Vavavoom:

^^^^^^Rosabelle and The blessed:
I am a man and while I agree that we live in a world where man has garnered all the undue advantages to himslef it still remains in the power of the other single woman to zip up and keep adultery in check.
Yes men are evil is a common creed amongst women but the solution isn't in shouting about a bad and evil sex it's in being proactive by zipping up and working for what one desires while keeping their self-esteem simultaneously!

Godmother:

A married man actually told me that it is only women that cheat. When a man sleeps with someone other than his wife, he's just being a Nigerian man. But when a woman does it, she is cheating. That's to sho how bad this adultery thing is.


Of course, the guy is quite right! In Nigeria we have no sense of fairness and justice and what do you expect him to say?  Well, tell him its no surprise to Nigerians - na that ole Nigerian disease wey dey called "DOUBLE STANDARD" or "MOVING THE GOAL POST TO SUIT YOUR NEEDS". Na im we go blame, ok!
In fact, he should not worry, his own daughters will soon be victims of the same ole culture he'd helped to strengthened.  What goes round would definitely, come round for him and that's the natural law! Hope, he receive it with open arms!

deji2009:



so, how would you feel if we say the opposite ? your conclusion is really appaling.

Rosabelle:

And this is what Im talkign about. Women who blatantly allow their men to cheat because :'they will get tired'. If we dont demand more, we wont get more. And if your partner doesnt respect you enough to be faithful and reserve himself for you only, WHAT madame, is the obvious advantage of marriage. WHAT??
Because a person who isnt faithful is a steady liar. We all lie in one form or other, Im no hypocrite, but a man who cant discipline himself enough to understand marriage isnt kindergarten isnt worth it.
Again it all comes down to the question of how much you think of yourself. I dont care how lonely I may get, Im worth wayyyy too much to be with a man who cheats on me.

Leave her alone she can say what she likes!  If you lot don't like it then, go and change your behaviours else, all your beautiful daughters would leave Nigeria and settle anywhere they are able to find real love, respect and happiness and I support them. Nigerian man is too selfish to understand that women have feelings and thus, respect them.  Soon, you will all realise it when all your daughters had gone.

yeancah007:

I think you are getting unecessarily sentimental here. .  .How can a woman 'allow' her man to cheat? Pleas don' get me wrong. . . .I'l never tolerate infidelity,but why would I avoid mariage becos Im scared my future husband will cheat. . . don't boyfriends cheat? The men dat cheat on their wives don't have in written on their faces before marriage,and from other posts here ,one can see there's very little a wife can do about it. . .so either I remain single for the rest of my life or I pray to have a faithful husband. . . but either way its outside my control. . . so get your facts right.

HIO4:

Another brouhaha breaking out on NL

GEW:

madam please tell me in few words are these foolish nigerian men sleeping with ghanaian or cameroonian women? u need the cane man

sandas:

this is not a about Nigerian men it is about men generally some men can resist temptation while some cant, but adultery is not good

posakosa:

leave her jo! let her keep yarning DUST. White man go kill am finish and collect life insurance for her name. Shoooiiiir!  

otukpo:

Excitement ke?

And who says thay are getting more exciting sex outside? It is all for the sake of feeling big boy. He has varieties to taste and feel good abt.

Well, as you said variety might be part of it but you failed to see there are certain corners a married woman would not want to reach in her bedroom business with her husband that, these little harlots would be too obliged to reach because, they are paid/wined and dined for it.

The ACROBATIC display a respectable wife would not dare think of performing - these girls would be too obliged to perform in order to keep the man coming back for more. Doubt it?? Please, don't. If the men here can be honest with themselves, they would own up to it.

Generally, men are visual people and they like excitements - that's the only way you can engage them in things.

Theblessed:

That's not the ISSUE. The issue is, CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOURS! If there's no demand, there won't be supply. If a married man would stick with his wife at home and keep his BIG WALLET where it should be - in his wife's hands, these silly girls won't be displaying their little tits about, ok! Well, as little harlots they won't display them for free (when madam is in-charge of the wallet) that's obvious and you know it too.  Because the man uses the POWER OF HIS WALLET to entice them, they are obligated to provide him with the EXCITEMENT he is seeking outside his BEDROOM. So now, blame it on the wife!

Theblessed:

Well, as you said variety might be part of it but you failed to see there are certain corners a married woman would not want to reach in her bedroom business with her husband that, these little harlots would be too obliged to reach because, they are paid/wined and dined for it.
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The ACROBATIC display a respectable wife would not dare think of performing - these girls would be too obliged to perform in order to keep the man coming back for more. Doubt it?? Please, don't. If the men here can be honest with themselves, they would own up to it.

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Stealthy:

In all honesty, women don't help matters too. A lot of young girls (say in their uni days) will sleep with a man cos he can buy them all sorts of stuff and they feel on top of d world. They then get married and forget that what goes around comes around.
Fact is naijas love to feel sharp and feel we can game any system including marriage. And I'm talking of both men & women, single & married.

posakosa:

^^^^^^^ Dont you have things to do than to write paragraphs on NL,

chic2pimp:

It sure don't look like she has things to do.

Again! Leave her alone to write what she likes.  She's burst you guys bubbles, that's why you are taken offence.  She's entitled to air her opinions (even to your disgust)110 times on here if she likes.  You keep coming back here to read about it simply because, you are passionate about her topic and peoples' responses/reactions otherwise, you won't be here.  So, if you don't like what she stands for, stay out of this THREAD, ok!

posakosa:

^^^^^^^ Dont you have things to do than to write paragraphs on NL,   

Love to read and love to write, any problems?? When one's done a week's work and chilling out here, what's the heck??  buddy! We all love passionate stories and that's why you are still here reading my contributions and others.  Chill!!!!