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Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Idowuogbo(f): 1:48am On May 26, 2013 |
barcanista: by the way how e take affect you if i demand for friendship of all girls using social network? abi na crime again?Ogbeni, face front! U derailing o!!! ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Osas79: 1:52am On May 26, 2013 |
coefoe: Ode, u wan fight na u get power, go and fight the strong women that cursed u out of NYSC Batch B, weak fool, they gave u the insult of your life, fear no gree you, keep your mouth closed before that man leaves you and runs overseas, fiance ko, sad relationship ni, poor man is not happy because you're a burden to his life, cry and open another thread 2moro about your fiance running away from ur folishness, ode 7 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by brainky(f): 1:53am On May 26, 2013 |
I love this and I hve learnt a lot from it.In my own case I hve someone who I am dating for 3yrs now bt no marriage because he his finacially unstable,We love each other so much,my people are disturbing me to get married and they are giving me serious headache now,they even got me someone toma rry bt I refuse jst because I can't marry a man I don't know,and I cant rush my fiancee to marry when I knw he his nt dat finacially stable what he his earning is not enough to feed us well and dis might cos problem when we marry,so this is what I did I told my people we will do introduction first which after 6 month marriage will come by them things wil be ok,I also made them understand that their pressure won't put food on the table when I am married,if things are nt working out well or if u are begging for money they wil d one insulting u again.my advice is long term courtship,patient and a lot of prayers,don't get married because someone is doing so.I am 26 and he his in his 30s |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Osas79: 1:55am On May 26, 2013 |
brainky: I am 26 and he his in his 30s You're still young. Keep supporting him and he can't forget you. 7 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Idowuogbo(f): 1:56am On May 26, 2013 |
Osas~79:Haba!!!! Ewo ten pe? Dude, easy na! ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by nankosa(m): 1:58am On May 26, 2013 |
Interesting topic. Lets checkout jennette-"i will wait for u" for more insight on youtube. [ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igCj3jsbcqs] 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 2:06am On May 26, 2013 |
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Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 3:40am On May 26, 2013 |
jennykadry: Story 2.100000likes. I agree wit u perfectly. And. I disagree wit d OP. Marriage fails because of lack of compromise not because people. Are completely opposite. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by InvertedHammer: 3:52am On May 26, 2013 |
/ It is not only ladies. It happens to guys too. For me, I must marry this year by fire by force. I want to have kids so badly that I have given myself this year as deadline. Does that come out as being desperate? Yes, I am desperate to marry folks. Help a brother out, if you could. / 2 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 3:57am On May 26, 2013 |
I think that its hard for some to hear their own voice I'm the midst of the pressures that surround us. The truth is if you get to know yourself, and learn to listen to the voice of reason inside, you'll never step into rushed marriage. I know some who got married after a short courtship and have very happy marriages. But they weren't rushing to the alter. They knew what they wanted and were blessed to find someone who wants the same.I've learnt that no matter how much my flesh and immediate needs are met, all I need to do is listen to myself. Am I really in love? Does this person line up with my values? What will our days truly look like? Is he ready to settle down? You know the answer but 9/10 times we ignore it. 4 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 4:22am On May 26, 2013 |
Quite an Interesting subject matter. I will also like to add that some of us folks find it extremely difficult to really meet our present needs in a partner because of the way it(the needs) is fashioned. Take for example, me as a person don't want to have kids; don't get me wrong, I love children so so much, but it's just a decision I've come to make. But if I throw that to a lady she sees me as strange, in short all the ladies I have approached sees it has very strange, I'm yet to meet someone who is okay with that. Mind you, even here in the states where I reside, I'm yet to meet a person that sees the idea as my own decision rather than giving me the usual weird look, talkless of coming back to 9ja to wife hunt. I know it will be a long road but under no circumstances have I promised myself to compromise my stance. I can draw an inference from what I just explained that one can be forced into desperation and thereby become a father one did not even imagined because of the societal pressure. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by LabourParty(m): 4:32am On May 26, 2013 |
Osas~79: What if he finally gets a good job and decides to go for a much more younger lady to marry? 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by KingPradas(m): 4:35am On May 26, 2013 |
[size=13pt]Na by force to get married ?[/size] 3 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by rman: 5:31am On May 26, 2013 |
If all these girls advising others regularly on nairaland are so smart like they claim, why are they still single? How come Kulyie's posts on most relationship threads are all about failed relationships and negatives in men? Lonely girls turned relationship advisors on nairaland. 12 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 5:36am On May 26, 2013 |
@ Op Lol... You don't need to force yourself into marriage or else you will somehow regret why you ever did in the first place. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 6:01am On May 26, 2013 |
rman: If all these girls advising others regularly on nairaland are so smart like they claim, why are they still single?So true 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by agohavivi(f): 6:10am On May 26, 2013 |
Gaggi: Forget all these theories, life doesn't work that way. We have seen people get desperate and date for only few mnths before marriage and it was successful. We have also seen long term courtship that resulted into marriage but wasn't successful.One million likes. You just made my point. Truly, what works favourably well for Kunle and adamma might turn out to be a problem for Biola and emeka. The OP made it look like people who have opposing views can't live together as a couple. Myself and my spouse used to have opposite views on a number of issues, this is expected considering the fact that we come from different homes. Though we are from the same place we were born and bred in different places as a result we both adopted the culture and values of the environment in which we grew up so it's like an intertribal marriage except that we speak our native dialet. I have adjusted so much from the person I used to be. My tastes have changed, my method of cooking and tolerance of certain things have changed and I now accept certain things I never used to in the past same goes for my spouse because we both are working for a successful marriage. Do you know what it means putting two people from differnt homes together for life? Even when brothers and sisters live together There's misunderstanding talkless of unrelated persons. Two opposite persons can have a beautiful and successful marriage provided they both are matured and can accomodate each other's excesses and adjust their lifestyle to suit their spouses. Here on nairaland the ibos can't tolorate the yorubas and vice versa because of unnecessary prejudice tell me how someone with such a mind set would go into a marriage and not rubbish it? @ OP, if Lola and Emeka can accept each others excesses, adjust their lifestyle to suit the other, learn to understand each other and dwell more on what they have in common, they can make a wonderful and successful marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by try69: 6:12am On May 26, 2013 |
barcanista: did i tell you i'm searching either? besides why is so difficult to respond to simple direct question? Can we be friends? its yes or no. You should not implore unnecessary tactics to respond to direct questions. haba! i fear fear o It's a Nigerian girl mentality thingy.. Can we be friends translates to "I wan do your punny". It's offensive if they don't av plans of shagging u..learn now mate! |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nobody: 6:47am On May 26, 2013 |
If not for the Nigerian meantality, is marriage a do or die affair, must ur happiness depend on someone else, must ur future be hinged on someone. Dats is the Nigerian problem, evry girl goes into a relationship with marriage in mind and if it doesn't work, she loses her mind. 2 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Nuzo1(m): 6:57am On May 26, 2013 |
nony30: I have never met u or have any plans τ̲̅ȍ even do that in dis life.But for the records u sound cheap and dirty with this ur "Quitter never wins"behaviour. Easy on Kulye, very bad experience with people could change anybody and make them unnecessarilly defensive. Problem is when we continously allow such experience to define the rest of our lives. As for Idowuogbo, I don't know her personally, but given some of her "Sarcastic" comments here and there, she is one girl that can make a good partner and even turn a 'bad' man to a wonderful partner without even trying hard. She is witty and forgiving. She comes across as one of those girls who will not waste time in making ammends with her partner as soon as she wrongs them. The partner would have no choice but to do same when they wrong her. A few of her over the top comments here is just for the fun of it. I may be wrong tho'. ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by nnanyereugo(m): 7:12am On May 26, 2013 |
Nw i kno dat dis kuylie/shewa of aa girl is a loosd cannon. She is old, not married, has lost hope 4 marriage, blames men 4 her predicament, hates all men 4 nt marryn her and nw wants 2 recruit mor ladies ladies 2 join her evil campaign by dscouragn dem on marriage issues. Pls ladies i beg u, do not join dat devil incarnate in her miserable lyf. She has lost it alredi & wants u all 2 b lik her. Jst lik satan wen he was thrown down 4rm heaven. Mschewwwww. 7 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by ASPchris(m): 7:12am On May 26, 2013 |
nikkykay: Please let all the singles learn from this.Deceiver |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by mu2sa2: 7:24am On May 26, 2013 |
Marriage is a necessity for the stability of sdciety and propagation of the human race. So everyone ought to marry at some point in their life. In choosing a partner one should not be unnecessarily idealistic. Just be observant that you avoid a person who is unpredictable in his actions - substance abusers (alcohol drinkers, weed and cocain users) and temparamental individuals. All this talk about compatibility is just theorising. But you need loads of patience and attitude of give and take in marriage. That`s it - go ahead and try your luck after all life itself is not predictable, you just pray and hope for the best. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by nnanyereugo(m): 7:24am On May 26, 2013 |
rman: If all these girls advising others regularly on nairaland are so smart like they claim, why are they still single?God 'll bless u 4 dis post. I dont kno dat som1 else sees wat i c here. Dat KUYLIE of a girl is frustrated & hopeless 4 lyf as fara smarriage is concern & has vowed 2 mk oda girls join her, bt so many off dem r nt noticing it here. Pls tel dem 2 leave dat girl in her miserable unmarried world. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Thermythorpe(f): 7:24am On May 26, 2013 |
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Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by nneh1(f): 7:27am On May 26, 2013 |
.infact i believe my mom now when she says making decisions about marriage is harder than all the degrees you can ever earn in your life,its fragile yet tough. This is really a big lesson and an advice. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by azeezengr(m): 7:37am On May 26, 2013 |
Desperation-Not an option for any good thing, Courtship-No ideal duration. Love-No perfect definition or criteria for assessment. Wayout: Prayer, Patience,Tolerance and Compassion are viable tools required for preparation and nurturing of a blissful marriage. 1 Like |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by NOIBMUUL(m): 7:41am On May 26, 2013 |
InvertedHammer: / Dis one na Pep Guardiola oh! see as u dey plot tactics and plan technical game play to find woman for NL. Your inbox for don full now! Ote |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by NOIBMUUL(m): 7:44am On May 26, 2013 |
rman: If all these girls advising others regularly on nairaland are so smart like they claim, why are they still single? Don't you know it's easy to cook a vegetable soup with your mouth. |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by nnanyereugo(m): 7:49am On May 26, 2013 |
tintingz: You should be in convent dancing with the nuns ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by Ike77503(m): 7:50am On May 26, 2013 |
I just had to share this,hoping someone on Nairalander will learn something. I Love you sweetheart...Okay..just had to put that there cus wifey log in periodically to nairalander with my account. To all the Ladies and gents, honestly MARRIAGE is beautiful. A successful marriage has no destination but rather it's a journey. A journey that will take two individuals ( wife n hubby ) and their luggage ( kids ) through a smooth road at times and bumpy road other times. Each and every one of us gets to a point in our life,where we know we r ready to settle down and this includes those of us that clubs , womanizes, pursue ''magas'' and so forth...and when that time comes, it's very imperative that we seperate that life-style from the one that we know is right! one doesnt have to be a rocket scientist to know if the person we are dating or that "someone" interested in us is good for us , or a match for us or thats what I need and not what i want E.T.C. WE KNOW Amongst our boyfriends/girlfriends who is a wifey /hubby material! but alot of times, MEN n WOMEN try to measure up to those we grew up with or friends. ALL FINGERS CAN NEVER BE EQUAL. A good start is to ask yourself, WOULD YOU MARRY YOU? in otherwords, if you were to marry, will your present self (personality, attitude , life-style e.t.c ) be suitable for marriage? only thing constant in life is CHANGE! if you are not marriage suitable then begin to change what needs to be changed. Secondly, list those things you HONESTLY wish you could change about you...and try to find them in your suitor or admirer..if they have it, in most cases they'll motivate you to acquiring it over the course of your marriage all things being equal. furthermore, seek a partner that makes you HAPPY ! he/she may not be rich but his/her presence is worth more than GOLD! GoodLuck to those of you that are still searching... I know of a guy that met his WIFE (gorgeous) on Nairaland. I found out about this site through him..because he said he knew what was happening in Nigeria live through Nairalanders, and this guy happens to be my course mate in Undergraduate. he went further to earn a Ph.D., works for Shell, bought a nice home in an afluent neighborhood but looking back when we were in school, almost all the girls in school then shy away from him, even some laugh at him or call him funny names. well, he's very short (5'4 " ![]() Abeg I forget to add PRAYER ! pray always for God to send you a good compatible partner.. at Op, ''from desire to desperation '' Might mean ''from desire to I am ready to settle down''...there are 3 schools of thought here: Desire - most of us do desire to get married.. Desperation - ahahahh I get belly , i must marry before i bring shame to my family. the other desperation - I am ready to settle down , done with all the partying, flexing , olingo....ike is out peace ! 2 Likes |
Re: I Must Marry This Year! From Desire To Desperation ! Please Learn From This by saintugo(m): 7:56am On May 26, 2013 |
Marrying someone is not basically out of desperation most times,its the desire to want to feel accomplished and get other aspects of your life going,there comes a time in ones life you just have to take that bold step,basically everyone should know what he or she wants in life and in their partners and seek God's grace in any decision your heart yearns to make at a particular moment in time. 1 Like |
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