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Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by ifyalways(f): 12:55pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
@OP, how can you not ask your husband for an explanation up till now? How I think I have become too old but blimey, every issue between me and my husband, I FIRST discuss/ confront /ask him before I think of/ seek anyone's opinion (if needed) on how to handle it. How can you have time to regale such long, gory tales to strangers but can't face the main actor himself? A lot of things have gone wrong with this thing called marriage. All the best 7 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by skentelelady(f): 1:08pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
brownie10: After reading this I won't want to blame you esp at this period I believe God actually send an angel to u even in wolf's clothing but u turned deaf ears. No matter what you shld have listen to this person. Someone that didn't call u months before ur wedding or while u were dating him. That alone shld have opened ur inner mind. Now u r married to him and just after 2 months, u have started seeing d real man u married. I don't mean to scare you, I believe there are more things that you havent discovered and may hurt u more. He's a lair so he will first deny these videos when you firstadk him but show remorse when u show him but that dfoesnt mean he will change My dear, if you really want to continue with ur marriage, u have to pray to God for strength. If you can totally forgive him please do and move on. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by freecocoa(f): 1:13pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
keppyy:Please stop talking crap. Till she gets infected with a deadly disease that might end her life, will you know that divorce is actually an option. 9 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by charles316: 1:19pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
fellis: I have read all fem29 wrote and found nothing absurd in it. Do you guys (u and flyca) want her to advice the op to leave her marriage? All these happened before they got married. We all have our bad past. What will your future husband do if he finds a tape of that your ex putting his D!ck inside your vaginer and you moaning like a goat? I'm sure you will say that it all happened before marriage. Or are you two virgins? She without sin,should cast the first stone. If we ever get to see what you ladies do before marriage, no one will pay a kobo to marry any of you. Just imagine your husband seeing a tape(probably recorded fees yrs ago without your notice) of your taking D!cks of all your exes. The op feels so bad because everything was recorded on tape. This is also for you freecocoa. 6 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by flyca: 1:29pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
charles316: Pls I never advised the OP to leave her marriage, that decision is entirely up to her. I only said it is wrong to say use this phrase: "it happened before marriage", in this context. I mean, wasn't it 20 days to wedding and same wedding month videos we are talking about here? Did he just trip into her, maybe along an express and marched her to the altar? Or does it mean, anything that happens within dating and courtship period does not count for partners in a marriage relationship And yes, I don't have a "bad past". Not everyone does. But of course, its not related to the matter at hand. Thanks. 6 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by cutiesoglam(f): 1:34pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
focus7: Nice one sir.. Buh d two of u made it work. U were willing to make it up to ur wife n not b taken.. Dts y it worked.. Dt part of being a good man.. No man can b taken away from his wife unless he wants to. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by kandiikane(m): 1:54pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
senier007: I am not doubting permission with certain things but that's just for formalities mostly. I.e. can I use your phone? If I am not mistaken, I believe she asked to use his laptop. Like I said, formalities-politeness, nothing wrong if he or she just says, "I need to use your laptop." Oh please, the same way a guy will start beating his chest over another man talking to his woman? I just cannot fathom, how you can say you love someone, live with them and want to spend the rest of your lives with them yet talk of personal stuff? If you are open with your man or woman in the first place, there would not be room for jealousy or insecurity. Infact, both of you should be laughing together at the people trying to hit you up. Bank security number sef, you want to hide that too, might as well live in separate homes and meet once a blue moon to co.pulate. Your boys can just take your phone off you but someone who you claim you care deeply for and share something more than you do with your boy can't because it's your personal stuff? Carry go with your "personal stuff". 2 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Stillfire: 2:09pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
kandiikane: That's the average Nigerian female mentality. You are only doing yourself a disservice by participating in conversations with resilient, die-hard masochistic women. They would soon start quoting the bible to argue why you should die in pain. The bible says God will not give us what we cannot bear/handle. Nigerian women can handle pain, hurt, disloyalty from their men , that's why God gifts them all three in their marriages. 12 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 2:18pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Stillfire: I hope you are not referring to me 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirShymexx: 2:35pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
fem29: Fem Fel, I just read the thread now and initially I wasn't going to post a comment. However, you're much more bigger than these blinkered chicken heads - don't drag yourself down to their level. The prepubescent mongrel who quoted you with unwarranted insults doesn't even know anything about life - she's a teenager. While the rest are just bitter hags who can't find a man. Learn to ignore them - it's not worth it. These pillocks just want to force their miserable lives on everyone, and they can't reason beyond their nostrils and accept the fact that everyone was cut from different clothes and raised differently, in different environments, with different experiences. So outlook to life is always going to differ. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Lumpyy(f): 2:43pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
brownie10:Please dont let anyone push you to do anything at this time,you are vulnerabkr to all sorts of advice and u must remember that everyoda person is diffrnt from you....ud just move out to a hotel wtot telling ur hubby whats up?u should have confronted him immediatly while it was hot!!! 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
SirShymexx: Thanks my Ijebu bro , we may not always see eye to eye, but u got my back. The OPs husband no try sha. I don't know how she can continue the marriage after seeing all that |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Stillfire: 2:46pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
bellong: You know we Nigerian subservient wives have to plot and weakly present our case to the husband after serving him a whopping meal. You don't just go and 'confront a man.' I just hope she does not channel the anger to the housemaid or gateman in the meantime. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Stillfire: 2:50pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Nonso23: Lol, really Nonso? Let's switch the tables. What if you found a video of your newly wedded wife 'frolicking' with a loser on camera? What would you do? I want to learn from you. 4 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bukatyne(f): 2:54pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Trust NL male hypocrites to be here See How lessons on forgiveness and vow keeping are flying left, right centre. I am trying to remember who coined the phrase... never make a hoe an housewife. Who would be kind enough to remind me? Is This not a case of don't make a dog a husband Bloody bloody hypocrites @OP: The first step is confronting your husband. Anyhow you like. Perhaps This talking here helps you better. Goodluck with whatever decision you make. Cheers. 7 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirShymexx: 2:56pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
fem29: Lol. I don't even care about the story cos I don't care about other people's stories/relationships/marriages on here. There are always three sides to every story - the two involved (one story each) and the truth. So making judgement and trying to advise folks is always silly, when you don't know everything involved. And from personal experience, getting third parties involved in relationships always mess things up further. Regardless, I like what you said about professional help cos with that, both sides would be able to tell it as it's with no holds barred. Anyway, I gatts look out for my Ijebu Queens. I'm the wayward son of an Ijebu merchant (on these sides) and I don't like seeing my women get into unnecessary fights. For me, shooting slugs at disrespectful fvckers is my therapy and fun cos I'm built for the comic relief I get off it. Just keep doing you. You're a big woman with a good heart, a decent family, and kids - don't let these internet frauds get into ya head. You have got some little chic who can't even afford to buy her own panties getting involved in what's out of her depth. And other folks who're more or less synonymous with internet homo thugs - thinking they run a gang on here. Don't waste your precious time on them - a lot of them are sociopaths and they need fresh air in the real world. Don't waste ya time on folks like that. Happy Sunday, my Ijebu sister - and shouts to all the great dads and husbands out there on this father's day. I'm out! 3 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by k2039: 2:56pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
njokusboy:[size=13pt] You are right, I hope she doesn't even get more confuse with all the advise she is receiving.[/size] |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Acidosis(m): 3:01pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
No surprises here Most women marry strangers. They want to know his attitude and personality in SHOPRITE, BEACH, OZONE, & KFC. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 3:01pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
SirShymexx: Thanks dearie |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 3:04pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
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Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 3:08pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
brownie10:You see why i said dont rush to confront just then, if he knew you are not aware of the one after marriage he prolly can say it was before marriage but this last video shows he is neck deep into it and to add that he brought the girls home shows his case is serious! You can confront him now but after confrontation, move out to a safe place. Your moving out will drive the point that you cant manage a cheat and it will also help you stabilise otherwise you may breakdown or do something evil if you continue after mere apology. From your safe place, depending on how sorry and willing to amend he is should determine the way forward. There must be conditions he must meet, like doing couselling with you, cutting off his cheating friends etc. How well he amends should determine your going back to him. Dont be fooled with mere i'm sorry, i will change, otherwise you will catch him on your matrimonial bed one day. He is already too disrespectful of you. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by 5minsmadness: 3:14pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Acidosis:Very true words right there! They have no problem going to these places but will open threads of hypocrisy when the man tells them to "come to my house" |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bellong: 3:17pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Stillfire: Yes, I am also of the opinion of presenting her case with wisdom and tact. However, I do not subscribe to the lamentations and name calling of the ladies involved. It is her husband that she should be concerned about not the ladies who were only on hire. She even called her husband a "bastard" as if she doesn't know the meaning of the word. @bolded, I hope so too. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Stillfire: 3:24pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Nonso23: Hahahahaha...I just listened to 'to be a man' by flavour yesterday sef. Nice beat. I really do like straightforward people. A Nigerian man would not take the same mess he wants his wife to accommodate. Ride on please. You have set a standard for yourself which I actually like in people, stick to it. Brownie bringing it here is being your typical average Naija woman that has been drummed into her head since childhood that you cannot just confront your husband on 'sensitive' issues like this, you have to meander your way, beat about the bush, give off passive aggressive signs, twist yourself, act like a good wife meanwhile you are boiling like a volcano inside , and most importantly pretend to the whole world everything is alright. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by MrAmerica(m): 3:25pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
funlord: Com'on bro! A lady just shared her plight and hoping for atleast sympthy or advice. The last thing anyone shld thnk of is compoundn ha case, but u went even over-board to wish her ill...com'on. To my lady sister; all I can say is may d Lord guard ur heart and help u with d safest of ways out of ur troble 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 3:26pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Acidosis: Its either you are broke or stingy. I mean, you keep crying about this same thing on every thread to bash women. Taking a lady out is totally a waste to you. Its your type that turn women to slaves. You would prefer she come to your house always; To cook, clean and have with sex you. I pity the woman that ends up with you. 11 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Joy1706(f): 3:29pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
bukatyne:Hahahahaha! Chai! Ur on point. They never fail to say that phrase. Hypoceites 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by majalisa(m): 3:34pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
brownie10:sounds like mr right..are u sure you satisfy him? 2 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Stillfire: 3:35pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Acidosis: Lol, you are not far from the truth. Most Nigerian women marry strangers, that's deep Acidosis. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Moana(f): 3:35pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
Stillfire:hahaha trouble maker 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Acidosis(m): 3:35pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
5minsmadness:lol Had it been she dug dipper, she must have seen traces, but hell NO! These ladies want the fake life vis-à-vis the fake outings where people put on their best garments, accents & perfume. OP just act like nothing happened and move on. You must have danced uncontrollably on your wedding day Such is life. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
brownie10: Abeg stop cursing someone. What nonsense! How is it his fault? Y'all visit this section regularly, active members, after few months of marriage you come back with a new moniker to cry in this same section. What is wrong with you women? All this coock and bull stories should not be considered again sef. Do whatever you please. You married him. Your marriage, your business. Nonsense!!! 5 Likes |
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