"deflowered"? "used"? I think worldly wise, exposed,...., more appropriate.

IAH:

"deflowered" is still lenient. Let's use the word "used" to drive home the gravity of what we are talking about here.

Reminds me of my friend who was making a comment about a lady that was married 4 about 18 months b/4 her husband deserted her. He said he did not think she will get another husband and i am like why, she is not even 25 yet and he said b/cos she has been 'used' by her husband and men(i think he should have said himself) dont like women who have been 'used', even if it is only by her husband and even if her husband had died after 2 months and im like .
Personally i dont use that word 4 women cos its derogatory. 4 guys who use it, r women only sexual objects? If a guy tells me he wants me cos ive not been used, i think he deserves a slap.

pluto04:

"deflowered"? "used"? I think worldly wise, exposed,...., more appropriate.

Yeah pluto04 or experienced sexually is better. Otherwise even raped women have been 'used' too.

Guys who refer to women like that will forever have a problem in forgiving their wives if infidelity were involved even if it was an unfortunate mistake

one question,
awon boys wey wan marry virgin?una be virgins?
you've popped someone's cherry, had the advantage of stealing someones womanhood. you want to eat your cake and have it.
selfish,greedy,slimy,dirtbacks.Hypocrites that's what i call men like that.You've taken and now you don't want what you've taken from.Una well done.

@ wildcat Why d hate against guys like dat...i mean dat was too much...abi because someone popped ur cherry and took to his heels...heya i understand ur feelings...but guys of nowadays wants to eat their cake and have it with an additional bottle-of-coke scenario.....anyway i support ur points

Oh please please please - man's world again (especially when it comes to sex) what is this if she was a virgin/she was not a virgin/overused/unused fannies gibberish? And whoever told you guys that girls have no preference when it comes to their future partner's sexual build? Please give us women some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Some guys on here talk as if women were just a prize possession to obtain sexual satisfaction/gratification from anytime/anyday/anywhere...and I wont be surprised if most treat thier women in exactly the same way....give us some credit. Personally it is a question of preference, there is no universal and/or ascertained unravelled myth that virgins/non-virgins make better sexual partners (and this goes for both sexes). Personality is the key period. There are guys/girls who would touch each other and not feel a thing and others who with just one look would turn into molten butter, so you guys cut it. Bottomline is, when talking about woman - the mother of humanity - especially in a sexual way..PLEASE give her some, if not a little respect. MERCI.

i agree with mizkay its the personality that matters if she is not a virgin and she is decent she would certainly be a better wife than a virgin who turns out to be every thing u dont want affter u dis virgin her personality is what u should bother urself with

After reading through all the discussions on this thread, I hereby declare that I have changed my mind as regards the issue of marrying either a virgin or the one that has spread her thighs wide apart for some guy to penetrate. ANYONE GOES FOR ME. IT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER ANYMORE. AS FAR AS SHE'S BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT AND HAS A WONDERFUL CHARACTER, I'LL MARRY HER; VIRGIN OR NO VIRGIN.

Geez! This is the first time I'm making an entry on this romance page. All this whille it's been politics and nothing else.

Em, I was a vigin until I met the lady of my dreams.

Men like you are very rare. I commend your longsuffering.

And we got married, Ist October 2005.

I want to encourage every young man out there to tow the line. It's the best. What with this AIDS ravaged world of ours? why would you want to learn and get any sexual experience before getting married? It takes only 30 -40 minutes to learn all there is. I'm talking from experience.

It's a lifelong thing though, but, there's really nothing much to sex, than the coming together of MAN AND WIFE for pleasure and procreation. Please note MAN AND WIFE. That pleasure angle to it could mean all the jargons the psychologists attached to sex, for all I care. But, it's just pleasure. But the second thing is procreation, and that's all there is to sex. Chikena.

Why make life so complex for simple people?

ono:

why would you want to learn and get any sexual experience before getting married? It takes only 30 -40 minutes to learn all there is. I'm talking from experience.

This is the excuse they all give for having premarital sex. I wonder what happened to the word 'LOVE' between husband and wife, that they can't teach each other.

seriously , it doesnt matter if she is a virgin or not , wat really matters is the love you have for each other.

Her virginity or not doesn't define who she really is in totality. Quite a number of virgins (both male and female )have turned out to be more than prostitutes after marriage and some disvirgined turned out to be as faithful as you can imagine and vice versa. Doesn't change nuthin. Go for the real person in her and not her state of sexual exposure.

Sorry O.. But I disagree...

ono:

..snip...
It takes only 30 -40 minutes to learn all there is.

ono:

It takes only 30 -40 minutes to learn all there is. I'm talking from experience.

Either you are naturally gifted or you and your wife are missing out on a lot

ono:

And we got married, Ist October 2005.

I want to encourage every young man out there to tow the line. It's the best. What with this AIDS ravaged world of ours? why would you want to learn and get any sexual experience before getting married? It takes only 30 -40 minutes to learn all there is. I'm talking from experience.

You (and your wife I presume) learned all there is to learn in 40 minutes? You must be a genius!

its not easy being a virgin these days ..

so hikeman,are you a V?

Hikeman is right. It really isn't easy these days.

so,in essence ,you too are?

Naah.. I lost mine on the day of my naming ceremony

goodguy:

Naah.. I lost mine on the day of my naming ceremony

very funny, u b guru for sex line b dat o!

goodguy:

Naah.. I lost mine on the day of my naming ceremony

  o goodguy, you funny I'm still laughing.

how can a girl who lost her virginity to a person she does not love understand passion of love with whom she ends up with. She has had it with several people and finanly meets her husband, any miss understanding sexually she will sleep with someone else.

God cannot even solve this problem ( That is why Adam and Eve were cast out of the garden of eden) ... Lay your bed and sleep in it ...

This is FALLACY of the highest order.. On so many counts I don't even know where to start...

But let's begin here.. 

how can a girl who lost her virginity to a person she does not love understand passion of love with whom she ends up with

For your information, people who loose thier virginity do not do it with people they do not love, but with people with whom they are in love at that particular moment in time.. 

It would be interesting to know why you feel otherwise.. 


She has had it with several people and finanly meets her husband, any miss understanding sexually she will sleep with someone else.

Marriage is not just a union, it is a convenant... hence, there are deeper levels to their union than you profess to understand.. One does not go around sleeping with other people in the advent of misunderstandings, especially ones of a sexual nature.. In marriage one seeks other avenues to obtain solutions to the problems.. unless one is tired of the marriage...

bedone:

how can a girl who lost her virginity to a person she does not love understand passion of love with whom she ends up with. She has had it with several people and finanly meets her husband, any miss understanding sexually she will sleep with someone else.

Are you currently married??

cimonjorr, (response to my posting)
you speak like you are a female. How do you know that every woman looses her virginity only to whose she loves, she can loose it because she is tired of beign a virgin, or just experimenting and sometimes love. You speak like you are a beginner, u seem not to know some basics and twisted sides about the opposite sex . A woman has thousands of personality in them and they can choose who they want to be for every different day and occasion. Do you a know woman (am not been personal) can have sex with your friend just to get at you, most girls in high school now adays have sex because they are under peer pressure and most of them will tell u I am using the boy. Don't believe that all woman have sex with only whom they love. They are just like us (men) no difference, and don't get it all twisted now, you can meet a good, decent and loyal girl through thick and thin but ma guy it is hard find. It takes special grace and all this is out of my experience you don't have to be married.

@dedone
Whether u like it or not, that is your own cup of tea. 95% of ladies that lost their virginities lost same to someone they so much love at that particular point in time. Except some exceptional cases like rape, accident etc.

If u think I am not right, ask ladies in da house

virgin

opemogaji:

virgin

Good for you! Good for you Ope! you know what is good!