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✓ *Ten (10) Benefits Of Sex In Marriage �*


1. Keep your immune system in good health .
People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Couples who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

You should still do all the other things that make your immune system happy, such as:

>>Eat right.
>>Stay active.
>>Get enough sleep.
>>Keep up with your vaccinations.
>>Use a condom if you don’t know both of your STD statuses.

2. Boosts Your Libido
Longing for a more lively sex life? Having sex will make sex better and will improve your libido,”
For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.

3. Improves Women's Bladder Control
A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of women at some point in their lives.

Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

4. Lowers Your Blood Pressure
sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That's the first number on your blood pressure test.


5. Counts as Exercise
“Sex is a really great form of exercise,”

Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and uses various muscles.


6. Lowers Heart Attack Risk
A good sex life is good for your heart. Besides being a great way to raise your heart rate, sex helps keep your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance.


Having sex more often may help. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rarely.


7. Lessens Pain
Before you reach for an aspirin, try for an orgasm.

“Orgasm can block pain,”

Stimulation without orgasm can also do the trick. “ vaginal stimulation can block chronic back and leg pain.

8. May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
Going for the gusto may help ward off prostate cancer.

Men who ejaculated frequently (at least 21 times a month) were less likely to get prostate cancer

It's not clear that sex was the only reason that mattered in that study. Lots of factors affect cancer risk. But more sex won’t hurt.

9. Improves Sleep
You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason.

“After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness" after sex.

10. Eases Stress
Being close to your partner can soothe stress and anxiety.

touching and hugging can release your body's natural “feel-good hormone.” Sexual arousal releases a brain chemical that revs up your brain’s pleasure and reward system.

Sex and intimacy can boost your self-esteem and happiness, too. It’s not only a prescription for a healthy life, but a happy one.

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✓ BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCES

what you feed your relationship with will determine what you get.
What you portray yourself to be will determine the results you recieved.

You can not please anyone in life , men or women.

The best you can do for yourself is do your best and use your brain .

Pain begins when a man lacks wisdom to identify what went wrong .
And then not able to find a way to fix it .

Why do many people suffer in a relationship? They do because they lack knowledge, greedy mindset or selfish goals


Most men are of the knowledge that money makes a woman happy

Most women are of the fact that sex gives men joy.


Both assumptions are very wrong .

Why do men cheat after having sex ? Because sex is a pleasure and not a yardstick for measuring a good man or to keep a man

Why do women run away after taking so much money from men . Because money is pleasure, money is never enough, money is insatiable, and when a man's money finish, a woman will flew to another man for more money

So money is not a yardstick to keep a woman in a relationship, it makes her loyal, but when you go broke as a man, she may flew .

Why do you need to secure your finances

You need to secure your finances and avoid spending recklessly in a relationship

A dating relationship is a starting point. You can never tell whether it leads somewhere or nowhere

Same as courtship, courtship may not lead to Marriage. Many people breaks up in courtship


As a lady you need to be :

✓ Wise when giving your resources to men
✓ Don't spend your money for a man who is confused
✓ Study your man because you contract with him
✓ Many men are looking for women's money to enjoy.
✓ Try to help with little not major.
✓ Never give out money you can't afford to loose to a man in a relationship
✓ If a man is demanding money from you regularly, you should suspect him
✓ Men who seeks money from women are nt appreciative and the relationship won't last long
✓ When a man is putting his problems towards you. Beware you haven't gotten a relationship yet . But a leach



As a man you need to :

✓ Be sure she is on same page with you before you think of spending your money
✓ If you motive is sex oriented you will fail in all ramifications aspect of keeping a relationship
✓ Don't spend money to entice a lady
✓ Don't use money to force a lady to say Yes . If she doesn't feel like, let her be
✓ Stop buying her expensive gifts , she is not entitled to such as a girlfriend, only a wife is entitled to expensive gifts
✓ Stop showing her your bank details, keep your finances private.
✓ When a woman don't love you, and you love her and you are trying every trick to get her . You are only setting fire on yourself. Feelings can never be bought with money.
✓ Keep your personal belongings and properties private . You can corrupt a good lady with your success if you boast much about it alot.
✓ Train her to be disciplined financially if you love her , don't spoil her with money. In future she will waste your resources
✓ If a woman is not money wise , she is not supposed to be with you. If she can't think of converting #5 to #10 then you need to excuse her
✓ Feed your relationship with the right thing, you are sowing and you will reap your effort either good or bad .


A potential man will finds a potential woman, you don't accept any relationship just because you need to be in a relationship like others .

You have to distinguish yourself from general populace . Everybody is Dating only few are getting it right , to be among the few you need to understand what you want and work towards what you are looking for .

Having a set goals to achieve is the keys to marital success.

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Counseling By Doc Adeshina

Things You Should Do To Keep Your Marriage.

There are so many things you can do to keep your marriage from divorce., so many court cases and divorce letters to be signed in court . Reasons why people get tired of their partners is not Farfetch. It's just lack of knowledge.

Do These Things To Keep Your Marriage.

✓ Have sex regularly. Don't deny your partner access to you . Especially morning sex . Have more sex in the morning, it creates bonds and intimacy than midnight sex . And it's more fertile.

Men who suffer quick ejaculation should try sex more in the morning, why because the organs are relaxed and will perform better at this time .

✓ As a woman be a good cook . Stop cooking same food everything, cook varieties, learn it on Google

✓ Give your wife money, give her Enough money , give her before she ask for it . Stop been stingy. Spend money on her .

✓ Love your husband and your wife, be proud of him or her , anywhere, anytime, let him or her know you love , express it by actions

✓ Dress well as a woman, well skimpy, bikini and so on at home , men get attracted to what they see and that's all .
Look sexy and hot for your husband, so he doesn't look at other women , because he is used to it at home .

✓ Twerk for him if you can , be naughty atimes , play with him , dont give space for any holes . If a man is used to a particular thing he wont be amazed when he sees it somewhere else .

✓ As a man fck your wife well , bro , fvck her , pls fvck her well , make sure she says thank you after sex . If she is not yet saying thank you, you haven't done well. When a woman enjoys sex , she will smile and say thank you, you will see her facial expressions that she is satisfied. Stop giving excuses . Learn to give her a fvck . Or else someone else will help you and that's your fault.

✓ Make sure you have strength to go about three rounds of sex or last for 25 mins at one round . Stop giving excuses of your 1 min man . You have failed her and she will quit you if it continues. Man up pls .

✓ As a woman, romance your husband and kiss hell out of him , play with his penis and make sure he get stronger erection. Don't just lay like logwood Or old time newspaper. Men feel it when women play with them and also scream during sex . It gives him a kind of feeling. . Learn how to handle your man , stop giving excuses..

✓ Support your wife financially, set her up, a business or job opportunities. Marriage is sweet when both parties can give Financially.

✓ Write love messages for your partner, do it everyday if you can it helps boost love , do surprise package as well.

✓ Hangout with your partner. Go on vacation, nice places. , Create memories. Stop complaining of tiredness

✓ Stop nagging as a wife , instead learn how to communicate hard feelings, emotionally, nagging will make a man wanna hate you and resent you

✓ Stop responding to your wife nagging attitude as a man , Learn how to excuse her or else you will start beating her and it may end in divorce

✓ Keep secrets as secrets and confidential.

✓ Trust your partner, don't trust outsider or third-party, learn to trust , trust is the foundation of marriage.


✓ Make love atleast 2 times a week , 8 times a month. You can see am emphasizing of sex , because as a counselor I find out that lack of sex is the root of marriage issues when couple don't come closer they start quarreling.

✓ Never report your partner to anyone except when it's necessary. Stop the habit of reporting to friends and family members.

✓ Be clean always, take care of domestications and Yourself

✓ As a man take care of your duties as husband.

✓ Learn to apologies or say am sorry when you should, stop proving adamant. When you refuse to apologies you will create more holes for troubles.

✓ Pray regularly with your partner, prayer builds Godly family, family that prays together stay together

✓ Accept each other flaws and agree on important issues , stop arguing with your partner, Learn to agree more

✓ Never be a boring wife or husband, life is too short . If you want your husband or wife around you regularly, learn to be funny and fun to be with. Stop the idea of talking about money at all times

✓ Reasons why most men will excuse wife is because they see you as a money topic . Some women dont talk about two things than ask for something, demanding whenever husband is at home , I need this , I need that . Please give a break . His head is filled already, find best time to ask for what you need and not all the time.


To Be Continued


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✓ FENCING
( Are you a person who says my decision is may be and that's final )

Is this you? Have you ever noticed that some of the most miserable people in the world are those who can never make a decision?

Being decisive is an absolute key to successful life. Every accomplishment, great or small, start with a decision. Nothing great was ever done without a decision.

If you commit yourself to being indecisive, what's kind of life will you live?

Do you lack Opportunities? Make some decisions. The moment you definitely decide , all sort of things happen to help you that never would have otherwise occurred. There is no question that you create opportunities by being decisive.

The book of James says .. a double minded man is unstable in all his ways ." Too many people go through life not knowing what they want, but feeling sure they don't have it .

Remain indecisive and you will never grow . To move from where you are , you must decide where you would rather be .

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Counselling By Doc Adeshina

✓ FENCING
( Are you a person who says my decision is may be and that's final )

Is this you? Have you ever noticed that some of the most miserable people in the world are those who can never make a decision?

Being decisive is an absolute key to successful life. Every accomplishment, great or small, start with a decision. Nothing great was ever done without a decision.

If you commit yourself to being indecisive, what's kind of life will you live?

Do you lack Opportunities? Make some decisions. The moment you definitely decide , all sort of things happen to help you that never would have otherwise occurred. There is no question that you create opportunities by being decisive.

The book of James says .. a double minded man is unstable in all his ways ." Too many people go through life not knowing what they want, but feeling sure they don't have it .

Remain indecisive and you will never grow . To move from where you are , you must decide where you would rather be .

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FIRST TIME VISITING YOUR INLAWS

1) Research about Them.
Know what to expect,
Ask your partner about their culture, how they greet over there, don't go and say "Hi, good Afternoon Everybody" when they expect you to probably kneel to greet.
You could learn how to greet in their language too (if you are from a different tribe), your in-laws will be happy to know you are trying to learn their ways.
Research about the people you'll be meeting, so you don't say things that may embarrass or offend anyone, like if her elder brother lost his wife, don't go and ask him "how's your wife", that you weren't aware will not be an excuse, they may instantly dislike you.
Don't go to your in-laws place for the first time unprepared.
First Impression goes a Long way.

2) Dress Well
As a Lady, don't dress like you want to seduce all the Men in his family, even if short skirts is your trade, try and dress well that day,
Dress decently, don't be going to visit a Mother-in-law to be who believes deeply in decent dressing and then dress exposing your cleavages and laps, before you hear "My Son, let me have a word with you inside"
As a young Man, dress responsibly, don't dress like a gateman to see your in-laws, don't wear rumpled clothes, or wear shoes that look like what a tailor made..
You will be ADDRESSED the way you DRESS

3) Try not to go without a Gift
Don't go empty handed, it may sound cliche, but don't ignore it.
Your gift should be tailor made to suit them, don't just buy any gift you like, the father or mother may have allergies, dislikes, so ask your spouse what best to buy for their parents,
Don't buy for instance, alcoholic wine to a Pentecostal Christian Family as gift, you would have failed exam even before you got the question papers that way.
If their father or mother were a writer, a leather jotter or notepad will be a perfect gift.
Please don't be cheap, don't buy bread by the road side to present to your in-laws,. We are in the 21st century, be creative

4) Avoid excessive display of physical Intimacy.
Don't go and visit your in-laws and be groping or touching their son or daughter all over in their presence, Avoid too much emotional and physical display of affection
It'll make the meeting awkward
Sit down where you were asked to and respect yourself.
They know you love each other, Keep your hands in your pocket and don't let the devil use you.
Don't give the impression you both have been having sex. They'd wonder if you are the right person for their child morally speaking, and You would attract unnecessary suspicion and questions that way.

5) Avoid pressing your Phone excessively.
It can come out as disrespectful
Especially those of you that are addicted to pressing phone, you didn't leave your house to your in-laws just to Facebook and press phone.
You came for business. Focus.
Switch off the phone or ignore it and focus on making a good impression and befriending your prospective in-laws.
Your father in law to be should not be calling your name and you are obviously lost, scrolling and commenting on Facebook..

6) Interact
You are there to make friends.
Talk, don't keep to yourself.
Laugh, ask questions, answer questions, interact lovingly, compliment the food, compliment their home, compliment their looks, compliment things worthy of compliment, smile, communicate and have Fun
Don't go there and be looking like someone that is lost, as if you left your brain and tongue at home.
Leave a good impression on their hearts and they'll look forward to your next visit.

7) Don't forget table Manners
We know you like food, but that's not the reason you came, don't eat and be asking for extra 2 plates, and take away, there'll be subsequent visits for you to do that, don't eat and be dropping soup everywhere, don't talk with your mouth full, when you are not Shrek.
Behave when you are offered food...
Don't forget your home training and embarrass yourself, they are watching you.
You came for Introduction, not to Eat.
😎 Don't Pick a Fight
Don't go there and make trouble, even if your profile on Facebook reads "never to shy to look for trouble"
Be a preacher of love at your in-laws place, if anyone intentionally says any thing uncouth at you, smile and act as If you didn't hear it, don't reply in like manner,
If anything is said or done that displeases you, keep quiet, you can take it out on or rather sort it out with your partner later when you leave.
Don't go to your in-laws place and pick a fight with his mother of her father. It can end a Relationship.

9) Be Respectful/Offer to Help
Be respectful, don't go there and act as if everybody is your mate.
Greet those who are elder to you
If there's work to be done, offer to help, it's not eye service, it's what you'll do if you were at you own parent's place.
If you see his Mom or her Dad doing something you can and know how to do, offer to assist, don't raise your legs for his Mum or her Mum to sweep the floor., It's not done

10) Don't try too hard to please them
Be yourself.
No lies, you don't have to agree with everything you see and hear before they'll like you, respectfully opine your views,.
You are a Chelsea fan, and his Dad is a Man U fan, you don't have to become a Man U fan just to impress him. Argue lovingly and respectfully, you will still earn his respect.
Don't become a "Yes Sir, Yes Ma" person, talk with your convictions and beliefs but respectfully, and don't argue with your in-laws, because some of you are journalists, know when to let an issue drop.

11) Most Importantly, Pray before going. Some in laws can be difficult, pray and commit your visit into the hand of God, so you'll find favor in their eyes even when they initially were set to dislike you....
In the end, no matter how the first visit goes, do not lose hope. Opportunities to make good second impressions will always abound should you miss it the first time.