taste and see which has done a marriage of 26 yrs no harm. This is real life, people should not leave these things to chance HEAVEN HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES. no sex b4 marriage is an age old crap coined by individuals deluded by their sense of self-righteousness hence are not into touch wit the vagaries of REAL LIFE as we know it to be.

ℓ̊ so pity U̶̲̥̅̊ guys who misquote the bible for ur own selfish reasons, it's utterly disgusting.
For the other guy saying 'taste and see' isn't the bible referring to God, it says taste and see that the Lord is good, if the song U̶̲̥̅̊ ar referring to is actually a christian song, ℓ̊'m so sure it's referring to the goodness Ơ̴͡f God and askin U̶̲̥̅̊ to go and ruin pple(girls) lives because U̶̲̥̅̊ want the best.
As for U̶̲̥̅̊ saying heaven help those who help themselves, is it in this context.
The bible also says "wisdom is the principal thing and in all ur doing get understanding"
"If any Ơ̴͡f U̶̲̥̅̊ lack understanding/wisdom let him ask Ơ̴͡f the Lord, who would generously give him wisdom"
If any part Ơ̴͡f the bible is unclear to U̶̲̥̅̊, look around for bible scholars and pastors to give U̶̲̥̅̊ a clearer meaning Ơ̴͡f the scriptures.
Once again stop misquoting and misconstruing the bible for ur selfish desires. It's absolutely disgusting.

@SimplYeahmee.... I learnt something in class today... "cultural shock".. This is the (experience) shock/disgust u get for that first time when u come in contact with another persons culture/beliefs... Be disgusted @ me all u want, but that's my way.. I stand by it... U no holy pass...

Maya2pretty: yeah thats true, when I do get married,I want it 2 b because we r so inlove wit eachother, best friends that cant b seperated #Ilovemyfuturehusband

Amen to that

@DailyNews, wat's Ur definition of greenlight??

What's Ur definition of chase? Cos U make it sound like crawling and begging a girl....which in my books it's not...

nbright: @SimplYeahmee.... I learnt something in class today... "cultural shock".. This is the (experience) shock/disgust u get for that first time when u come in contact with another persons culture/beliefs... Be disgusted @ me all u want, but that's my way.. I stand by it... U no holy pass...

ℓ̊ know say ℓ̊ no holy pass U̶̲̥̅̊. Even if ℓ̊ am no one knows. My disgust is the fact that some pple are simply misquotin d bible and working based on a misconstrued lie.
Shikena.
Crucify me all U̶̲̥̅̊ want, dats just d way ℓ̊ see these things.