tems777:

re: begging, I didnt say she should keep begging mind you.
All I was saying is she should play the fool for now.
If you read my earlier post I said she should send him a text daily or every other day, not begging
but definitely not giving up YET .
The guy seems like a very good guy imo sha
and to you break up brigade I hope y'all marry angels because as you see marriage is not like that o.
if y'all keep this attitude, hhhmmmnnnsometimes you are even in the right about an argument but you will say sorry for the greater good and sometimes you lose it and its the other way round.I am married so I should know

We can only comment based on what she told us, like i said b4, there is no point calling. txting again, she is just a human being as well. He needs to tell her what is prob is and stop behaving like a spoilt kid.

@ poster,

why should u elop to europe with someone not married to u?

tithe:

@ poster,

why should u elop to europe with someone not married to u?

What is wrong with that?

U must hv told him something realy realy bad. Something that hurt him. And it has bn building for long.

What I discover when relationship is sour, it is not always the trigger than that is the main cause. There is something. There is realy something you dont want to talk about. Search for it.

My advice, contrary to some here, is never be the one to call this relationship off. Do not move on, untill he moves first.

Some begging can be really very annoying. Certain women, when they begin to beg, you feel like beating the shit out of them. To me, if what you have said is true, and from the way you post here, your beging can realy make somebody boils more. Why go tell other ppl? His mum, friends and sisters? Don't you know that hurts some men. Anytime you have problem, leave it between you and him. After all, he didn't consult those people before he decides to go into relationship with you.

The next line of action - do not call him no more and do not send him txt message to beg him.

Well the guy even try, when I had problem with my gf, I tried to do that, but by the 5 day I couldn't sleep.

queen01:

the only thing i wanna see now is: he has called or we're back together.

honestly it as if am readin a romantic novel, but i really feel your pain my dear, just stop all the callin n begging suff, he will soon come back,

cant wait to read from u, UPDATE!!!!!

Update: not a word yet from him

Even if I am the worlds most wanted criminal, he should at least call and tell me what my crime is.

Just saw this tread and all I can say is "Wow!"

I really was hoping by the time I get to the end of the thread, u guys'd be back together.

Something tells me you guys'll get back together. . . and for once, I really hope the prohet in me is right
You sound like a nice person, but everything happens for a purpose. Don't give up. Don't put too much pressure either. You've done enough of that. Jus' keep your head up, fingers crossed and I'm sure u guys will be back together soon.

One last thing send me a PM when u gyus are back together (its on my profile). Will app'ciate that.

All the best gurlie.

freezy:

Just saw this tread and all I can say is "Wow!"

I really was hoping by the time I get to the end of the thread, u guys'd be back together.

Something tells me you guys'll get back together. . . and for once, I really hope the prohet in me is right
You sound like a nice person, but everything happens for a purpose. Don't give up. Don't put too much pressure either. You've done enough of that. Jus' keep your head up, fingers crossed and I'm sure u guys will be back together soon.

One last thing send me a PM when u gyus are back together (its on my profile). Will app'ciate that.

All the best gurlie.

n

i hopes he has a change in heart soon and calls me.

for those saying i should call or text him, truth is, i cant bring myself to do it. i am exhausted mentally and physically. i have been thinking and brooding . . . little sleep, little food.

it is affecting me so much psychologically knowing that i send texts to him, he reads them, probably smiles or laughs and then bothers not to respond or ring back. Around midnight, he switches off the phone, i leave countless voicemail messages (crying my heart out), obviously he listens to them, and yet he is not ready to make peace

maybe i should not have involved third parties but i was sooo confused and i had nobody around me here to talk to. Only choice left was to call nigeria

fine, he might say he is punishing me . . . for being unnecessarily suspicious of him (do not blame me, he caused it) , but he should know where to draw the line

@Poster
I have been following your comments from the beginning of your post. You no doubt appears to be a very intelligent and a smart person even smarter than your guy, lol If this incident occured just as you have said it and not a kind of compisition or make believe stuff from you, then I will say that it has not gotten to the level where you cant handle it. You are still emotionally bouyant and has got all the pragmatism to deal with the situation judging from your smart two-to-beat-one touch responses on this tread.
From what you told us here so far, I dont think whatever jargon u said to him in the course ur argument might have made him not to talk to you. There is more to it than meets the eye. It could be he has made up his mind to dump you and just waiting 4 the slightest mess up by you or some external factors that go on in the life of a man. Such factors as some business deals he never will want you know about within this period eg drug deals that either need to keep him closer to his allies or foes( security agencies). At such he doesnt want to have you around or let you come into it. This type of thing happened to a lady I know in UK/Austria. For 4 month she never heard from the husband but only text message once in a while saying 'Baby dont bother I will call you' and it went like that for 4 months. Your case is a bit different that you guys see each other almost everyday and d highest you have stay apart is 12 hours. I guess u know his house or where he stays or works, (since you have made us believe u dont live in the same roof) go there and meet him face to face and call him by this first name and tell him a piece of your mind on top of your voice. Then fall into his arms and ask him to speak to you. Drag him to the corner of d sofa and size him up. You said u love him right? Play this card and when you are done let me know the outcome! Dont just sit here infront of the computer screen waiting for a call that may never end up to be what you will want to hear. Dont let this suspense and anxiety continue to build up for you and for me - a keen observer!

@poster
no matter what u did, as a man i'd say that u have done your part. try to get involved in other things, i really know how it is when you are in place not that is not ur homeland but try going out with friends and i must tell you that there are good places in europe to visit alone without anybody accompanying you, i bet that you'd be better in a short time without all the trouble even though loving him can't burn off easily. i just hope your love for him won't be dead when he comes back to his senses because you as a woman have got what is called SELF-ESTEEM.  

he hasnt called?this guy is mean ooo. just hope for the best , u deserve better cos you sound like a who knows the value of what she is about to loose.Keeping praying, he will definately call u and u guys will work things out.

If da situation's still same. Gimme his no, i got da trick.

macfarland:

@Poster
I have been following your comments from the beginning of your post. You no doubt appears to be a very intelligent and a smart person even smarter than your guy, lol If this incident occured just as you have said it and not a kind of compisition or make believe stuff from you, then I will say that it has not gotten to the level where you cant handle it. You are still emotionally bouyant and has got all the pragmatism to deal with the situation judging from your smart two-to-beat-one touch responses on this tread.

Thanks for the nice words.
This is not a make-believe story

macfarland:

d but only text message once in a while saying 'Baby dont bother I will call you' and it went like that for 4 months. Your case is a bit different that you guys see each other almost everyday and d highest you have stay apart is 12 hours. I guess u know his house or where he stays or works, (since you have made us believe u dont live in the same roof) go there and meet him face to face and call him by this first name and tell him a piece of your mind on top of your voice. Then fall into his arms and ask him to speak to you. Drag him to the corner of d sofa and size him up.

We live in separate countries

hcl_acid:

@poster
no matter what u did, as a man i'd say that u have done your par[/b]t. try to get involved in other things, i really know how it is when you are in place not that is not your homeland but try going out with friends and i must tell you that there are good places in europe to visit alone without anybody accompanying you, i bet that you'd be better in a short time without all the trouble even though loving him can't burn off easily. [b]i just hope your love for him won't be dead when he comes back to his senses because you as a woman have got what is called SELF-ESTEEM.  

thank you

Have u done what i told u? Called him with a private number. Or send sms. There is some thing i really need to tell u. Very important. Ur 2mins attention is needed. Or baby i'm wet and feelin cold, ur girl is shovin only ur voice can cool it down. Plz luv, i expecting ur call before comitin sucide. Ur attn is needed here. Luv u till i die

fine.boy:

Have u done what i told u? Called him with a private number. Or send sms. T[b]here is some thing i really need to tell u. Very important. your 2mins attention is needed. Or baby i'm wet and feelin cold, your girl is shovin only your voice can cool it down. Plz luv, i expecting your call before comitin sucide. your attn is needed here. Luv u till i die[/b]

funny post. made me laugh so much so for a change. thank you.
i cannot text him that oh. sounds rather childish to me. besides, i don send the one wey pass that one and he didnt budge. in one of the texts i sent to him, i referred to him as 'daddy' and he should have mercy on his daughter
(i have never been so humilated in my life.) . . . still, no word from him

i have called him a few times with private number. he didnt pick up either. not surprising though. i have known him not to answer private number calls

@poster,

May i know the degree of hotness or coldness of the hurting!!

@ Poster

David was telling u some truths in some pages back but u obviously r not listening
1. tell us exactly your actions
2. why did u decide to go to a gun fight with a knife( u acted cold.y to him for 2 days now he has shown u he can also do it u are screaming foul)
3. exactly what are the trust issues?? some body that according to u risk a lot to take u out of nigeria and u are having trust issues with him?? have u been listening to some white girls??
4. if u claim to be in a relationship which is obviously suppose to last a life time, if u had been able to confuse him that ok lets go to where u want and maybe next year we go to my own destination would it have killed u No!! but u have to behave like typical Nigerian girl SELFISH, so self centred that everything should be as u say and no space for reasoning
5. it is not the first to cal police that always wins a case, u have come to the internet to report him just as u reported him to the folks in nigeria, do u think he may not be reading these famous advices from people here dump him slap him kill him

to me i think u are bloody waste of time and a fraud, u lied and pretended to love him just to use him to achieve your own selfish goals and interest now you are showing your true colours that you are a selfish stubborn arrogant woman that only thinks about her selfish interest and no room for negotiation with spouse.

good for you.

i can imagine the boy thinking right now that he had made a life mistake he would have listened and not have fallen for this jezebel.

tell us the real truth what exactly did u tell him, and what are u accusing him off for u to have trust issues

kaecy, why all the name calling? i have said it as it happened. . all that epistle for me? you are obviously highly unintelligent. you need to re-read all my posts.

meanwhile, if you do not believe me, you can go hang. after all, i am the one hurting, not you

i agree i am unintelligent no problem, i was trying to see how you react and so far u have proven me right.
sit back and re analyse the situation what would you have done differently
then walk to his house and face him directly.

kaecy5:

i agree i am unintelligent no problem, i was trying to see how you react and so far u have proven me right.
sit back and re analyse the situation what would you have done differently
then walk to his house and face him directly.

okay sir. thank u
you want to see how i will react to calling me nasty names such as jezebel?   
are you happy with my reaction?

sorry if u think i called u Jezebel i was trying to see how does he see you, probably you are not one,

sorry did not mean to call you names

Hold it there. Why we nigerians always take insult to another level. Well as i was strolling by to planet 9. I sow the guy naking is head on his pellow. For a great mistake he has made. There must be something attach to it. We must leave the rest to u so let turn down this tread.

amhurting:



funny post. made me laugh so much so for a change. thank you.
i cannot text him that oh. sounds rather childish to me. besides, i don send the one wey pass that one and he didnt budge. in one of the texts i sent to him, i referred to him as 'daddy' and he should have mercy on his daughter
(i have never been so humilated in my life.) . . . still, no word from him

i have called him a few times with private number. he didnt pick up either. not surprising though. i have known him not to answer private number calls

come on to me i give u what u he couldnt even give you(D Coco)
i'm in south yorkshire- 075588666419(my no)

CHAIRMAN1:

come on to me i give u what u he couldnt even give you(D Coco)
[b]i'm in south yorkshire- 075588666419([/b]my no)

na wa oh.

kaecy5:

sorry if u think i called u Jezebel i was trying to see how does he see you, probably you are not one,

sorry did not mean to call you names

apology accepted.

fine.boy:

Hold it there. Why we nigerians always take insult to another level. Well as i was strolling by to planet 9. I sow the guy naking is head on his pellow. For a great mistake he has made. There must be something attach to it. We must leave the rest to u so let turn down this tread.

you are one funny guy.

am finding it hard to sleep again tonight.

banging headache again

oh God, how long will i continue like this?

sorry young one , use panadol or pana-sharp

bammy:

sorry young one , use panadol or pana-sharp

honestly, i have been taking paracetamol every night.

@ amhurting,


Sorry for all the mess you going through dear, be patient give him some time and space I'm sure he'll eventually come around

OgidiBoy:

@ amhurting,
Sorry for all the mess you going through dear, be patient give him some time and space I'm sure he'll eventually come around

thanks. i hope so too.

@Poster

You live in different countries and cant see? Does that mean you guys dont see often? I think you just have to enter train and go meet with him face to face to really prove this point you are making here that you love him. I dont want to believe that he has always been the one coming around your place and you dont go to see him, else you guys might not really be running things as close as you make us to understand her. It is the same Europe, make a move go see him face to face and do as I said in my last post. Dont text or call him again and for God's sake dont to report or bring in a third party into this again unitil you see him in person and trash things out. This relationship has been between the two of you till this unfortunate incident so go see him without further excuse why u cant see. Dont let him know you are coming. I guess you know when to be able to see him in the house or somewhere else.

Now if you see him, he will definitely let you know and decide whether the relationship is still going to be rekindle or be extinguished. His action when he sees you face to face will certainly end this drama, get all your bad advicers in this NL who think relation is a 'pushbotton' and prefer you probaly taste same fate with them and you will help eventually end this thread too. Make this move now so that the whole episode dont get to look like a pirated copy of Mills and Boons. When you are back dont forget to let us know the outcome. Cheers!