rominiyi:

@ Chidexy , I have returned and finally decided what to do
might not go down with everyone though , but this is me.

8inch+:

See the dangers of marryin a non virgin

In love with my Ex, but I am married
« on: February 11, 2009, 09:35 AM »

Dear Naira land,
Pls I need an urgent advise,
I lost a contact with a guy I love so much, almost 6yrs ago. …we were so very much in love…
Recently we met on one of the popular friendship site again where people exchange photographs and u see ur old friends and family.
I was shocked when I got his message , anyway he requested we see and arrangements was made , before I left he asked, are u still single, I said no I married with a child now for 5yrs.
Anyway we met and we talked, and by the time I got home , I know am still in love with him but I cant help it. can’t seem to get him out of my mind; he has been asking that I marry him, I am like what are u thinking? And he said I rightfully belong to him, I though it was a joke until he started visiting my parents in my hometown , begging my parents to pls give me to him, my parents find it funny but my father thinks otherwise,
I know we love each other but am in a fix,  What should I do?
Please advise me?

Re: In love with my Ex, but I am married
« #165 on: March 11, 2009, 02:49 PM »

I am following my heart ! I deserve happiness and joy

webpro:

I never wanted to add a comment here because after going through the comments and advices of every1 here and the replies the poster is giving. Wat I can figure out is that the poster is not asking for wat she will do, because she has already concluded that, look my marriage is rocky and dieing, the man i love is back and wants me back, she only wants certain approval from her father, the society, off course we here @ nairaland so that it dosen't seem as if she wants to be the ovarall decider.

Advices to her to continue with her marraige are just waste of time because she dosent want to continue anymore. reasons.

1. she is defending the come back guy in everyway and approves his actions (of asking her for marriage wen he (romeo) knows quite well that she is marride) even though she pretend to tell us she is saying NO.

2. she said the romeo guy loves her daughter so there will be no problem she marrying him with a child.

3. That her father wants her happiness. And what is her happiness? That she leaves her husband and her marriage because she dosen't love him anymore and wants to marry her ex lover which she loves so much and her father is definitely going to approves it because he (father) wants her happiness.

My fellow country people, the lady don decide, so every attempt to change her mind will all be waste of energy to type, brain for big english, and time. I don't know if somebody is getting my point of view. Lets leave her to do her will, sometimes pride will lead to prudence and prudence is a virtue.

She might be successful with her ex if they get married. Lets check other threads and forget this one.

na her business from now on

Thank You ALL.

Kekenapep:

I have been following this story since the beginning and I comment as follows;

1. the story is unfolding like a soap opera (i think there are at least 5 episodes in there). It may be untrue

If it is true;

1. I doubt if you are a born again christian from all the comments u have made. I f u are not then i cant help you, nobody can really. But if u are then obviously God is a bystander in this case and most likely in your life. For the sake of readers i will add the following comments;

2. We (the readers) do not have enough information to make sound judgements. A one sided story can NEVER be entirely truthful. It takes two to tango like they say. One will tell the story to his/her advantage and to justify his/her actions. She/he may be the one most at fault.

3. If there has been continual abuse (especially physical) in the relationship or He really had an issue from another woman then a divorce might be a consideration and a last resort.

4. There is mention that she loved him in the first two years of marriage (what if this ex had showed up then, what happens?) If u marry this other guy and after two years some issues come up (like they always will, believe me) what will u do? Go back to ur former husband or work things out.

5. When people keep saying their happiness i am suspicious what they mean most times is they are SELFISH and they are thinking only of themselves. I am not always happy (show me someone who does) so what life goes on. Your husband is selfish and you are selfish too. Thats is d basic reason for divorce bi-selfishness.

6. When people claim not to be able to live without someone thats a lie. You claim to love him, i disagree, I think you are actually addicted to him (like one is addicted to a cigarette or liquor). Maybe u had sex with him before and there are soul ties. Love says i want to make u happy and I find joy in doing so. Addiction says it/u make me happy and i cant live without it/u.

7. It is absurd and utterly unthinkable that ur ex will approach ur parents (Which kind of parents are those) when u are still married. That is VERY irresponsible of them. Wouldnt want them advising anyone I know for sure. Gosh Help!!!!

You and ur husband should have gone for counselling and realised that Marriage is not just about finding the right peson but mostly being the right person. Marriage is hard work at and not a butterfly- in-the-stomach, evrything-will-work-out-cos-i-love-you, i-will-feel-like-this-always etc

Part 2 later