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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by tai2(m): 11:38pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
I once read Linda Ikeji's very superficial blog. This is what she had to say about Dare Art Alade marrying a slightly older woman who had more money than him: I am hearing gists that newly married Dare has relocated to Abuja full time to start family life with his new bride Deola Ayeni who has a multi-million naira furniture business and contract deal over there. They said he might be stepping out of the music scene for a while to pursue contracts as initiated by his wife who has already started introducing him to those that matter in Abuja. All I'll say here is that I hope Dare married for love. Any other reason besides love is not good enough for marriage. She insinuates very clearly that he married the woman for her money, because he is a guy and has no money control and the woman does This is what she had to say about Sylvia Edem marrying Chris Emechete the aviation millionaire: Beautiful ex-Miss Nigeria, Sylvia Edem Emechete is expecting her first baby with hubby of one year, Chris Emechete, in July. I read that they recently celebrated their first wedding anniversary some days ago. They got married April 15th 2006 in Lagos, and Sylvia got a Mercedes Benz S-Class with personalised plate number E1 SYL as a surprise wedding anniversary present from hubby. I hear the hubby is super rich with investments in Dubai, UK and the USA. They say he drives a brand new Infiniti QX56, a Ferrari F430, and a Range Rover Vogue. This girl marry husband abeg! I also read that they live in a five bedroom mansion in Surrey in London and they jet-set to various countries around the world. Sylvia is a director in her hubby's aviation company. The koko of this gist is that our former Miss Nigeria will soon join mother's club. She's living the life she's always dreamt of. I'm happy for her! Can you see the double standard of Nigerian women, Sylvia marries money and it is okay for her, they are not concerned whether it is love. It is a good relationship because Mr Emechete has money control, imagine the statement: "This girl marry husband abeg!" Can you see the greedy creatures? These are the people you say are interested in 50-50 relationship. Any man who does not understand the principle of control and practice it to some extent is digging a pit of sorrow for himself. I have learnt my lesson, to others I say, be wise. Be wise! 17 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 11:39pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
platinumnk: and i can show you families here who have lost members to poisoning. I guess the point you fail to see is that any ill you attribute to Nigeria is NOT isolated to Nigeria alone. platinumnk: I never said Nigeria is a bed of roses . . . if it is i wont be here today. But to say it is any worse than the US is a blatant lie! I am more afraid of black-on-black crime here than i ever would in Abeokuta where i grew up. platinumnk: I walked the streets of Abeokuta and Lagos at night too, as a 10 yr old i could walk 4 hours from school home just to have fun WITHOUT anyone having a panic attack about me being kidnapped. Perhaps 9-11 does not work in Nigeria . . . but we did just fine. I lived in Nigeria for 22 yrs . . . NEVER once did i bribe a policeman, never once did i see an armed robber (not saying they dont exist) . . . puhlease spare us this nonsense. Many of those who castigate Nigeria have never lived more than 2 months there themselves. platinumnk: lol and they say men are the ones with ego problems. That man you expect to help you wash and cook didnt earn his degrees abi? Marriage takes a lot more than all this hot air you are blowing here o. Its a full time investment that requires plenty of self sacrifice. You better start learning now. platinumnk: but you expect him to jump when you say jump abi? platinumnk: Submission is all about mutual respect, you are the one getting it wrong. platinumnk: you just described submission yourself. Cant do any better than that myself. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 11:40pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
So the woman would have to do all the compromising and the guy just sit there? Man! Im the wrong se* then |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 11:41pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
TOPE2000!: I see one woman who understands what marriage is all about here. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 11:47pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
platinumnk: In most cases YES, It sucks yeah i mean who gives up their careers usually to take care of the children? When the woman forsake the home for 50-50 (why cant do the same as my partner), she is really putting her family in danger. Having it all is a myth. God made us with a purpose and assigned us our roles. Paul said the woman to build home and the man provide for the home through the participation of the marketplace . . . . even in the bibile there is nothing like 50-50 Women were made of to be MEN'S HELPER. it says so in genesis hun 3 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 11:49pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
Many of those who castigate Nigeria have never lived more than 2 months there themselves. hahahaha I laugh in Igbo- many of those who castigate Nigeria still LIVE there Wasnt u raggin on Nigeria on the Haiti thread davidylan: So Men should submit to wives abi? Mutual respect is NOT the same as submission. Do you know how degrading the word Submission is? a: The state of being submissive or compliant; meekness. submissive - inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination; "submissive servants"; "a submissive reply"; "replacing troublemakers with more submissive people" submissive - abjectly submissive; characteristic of a slave or servant; "slavish devotion to her job ruled her life"; "a slavish yes-man to the party bosses"- S.H.Adams; "she has become submissive and subservient |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 11:54pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
TOPE2000!: ** throws degrees in trash** Sigh, I guess its to sit here and wait for a rich man because Im nothing more than a baby-maker I guess if everybody was "homemakers" then we wouldnt have Refrigerators, computers, (Grace Hopper) 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 11:55pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
Will u stop look at dictionary for the word submission plat Yeash some guys are ASSHOLE and they take the submission thing to a whole new level but the fact still remains that women are to be sumissive to their husband and MEN are the head of their household. . .its in the BIBLE. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Code128: 11:55pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
Platinum replies to David by exaggerating his point in an attempt to prove him wrong. As expected, David replies, also exaggerating Platinums point as well as trying to salvage his already misconstrued point, Platinum replies, what a mess! You both clearly have different beliefs and neither of you will successfully convince the other! The good thing is there's someone for everyone, so just free yourselves OK. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 11:56pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
platinumnk: Tell me you darl . . . . nobody will demand submission from you more than a RICH guy Infact they will rule you. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 11:58pm On Feb 10, 2010 |
platinumnk: As always you get things easily confused . . . i wasnt ragging on Nigeria . . . simply wondering why Nigeria is wasting millions it doesnt have to "help" Haiti when it is no better condition. I understand how tough things are in Nigeria, but i dont call it a lawless hell hole, make false claims that divorce is not allowed there or claim that the actions of one man is representative of others. platinumnk: unfortunately you have allowed society and dictionaries to determine what submission truly means. In the biblical sense it meant something far different. Christ was the leader of the disciples and YET was submissive to them in washing their feet, did it make Him any less of a man? Submission to your husband does not entail slavery, i dont think a lot of women understand how much power they wield over their husbands. I'm sure Tope2000 can help you on this one . . . and she's a woman too who is planning for a life of slavery with any man. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Tinksh(f): 12:04am On Feb 11, 2010 |
Poster, wow!!! It must be rough being this bitter and twisted!!! And some guys wonder why they cant find a decent woman with this attitude! What a lot of dribble!!! Just a tip, us women have a way to make you think you are in control but we are the ones pulling the strings, lol!!!! The joke is on you!!! 2 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:04am On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: lol a rich man? you probably will have to submit your shopping list before you get money . . . What you wrote above baffles me, you make it sound as if "submissive" women are all at home simply sweeping the floor and cooking. My mother is an example of a submissive woman (a thing i didnt like growing up because i once used to see the world like you 50-50). Well she never stayed home one day, she is a medical doc and a consultant with the WHO to boot. My dad has to cook his own food and clean his own stuff when she's out of the home (which is quite frequently). So what exactly was your point? There are submissive women out there with way more qualifications than you can ever dream of. They have careers too. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 12:05am On Feb 11, 2010 |
David leave Plat alone jor, she is still young and she has this western ideas abt marriage, very soon they will all change. PLAT, see what u dont knw is that men may be the head of the household but its the women that control the house very soon u will begin to learn hun submission is not slavery, yes some guys think it means they can rule you. those are the types u shud run away from. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 12:08am On Feb 11, 2010 |
Tink_sh: THank you . . finally another woman who understand. Most men knws without us they cant even find their boxers. we are the one controlling the house God created us because he knws how useless they wud be without us |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:10am On Feb 11, 2010 |
TOPE2000!: the funny thing is that the idea isnt even western! The women's lib movement is what brought about the 50-50 ideas and we see where that has landed them. 50% of US marriages end up in divorce within 2 yrs (now that is a 50 50 right there). You'd be surprised that white girls are way more submissive than black girls, i've had white girls who wont even let you lift a finger or go near the kitchen . . . and they have degrees and dont consider themselves your slaves. 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 12:11am On Feb 11, 2010 |
TOPE2000!: forget David and his mis constured fallcies So Tope darl, what am I supposed to be submitting to? Whats an example First David Says we should submit now its the same as mutual respect Dont you have a queen in England? lol For real though, what am i submitting to, if we have a problem cant we discuss it as adults, i might have a better way of doing things that he hasnt seen |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:13am On Feb 11, 2010 |
the joke is on you plat. 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 12:13am On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: Oh so that is your idea of submission, for us to work and then you sit there flipping channels and scratching your belly? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 12:14am On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: no way, as long as there are men like elrazour there is still hope 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 12:16am On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: Acutally i have noticed that too. The fact is no matter how bitter, most relationship i have seen ended up in divorce cuz of this 50-50 thing. it became like a competition btn a husband and wife . . , like who can do better Truth is 2 ppl cant rule . . one has to rule while the there take the seat but always behind him to keep him check. they say behind every successful man there is a woman, it didnt say beside And behind every successful woman is there a MAN? guess having it all is a MYTH 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:16am On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: see how i make an analogy and she assumes that is my idea of submission? I cant even be flipping channels, i love cooking as a hobby so there. My wife will enjoy herself and you bet she wont be a slave in her own home. platinumnk: lol wake up to reality. There is NO man out there who believes in 50-50 no matter how loudly they make such a claim. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 12:20am On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: Men like elrazur will prolly ask you to pay 50% of the bills too Submission is a word which can be described and defined as "willing conciliation." That means that the wife should be "willing," not coerced. Wives are to respect their husbands. Husbands are to be considerate of and respect their wives. Both partners should be willing to "put the other's interests above his/her own" as Philippians 2 describes. The woman should be willing to submit to her husband not be unwilling or forced. The man should be a loving, servant leader – accountable and responsible to God and his family. A loving leader leads –doesn't manipulate or pressure. A submitter doesn't "take over." It didnt say anything abt slavery, did it? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by daylae(m): 12:22am On Feb 11, 2010 |
This place is hot! |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:23am On Feb 11, 2010 |
TOPE2000!: o kare jare. You are ready to be a real wife and mother. I know a couple whose husband does all the cooking while his wife sleeps all day . . . yet the woman defers to her husband as the head of the home. Both are as inseparable as twins. If God wanted it to be a 50-50 thing He would have created Eve on the same day he made Adam. God never appeared to Sarah once . . . yet Sarah obtained the promise by virtue of her marriage to Abraham. God views the man as the light bearer for the marriage . . . it is his duty to teach his wife, lead her in love and humility, love her, cherish her and honor her. Nowhere did that same bible that advocates submission ask that a man treat his wife as his slave. The bible says the husband shld love his wife as his own self . . . simple. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:23am On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ topic Whatever! |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 12:23am On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: then y did you mention them pshhh, are u everyman? fallacy TOPE2000!: But what exactly are we submitting to? Like what? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:26am On Feb 11, 2010 |
michelin89: you are a special case. TOPE2000!: this girl is one smart woman i say! the bible records Sarah as calling Abraham her Lord (a sign of her submissive relationship with him) YET Sarah was the one calling the shots when it came to Hagar and Ishmael. She even laughed in the presence of Abraham and the angels . . . a thing no servant would dare do. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 12:27am On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: I just find all these topics boring. Make them pack themselves for a spaceship and move to another planet without women. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by TOPE20001(f): 12:28am On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: Well, there is no book that lists what we have to be submissive to. every relationship is different so . . . . when u get married, u'd figure it out |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by ayettymama(f): 12:34am On Feb 11, 2010 |
all this negativity surrounding women at this young age i know what ive been thru because of the nuisances called men! i mean hw many of u deserve good women? thru the work u do, thru the way u behave?? by ur simple reasoning?? now the next thing is to start calculating and strategizing relationships?? *shakes head in disgust* when i tell people i see men as toys to **ck and drop they calll me crazy ill just direct them here!! men that have nothing- do nothing and are worth nothing think they can talk anywho!! kmt Im off|! |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 12:34am On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: whats the difference in mutual respect? Men and women are not the same, but shouldnt he be willing to listen to my ideas? Samson submitted to Deliah and cut his hair hahahhahaha |
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