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I can write an entire chapter on SCD (based on my experience with my brother)

When it comes to kids, hey you never know

My brother is full blown (SCD)

Me, I am iron deficiency anemia.

My brother is a member of this forum. It's very informatve. See folks share their stories

http://www.sicklecelldisease.org/forum/index.php

Good luck and one love

Since two of you must marry by hook or crook, do the following.

Two of you should open "anticipated children medical bills" account and start making deposits. If you happen to have an SS  baby, the cash would come handy if not, the cash would used for better life.   

Jazz Freak and Femi Seun God bless you both, my darlings!  You are saying the truth and you have fore-sight.  You see, these two are as blind and deaf as a bat! Leave them to learn their lessons, ok! Everyone is warning them now about the consequences of such union instead it seems they are allowing their hearts to rule their heads.  Allowing emotion to control their judgements.  As a mother of a child with sickle cell anaemia - I wouldn't wish the experience on my worst enemy let alone anyone else.  Would I consider the emotional, psychological, financial and physical burden to this?  No, it does not worth. The hospital run alone will kill your marriage and the family unit. 

And to my brother and sister discovering this night-mare, I should say to you both - just kiss and say your good-byes to each other so that you can be free to pursue your God given rights to happiness and personal fulfilments i.e. achieving what God has sent you here to achieve/realise.

In a nutshell, I say - amicably go your separate ways my darlings in order to seek happiness with other people.  We know it's not gonna be easy to say goodbyes after 5 blissful years of togetherness but, JUST DO IT!! 

If in doubt of how to do it,  just take courage from Prince Harry of Great Britain and who have now parted amiceably with Chelsy - his long term girlfriend after just 5 years of being together.

Make hay whilst the sun shine!  You can not help your situation and you are not the only.

Its not about both of you,its about the BABY that'll suffer.what of the pains of always being sick?the agony of not doing this with other kids cos baby's fragile?I bet you dont want to try that.
Pls,  BACK OUT

To be frank, my parents are both AS and we are five siblings in the family. Two of us are AA and three are AS. I have also seen other families that have given birth to SS kids. These show that any odds are possible. Medically speaking, the chances of getting an SS child for you two is 1 in 4 same for AA while the chances of getting an AS child is 1 in 2.

The best possible medical option is to undergo genetic counselling before having a child. An unborn child can also be screened through the amniotic fluid (no harm to the baby) to ascertain whether he/she is a sickler or not. Adequate medical intervention coupled with prayers can see the both of you through.

Hope this helps.

I'm kinda interested in this post.
I'm in medicals, i could run up 1001 reasons about why's,how's and not's,
but if u get a dance of winning a lotto 3times in every 4plays yu engage in, would you rather play or just walk aside,
, yu shld trust in Love, if it's pure what you both share, The problem of A's is just a quagmire to a greater future,

Hope you find Peace guys,chao

seriously i wld say that u r nt serious u've dated for five years u are just realising that she is AS and u plan to get engaged in 2010 who dose that these days sha it might be the end or on the other hand u can take ur chances cheers

i sorry 4 dat lady o,

I believe in science how dangerous it is for a couple with the recessive gene 's' to pear-up with another couple of the same 's' gene.Moreover i have seen AS turn to AA and SS turn to AA, this is God handwork, therefore i believe in miracle and i will not stop till i let every one know that will don't need to push the infested people out of the country.Better still turn their heart to the Master of the world who keep them through their mothers womb and had never prevented them from coming.Let the infested know God heals SS the same way he heal a paralyzed path of the body because He knows where the nerves start from and where it end, I pray He heal you in Jesus name

in this age nd time there is nothin wrong wt two AS couple getting married wt the right information. all they need to do is genetic testing at 12 wks of pregnancy called CVS or Aminociteensis. talk to ur doctors for clarification. and the chances of an SS baby is just 1 in 4. so if u re really in love , i think its worth the effoert cos finding true love is not easy and the whole stress of trying to date someone new is killing.
my candid advice is if u love ureslves, cut down on the xpenses of a flamboyant wedding and get the test done. its cost 70k in government hospitals but btw 120-150k in private establishement.
another home truth is that u should be ready to abort the pregancy at 12 wks if the condition is not positive and that means u have eliminated the odd of u having and ss baby wt that woman . also its advisable u have between just 2 and 3 kids wch in y opinion is ok for the current economic situation in the country. wish u da best and put everything in prayer but dint give up on love for lack of knowledge.

@ All,

Am also in this dilemma and from the responses so far, I think av learn't many things. I knew about the new technology that the genotype of the unborn babies could be ascertained.

However, there are many question that need be answered.

1) How many families could afford the cost?

2 ) If the result is negative, will you leave the pregnancy or terminate it?

3) If you choose to terminate first the pregnancy, how many could you stand?

4 ) If you choose to leave the pregnancy, can you stand the stress?

5) For pple believing God will do it, how many of you are genuine born again xtians that can pray and fast?

The list of the questions is endless, but let me stop here.

Now let me put something straight. Scientifically, it is believed that it is 25% chance of having SS child. But in reality, it is not so. There is possibility that three out of four could be SS as shown by some posters. Even if it is one out of four, it is in no particular order. It could be first child, second or third and not necessarily the fourth child as believed by some pple.

Now, to save urself of the future agony ( and others in this category) Pls break up with this lady so that u wont be cursing each other wen the challenges raise its ugly head.

A word, the say, is enough for the wise.

olubunmi80:

in this age nd time there is nothin wrong wt two AS couple getting married wt the right information. all they need to do is genetic testing at 12 wks of pregnancy called CVS or Aminociteensis. talk to your doctors for clarification. and the chances of an SS baby is just 1 in 4. so if u re really in love , i think its worth the effoert cos finding true love is not easy and the whole stress of trying to date someone new is killing.
my candid advice is if u love ureslves, cut down on the xpenses of a flamboyant wedding and get the test done. its [b]cost 70k in government hospitals but btw 120-150k in private establishement.[/b]
another home truth is that u [b][b]should be ready to abort the pregancy at 12 wks if the condition is not positive [/b][/b]and that means u have eliminated the odd of u having and ss baby wt that woman . also its advisable u have between just 2 and 3 kids wch in y opinion is ok for the current economic situation in the country. wish u da best and put everything in prayer but dint give up on love for lack of knowledge.

How many pple could afford the amount mentioned each time pregnancy occurs? Even if the resources/money is available, do we av the equipment in Nigeria? ( everybody on naira land no be britico ooo)

Now assuming u can afford it, are u ready to commit murder( abortion = murder)

Remember, God says, thou shall not kill

Think twice.

Is either u quit than to manage and face it. .there is joy in risking love for luck. .