Jeezuzpick:


Are you married?

If yes, you should know that it's not easy to suddenly find oneself alone after living with a soulmate for years.

I've been married for more than a decade. Marriage is more than romantic love.......it's a lot more. If knew has tasted the goodness of a happy marriage, loneliness becomes hard to bear.

BlackPantherxXx:


I hate to break this to you bro....

You just gave yourself unnecessary KONGI for 6 good years ,

as soon as your back was turned, she started banging another guy.

I have learnt to not sacrifice myself in romantic relationships. Most partners are super selfish.

Who said she wasn't even cheating while she was around?

PS - @ the topic.... approx 2 years is reasonable, for BOTH SEXES.

Anything less, sorry you had no emotional connection to your spouse

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

Jfyzee:



@OP you are feeling pity for the said lady because the man involve is not your uncle or related to you in anyway. Assuming the man is your uncle, will you con dole this lady attitude towards him..?

Just a year and six months she's already pregnant for another man. Who does that by the way..? The in-laws have the right to act the way they are acting now.. unless you want to tell us the baby she's carrying is yours the reason you're defending her.

Kindly put sentiment and feelings aside and tell her she did wrong with her action. Her action is questionable already as to the death of her husband. Both she and her impregnator should be seriously questioned.

What a woman indeed

Logobenz1:
if you truly love your partner,finding a replacement for her is near impossible.that is the problem.
You want her company,not that of someone else.
That's why people in such situations that loved their partners hardly move on.
You will be comfortable by just living with her memories alone.

DukeNija:


When my gf died in 2016, I cried for over a year.

Ryan03:
Let Her Go

I just want to write this short post hoping it will change someone's mentality base on the issue i'm about to discuss.

A lady at my place of work lost her husband almost 1yr 6months ago, now, she is about 3months pregnant and wants to get married but the backlash she is receiving eh? Her late husband's people have been frustrating her saying it is too early to get married (i thought marriage is till death do us part?), why are they trying to control her life simply because she was once married to their brother?

I want to believe the family members of this man have moved on with their lives since the death of their son, why then do you want to lock her up in mourning? The surprising part of it is that even women at the office are against her, some who have also lost their husbands are citing instances of how they watied 7years before re-marrying and so on.

I felt bad for her, all she do now is to cry, and mind her business. This is so wrong, free that young lady, she didnt do wrong in marrying your kinsman.

Ryan03:
Lol, the woman Dont have to die first, we've seen enough example already. Some Women die and their husbands move on in about 6months, its normal in the society

nerorex01:
My opinion on this issue is that 1 year is too short to start dancing around others d*ck. Love is very strong and deep like the spirit world. Some peoples husband died and they refused to get married but I am not saying she should do same but having an unprotected sex after the demise of your lovely husband sounds weird. Above all, she's got her life to live,

lexy2014:


Bros Ayo oritsejafor was married to his first wife when had nothing. It was about a year after her death that d guy married this his new wife. Same thing with Anslem Madubuko. Are u saying he didn't love his first wife enough?

Ryan03:
People grief differently. Because mrs A griefed for 10years doesn't mean mrs B must grief for same number of years. Why exactly do we monitor how long people grief? Are we happy seeing them in that state? I thought relatives and friends are to comfort them and help them move on?

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

famzynet:


Which society. Stop saying this rubbish. 18 months is short a time for her to be 3 months pregnant after loosing her husband. She obviously never married the man for love but just to be married. The least I know of a man that lost his wife waited was five years before his family pressurized him to find another girl to marry since he had no issue and his younger brothers had married . A woman may not wait that long but at least two and half to 3 years would suffix if there was no child. Other men I knew waited longer,some 6 years and some other never married again.

StPete:


You are reacting this way because you are closer to the said lady than the husband. Put yourself in perspective, how would you feel if you’re aware that your wife gets pregnant barely a year after your demise. Be open-minded, they aren’t boyfriend or girlfriend but MARREID couples. The feeling should be deeper and one year is too small a time to start fvcking another dick

Logobenz1:
Yes!he did not love her enough.
THAT IS exactly what I am saying.

lexy2014:


All these things u said, are guys not also guilty of them?

BlackPantherxXx:


Read again slowly and tell me where i said FEMALES only

Chithauri:
back to the question please if one year is too small what is the time frame? And better support ur silly arguement with logic. Because even bible say young widows should remarry to avoid certain things.

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

Flier:
15 months is too early and I am sure she was already cheating before her husbands death

lexy2014:


And guys that do it and even get married a year after d loss of their wives is what?

nerorex01:
Not man enough to owe up to love. Love is a commanding instruction that reshapens our emotions. Some are married and even wish for the death of their lovers so they can proceed with their believed true love. Like the popular sayings; If you rush into marriage you will rush out. Most men/women take advantage by blackmailing people just to win their hearts forgetting that karma will strike someday.