ifyalways:

@Topic,i would only tell him things he can handle,others no way.
For those advocating for He needs to knwo everything[b],pray tell me,you tell an extremely jealous and short tempered hubby that his brother is making passes at you  [/b]

its best to tell,u don't hide things like this from him,u need proof though,but no matter how hot tempered he is,its better to tell wt ur mouth,o´because if he hears it smwhere else,the anger will be directed at u for not talking since,he might choose to blive u love his brother,hence d silence

i don't support keeping quiet in matters like this

only what he needs to know

Mai Suya:

only what he needs to know

How do you determine what he needs to know and what he does not need to know?

What if he asks you something that you think he does not need to know. . . do you lie or do you tell him that is on a need to know basis.

@ sisterwowman, there are things that he may [b]want [/b]to know, and there are things that h e [b]needs [/b]to know; making a decision about

which is which should be best left to the spouse. If you really think you can tell your spouse everything , as in EVERYTHING, then  honestly

I don't think you have evaluated the all encompassing ramifications of that word. I don't expect my wife to tell me everything, I don't

expect her to lie to either; she should simply keep quiet.

busybein:

its best to tell,u don't hide things like this from him,u need proof though,but no matter how hot tempered he is,its better to tell wt ur mouth,o´because if he hears it smwhere else,the anger will be directed at u for not talking since,he might choose to blive u love his brother,hence d silence

i don't support keeping quiet in matters like this

His brother cannot sleep with you without your consent.It takes two to tango
You tell your short tempered hubby,he flares up and in rage fights and kills the brother,what do you stand to gain?At the end of the day,it was just attempting to sleep with you and NOT HE SLEPT WITH YOU
@Topic,Wud never tell my hubby everything,Never.

@ Post,

She should always have the open door policy, but discretion is required depending on her husband's personality.

If he is the jealous type, then some things shouldn't be discussed if he doesn't demand for it.

I don't like women who can talk all day long!

I don't like women who can't keep a secret!!_{Oh mess me, i cant believe this thread is 7months old!}

Never!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some things are just better left unsaid, who wants to leave wid regrets for the rest of his/her life,

Keep ur lips sealed when u have to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hen, a word is enough for the wise

TOYOSI20:

Never!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

are you going to war or protesting?

Ebony-Silk:

are you going to war or protesting?

te hehe, both naa, u know some folks cant handle the truth and they'll start reh, reh, reh, like babies,

TOYOSI20:

te hehe, both naa, u know some folks can't handle the truth and they'll start reh, reh, reh, like babies,

abi o, I got you Ekeresimesi

Merry Christma ma dear, and I wish u everything wonderful in the new year too, ma sweets, 

Ebony-Silk:

abi o, I got you Ekeresimesi

A woman must tell her husband everything but the husband don't have to because he is the head of the house[He Is The Man]. I know a lot of feminists will disagree with me.

ifyalways:

His brother cannot sleep with you without your consent.It takes two to tango
You tell your short tempered hubby,he flares up and in rage fights and kills the brother,what do you stand to gain?At the end of the day,it was just attempting to sleep with you and NOT HE SLEPT WITH YOU
@Topic,would never tell my hubby everything,Never.

u seem to have forgotten that sm people r being drugged just to sleep with them and what if that hot tempered hubby finds out from smbody else,believe me d wife is in trouble for not talking and might be accused of liking d whole thing
if he decides to kill his brother,thats his own biz,and i wouldnt even allow him do dat,

such secrets shouldnt be stucked away,the hubby must know,incase,i mean incase sthg happens,he must be told,inorder to watch d brother closely,be cautious and avoid him like silly,because such a brother can kill his own brother to get the wife

na today?

outlaws:



A woman must tell her husband everything but the husband don't have to because he is the head of the house[He Is The Man]. I know a lot of feminists will disagree with me.

Where did you get your logic from? My dear wake up and be more matured

we must apply wisdom in all dat we do.
really u can't tell a man everytin cos ur man will not come home n tell u he's cheatn on u or he has a million naira in his account.wv the lil i ve seen its not advisable to tell a man everythin.i pray God will give us the wisdom we need to build our homes n make us pillars n not caterpillars.

some women are very funny when a woman open her mouth and say everything trust me these men have there way of been secretive if you say everything thinking he will do the same na lie be that one don't forget you are dealing with a man. I don't say everything and don't expect him to tell me everything either.

For those that say keep your mouth shut and dont tell him everything;

What do you do when your spouse asks you a question? How do you determine if you should lie to them or not? Or do you simply tell them this is something you should not know?

I am just wondering because like I said before, hubby and I have a policy that if you dont want to know the answer then dont ask the question and if you ask it be prepared for the truth.

Everything
I don't think so, you need to be able to sort out what's important and what's not.
Try it now say everything and in 2 days your husband would have run away or died from information overload!!!

There some things that are not worth telling,so no not everything.

Not about those who made love to you in those days

Not only that. Its just not everything is worth telling. But like sistawoman said. If you ask then be prepared for the answer. If you don't want to know, don't ask. Simple.

a woman should not tell her husband everything.

YES.Couples should hold no secrets from one another.

~~Its call Marriage~~

Ur husband is the closest person to u.Therefore always tell him everything about u.

no not everything is to be spoken somethings are best remain unspoken

The closest person to you is yourself, and certain things should be left for only him/her. Like I said earlier, if you really think you can tell your spouse EVERYTHING, then you are either not being realistic or you fail to comprehend the full ramifications of that word.

Information should be on a need to know basis!

No! Never do that! Its very risky especially the things that happened before you married him. Except you have a crystal clean past. Also when u marry him, be wise about what you tell him cos it might be used against you later in future. You Husband will never tell you everything, you know!

it has been said in the bible that a woman shall live her parent and then settle with her husband and they shall bcecome so i dont c reasons y the husband must not know everytin about the wife.cheers

yes! a woman should tell the truth when the matter arise,but not everything

Depends on the secret and on the husband. I never tell my husband when guys have been toasting/trying to get physical because he seems happier when he is oblivious to this and unaware of my effect on other men.

I know this because his face automatically drops and takes on a different shade of colour if I even bring up a close cousins namea or a colleague from work, or if I mention that I met a friends new boyfriend. He genuinelly doesnt like it, so I usually dont do it at all.

If the secret is more serious and could affect your relationship, eg: you have a child stashed away in another country etc, then that is not the kind of secret that you can joke with. Similarily, things like for example, murder, putting someone in spiritual bondage, causing someone to go to prison for a long time because of lies you told against them, stealing kids, etc are a great deal more serious and need to be shared sooner rather than later.