It depends on d nature of d relationship. Its no big deal to make that kind of comment.
Maybe he feels you people are close enough for him to tell you anything. Maybe he started dating you when you were younger and you have grown older being his and all that. I think you are being over sensitive and you are over reacting.

uchetobi:

It depends on d nature of d relationship. Its no big deal to make that kind of comment.
Maybe he feels you people are close enough for him to tell you anything. Maybe he started dating you when you were younger and you have grown older being his and all that. I think you are being over sensitive and you are over reacting.

God bless you.(Amen)

@ Aproko, wonderfully said.

@ Uchetobi, perfectly said.

Regards.

Why do we tend to be taking sides each time someone comes here and post a story when infact there are three sides to every story, your side his side and then the truth side. What led to the statement?, let us know the entire story. A guy would not just stand up and tell his girlfriend that she looks old. Can you help us with the entire story perhaps what has been going on with you guys say in the last 30 days?

I Thought We Are One On This Forum
Why Can't We Tell Each Other The Truth,
Your Boo Is Seeing Someone Else,
He Would Be Calling It Off Really Soon,
So, Start Searching Girl,
I'm Glad That You See The Beauty In Yourself,
He Doesn't Deserve U If He Doesn't See Your Beauty, In & Out,

Too much stories
@poster,
if u dont find all the responses useful enough or u believe trulla and wella that u are getting old dont bother urself too much there is a place in Iraq where they renew human beings why dont u go there and renew urself i bet u when u are back from there ur guy will come begging but make sure u file ur divorve paper b4 u leave for the renewal bcus by the time u come back ur guy wont be able to stand u anymore na Baba iyabo and president yaradua calibre of pple go dey pursue u. Kidding

Try look at the circumstances that surround the statement and make adjustment.

This is a very depressing statement to tell someone,

especially coming from someone you are intimate with

i am so depressed this morning i don't think i can work

what do you guys think?

@ Poster, if I say you are a man, would you be depressed? Of course, you will say you are not because you KNOW you are not. So, tell me why you should agree with your b/f as per being old. This means you are not even sure yourself! This is an issue of KNOWING who you are. Even the most (w)urgly (as a member put it on a thread) folks (aka atututyoyo) will still tell you that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, how much more you that without I seeing know that you are good looking. How did I know, abi? Easy - your b/f!!! Ask yourself why he is dating you?    Listen my dear, nobody and absolutely nobody can tag you "old" without your CONSENT. So, you first need to discover who you are and then move on from there, okay?

Meanwhile, get your "chicky" self to work before ya oga go label you "liability" or " persona non grata" if you lose your job on non issue like this.

Shalom

Wow,

My boyfriend says i look old too

Just what is up with boyfriends this days.

Whoops wait a minute, wasnt dat my Dad

Oh well

well it is obvious that he is beginning to feel like your son
OR perhaps u are acting like his mother

Take heart,just get prepared emotionally 4 d obvious eventualities,BREAKUP.Try and repackage yourself,cos u'll definitely meet better people who will appreciate better along d line.

he he he he he he! laff o laff!

@topic

And you are not married yet?  You sure picked a "charmer" for a mate!!!!  Enjoy!   Your dude sure has a helluva nerve!  You desperate or sum'un? I hope he was joking. And you are depressed? Huh! Women!!!! He might still not marry you, so of what use is his comment to you?

@poster

growing old is very natural
so i wonder y u're very depressed
cos ur bf said what he thot is true

for those telling her to dump his ass
what for?
if she's truly old, someone else will still tell her that
we shld age gracefully
u dont xpect someone to say u're 18
when u actually look 30

why won't he say u look old,after having sex several times and different positions with you, lol

Well,thats ur problem,i guess you really look old indeed,

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm _{that is the beginning of the end}

I pity you. go and do plastic surgery like Micheal Jackson did and stop distrubing this forum.

The thing is that am sure he said that cause he is just being truthful.
Alot of us neglect ourselves but cause of the stress of life we have started ageing prematurely.

Dont look at it from the angle that he doesnt care, he cares but has issues of how to put things.

Just do ur best to look good, exercise, sleep and eat well and drinl lots of water and eat loads of fruit - go for facials when u can.
Make sure u do cause when u look good, u feel good and ur whole outlook on life will change.

don't marry him ok?

Do your hair, buy new make up, buy new "young" clothes and he will not think that again

ievbuomw:

Do your hair, buy new make up, buy new "young" clothes and he will not think that again

Hope all of that works cos some girls can't be fixed

C2H5OH:

Hope all of that works cos some girls can't be fixed

He started dating her for a reason, if she tries this and it does not work, you know that he wanted her for wrong reasons,

ievbuomw:

He started dating her for a reason, if she tries this and it does not work, you know that he wanted her for wrong reasons,

WEll I guess he did want her for the wrong reasons. And guys can be a little insensitive at times.

its true you look very old just like my granny

intresting one, asians in this country dress like if they back home and they get along with opposite sex, you see a guy wearing the stuff on his hair dont know is called now same as their girls with their scalf pardon i dont know what they called but you get what am trying to say, so why is it we african sometime when we dress like if we back home you see the opposite sex would think you married or maybe you"re old, hope am making sense i know this not answering the poster question but I thought i should contribute, Deji x

chai!

His no more interested in you that why his using that sort of nasty language, may be he his chasing another lady outside, you know tthose guys of nowadays are found of that it is what they dont see that they value if they have the opportunity to see it ones they wont appreciate it any more, dont bother to plead to him cause he will turn you to something else, that part of challenges in life, mind you am a female like you.

crazyp:

@poster

growing old is very natural
so i wonder y u're very depressed
cos your bf said what he thot is true

for those telling her to dump his backside
what for?
if she's truly old, someone else will still tell her that
we shld age gracefully
u dont xpect someone to say u're 18
when u actually look 30

I like this.
Ageing is very natural! If u feel young inside then its time to carry ur entire being along with the way u feel. Act young. .have fun. feel happy. .dress the way u like. .appreciate urself. .if u don't, no one will. Your happiness shouldn't be dictated by other ppl even when they say hurtful words they meant to say or not. U only gave us a line of ur conversation with ur bf and held back the rest. .but i've come to terms with this truth; whatever is spoken out, comes from the accumulation of thots, the only thing that might not be meant is the way they come out. Stop pitying urself and live.

You guys are getting it all wrong. She's hurt because her boyfriend told her she's old which according to her is not true. There's a big difference.

See all these babes ohhh! Bros don take style tell truth now all of una wan join hand kill am. Abeg u wan make the bros lie say she resemble sweet sixteen? This is why guys lie because ladies can not handle the truth and since we know that you ladies can not handle the truth, we tell you want you want to hear - LIES!!!!!!

sevule:

See all these babes ohhh! Bros don take style tell truth now all of una wan join hand kill am. Abeg u wan make the bros lie say she resemble sweet sixteen? This is why guys lie because ladies can not handle the truth and since we know that you ladies can not handle the truth, we tell you want you want to hear - LIES!!!!!!

Do you know the bros? How d'you know he told the truth?

uchetobi:

It depends on d nature of d relationship. Its no big deal to make that kind of comment.
Maybe he feels you people are close enough for him to tell you anything. Maybe he started dating you when you were younger and you have grown older being his and all that. I think you are being over sensitive and you are over reacting.

Then he should have said 'Honey, WE look old'

I agree with those that say start taking better care of yourself, if what the man said bothers you this much, then do something about it, do it for yourself though so you feel good about it, when you feel good, it will show on the outside and before long, you will feel like a Princess, facials and massages are great for lifting a tired body!

MMichael:

Then he should have said 'Honey, [b]WE look old'[/b]