Ten Things Couples / Families Should Do During This Period

1. Spend time and share resources together
2. Build bonds, unity and extend love
3. Give more attention to your partner than you do to your phone , dont get to distracted
4. Play together, have fun
5. Cook good meals for the family
6. Get closer to God and pray together
7. Pay attention to the kids , learn them more
8. Stay updated
9. Provide help to the needy , those who can't afford or those facing difficult situation
10. Be thankful God for gift of life

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Relationship works well when two people are genuinely in love with each other

Never feed a relationship with poisons its hurt. Pretence is poisonous , be yourself and let people love you the way you are.

Unfortunately many Marriages are failing due to lack of proper preparation / premarital counseling. Long term preparation will help safe your marriage from breaking, work on yourself, prepare physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually and then let God guide you.

Understanding your partner love languages is what makes a relationship last longer

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Faithfulness in a relationship is very important to keep a relationship going well.

How To Convert Online Dating � To A Marriage Proposal �


✓ Be real and be ready to make it work
✓ Spend more time Communicating with your partner than you do with your friends
✓ Call each other regularly and daily
✓ Share gifts and good appreciations
✓ Have better plans and talk about your plans
✓ Be extraordinary, develop resources
✓ Have great ideas that can convert to success
✓ Make your partner rely on you for knowledge
✓ Never compare your relationship
✓ Let your past be past and focus on your future
✓ Don't double date
✓ Create time to visit eachother
✓ Be helpful financially and mentally
✓ Don't make sex a priority
✓ Always say the truth and be real
✓ Stop demanding for money, instead ask for ideas
✓ Pray to God to strengthen you .

Difference Between Sex And Love Making

SEX �

✓ Sex is punishment
✓ Sex is painful
✓ Sex is full of temptation
✓ Sex is full of bitterness in mind
✓ Sex can kill
✓ Sex can make you have STDs and other viral diseases

LOVE MAKING �
✓ love making is polishing
✓ Love making is gainful
✓ Love making is full of sensation
✓ Love Making is cheerful and joyful
✓Love making is betterment of your spirits soul and body
Love making makes one cry for joy
✓ Love Making can make you alive

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✓ How To Satisfy Your Wife Sexually


Poor Sexual life can be Fustrating, sex helps couples to unite more as one , it boost intimacy, love and support, when couples stop having sex , they stop having emotions and intimacy. .

When a man suffers sexual issues or weak erectile dysfunction, he may loose his wife to a stranger if care is not taking, that's why you need to make sure you do all you can to satisfy your wife and keep your home.

The Following Tips Will Help You

✓ Stop giving excuses, you are married to human not wood , men who gives so mush excuse will tempt their wives to commit fornication, you must fulfill your duty as a man.

✓ Eat alot of vegetables and fruits . it will repair damaged tissues especially in the organ area ( banana and cucumbers) will help you.

✓ Reduce your intake of sugary drinks, fat foods , junks they all sugar.

✓ Reduce your anxiety , over excitement will make you 1 minute man so be relaxed.

✓ Stop masturbating, masturbation will weakened your erectile, and makes you sick on the long run.

✓ Treat yourself if you have contacted sexually transmitted infections ( syphilis, gonorrhea etc) if this infections persist in your body , it will kill your Sexual drive .

✓ Go for regular check-up, see an orlogist and check for prostrate and varicose, varicocele is a common disease with most men and it leads to painful testicles , early detection will help prevent your sexual life from deteriorating

✓ Run a test on libido , if you noticed you cant perform well as a man or you are longer moved to have sex with your wife ... When a man is suffering from low libido, he can never satisfy Sexually.

✓ Share your problems with your wife , let her know, problems shared is half solved. Don't keep it to yourself , sharing will reduce your burden and make you free and active in bed

✓ Reduce your alcohol intake, alcohol kills spermatozoa and gradually makes it watery, most men who consume large quantities of alcohol suffers low sperm counts aside that they won't be able to perform well.

✓ Drugs can't help you for long, stop taking Sexual enhanced drugs... It will destroy your vital organs . eg kidneys and liver, Addiction to sexual enhanced drugs is dangerous, some men can't do without it and they will pay the price later

✓ Burn calories, exercise regularly to reduce excess sugar, maintain healthy blood pressure and glucose level... When you have so much sugar in your blood stream, you won't be able to perform as a man , so exercise


✓ Relax well and before and after sex ... Most people will jump up immediately,... it's medically advice that after sex a man should lay on bed for about 15 minutes, doing nothing but relaxing, so that blood will flow freely to his legs and other parts of his body ..

✓ Scientifically it has proven that many may suffer stroke or heart diseases in future due to the fact that they jump up immediately and get back to work after sex. they don't relax their bodies, some will develop serious leg pains and discomfort too

✓ Most men who suffers low erection is as a result of low blood flow to the penis area , either through vein blockage or high blood sugar

✓ Engage in pre-intimacy with your wife , pre-intimacy will help you with blood flow in your penis area , pre-intimacy is also love play and romance , this helps to stimulate your body, arouse your body and then ensure free flow of blood to the organ area and then make you last longer... Men who Engage in pre-intimacy stay longer than men who don't



In conclusion

To solve the issue of quick ejaculation, you need to eat well and rest well , take worries of your mind , share your problems with your wife , and get good counsel, go for regular check-up, and then engage in activties that helps

To be continued..

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✓ TIPS ON HOW GOD ANSWER PRAYERS

Prayer is a session, it's a form of communication with God (your creator) prayer requires ordinance and constant communication with God. Prayer should never be observed ruthlessly or unguided.

Most people say their prayers and don't get response and therefore feel disappointed and unhappy.

Some spent time on mountains praying regularly , but no results. It's not that God isn't listening but he is thinking of how to answer and best time to . If there are negative things with your lifestyle your prayers may not get anywhere. So Inorder not to waist your time , it's better to adjust your lifestyle and be properly guided on what to pray and how to behave well .


The following tips should help


✓ Pray from the scriptures, use bible passages as a prayer point it's more effective than just using mere words because you are using God's words to speak to God .


✓ Pray foundational prayers because every problems we face started with weak or affected foundation, you weren't there but something went wrong in your foundation.. Most people don't deal with their foundation first... A man born from a cursed foundation can't do anything meaningful in life except he breaks foundational curse.... But because he doesn't know what to do, he will be making prayer request for house , car , wife but his foundation is faulty and good things can not come except he repairs it prayerfully

✓ Stop making noise and start praying properly, so many noise makers , making noise in the name of am praying... You don't need to shout and scream like hell before God hears you ... Even before you ask , he already knows what you want.

✓ Pray a guided prayer not anyhow you want to ... A guided prayers Example... (Our lord's prayer) when you prayer is well guided you will hear from God because you aren't beating around the bush and talking nonsense.

✓ Daniel prayed a single prayer point for 21 days , he was very determined. Just one prayer point... But most people will say alot of prayers and be demanding for lots of things at the same time( car, house , wife, money)... If your pray is specific... You will receive answers speedily...

✓ Say your prayers in private not in public for the world to see or hear you, don't be a clown .

✓ Forgive others and let go of grudges .. most people don't forgive and they want prayer answered . Lack of forgiveness is the root of so many unanswered prayers

✓ Pray a long time prayer and never stop ... There are some battles you can never win until you increase your praying time tensity.. you must be in the military and never a civilian if you want to conquer


✓ Severity of your Physical condition or problems should determine the kind of prayers you should be praying.. we have different faces but different problems .. if your issue is sickness you should pray more than a person asking for forgiveness... A sick person wants healing and needs to seek God's face constantly.. such person should pray more .


✓ Run away from sin , sin delays prayers.

✓ Give to others who are in need, don't do eye service or because you want them to praise you. Do it wholeheartedly and let them pray for you . When people Pray for you, they do from their hearts and heaven sees it and recognizes it. The good you do to other will safe you from falling.

✓ Respect men of God and never insult them , because they are mouthpiece of God, so God doesn't place embargo on your prayers.

✓ Take care of your parents, so you can recieve their blessings, parental blessings goes along way to safe you from troubles. Because God listen to your parents more.

✓ Stop gossiping, backbiting or blaming people around , you will be delaying your prayers because God dislike gossipers .He who must come to house of the Lord must come with clean hands

✓ Fast and pray too, jesus said some problem will not go and some prayers will not be answered except through fasting and prayers .
When fasting keep it secret, let it be within you and your creator , when you let people know and talk about it generally , it's no longer fasting but hunger strike .



To be continued


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✓ Danger Of Making Wrong Marital Choice

Life is good, life is precious, life is gold, you only live once , so make sure you don't toy with your life .

Life gets hard when you make silly mistakes , mistakes can be flexible or deadly . There are common deadly mistakes individuals make, such mistakes includes

✓ Failed Marriage
✓ Marrying A Wrong Partner
✓ Bad Decisions In Life

Am going to speak about Failed Marriage

Failed Marriage is as a result of marrying a wrong partner . When you marry a wrong partner you have already dugged your own grave . There are terrible characters you should expect from a bad it failed Marriage such includes

✓ Arguing everytime with your partner. Both parties wants to win , no one will accept defeat. This attitudes is common among some women who are Graduates, they will never be agree . Especially the extreme educated ones with PhD or higher degrees

✓ Lack of understanding, you find it difficult to learn from each other, one is saying A , the other B .

✓ Lack of submissiveness, failed couples will never submit , husband with Ego and wife with disrespectful attitudes

✓ Poor In-laws : when you marry a wrong partner, your in-laws are equally not compatible with the Marriage. Bad advice from in-laws may bring untold stagnation, hardship, and set backs

✓ Your Partner don't joke with money, money helps to decide which marriage is good or bad , because money is an instrument, so it tells ones characters and reveal weaknesses. Many married women commit fornication as a result, while some cheat on their wives

✓ Living together as couple but acting as Enemies, it's possible to have an enemy as spouse, an enemy doesn't likes or prefer what you do . Everything include your progress is rubbish to an enemy . A wife or husband may stand as an enemy when you make a wrong choice


✓ You are at higher risk of becoming hypertensive. Wrong Marriage will make you suffer strange illness due to lack of rest and peace of mind. In Lagos for example. There are millions of landladies and fewer landlords. Majority of these men were killed by unfaithful wives.

✓ You marry a wife beater / fornicative woman. Both are great and deadly sin. A man may eventually kill his wife when he beats her up regularly, a woman may invite untimely death to husband through strange sex infections or spiritual attacks. If your partner is doing any of the aforementioned it's time to run for your dear life

✓ Money driven partner , unfortunately most men don't really understand their partner until after some years in marriage. A money driven wife will turn her marriage to business venture, will demand money for everything, love , sex , etc . Infact will make no difference from a prostitute and as a man who appear to be a victim may go into robbery, ritualism to satisfy such woman which is deadly.

✓ Marrying a talkative wife or husband is equally as marrying a wrong partner. Talk addict individuals are easy prey for traps by the enemies. In recent time many people had been a victim of robbery through Facebook or Instagram post , spies where able to capture valuable info and plan a robbery . Posting every mins on social media is same as been a talkative. When you marry someone who can't do without talking, the person will endanger your life easily

There are so many ways to identify a bad marriage . The greatest killer of men / women nowadays is a bad marriage. Your life longetivity determines by the kind of person you marry as husband of wife . A wife may reduce husband life span through rigorous stress, fighting, abusing, arguing, starving and neglecting. A husband may kill his wife quickly through beating, denying of responsibility, keeping extra marital affairs , abusing or insulting publicly, giving her sleepless nights and so on

The above are red flags and reasons to run for your dear life . If your partner do not repent . Life is precious, if you value it , find a better way to live it right . Find every means to make yourself happy. If your Marriage is always bringing sadness to you . Excuse yourself or pray to God for help. The more happy you are , the more healthier you will be. The more sad you are , more your life span reduces . Sickness such as high blood pressure, diabetes, pains are all attributed to sadness and sorrows.


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✓ Why Most Children Dont Love Or Respect Father

Its so unfortunately that most father's are too busy with money making and business talks. Running helter skelter , traveling from one place to another , looking for means to fend for the family and after all the suffering , time spent and pains in raising the kids , the children may end up ignoring their father and instead love their mother more and then dislike their father and also see him as a rival, bad , and uncaring.

it's not the kids fault, but the father who was very careless, lack time and communication and experience in raising his kids, he neither created time, give advice , inspect nor care for them.

You can avoid this in your family as a father . Listen too thesw key words.

✓ Never send your wife to pay the children's school fees with them knowing. Or do it yourself . Most women are not faithful in this aspect. Instead of them notifying the kids ,( your dad gave me money to pay your fees ). She will personalized it. I paid and the kids will see their father as irresponsible and bad .


✓ Take your kids out for shopping, buy them good things of life . Many father don't have the time and it's very bad , instead of loosing temper , frowning let your kids enjoy your money.

✓ Spend time with your kids, they have been with their mother for so long , be available too , so they can feel your presence and tell you things especially (secrets or report issues affecting them) . Stop chasing money everytime, the future is pregnant , look after your kids


✓ If God bless you with wealth, let your kids enjoy your wealth . But monitor them . Don't be too strict nor see them suffer in the name of am training you. Such child will grow up to hate his father. It's cool to be disciplined, it's better to a wise father .


✓ Pray together, lead the prayers as a father, teach your kids how to pray too . They will forever be grateful.

✓ You will do more harm than good if you dash out your kids to family members to help you train or raise them . Such child will may return to hate or dislike you and may go wayward if not properly monitored . Raise your kids yourself , see them grow with you if you have the capacity.


✓ Don't let outsiders teach your kids what you don't want for them. When you neglect your responsibility as a father , they will have another teacher ( bad father) outside teaching them negative things


✓ Try not to beat your wife in the presence of your kids , they will grow up to hate you as a father with remorse and anger and you will regret it.

✓ You may punish your kids for disobedience, but never starve them or refuse to give food. Consider their health.

✓ Be a friendly Dad , simple and easy to approach, not a military dad or anarchist or misogynist ... Eh eh . When you are easy to approach, your kids will be happy they have a good dad who listen to them . When you are too strict, they will ignore you when you need them most in future.


✓ Continue your role as a father , never stop doing what best till your good is better, no rest . Unfortunately our society is in a terrible mess, most graduates are finding it difficult to get a job . So as a father, dont leave your child at this time, and say after all have trained you in school , do what you can to make sure they are better, so they will know that you have tried as a caring Dad and they will find a way to forever repay you in good. ( When a child is in good position, he will remember his parents and say a big thank you and also pray for them . )

✓ Give your kids opportunity to make important decisions in life, it's good to give advice , but don't force them to accept your decisions, because if they fail , you will blame you forever for affect their choice in life . There are certain important things you should never decide ( MARRIAGE AND CAREER) let them decide but guide them


✓ Tell them life stories and advice them regularly. Make sure they learn and practice what they learnt from your lessons

✓ Never hide secrets from the grown up ones . Because when you are no more they will continue from where you stop . If you have trained your kids where , you should have nothing to be afraid of . Financial, Health, Business, Properties. Let them know. So many greedy father's are had dashed out their efforts (properties) to strangers somewhere enjoying their wealth ,now that they are no more and their children are wallowing in poverty. Because they never knew their father had something somewhere to take care of . Please be a wise parents. Train your kids well .



A child is a mirror, what you see is what you get . The training, care , love and affection you give to your kids will make them , love you, stay with you, support you, and never ignore you when you need them most .

Train your child in the way he should grow and when is he grown he will never depart from it , above all . He will forever be grateful and you will be an hero.


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How to make a perfect marriage

✓ Listen to each other
✓ Communicate Well
✓ Forgive And Forget
✓ Stay together
✓ Pray Together
✓ Love Each other
✓ Accept blames
✓ Work on yourself

There are other ways to improve your marriage and make it perfect. The most important thing is love , passion and dedication.

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✓ Why Single Married Late


Marriage issues had ranked top concerned topic today , so many single ladies and gents roaming the street in search of spouse , some have been to spouse market but never find someone to love. So many headaches on who to marry or not to marry and how to find the right partner to marry .

It's a major concern for the youth ( singles ) especially ladies and gents in their 30's and still single.

Why are there so many singles out there , some of the reasons are written below


✓ Living in the past , when someone is living in the past , he or she may not attract the right person..

✓ Not changing your actions, what's working in 1980 may not work now . Times had changed. You have to find your spouse yourself now . Back then ladies wait for men to find them , but now ladies go out there to find their men . Men do same too.

✓ Not locating the right market to find your spouse. There are places and functions meant for singles , go there . Eg social gathering, birthday party, youth gathering in religious settings. Youth camping etc .

✓ Having a Long list of search Preference, I want this , I want that , this that that . When you keep a long list you will stay longer in spouse market.

✓ Looking for a special someone when you aren't special yourself ( looking for God fearing man or woman, but you aren't born again yourself)

✓ Dressing low or wear cheap clothes OR Dressing High Appearing too expensive. This has been an issue for some singles . dressing speak alot about individuals

✓ Not ready to spend your resources and always waiting at the recieving end

✓ Environment Factor, a lot of people knew your ugly past and you aren't willing to change location

✓ Not letting go of the past ( always thinking about an Ex who had moved on with life already)

✓ Very much interested in money and other personal gains instead of looking for a better suitor.

✓ I don't want to suffer with any man syndrome. Looking for rich man only

✓ Random sampling of ladies by some men , testing ladies here and there, looking for best cook, who can wash clothes very well , will keep a man in spouse market for long time

✓ Bad characters , such as dirtiness, failed promises , laziness, lack of self control, anger , etc

✓ Body odor , mouth odor, rashes on face , dull physical appearance etc

✓ Too picky or too selective idea of partner choices

✓ Lack of understanding of love signals and not willing to let your guards down , raising shoulders instead of paying attention to details.

✓ Feeling shy and not ready to take a bold step in search of a spouse

✓ Familiar spirits, spiritual husband or wife and convenance. Some singles will never get married except they break the yoke of spirit spouse

✓ Living fake life and not always appearing real , eg too much face makeup, artificial looks , disguising etc

✓ Not putting trust in God, leaning on your own efforts

✓ Not working on improving your financial status , still operating same finance for long time .

✓ Always abusive, not appreciative, not patient, get angry easily, always blame others, fighting everyone, no self control

✓ Lack of self esteem, too much appetite for food and drinks, ready to surrender to anyone

✓ Can't zip up, or prevent premarital sex.

✓ parent disapproval of partner's choice or not obeying their wishes

✓ Not taking time before accepting a proposal.

✓ Lack of knowledge of how to manage a relationship that leads to marriage

✓ Selfish and greedy for money and material things

✓ Not having enough time for a relationship, busy with work only

✓ Over jealous and envious and not ready to listen to explanations

There are many more reasons why we have many singles not yet married . Though God time is best , but you have to set your priorities right, and make sure you are completely free from troubles so that when the right partner comes you won't push away ...

But if you featured in any of the aforementioned points
you need to adjust yourself. Examine yourself, you could be your own problem.
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✓ Can Love Be Faked ?

Love can be faked , several people are experiencing fake love every day , some don't even know it's fake until it get worse .

People search for relationship
For the following reasons

✓ Personal or Self gains
✓ Monetary gains
✓ Genuine Love
✓ For Sex Only, to satisfy sexual urge
✓ For marriage
✓ Just to have someone to keep company

There are other reasons why people want relationships

Every person searching for a relationship had a plan , it could be negative or positive plan

But unfortunately many people are experiencing negative outcomes in their relationships

Why would someone fall victim of a fake lover

✓ Self centeredness
✓ Laziness and lack of believe in ones dream
✓ Short cut to riches
✓ Afraid of little beginning
✓ Don't want to settle for less but all.
✓ Bad mentorship / advice
✓ Excessive Love For Money / Sex

Above are the reasons why gentlemen and ladies fall in wrong hands .

Fake love may appear as true love to people who are experiencing high infactuation which is excess desire for love or something.

When a person love someone so much that he or she can't do without the person then becomes infactuation and not love ... You should experience freedom in love and not emotional bondage

Love can be faked , and here are reasons why people fake love

✓ People fake love because they don't want a serious relationship
✓ They don't want to be committed at all
✓ They are looking for personal gains , sex or money
✓ They want to have fun and then do away at will
✓ They have been played by someone before and can't love anymore
✓ They have trust issues so they resort to been a betrayal instead
✓ They are lazy and want someone to help instead
✓ They are disappointed in your characters, and don't know how to let go and instead play along and waist your time
✓They are players and unserious
✓ No true feelings , but sex feelings only
✓ You are doing nothing to get them committed, eg no ideas , no presentations
✓ They are looking for someone to milk ( ATM)
✓ They are Keeping as replacement
✓ They are afraid of falling in love
✓ Fake advice from friends and people around
✓ Sexual infertility issues
✓ Spiritual issues etc

There are so many reasons why people fake love .

How to identify someone who fake love

✓ Low identity or no proper indentity ( hiding real self)

✓ You can't know his or her house and if you do , you won't understand what's going on

✓ Always telling lies and not truthful

✓ Keeping extra marital Relationships or double dating

✓ Always promise and fail

✓ Will never be part of important discussion that include marriage plans

✓ Always ignoring suggestions like , visiting parents , planning introductions etc

✓ keeping a secret Profile and will prefer secret relationship

✓ Never want to see your friends, family or colleagues

✓. Always demanding for sex and money.

✓ Me and myself only

There are many other ways to identify a fake lover

Above all .

Fake attracts fake
True attracts true

If you want to attract a true lover , you must learn to be truthful yourself and do things responsible people do.

Relationship is not easy , but it becomes easy if you have rugged determination for success.

May God Bless You

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Sexual Problems In Marriage

Sex is good for the body, sex heals your body and release your body of pains and stress

Couples who doesn't have sex , don't stay together for long in marriage.

Why is sex so powerful? You may ask , sex is created by God for human pleasure and that's why you need to have it .

But the problem is having good sex and not making the other party feel sad.

Scientifically it's proven that women want sex more than men. Men initiate sex , women needs it more than.

Why is it so ... Average women had high libido . Which makes her want to have sex more . Unfortunately most men don't get it .
Especially the one minute man .

So that's why most women cheat in marriage when they don't get enough pleasure.

The first issues most couples face in marriage is poor sex or lack of sex ....

And why .

Lack of sexual knowledge by couple .

We have two type of Sexual couples.

✓Missionary Couple
✓Modern Couple

✓ A missionary couple dont complain, everything is okay , even when it's not , a missionary person is meant to believe you don't enjoy sex , purpose of sex is procreation, a missionary couple values other things more than sex

✓ Modern couple , understand love making, pre-intimacy and so on. Sex becomes enjoyable and not a problem.

The real issue start when a missionary man gets married to a modern woman..

The Missionary is of the mentality that sex is for procreation and sees no reason it should be taken serious while a modern woman demands sex more , she wants good love making, fore play and so on.

When this happens there will be so much troubles and if not check it may lead to divorce.

You may ask why would sex lead to divorce?

Sex creates bonds , intimacy and affection which is needed to keep marriage.

You may ask is there no natural love without sex or can't you love someone without thinking of sex ? The case is different with couples. As a couple sexual performance is very important. Copulation is necessary as well. Because its an addiction and partner becomes addictive . The body gets addicted to it as well and demands for it . If that's the case what could be possible solution.


SOLUTIONS >>>

So many recommendations online and offline on how to make love or art of love making. They are true contents to help you.

If a missionary man marries a modern woman and sex failed . Should divorced be the Solution? No ..

The first step to take is called reorientation of the mind .

✓ Reorientation of the false thinking is necessary before recommendations can take place .

✓ A missionary man should be willing and ready to surrender himself to change

✓ Submission will facilitate learning new techniques to improve love making.

Below are techniques
> Fore play
> Listening to romantic songs
> Dancing together
> Communication during sex
> Caressing body
> Defeating Anxiety and worries
> Reducing over excitement and so on
> Eat well and rest well

A missionary man should be willing to try the above techniques to improve his sexual life

But in some cases when he tries those techniques and it fails ...

He needs to be examined medically.
Below are reasons why he should be examine

Unfortunately the techniques will not work if he is suffering from this problems.

✓ Poor erection
✓ Masturbating
✓ Quick ejaculation
✓ Diabetes
✓ High blood sugar
✓ Varicose veins and many more infection which may affect his penis .

So the best way is treatment. That's why he needs to communicate with his wife .

If he doesn't suffer any of the issues listed above.

Then he may be experiencing

> Bad marriage
> Lack of happiness
> Poor emotional stability
> Failed career
> Lack of money
> Threat
> Spiritual Issues ( Spiritual wife )
> Bad wife ( unsupportive) and so .

A woman can support her husband and make him better on BED ,

A modern woman can assist her husband

By teaching him or showing him .

When you marry a friend, you should be willing to solve your worries together.

But when you marry the opposite. It will make the matter worse , instead of getting help , you get pains .

A modern woman should engage her husband in pre-intimacy, show him how to,

She should do all below
✓ Teach him pre-intimacy
✓ cook good meals for him
✓ Should make him feel at ease
✓ Should praise him during and after sex ( this will encourage him to improve)
✓ She should say thank you after sex to boose his ego
✓ She should learn how to scream or make sounds
✓ She should surrender herself completely
✓ She should smell nice , take her bath and look good.

In conclusion to fix sexual problems both husband and wife has roles to play.

A poor sexual performance is as a result of wife / husband not performing their duties .

Learn from this content and use it to improve your marital life .

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Written by Doc Adeshina
Marriage Counselor

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✓ How To Choose A Right Partner...


Choosing a right Partner seem very difficult now with singles about to marry .

It's more like screening people at interviews to get the best candidate for the job. You have to test different hypothesis before arriving at a results . Marriage is not what you jump into . Because you had a revelation or because it's time to . You must be sure of what you are entering into . So you don't blame yourself


There are four important things to consider before choosing a partner ( Levels of Compatibility)

✓ Spiritual Compatibility
✓ Physical Compatibility
✓ Health Compatibility
✓ Sexual Compatibility.


Have you wondered why people divorce in marriage even after there has been a prophecy that they are destined to be together.

Some people will say prophecy by clergy men are not real but fake , it's not true . They are real . But the clergy or pastor had failed to complete his job , by not giving quality advice, probably he doesn't have sound idea of other levels of compatibility or he just ignored and singing you are meant to be together, God says you should be together.

Some Couples had revelation destined to marry but later divorced because : they are failed to test other level of compatibility due to lack of knowledge

And also failed to improve on their weaknesses.

Marital decision goes a long way .

✓ You must be spiritually compatible, you must know who you are in spiritual realm . if you are fire , you don't need fire . But if you don't know yourself , how will you make good decisions. Infact decisions you make here will determine whether you will prosper in life or become a Failure . Failure to pray regularly will make a man or woman fail in decision making.

✓ You must be connected physically, appearance, physical attractiveness is important to keep a marriage. Something about you must be loving to your partner.

✓ You must be connected with good health status, eg Genotype AA versus AA , Not AS versus AS . Your blood group must be checked too .

It's unfortunate that many people don't know their genotype. They get married and later give birth to SS and start nursing issues .

Some people believe so much in prayers than checking their health status . Prayer is good , but you need to be medically alerted . Don't be fooled

✓ You must be connected Sexually. Premarital sex is not idea . But you can run test to check your hormones and responsive to sex . Eg libido test ... Organ test , fertility test and so on .
You must be very smart here . So many false teaching about abstaining from sex before marriage without recommendations , some religious bodies will say same thing, it's easy to say , don't have sex before marriage. but will not give you sound advice,. and eventually you marry a masturbator , a man or woman with very low libido and then start looking for solutions .
Or you end up with a man with extreme high libido, no sexual control, and here you are looking for solutions at the early stage of marriage.
Sex is one of the pillars of marriage and must treated as Confidential. Don't let anyone decieve you, it's sadden that when issues concerning sex is discussed, many people will not like to listen, but when issues arise they will become a friend of urologist, counselors and learning becomes compulsory. Sex Education is a must for an adult who wants to prosper in marriage.

It's better to take your time and search very well. It's a life time project , should not be taken with child's play , don't be hasty

Don't get marry out of ignorance.

If you have already signed your wedding date , and you haven't checked your level of compatibility.

It's important to do so now .
Before it's too late .

It's better to be a single , not married yet , than to be a divorcee .

Prevention is better than cure .

Love � is not all you need in marriage, you need wisdom.

You need mental alertness, because when issues set in , love will flee.

To all singles reading this post

Make sure you check your level of compatibility before you tie the knot

Physical Compatibility
Health Compatibility
Spiritual Compatibility
Sexual Compatibility*

Marriage is not compulsory in life , it's not written anywhere that it's a must to get married.

But if you must get married, marry rightly and stay out of troubles. Safe your head .


Thanks for reading

Written by Doc Adeshina
*Relationship Coach*
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✓ Will Marriage Solve All Your Problems

God created love and has placed the desire to be loved unconditionally in each of our hearts . Marriage is a natural overflow of that desire. Yet within this scared and natural pursuit of marriage. It's easy to fall into the lie that finding a spouse will be the ultimate road to happiness and great satisfaction. That all problems , fears , and deficit will fade away in the presence of true love . it's isn't true in the world of marriage.

No perfect marriage , relying on your partner to fulfill your insatiable needs is a recipe for disaster because no human being has the capacity to offer you what is needed for true value and self worth.


*Don't marry for the following reasons or you will blame yourself.*


✓ Don't marry because for sex you won't be satisfied, if you have high sexual it's better to go for therapy than to think Marriage is the solution.

✓ Don't marry because everyone is getting married, marry because you have found someone destined by God

✓ Don't marry because you want to exploit your partner financially. You will end up becoming a slave in marriage, men who run after wealthy women end up as slaves, their expectations are never met and they blame themselves

✓ Don't marry because your family members are pushing you to marry . Don't let anyone push you into wrong marriage

✓ Don't marry because you think you should get married or you watched a movie scene and you are inspired with the romantic affairs and you want to feel it as well. You will be disappointed because 70% of nigerian men are not romantic and won't tend to your feelings .

✓ Don't marry because you love someone and you have to confirm whether he loves you back . It's possible to get married to someone who doesn't love you.


✓ Don't marry if you are financially bouyant or your income is not enough to care for yourself, don't let any lady push you into marriage as a result of desperation. At the end of the day , she will blame you for everything. Think twice

✓ Don't marry because of beauty or handsome, Beauty will fade , you will dislike your partner if he or she looses beauty or good appearance. So many men are running after good looking women , they marry because of beauty and later cheat in marriage, beauty fades as we get older.

✓ Don't marry out of ignorance, if you don't know your partner too well. So many things you will find out in marriage and will be difficult for you to bear ... Find out more about him or her , so you don't make serious mistakes

✓ Don't Marry out of pity , don't marry anyone you feel pity for . The marriage won't last .

✓ Don't marry because you sees your partner as an opportunity to cling on to( eg. You come across a beautiful lady , and you got enticed and then decided to rush marriage without understanding her motive . You will blame yourself

There are many ways to avoid troubles in marriage

*Marry because* �

✓ Marry because you are in love and you are convinced

✓ Marry because you have prayed and God has blessed your Union

✓ Marry because you are financially, emotionally, physically ready for marriage


The heart breaking thing in life is placing your happiness in hands of human beings.
Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness, there will ups and downs, dissappointment, conflicts and so on .... Human being can never make you happy. Only God can .

Seek Gods face while making choice of partner.

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Written by Doc Adeshina
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