Tashamania:

candy?

candygosh:

Hello tashydoll. Being a while dear

Tashamania:

I know, right..
I'll be home in few days from now but right now, I aint liking what am seeing one bit.

ichidodo: I hate weddings, all the crying,emotions and what not. Yuck!

ATMC: I love this thread, i'm just learning plenty plenty plenty things. @op thanks

190: So where's the list of single ladies here
Who's ready 2mingle

190: So where's the list of single ladies here
Who's ready 2mingle

candygosh:
Tis well dear.
One doesn't get wise twice. Its once.
While you are waiting for the one who deserves you too, you can also get actively involved in other things who knows...that thing might just be ur saving grace

candygosh:
Aaawww

ichidodo: Yeah. Aaw.So d'you like weddings?

candygosh:

Well I don't think there's any one who doesn't like weddings. Its something everyone prays for or look forward to.
Personally, am looking forward to mine. And I so like weddings

ichidodo: yeah. Was expectin that. Let me confess, i do like the trad aspect. The part where the bride takes a glass of wine to the groom. This one time i actually was part of a bride price 'negotiatin' team for my kinsman. We knew the bride was priceless but had to negotiate terms, i learnt a lot about my culture that day. There was so much wheeling,dealing,arguement and staged walkouts by us. At end of the day we had to meet the bride's people midway which made them happy includin the bride and groom. Me? A hot plate of Akpu and goat meat-filled egusi soup washed down wit pammy was all i cared for. I so love traditional marriages. Any part of Trad weddin u d'like to share?

carmelion: Now these are the questions I want us to answer. For each question, I bet you, you know someone it has happened to or you have the story before. We hear these stories everyday you know.

To all the single ladies in the house, you know sometimes, we feel so depressed that we don’t have a man in our lives to call our own. I want to believe that most of us her are ready for marriage, but there is a possibility that most of us are not. Now read this.

1. Do you know that when married, your husband might loose his job, and stay for years without getting another job. Of course the bills has to paid. Where do you get money from? Do you know that things can get so bad you will relocate to the village, I mean no money to buy common lip gloss? ARE YOU READY?

2. Do you know that your husband can fall sick (I don’t mean malaria).serious sickness that can see you guys moving from hospital to hospital yet no cure. Of course you are the Mrs., every body would abandon him for you. Have ever visited the hospital perhaps to see a friend? Remember how hospitals smell? Drugs right? The kids needs attention too. How can I forget the bills to be paid? My cousin(mid 30s,with four kids) is in this situation now. Her husband was shot by armed robbers last year. Now his leg has been cut off, after three surgeries, that’s money you know. Stayed more than 5 months in the hospital. His former job requires his legs so much, so that means no more job? Hmmm. ARE YOU READY?

3. Do you know that years into your marriage, you might just discover that your husband ,that your sweetheart you have shared so much is a member of a deadly occult group. In fact he is one of the leaders. We see this always on African magic. You think they are just stories?. Honey they are not, they are real life stories. How do you handle such situation? The shock? The trauma ? To worsen it all , they are about to initiate your fist son and you are supposed to be a Christian right ?ARE YOU READY?

4. Do you know that years into your marriage , a strange woman might just show up at your door with her luggage and a protruding belly/a child, claiming that your darling hubby is responsible? I mean, just a silly mistake from your husband can turn life around. How do you handle it? ARE YOU READY

5. Do you know that your boyfriend, the same guy that pampers you like an egg now can change to a woman beater in the future.? How do you handle it.ARE YOU READY?

6. Do you know that some women have woken up in the morning, only to discover that that their husband ha traveled out of the country, leaving you with the kids? The only thing he dropped for you was short note that says


” Honey, as you are reading this, I would be on my way to Europe. I am going there to look for greener pasture. Nigeria is so hard I feel I won’t make it there. Please take care of the kids I would be back when things are better. Love you”. Hubby.


Did you guys notice anything there? No return date, no contact address, no phone number? How do you cope? ARE YOU READY.

7. Do you know,that your husband can fall a victim of conspiracy in his place of work ?.I mean some people just don’t want him to get to the top. Do you know that they can connive against him and before you know it, your husband is in jail?. Whether he is innocent or not, you don’t know, but the truth remains that you are supposed to be the one making every move to get him out? Can you handle it? ARE YOU READY?


I am asking these questions because some single ladies feel , marriage is a resting place. Please, USE THE RESET BUTTON. It is not .it is just another phase of life with its own problems.


Now I know that some ladies would say ”When I get to the bridge. I will cross it’.or "I will handle the way others are handling it". That is good.But don't forget that many women could not cope anymore they choose to abandon the marriage.Some struggled to cope,and the stress killed them. I believe the knowledge that such things might happen, gives you the privilege to brace up at least a LITTLE and prepare your mind for marriage.It comes with a lot.When married you are now responsible for another person.(Your husband).Expect anything.

DailyNews: First of all, welcome Mr. 190. You know, like I always say- I like u, u are amongst the few regular users of this forum that I find real and interesting. I like u cos u are a clown, a comedian, and fearless person n u scold people in a humorous way, nice of u. Now, the only place I need u to make adjustments is name-calling. Dnt call the ladies names cos they are ur sisters, adorable female cousins and maybe nieces and aunts.

Sometimes I feel the ladies are bad, but not all, I began to realize that the guys too are bad by default.

But on a more realistic note, your points are valid. In the past, men didn't care about what their girlfriends bring into their lives, they only cared about sex and house keeping like u said.

But as time went, more and more ladies got more empowered financially and career-wise even more than the guys, hence, fewer eligible bachelors now exist when it comes to financial eligibility though. So to say, guys began to question deep in their hearts; what has this girl I am dating been contributing in my life development aside sex?

Like 190 said, not demanding money from ur boyfriend or fiancee isn't just enough, strive to add value to his life and don't listen to ladies who cook up bad stories of how they helped a guy and he ditched them after he became the president. See, while helping him achieve his dream, dnt humiliate him or go around announcing it cos the air, the bushes hear and it will sure get to him somehow.

Don't go sleeping around to get money to give him hoping to please n convince him to marry or stick with u, nature will definitely pay u back.

If u dnt have money, don't borrow to please him or sleep around to get money to give him, just be real, like 190 said, help him submit his cv wherever u hear abt job, give him helpful info cos ladies most times have access to helpful info.

Tell people around u or those u know that can help him to assist him, n believe me, d guy won't play with u and even if he dares, his friends won't allow that, and that's y its important for u to know his true friends and get familiar with them too.

Pls, take the good part of 190 advice, be a value to your man, relationship or marriage isn't about bring bring, give me, give me, u shud equally think of what value to give too, and be positive there are plenty guys out there ready to celebrate u a virtuous woman

ichidodo: No offence but i sensed a lack of enthusiasm as regards to the aspect of trad wedding in ure culture u like, sorry maybe i am asking for too much but there was this 9ice musical video i saw. It was about his guy that was gettin married traditionally,the presentation was very colourful and culturally rich. I like the aspect where they were 'begging' at first it started wit some kow-towing but the bride's father was adamant then they started prostrating until they were flat on the ground even the groom slept off on the floor. Lovely. I am sure u like the idea of grown men beggin ure dad for ure hand in marriage. Wouldn't u?

realking: bros i hope dat d 190 ur using as name here does not depict mercedes 190. am sure u got d joke

DailyNews: 190 remember I like u, so I would advice u drop the jokes here pls...don't mock them cos they are single becos u and I refused to marry.

Read and meditate with Ephisians 4:31-32 and pls this thread isn't meant for mocking or jokes, its for positive contributions, enlightenment and reformation

yes and ive shared my idea already
I hate when dumb phucks come here and start calling out names
of men that men are this
men are that
hes a cheat
hes this
hes that

without asking their respective selves . . . what im i really contributing to this man's life
ok am faithful, i can cook, clean and i have a HND OR OND or BSC and so
we are presently in the 21st century today - not all responsibilities lie on the shoulders of the men today
I know how our respective mother's laboured with our respective fathers to make them who they are today

some gold diggers are on this phucking thread, dumb phucks and even thoes that think calling 24/7 and not cheating on their man is even enough
to make the man stay are on this thread singing and wailing for the right time when they clearly have nothing to offer to the table!
a man is programmed to detect bu!!sh!t from afar and once we immediately sense this crap from such ladies we adjust


so what im saying in essence is SINGLE LADIES, cooking, cleaning, goldigging, been faithful or been the best in s-e-x is not enough for a man to stay with your a-r-s-e-s, A MAN MUST SEE OR GET SOMETHING TANGIBLE from a woman before he stays with her, SHE MUST BLESS HIM either physically or even spiritually before he stays or una think say na only WOMEN SABI USE MEN


Mschewww

candygosh:

Lol. I like trad. And its a must for me.
And yes my man must come begging, cheque in hand lol. Lying till my pops says yes.

ichidodo: Cheque in hand, lol that caught my attention. Yeah i guess u r worth the trouble and a lot more. So what is ure story, do u like cars, a fitness buff or are u into sports? I know its a dumb question but just humour me.