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Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Nobody: 4:34pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Well, it depends on certain factors . My advice? If you eventually marry, with you bringing 60k and your wife bringing 30 to 45k, that's enough to sustain both of you. But with children? It will be difficult. So when you marry, you can delay child birth for a while say one to two years while striving with your wife to attain a higher income. My parents married as students several decades ago, delayed a little and things went fine. Good luck in all your endeavors. 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Zer0(m): 4:36pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
@OP Seriously you should concentrate on building your finances. I am 33 and single. I don't have a salary job but I make over 4 times what you make in a year. Which hasn't been a reasonable ground for me to get married. You should set targets and build a foundation before you can build a family, except you don't wish to live a goid life. I believe the time a man gets married is insignificant, what matters is the quality of life he can afford for himself and his family. There is no joy in poverty bro. Be guided. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by sucess001(m): 4:36pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Sweetlemon: @Kulyie, I feel you babes. I feel your frustration in trying to explain yourself to these people here who are no just being realistic here. Don't mind all these family section "I-too-sabi" people. i disagree with u a bit. i once shared your opinion. i was an hussler and told myself that i wanted to be more comfortable. 6 yrs down the line, i now wrk in a bank, drive an SUV and i look back and realise most of my younger ones are married and i am unable to see a girl who loved me for being me and not for my money. its not that our guy is in a hurry. he just wants to be focussed. and who says him working harder will make him richer. its God who blesses you know? if drivers and security men can support families with about 40k they earn...y nothim? my advise? he should marry. 4 Likes |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Afam4eva(m): 4:38pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Zer0: @OPWho are you to deifne poverty for another man. Not everyone is interested in driving a Murano or going to the cinema every week. It's about cutting your coat according to your size. 2 Likes |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by ifebosco: 4:39pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Sweetlemon: @Kulyie, I feel you babes. I feel your frustration in trying to explain yourself to these people here who are no just being realistic here. Don't mind all these family section "I-too-sabi" people.you make sense some áreas,but 32years and 70naira salary is not bad to start a family,depending were in nigeria he lives,if not,when do you want him to marry??at the age of 40??and if he Works harder and money does not come ??what next?? 2 Likes |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by sucess001(m): 4:40pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Zer0: @OP bros...you are wrong. a man without money but is married and has children will have more joy than you... thats the truth. you need to experience giving life to another to rise it isnt all about money. i am single too but i sure knw what it means to live and have people depend on you. its a higher level of calling and responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by ukandi1(m): 4:40pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Stop4:wow.. Bros, believe me we understand perfectly what u mean and what u have gone through to be pushed to doing this. U are perfectly in order though u are going to be misinterpreted by many.. Many of us had to get marry early to avoid more bullshit from women. I believe u have to open ur doors carefully and let God order ur steps to d right person cos ones u enter, hmmmnnnnn u are on ur own... |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by shizzle11(m): 4:40pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Sweetlemon: [s]@Kulyie, I feel you babes. I feel your frustration in trying to explain yourself to these people here who are no just being realistic here. Don't mind all these family section "I-too-sabi" people. UTTER BULLSHIT! 2 Likes |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by sucess001(m): 4:42pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Afam4eva: It irritates me when i see people telling someone to forget about marriage and focus on making money as if a grown man does not know when it's right for him to marry. The OP stated his financial capacity and he needs a wife that can key into it, so i don't know what seems to be some people's problem. Must everyone be a millionaire before they get married. is money the only thing that makes a marriage? What if he decides to remain the way he is financially, is it anyone's business? If you want to marry him, submit your application or steer clear. No wonder some men will go to any length to make money because of the ogbanje advice that people dish out to them that ruminates around money as if money if everything. Afam...you have my full respect for this! |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by yomanovic: 4:45pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Bro, summon the courage to approach someone, probably in church, around you at home or... just around you or where you go. Join a department in church if you are a christian and you will be surprised they really want you. I'm just getting out of such situation myself and now, I really want to like tell about two of them that I don't think it can work out. This is just to settle down for a more realistic option. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by sucess001(m): 4:45pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
dick hardener: But u are actually bereft of basic not even advanced knowledge first...you are soooo wrong to insult kuyle... Haba...the lady is even explaining herself. she even apologised in one of her posts for her outbursts. that is a good wife in the making. cut her some slack wella. she has every freaking reason to decide how she wants to live or what she expects in a marriage. that you dont agree with her views shouldnt make you insult her. now be a man and apologize to her! 2 Likes |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by feeshow: 4:47pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
me too. It has been 5 years now without g.f......pls help |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by blakky97(m): 4:48pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
kulyie: @ op you are suffering from MISPLACED PRIORITY.your focus shouldnt be about getting a wife,i care less whether you are 32 or 60 and still a bachelor,your drive now should be getting a stable job,establishing your feet on the ground and getting the kind of job that enables you take care of a wife,kid,pay rent etc.i dont think you know how expensive being a married man is and maintaining a home.it is when you add VALUE TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO ADD VALUE TO OTHERS.EVEN IF YOU ARE A BACHELOR AT 50 AND DONT HAVE A STABLE INCOME I DONT EXPECT A MAN WHO HAS FOCUS TO BE SEARCHING FOR A WIFE WHEN HE IS SUPPOSED TO ME STRUGGLING TO MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR HIMSELF Go and check your head |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by ifebosco: 4:48pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Zer0: @OPthis is the mentality i don´t like,money ,money ,money. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by 24in7: 4:48pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
@poster, U're on d wrong site cuz 60%.of female In NL are men wit female profile..... ![]() |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by sucess001(m): 4:48pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
ifebosco: you make sense some áreas,but 32years and 70naira salary is not bad to start a family,depending were in nigeria he lives,if not,when do you want him to marry??at the age of 40??and if he Works harder and money does not come ??what next?? on point.. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by troy20(m): 4:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
The idea of getting a wife honestly is overrated.you would think its only women who suffer the social pressures of getting married.they say bachelorhood is the best period of a man's life.believe me it is.you are just 32.I would say just fvck and live free...yes yes alota men are doing it now but i guess thats me.just take it easy.The right woman would come even if it takes forever.you dont know what you have now until you lose it. 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by shizzle11(m): 4:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
goldenHelen: @op which state ar u frm? 2a642dbbop do the needful ![]() leavestory: edit the part u said "marry"before the english teachers go come yab u. ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Sweetlemon(f): 4:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
sucess001: My dear, you are not even comfortable where you are now cos you work in a bank! Bankers are liable to die young cos of the stress and the possibility of being laid off at any moment. So don't be too comfortable yet! let me tell you something and I will be frank with you. NO WOMAN prays or hopes to marry a broke guy. NO WOMAN in her right senses who is not just desperate to be MRS will happily marry a broke guy. Even when a woman is marrying you because she loves you, deep down she's wishing you were a tad more comfortable and she's only doing it for love. After the marriage, when real issues come in, you will see what I mean. You guys should stop deluding yourselves that a woman can be truly happy with your empty/almost empty pockets. Same way a man should not think a man can be happy to marry her if she doesn't satisfy him in bed. They will just be enduring and not doing it willingly. Don't get me wrong, a woman can love you truly when you are broke, I have loved about 4 broke guys in my life. Yep! But to happily, willingly, marry you when she's not just desperate to be a Mrs? No! those who end up with poor husbands would do anything to change their fates if given the chance! That's just the acidic bitter lemony truth! pele! |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Emmysteve(m): 4:49pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Zer0: @OPare you for real? You must be one of the reasons why our ladies are crying for scarcity of husbands.. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by COOLDK(m): 4:50pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
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Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Lily010(f): 4:50pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Pray and seek God's Will For Your Marriage to avoid making Mistakes |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Ngokafor(f): 4:51pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
alutacontinua: @chillisauce and Ngokafor, I don't know what you guys have against Internet dating but I don't think it's that bad. ..My reservations are stemmed from the bad experiences a couple of my friends have had,that and the fact that i'ld rather meet my potential life partner face to face,make my own assessments and take it from there.Rather than base my assessments on what the person says online which often times turns out to be false. ..but like you said,it's not that bad i guess and i heard it has worked for some people but personally,it's a big no for me. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Zer0(m): 4:51pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Afam4eva: Do not be deceived. It costs money to rent a house, provide decent meals at least twice daily, pay good fees for good schools for your children and other miscelleanous expenses. Trust me 60k won't do that. My gross earning per annun is over 2.5 million. I live in Abj and my rent is 1m per annum. Then havd 4 siblings who are dependent on me add other expenses then you may hav an idea. Would you advice i get married?. The answer will be surely No if you have consience. Everything shouldn't be about what is expected of you to do whdn you reach a certain age in life, it's about managing your situation to get the best off it. Every man should be Guided by purpose. I wouldn't advice a man to take a wife he can't take care of, or bear children he can't guarantee necessities of life and decent education. 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Sweetlemon(f): 4:51pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Afam4eva: I strongly believe that hard work and determination with careful planning pays off slowly BUT surely 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Nobody: 4:52pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
I like your honesty, your sincerity and your courage as well. As long as that habit of hard work is in you, and you have an understanding personality and above all, pray to God, you will be ok. I know of someone from my villa who came flashing cash and the stuff, women scheming so as to push their daughters to him et al. This guy returned and was killed in South Africa, where we later found out he was a drug peddler. His wife is inconsolable, and everybody eye don clear. Since you decided not to go into crime, and hardworking, God will bless your efforts. 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Nobody: 4:53pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Baby mama:baby Mama...sorry to say this...but u just made a really silly comment..would you rather marry lies? Than the truth...besides dnt forget...no1 knos tomorrow...whoever dated BILL GATES and left him when he was still a nobody would hate herself now# 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Hkana: 4:53pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: Oh good. I need a husband to marry in 2014 In this case, you're at the right place. The OP is your guy ![]() |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Emmysteve(m): 4:54pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
yomanovic: Bro, summon the courage to approach someone, probably in church, around you at home or... just around you or where you go. Join a department in church if you are a christian and you will be surprised they really want you. I'm just getting out of such situation myself and now, I really want to like tell about two of them that I don't think it can work out. This is just to settle down for a more realistic option.Best suggestion so far. I hope the @OP will work pn this. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Sweetlemon(f): 4:55pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
Zer0: Correct guy! I don't know why people still wear rose coloured glasses at this time and age! 1 Like |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by preciousan(f): 4:57pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
@ op,don't mind anyone making you feel bad about your post,the truth is any lady that really loves you for who you're and not your pocket,will help you and together both of you will make it(a wife is a help meet),the major thing is for her to support your vision,while you also support hers,and you both will go places.most people that have made it today,started like that,but today its a different story............................all the best in your search. |
Re: I Need A Wife To Get Married To In 2014 by Nobody: 4:57pm On Dec 19, 2013 |
COOL DK: This is all I've got to say:Correct. That's true. |
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