DailyNews: @chichi, sorry to say that u weren't really objective or will I say specific. Tall could mean diff things to diff ppl. Now when u say taller than u, is it 5ft7, 5ft8, 6ft, etc or what? That's by the way.

Now, again ur taste is kind of too high, and if this is how and what all our ladies have as their dream man, then so many guys and ladies will definitely end up in unhappy relationship and marriage.

The probability of finding him is 0.0005, very slim. You have to be more realistic pls.

He should be a member of your church As in if u are an Anglican church member, he must be Anglican too And must also come from your state And must not be fair Oh Chichi, that's way too much dnt u think so

Be open, start now to make adjustments ok? Fair guys aren't bad, and neither are dark skinned guys bad too, but be more open.

Now, you need to be attending your tribe's ppls weddings and ceremonies, make yourself more visible, lying down on d bed can't get u that guy. And it mustnt come from the internet cos most ladies nowadays seem to have this conviction that he must be on the internet, come on, he mustnt be online, so dnt ignore those around u too.

Will be back....more to come...we are going into practical class here and practical questions are welcome but pls no insults or use of demeaning words pls.

chichi254: well...(shy), simply put, someone whose nature/personality compliments mine. Because som1 may meet up wit most of d criteria yet deep inside u, u knw two of u are like far apart.
Anyways, I wish him 2 b,
*naturaly inteligent n God-fearin,
*complexion....dark
*taller than myself or same height wit me since i'm tall(winks)
*morally very sound
*hardworkin n goal oriented (then 2gether, we r gonna build WEALTH)
*agewise older than me(should be on his thirtees)
*physically flexible(not pot bellied orobo)
*very self confident
*same faith wit me(same church)
*same state
*hmmmm he has 2 be very carin, sensitive n romantic oooo(shyly covers my face)
*etceteraaa

simayanki4real:

She was a beauty, & i thought she should have been created by God himself (without help) and on the very first day of creation. Fair, slim, with a black flowing gown & a about an inch-heeled open slippers. I could see her nails, so neat. Her hair well packed...

Winneygirl: All d guys here scrutinizing d Lady's list, we will soon turn d tables.

Get ready to post Ur list soon.

Ladies, let's get ready 4 some serious scrutiny....

DailyNews, nbright...I'm giving you a heads-up....

carmelion: Hey dolls and of course the guys, TGIF.I have read a lot of comments here concerning one of our sweethearts,chichi24. Honestly you guys have said it all,dailynews,bukaytyne,nbright,temi4fash,youngalex.simiyaki4real.


I also want you to know that what she is feeling is normal for every woman. It is a phase a girl must pass. You know we women dream a lot. Some are lucky enough to actualize that dream while other starts to wake up with time .It is normal and it is natural. It’s all part of growing up.


There is nothing you guys will say now that will say to her now that would make her change her mind now. The feeling to change /make some adjustments would only come from deep within. Some girls seriously want to marry someone from their state. My cousin wanted someone from my town not just State, well luckily/unluckily she later did at the age of 31.She has two kids now. There was less pressure for her because her parents supported her. My grandfather refused all the guys that came for my mum and her sister. He said his son in-law must come from my town not just State. Well my mum married at 27, my aunt, at 30.There was less pressure because their dad was in support.


@Chichi, are your parents aware of this your list? , are they in support? even if they are in support ,please I would like to advise you that there is time for everything because they wont be there for ever. There is a time it would get to, you would wish you never listened. I would not tell you remove some things from your list. No, I won’t do that because I have some things on my list too , which are soooo important to me. Nobody can tell me to remove it because I am the only one that understands why I need it.


Please think about what dailynews said ,some things on your list limits your search. Please broaden it.

@ all the single ladies, lets go back to our list whether we like it or not, lets tell our selves the truth, some things there are not so relevant. Lets get our priorities right.

chichi254: well...(shy), simply put, someone whose nature/personality compliments mine. Because som1 may meet up wit most of d criteria yet deep inside u, u knw two of u are like far apart.
Anyways, I wish him 2 b,
*naturaly inteligent n God-fearin,
*complexion....dark
*[color=#99taller than myself or same height wit me since i'm tall(winks)
*morally very sound
*hardworkin n goal oriented (then 2gether, we r gonna build WEALTH)
*agewise older than me(should be on his thirtees)
*physically flexible(not pot bellied orobo)
*very self confident
*same faith wit me(same church)
*same state
*hmmmm he has 2 be very carin, sensitive n romantic oooo(shyly covers my face)
*etceteraaa

Winneygirl: All d guys here scrutinizing d Lady's list, we will soon turn d tables.

Get ready to post Ur list soon.

Ladies, let's get ready 4 some serious scrutiny....

DailyNews, nbright...I'm giving you a heads-up....

DailyNews: Winneygirl, lol, remember that this is "single ladies" thread and not 'single guys'? I hope you know that? But if you invite us, no problem...but me, to be honest, I don't have a long list; she just needs to be goodlooking and attractive so I won't cheat, and so when we go out (cos by God's grace I will be going places), she will be able to represent me well
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bukatyne:

Character qualities are non-negotiable and you shouldn't compromise them no matter what. However, physical qualities are just that: Physical. No matter how handsome a man is, if he beats you, you wouldn't see his 'handsomeness' anymore. True beauty radiates from the inside to the outside. An 'ugly' husband would be transformed to an Adonis when he loves you and you do too. A change of dressing, comestics, hair cut and perfume is transforming. Certain clothes can make a man look taller, exercise and good kpeusing can make his stomach reduce, your love can make him more self confident and charcoal can make him darker. When he nack you wella in bed, you will forget the state he is from.

I am saying all these so you will know that you can make your husband look like your 'dream man' if you put enough effort but if he possesses all these and is no husband material, pain would make him become very ugly to you.

biolabee: quote author=DailyNews] Winneygirl, lol, remember that this is "single ladies" thread and not 'single guys'? I hope you know that? But if you invite us, no problem...but me, to be honest, I don't have a long list; she just needs to be goodlooking and attractive so I won't cheat, and so when we go out (cos by God's grace I will be going places), she will be able to represent me well
.
 
YOU GBAGAUN FOR HERE
PERSIN WEY MARRY HALLE BERRY NO CHEAT ON TOP AM
YOU KNOW WETIN JAY Z DEY DO
 
EVEN PRINCE CHARLES CHEAT UPON LADY DI
 
Better still say you will not cheat because of your own principles
Dont hinge marital fidelity on beauty, something so ephemeral

DailyNews: Loz, I quite understand you...then you know what Presently, I don't even look around, I don't even wish to, and I am not even in any...even though I do see people I wish to, but for personal discipline, I don't and u may believe or not, but thats it. so I have the discipline and integrity to stick to her only so long as she impresses me.

...and remember, as a man, my wife needs to impress me physically first, before anything else...so I insist that she must be attractive to me....and my own meaning of attractiveness may not be the same with yours....

carmelion: Now just for the weekend. There are some questions I would post here later in the day.I would be generous enough to include the guys, they have been so helpful with their comments

If your answer to more than two of those questions is “noooo” or ,”God forbid” or “it is not my portion”(I wonder whose portion it is then), then am sorry, you are not ready for marriage even if you are 40.

One aspect of getting married is to attain a marriageable age; another aspect is to be ready. So many ladies just start having marriage vibes once they are past 25, but they are not truly ready. Some guys starts getting the message when they are past 30,but they are not ready.

When I post it,as usual, criticism are welcomed. We all here to learn. I have never been married you know

I only learn from people’s experiences and stories.

Later guys.

Evelyn06: Don't just expect anything, expect the best, not the worst and keep your thoughts positive. What if your husband becomes the governor or president, will you be able to handle the fame and power that comes with the position? Other people's mishaps don't have to be your lot too.

DailyNews:

So carm is very right...very right...but what's the way forward

carmelion:

The way forward is to be emotionally prepared.let me share a story with you

When I was in my final year,one guy from my village ,just came back from his base(spain)and spread the word that he was looking for a wife.You know how guys do their thing.I have an uncle who was kinda close to him so he refered him to me. I met the guy,he was okay in terms of appearance .My uncle told me in confidence that I should make sure I hook this guy.He said he knew him right before he traveled out,so I should go ahead, that he is a nice person,besides,he is very wealthy with a lot of landed properties in his name.


Everything my uncle said was very true but I discovered that we are going to have one problem. Distance or should I say sex?

His plan was to marry me,put me in the family way.take me to his mum,while he travels back and from then starts processing my papers.

Hell no!!.One of the reasons why i would want to get married is to have rightful sex.Besides I have a high sex libido so what the hell am i supposed to be doing with myself during those cold nights.As a married woman,no more boyfriends right?
hmmmm....,I can imagine.

Well I did not tell him the major reason why I can not marry him,i told him something else.

Well the guy found someone else(obviously who did not mind)and they are married now.


Till today, no one knows why i turned that guy down,not even my uncle.The guy has money,so obviously i don't need to tell you the type of car he bought for his wife.My uncle always tease me anytime we see her he will say''kai,this girl you fall my hand o,it could have been you riding that car.what exactly is wrong with you?

In my my mind i would just be laughing.I don't regret my action one bit because i know where my weakness would have landed me. But it made me to go back to the drawing board

I asked myself"what if I finally marry a guy who stays in Nigeria with me and years into the marriage,he decides to travel out for maybe 6months /1 year? perhaps for business purpose but obviously for the betterment of the family.Does that mean I can not stay?Does that mean I will become unfaithful to my hubby all because of some minutes enjoyment?hmmm..I need to watch it".

That was one of the things that inspired me to go into celibacy,total abstinence from sex.I needed to discipline my self.I started last year,after I broke up with my last boyfriend.This month made it one year.You have no idea,how happy i am .It was not easy but the grace of God saw me through.

What am I trying to say?Know your weaknesses,especially the ones that would affect your married life.Work on them,discipline yourself,develop yourself,groom your emotions.Be prepared

temi4fash: @DN
u d bomb ooo.. like d job u doin here bro.. mote grace to elbow..

@chichi i c dis ur list fear catch m ooo.no offence


I dont believe a spark must always occur or blood rush in ma head cos i saw some one. M belief dat stuffs will always takes it natural cause. d only gf i av ever had i didnt lik her at first but i got d green lyt so i went for her but i just decided i must make dis thing work n i found ma self likin her more dan she liked m self.. we still very gud friends. So m belief spark or no spark if both parties really work at it... den it can and will work.
One power a lot of us underestimate is d Power of Choice...
D spark only makes d decision easier but it dos not guarantee dat d person wuld b dat person we av always wished for..
mehn May God help us ooo...

Now let introduce d spiritual dimension.
I recommend dis book

Breaking d Yoke of marital delay
by Dr D.K Olukoya.
G.O MFM ministries.

Gud mawnin to d dolls n Men...
Its a friday make una jollificate...

carmelion: Now these are the questions I want us to answer. For each question, I bet you, you know someone it has happened to or you have the story before. We hear these stories everyday you know.

To all the single ladies in the house, you know sometimes, we feel so depressed that we don’t have a man in our lives to call our own. I want to believe that most of us her are ready for marriage, but there is a possibility that most of us are not. Now read this.

1. Do you know that when married, your husband might loose his job, and stay for years without getting another job. Of course the bills has to paid. Where do you get money from? Do you know that things can get so bad you will relocate to the village, I mean no money to buy common lip gloss? ARE YOU READY?

2. Do you know that your husband can fall sick (I don’t mean malaria).serious sickness that can see you guys moving from hospital to hospital yet no cure. Of course you are the Mrs., every body would abandon him for you. Have ever visited the hospital perhaps to see a friend? Remember how hospitals smell? Drugs right? The kids needs attention too. How can I forget the bills to be paid? My cousin(mid 30s,with four kids) is in this situation now. Her husband was shot by armed robbers last year. Now his leg has been cut off, after three surgeries, that’s money you know. Stayed more than 5 months in the hospital. His former job requires his legs so much, so that means no more job? Hmmm. ARE YOU READY?

3. Do you know that years into your marriage, you might just discover that your husband ,that your sweetheart you have shared so much is a member of a deadly occult group. In fact he is one of the leaders. We see this always on African magic. You think they are just stories?. Honey they are not, they are real life stories. How do you handle such situation? The shock? The trauma ? To worsen it all , they are about to initiate your fist son and you are supposed to be a Christian right ?ARE YOU READY?

4. Do you know that years into your marriage , a strange woman might just show up at your door with her luggage and a protruding belly/a child, claiming that your darling hubby is responsible? I mean, just a silly mistake from your husband can turn life around. How do you handle it? ARE YOU READY

5. Do you know that your boyfriend, the same guy that pampers you like an egg now can change to a woman beater in the future.? How do you handle it.ARE YOU READY?

6. Do you know that some women have woken up in the morning, only to discover that that their husband ha traveled out of the country, leaving you with the kids? The only thing he dropped for you was short note that says


” Honey, as you are reading this, I would be on my way to Europe. I am going there to look for greener pasture. Nigeria is so hard I feel I won’t make it there. Please take care of the kids I would be back when things are better. Love you”. Hubby.


Did you guys notice anything there? No return date, no contact address, no phone number? How do you cope? ARE YOU READY.

7. Do you know,that your husband can fall a victim of conspiracy in his place of work ?.I mean some people just don’t want him to get to the top. Do you know that they can connive against him and before you know it, your husband is in jail?. Whether he is innocent or not, you don’t know, but the truth remains that you are supposed to be the one making every move to get him out? Can you handle it? ARE YOU READY?


I am asking these questions because some single ladies feel , marriage is a resting place. Please, USE THE RESET BUTTON. It is not .it is just another phase of life with its own problems.


Now I know that some ladies would say ”When I get to the bridge. I will cross it’.or "I will handle the way others are handling it". That is good.But don't forget that many women could not cope anymore they choose to abandon the marriage.Some struggled to cope,and the stress killed them. I believe the knowledge that such things might happen, gives you the privilege to brace up at least a LITTLE and prepare your mind for marriage.It comes with a lot.When married you are now responsible for another person.(Your husband).Expect anything.