giddysgold:

@ 1Emmy  
God bless your heart dear, u r true, one point tho, respectfully, no means no!
either raped or lured then raped, even if u have it in your hands and both our pants are off and i say no, a gentlemen will take it as no and stop himself, Cos if i say no and u proceed, then that's rape, u no longer have permission,

if in the middle of it i say stop- no means no, it could be hurting, so stop cos if  u don't it's rape, and no means no,

anyways, C'est la Vie, Que Sera Sera ! But i say that in love, no fight or disrespect intended,
Quick Story-  
there was a lady in US going around trying to get herself raped, she would go so far and then tell the man no, of course the man would already be erect and ready, some of them forced her and some of them would stop, now after they finish raping her she run off and call them in week to say that she has AIDS, so u see, at times, being a gentleman pays off, Even the ones who would stop, she called them to tell them what they missed out on by being gentlemen, u never know, and condoms break, syphilis and herpes go beyond condoms, so there are many diseases out there: an open womanliness is not always "an open womanliness" if u get mi drift, so it's best to be careful and to not get too hot for that woman part between the great divide, it can get real ugly real fast

giddysgold:

@ poster, my sister was raped and it ruined her life. She told no one. It was a relative and I saw him. that is how the family found out cos i forced her to talk. But unfortunately, the incident ruined her.
Why people so quick and comfortable to be negative. Had those same sentiments until the cock came home to roost, if u have never dealt with this situation or one like it, u have no reasonable input. Not to be rude, but u don't know what it's like, I watched my sister, a brilliant star, just start to throw away her life becos of this incident. and jus cos a woman goes to see somone who she thinks is a friend does not mean she should be raped or that she got what she deserved. Maybe she likes that guy but jus cos someone likes u doesn't mean they want to have sex with u. sex is more personal for women than for men, some men anyways, men are priviledged to pull out and wipe off, women absorb all what the man has given. that is why its violating to be raped and is very sensitive subject, that's one. two, mr. poster- rape changes a person my dear, am very sorry for how u may feel right now but she will have to deal with it, and maybe she is avoiding u cos she is afraid u might tell her that it's her fault that she got raped, and that is the last thing someone wants to hear after being raped, Women are not as dubious as we make them, sometimes they just want to be genuine friends, and although nothing is in their mind, the mind of the guyfriend can be quite different and when it comes out that the guy wants to progress to another base, the ego insult of the slap of rejection is enough to make a mean man wild enough to take her treasure and tell her that's what u get u silly bitch! do u think i really just wanted to be friends with u, what if that's the scenario, many are the ways that this thing can be spun o, u have to calm your head and think first, get her to disarm herself and trust u that u wont accuse or attack her and tell her it's her fault or make her feel worse, she may be especially not trusting men right now, so take your time and if u love her, get counseling and wait for her to come around and help her build something special in her mind about sex between u two, that will ease the pain , idk, just slow down and think, and NL is not the best place for advice, if u believe in Jesus, i would say trust him and pray, pray her and pray for urself,


but that's just advice good luck

abbye1986:

Anyway, I need to concentrate on what we will make me happy, I am not having the best of week ( to worsen the situation Arsenal got disgraced by Drogba yet again ).

comechop:

How The Hell Is Rape Not A Big Deal

galatico:

It's a pity that she was raped, and she has refused to stand up, the downfall of a man or woman is not the end of the world .

Most of the babes that are raped are the architect of there own downfall, imagine a girl wearing a skimpy dress at nite walking in a dark place, where there is a possibility of her meeting touts who could moless or rape her.

Some men can't control themselves when they see a lady putting on such dress, there eyes are full of lust for the girl.

Advice to all girls
Watch what you where and were you trend at nite . Never walk alone walk in the company of a guy you trust or a lady .

Kaki P:

Raped!! lie if not she would have told you on the spot,after the incident.

abbye1986:

Thanks to everyone for your support. This has been a really tough time for me but I believe it is for