ihatebuhari:
Kill him

And so shall you kill your hubby.Click like to say amen

omoiyaakanbi:
08073078401 text me his number let me talk to him

Do not try it oo!! homosexuals are every where ooo!!!
do not fall from frying pan to fire
from regret to reproach.

aflyingbird:
wow! it's bad enough he's cheating, but to bring the other woman into your home... talk about disrespect!!

this is why women should never be quick to get married! stop rushing into marriage and giving yourself unnecessary heartache because the man turned out to be a cheater, an abuser, already has a baby mama, etc. u hardly knew this man. you didn't date to get to know him, his habits, his ways, etc. u were worried about your age and thought this man seemed like the serious type and just jumped into marrying himm, na waa oo. what is wrong with women these days and rushing into marriage?

perhaps you are young and succulent now you wont be saying this, until you could not find a man to marry and you are heading towards 40 years of age, moreover you still have to bear children for the person atleast 3 children at 40, am sure your views will change desperation comes to mind

sukkot:
this one done drink orijin before commenting. child support ? for naija ?

Yes! Child support. They were married, he has children with her. Why shouldnt he be made to take care of his children? I'm a lawyer, I know what I'm saying.

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

I can feel your situation. But just be calm. It is easier said than done by all advisers in the house.
Except he opens up to you, it's hard to know what is going on in his mind.

Until you know his state of mind, your actions may be counterproductive, this is where the usefulness of prayer comes in. This is more of getting God's direction on what you should do, of course God will work on him as you follow God's direction on what you should do about yourself.
There might be external influence on him, from wherever but your trust in God will make you a winner in this situation.
Let me advice you, there is no sharp-sharp solution here.
I'm tempted to ask you about your relationship with God b4 your marriage & after, if you're born-again then or now, you don't need to fret.
You may want to call me for a chat or whatsapp me on 08063423482 for more information.

Nelgenius4me:
madam you have done your best by being a good wife. I advise you commit everything to GOD'S hand. Your husband is actually bewitched by lust from the pit of hell. Don't shift your ground by parking out- if you do, it will be an opportunity for the side chick to take over ..You can engage yourself in meaningful venture( Earn your own bucks it will make your hussy respect u and even scare to loose u)

i did not read any thing about LOVING or LOVE in your writings which is the key to any successful marriage , you are only talking about respect, fear and money

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

This is a great piece of advice. U must indeed be a wise lady. Kudos!

dinachi:
She is never the victim. The man is. She never married him for love but for convenience and it sure looks like she kept throwing it in the mans face until the man has had enough and decided to fire back. The man didnt just start to drink he discovered something heinous about his wife that shattered him.
The woman is not being truth full about the true state of things.

She

Gbam! your sense are very much intact! Besides we have not heard the poor man's side of the story

DrSage:
You went too far!
Itz obvious he's nt acting normal at all,you would have taken dz issue to his family members so dat dey could at least talk to him.
But alas,u beat up his supposed girl friend,u went just too far.

she didn't went too far. it's her matrimonial home. and what the husband does is an abomination against morality and God

Xetima:
Things you must do urgently:
1. Keep loving him as before. Do not let this break your resolve. You are his wife and no stranger can chase you out.
2. Do not be tempted to pack your belongings
3. I do not know if you are a Christian. If you are, your answers are in your KNEE. Reclaim your family from the strange woman.
4. Anytime you cook for him speak to the food from scriptures just like the strange woman may pronounce incantations on him, you should speak scriptures on him.
5. Meet your pastor and let them join you in prayers.

what!? Speak to the food? how? Absolutely ridiculous! Christianity,i SMH

2ts:
You caused the problem. U made him stylish and trendy. My sister don't you know when u make a bush man attractive he will start baiting bigger bush meat.

The dude before ur marriage was never attractive to ladies because of his bush way of doing things and the only reason he felt u married him was out of pity. If u had left him the way he was with loads of ANKARA HE will not fit into the settings and class he just found himself.

Omo oko is now feeling like lagos boy.

My advise. Deny him sex, give him good food, leave him to himself, pray and deny him sex.

Never look into his phone, Never ask him why he is late, pretend like all is normal and deny him sex.

Always look attractive, play cool Christian songs when you hear his car sound.

Deny him sex, show more care and pray hard. May God help u

Are you sure they are still having sex together, I doubt if sex denial is the solution to this problem. I know a couple who have not had sex together in close to 2 years.
The wife denied the guy sex for 6 months, when the wife is now interested in sex because she realised that sex denial did not work for her, but unfortunately the husband is no longer interested in having sex with his wife or is it flat mate again.

My advice, never ever talk to any PASTOR about this; they will make you even more paranoid,

Wedon:


And this got 121 like (and counting)

Now I've given up completely on Nigerians!!!

Not everybody was in love with their spouse from day 1 (myself including) . . . . But marriage is a commitment . . . one that requires BOTH parties to give their all.

So now who is the cheater? HE claimed to love her and couldn't live without her, how he treats her like crap . . . . so much for love!!!

My dear, I was so angry I could not comment. How did things get this bad. This thread is one of the most annoying thread to read. We have a long way to go in Nigeria.

Hmmm... I feel so sorry for you. He's under a spell just be prayerful.

Whn I read it...eleyi gidigan!

Just go to mfm and pray ur way thru.

All d best.

Ama80:
Dear op,are u financially independent?if yes,then move out and mov on wt ur life.i mean enjoy ur life to d fullest,mak money,go shopping with ur kids n friends dat mak u laugh,eat wateva u wish,if u AR d type dat loves to hang out Fr few bottles of alcohol pls do dat.u already hav 2kids so mission accomplished.if I hear u think abt dat timid village novice who had mistakenly stumbled on a small change,I will spank u.dat fool will come bak but by then.just hav fun.

all these are just like closing the eyes to the real problems. it doesn't solve the problem. she need to attack it from the root.

numericalguy:



That means your father is a useless shameless dog
Your brothers are useless shameless dogs
Your sons (or future sons) are (will be) useless shameless dogs
Your male cousins are useless shameless dogs
Your uncles are useless shameless dogs
I'm short, all the males in your useless shameless village are all useless shameless dogs

You better watch that thing you call a mouth ....go and tell that to your own family not mine

NovusHomo:


No, she did not marry a clown. She married a nice, kind, gentleman. But that wasn't what she was looking for; she confessed that much. So she tried to make him in the image of what she wanted. It was meant to fail. Trying to "uplift" him only made the man attractive to other women, and her less so since she seemed to have a plan to control his life. In short, she created a monster from an easy-going guy. But you are right, she has to live with it. Or get out of it. Either way, I have no sympathy for her type.

Still d same......the guy is clown..... A 4ucktard for dat matter

Ama80:
Dear op,are u financially independent?if yes,then move out and mov on wt ur life.i mean enjoy ur life to d fullest,mak money,go shopping with ur kids n friends dat mak u laugh,eat wateva u wish,if u AR d type dat loves to hang out Fr few bottles of alcohol pls do dat.u already hav 2kids so mission accomplished.if I hear u think abt dat timid village novice who had mistakenly stumbled on a small change,I will spank u.dat fool will come bak but by then.just hav fun.

wow! So she should turn alcoholic? nice advice, and who looks after her kids while she is drinking all that wine and wiskey eh? And what impact will it have on her kids? And how long will having fun continue? What happens when money for fun runs out? Oh! Believe me the problem will just escalate and he will not come back definitely, you sound like a juvenile.. no offence

HungerBAD:
In the entirety of your story, not once was the word LOVE used. You never loved him, but AGE was on your side and that is the only reason you got married.

I feel no pity for you.

..And to add to your observation, she said that "He was the least of the three people running after me"...... and after l agreed to marry him, "I tried to CHANGE HIM"!

Nobody likes to think they are some sort of "filling-the-gap" or substitute...... and l just hope you have not told him this to his face, during an argument or 'expensive joke' session! That will hurt him for the rest of his association with you.

I also want to warn everybody that one should marry someone, if you are certain that you are okay with how they are, warts and all.
Dont ever think you can change somebody because sooner or later, they will revert back to who they are.

If you are not happy with the package, dont collect it from DHL.....
because return postage can be very costly!
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And that beating you gave the girlfriend will cause more anger and do more harm than good!
Remember that it was your husband that invited her home..... so the beating should have gone to him!
Now, he will simply abandon you in the house and go hibernate with the girlfriend somewhere you wont even know!
If you dont see him at home for weeks, dont think he was kidnapped by ritualist o, its just that girlfriend doing him some dangerous moves!

And again, l dont believe that one-sided bullshyte that "He just changed all of a sudden and you dont know why".
Tell us exactly what transpired between the two of you that a once lovely-dovey husband suddenly became a drunkard and womaniser!


Having said that l wish your husband can be more understanding by acting more matured with the issue of "girlfriend".
If he must marry a second wife, so be it but it should be done with dignity and respect for all parties, especially "iyale" that is involved.
Let the "elders" in your families intervene and talk some sense onto his head.

Not an enviable situation!


Lastpage!

manie:



Are you sure they are still having sex together, I doubt if sex denial is the solution to this problem. I know a couple who have not had sex together in close to 2 years.
The wife denied the guy sex for 6 months, when the wife is now interested in sex because she realised that sex denial did not work for her, but unfortunately the husband is no longer interested in having sex with his wife or is it flat mate again.

How can denying shex to somebody that brought a girlfriend into his own home, produce any good result?

Is like pouring petrol into fire or throwing bomb during a thunderstorm!

I will even advice the opposite! Phuck him till his brain is out such that when he goes outside, he can hardly maintain a hard-on for a minute!

If he your husband can afford not to have shex with you for six months and survived it..... then why does he need to have shex with you at all, afetrwards!
What did not kill him over six months would not kill him over six years and l bet the guy has found another "solution" to his shex problem, somewhere else.


Lastpage!

at last all this comment dey useless...


cuz oga madam nor b d op oo

...na blog copied story

The last paragraph of the man being bewitched or under a spell says it all.

When a man brings a girlfriend to his matrimonial home, he is ready for the worst-it has gone beyond mere "secret cheating"... In that case, God has to come in-courtesy you.

However, I hope you stop bringing the "I never really wanted to marry you initially" line, ever, in your married life. Keep that line in your heart forever. You may have been toying his ego with that line until he decided to pay you back.


Thanks.

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

It's a pity the woman wouldn't see this cox it didn't happened to the read OP.....He/She copied it

Cutehector:
This is what happens wen u marry because age is not by ur side anylonger or u marry out of pity... Na ur fault be that

You dont seem to be a very nice person.

engrshakespeare:


You dont seem to be a very nice person.

ok.

Take it to God in prayer and allow God to handle everything for you if truly you are innocent.

HungerBAD:
In the entirety of your story, not once was the word LOVE used. You never loved him, but AGE was on your side and that is the only reason you got married.

I feel no pity for you.

Love is not enough. Even the so called love birds have issues.

Would you marry a woman that would respect and honour or the one that loves you but disrespects you?

Johnnoah1st:
@op ur husband is acting funny? why dont u refer HiM to yabaleft?
shout out to all dos dat didnt read wat op wrote.

thank God I did not waste my time reading that poo!

Aystarz:


Pray? That's sisterlike, but fight? Shuo! Shey na Bible teach that one to sisters as well?

na wao ! * falls off chair* prayer and beating people up every were, so called christians SMH

Aystarz:


You go fear advice nau. To think that a woman spewed this garbage!

i fear o na person go marry that one too keep for house

Cutehector:
This is what happens wen u marry because age is not by ur side anylonger or u marry out of pity... Na ur fault be that

i dnt agree with u.its her destiny 2 marry him cos anything that happened God is aware of it, pls dnt discourage her.my kinded advice 2 her is 2 luk up 2 God,follow d right channel tru d 2 families n religiously 2 make peace.I am sure something went wrong somewhere which opened a door 4 d devil 2 come into her family.she is d only one that need 2 help her husband right nw cos d behaviour is nt normal.she shuld nt give up on him,its a spiritual battle that required serious prayers.dnt think of living cos d situation may get worse which will totally consumed ur family later.I hv had alot of similar incident like urs, inwhich d women stood by faith and faught till answer came frm heaven.I wish u God's intervention.