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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by sylve11: 11:20am On Oct 08, 2019
missjo:
Being a tomboy or tomgirl has no correlation with being transgender.
Tomness is exhibited in purely physical ways like in subtle dressing, sports, talking style. Trans is psychological and involves a total transformation across genders. What i mean is, a tomboy is still a girl and can choose to act girly when they have to,they just prefer behaving as a boy. A trans will stick to their new gender and does not make switches.

I take this personally cos i am a tommy myself,so take it from me and be careful about mistaking toms for trans people

was your face-cap facing back while typing these? undecided cool
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Nobody: 11:21am On Oct 08, 2019
Tiwa can relate
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Isoduwa(m): 11:23am On Oct 08, 2019
inoki247:
Naso I see 1 girl for my street wey dey form Tomboy get belle this year I shock...

Na Tomgirl give am belle
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by uuzba(m): 11:24am On Oct 08, 2019
IamCharles123:
Op there's difference between s cross dresser, transgender, and tompboy. Which one are you talking about?
Tomboy.
A stupid girl that refuse to dress as a girl, sit down and close her legs.
Whenever you speak to her, she will laugh, hahaha, that she knows she should calm down and behave feminine. It's just that kicking football and all those men, gra-gra stuff is sweating her body and she can save money by cutting her hair short.
She eventually grows out of it. Maybe, some angry fellow impregnates her, so she remember she's a girl and start wearing wrapper and head scarf.
When baby suck her breast well, she will remember she is a woman.

That is Tomboy that OP is talking about.

BUT
She can still wear trouser and be going to office O.
And during PTA meetings, children's inter-house sport, she will still attempt to use her high heel shoes to kick football, because it's still sweeting her body.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Nobody: 11:35am On Oct 08, 2019
Op was passing by when they were sharing school certificate and collected one. Tomboy and Transgender are too different things, even Cross-dressers are different too entirely. In the past celebrities would dress like woman e.g Bon Jovi, Boy George and mostly Rock.

But wait is Bobrisky a transgender or Cross dresser because those boobs look convincing to a degree to be a wear-on.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Nobody: 11:37am On Oct 08, 2019
uuzba:

Tomboy.
A stupid girl that refuse to dress as a girl, sit down and close her legs.
Whenever you speak to her, she will laugh, hahaha, that she knows she should calm down and behave feminine. It's just that kicking football and all those men, gra-gra stuff is sweating her body and she can save money by cutting her hair short.
She eventually grows out of it. Maybe, some angry fellow impregnates her, so she remember she's a girl and start wearing wrapper and head scarf.
When baby suck her breast well, she will remember she is a woman.

That is Tomboy that OP is talking about.

BUT
She can still wear trouser and be going to office O.
And during PTA meetings, children's inter-house sport, she will still attempt to use her high heel shoes to kick football, because it's still sweeting her body.

Guy this is shallow reasoning.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by NLSavage: 11:53am On Oct 08, 2019
wheesin:
Who be that corper for the last picture and where the fuq did he serve? grin
abi oo loud am. smiley
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Fidelismaria: 12:01pm On Oct 08, 2019
undecided
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Christmasdon(m): 12:07pm On Oct 08, 2019
Tomboy: A girl behaving boyish. Tomgirl: A boy behaving girlish. what do they stand to gain thats' the question?

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 12:13pm On Oct 08, 2019
BafanaBafana:
You were posted something reasonable then spoiled it with Bobrisky's picture. Now I can't say what I wanted to say
grin Apologies! Give your two cents though.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 12:17pm On Oct 08, 2019
BRATISLAVA:


It's the new perversion of the ages. Are you surprised?
You can say that again. I, still, am.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by etrange: 12:17pm On Oct 08, 2019
inoki247:
Naso I see 1 girl for my street wey dey form Tomboy get belle this year I shock...

I don't get. Shock because tomboy does not have sex or has no womb?
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by PeachtreeReside(f): 12:19pm On Oct 08, 2019
These are crossdressers and aspiring transgender.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by etrange: 12:20pm On Oct 08, 2019
Christmasdon:
Tomboy: A girl behaving boyish.
Tomgirl: A boy behaving girlish.
what do they stand to gain thats' the question?

The same thing you stand to gain from behaving the way you behave. Y'all think a kid just wakes up and decides to be girly? The fact that there's nothing to gain is enough to tell you that's it's who they are and not a choice. We segregate a lot in this country, always looking for a reason to make others come off as "less".

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 12:22pm On Oct 08, 2019
Depressed101:
I'm using a new phone that's devoid of all my beer pics... If not I for give you chilled Goldberg, remind me I will do that later.. Cheers
I hope you read my response to the comment you're anxious to reward with one bottle. Kindly do and, this time, more carefully.
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by youngestgrad(m): 12:26pm On Oct 08, 2019
Females who behave like boys more often than not grow out of it, they get married, get pregnant and that is the end of the tomboyish nature.
Have you guys noticed that guys who behave like females hardly ever grow out of such behaviors they are the bobrisky and his likes we have today.

This is because female chromosomes are XX which rarely cause masculine traits so this tomboyish behaviors are mostly externally influenced ie Environment factors. The male XY well obviously contains the X.......well you get my point.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by xaggar(m): 12:27pm On Oct 08, 2019
Kayceenaz:
Staring confusedly while wondering, “Could this be a male or female? Maybe I’m not seeing right. Okay, I am. How come spotting that difference is like puzzle-solving?” From time to time, I grapple with these thoughts. Maybe, you do, too. It is tempting to classify such matter as insignificant but when you spend a minute or two weighing the implications for an individual, awareness of its significance begins setting in. Well, this is Nigeria and the context of this subject broached, a clue about its increased seriousness. We can’t deny (without fueling falsehood) that there are potential and actual tomboys and tomgirls among us. Let’s find out if two conceivable high-ranking rationales for this quirky personality are really flawless.

First, “being and appearing like a male/female is who I am and my real self; my gender from birth does not matter.” This view seems solid. After all, the gospel of “Be yourself” is widespread. But how can anyone be himself/herself by denying his/her self? It’s similar to a police officer saying he/she can bear that tag without maintaining peace and order somewhere. Any drastic step taken to change or mask one’s inborn gender for self-fulfillment defeats the goal itself. Such objective gets farther from, not closer to, being achieved.

Second, “it’s really not my fault. I grew up amidst lots of males or females. I suppose nature made me that way.” Citing circumstance or others as the ground for the inclination sounds convincing. The painting of “It is not within my control” is made. Actually, this does not absolve a male from blame for preferring lady-like mannerisms and wears or female trying so hard to be addressed as a mister. Availability of personal re-conditioning to revert to one’s true self exposes such perspective as untenable. Moreover, science has proven for the umpteenth time that nature operates orderly, so it would not turn a male to female and vice-versa half-way in the course of living.

Finally, it is apparent global gravitation towards modernism has somewhat led to redefinition of self-harmony and being oneself. Persons like myself are glad this trend, which has regrettably gone a notch higher to birth transgenders, remains unable to displace the fact truly being oneself requires being at peace with one’s gender.


©Kaycee Naze,
Rational Pen.

Too much salt spoils the soup.

Too much grammar spoils the reading flow and goes ahead to kill/drown the message in the essay.

Come down my man. I see you are in such hurry to expose you literary prowess. Don't think I don't get what you are trying lay across but sometimes it's good to be simple.
You've been acknowledged.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by OluwasureGig: 1:14pm On Oct 08, 2019
RiyadhGoddess:
Being a tom boy or girl is different from transgender!!!
I used to be a tom boy and I think sometimes it still reflects though I try hard to hide it...

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Men polo mixed with Jerseys grade A 75k per bale.
Read my signature
I'll give you 60k for the latter. where's your location and how do I get them
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Depressed101: 1:25pm On Oct 08, 2019
Kayceenaz:

If you re-read the concluding paragraph, you would discover I never asserted there is a necessary link between tomboys/tomgirls and transgenders. My point was such behavioural tendencies tend to lead to a decision to drastically alter one's gender. The high possibility of some transgenders today once being tomboys/tomgirls underscores the need to reconsider appropriateness of leaning towards such a personality. If you don't wanna get burnt, avoid moving close to the fire.

Also, I beg to differ on "tomness" being solely physical and not psychological. Exihibition of behaviours opposed to one's gender is the product of a belief system, a mental evaluation favourable to ways of life of an opposite sex. That goes on to pattern one's physical actions after it. In psychology, the term "Psychosomatic relationship'' sheds light on this truism.
Mr man save your Grammers, from my personal observations, kids start exhibiting tomness from their very early life, it's natural occurrence caused by hormonal imbalance and not necessarily a result of series of actions taken through out one's life...

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by GeoAfrikana(m): 1:30pm On Oct 08, 2019
Kayceenaz:

If you re-read the concluding paragraph, you would discover I never asserted there is a necessary link between tomboys/tomgirls and transgenders. My point was such behavioural tendencies tend to lead to a decision to drastically alter one's gender. The high possibility of some transgenders today once being tomboys/tomgirls underscores the need to reconsider appropriateness of leaning towards such a personality. If you don't wanna get burnt, avoid moving close to the fire.

Also, I beg to differ on "tomness" being solely physical and not psychological.
Exihibition of behaviours opposed to one's gender is the product of a belief system, a mental evaluation favourable to ways of life of an opposite sex. That goes on to pattern one's physical actions after it. In psychology, the term "Psychosomatic relationship'' sheds light on this truism.

The emboldened is a strong point.
What many people don't realize is that humans don't do things without reason.

A person dresses like the opposite sex but claims that it's only physical is the definition of "shying from the truth".

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by ohem007(m): 1:37pm On Oct 08, 2019
Form tom boy form tom boy..


I climb on top you na still rape case

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 1:58pm On Oct 08, 2019
pcguru1:
Op was passing by when they were sharing school certificate and collected one. Tomboy and Transgender are too different things, even Cross-dressers are different too entirely. In the past celebrities would dress like woman e.g Bon Jovi, Boy George and mostly Rock.

But wait is Bobrisky a transgender or Cross dresser because those boobs look convincing to a degree to be a wear-on.
grin Hahahaha! That sneer first sentence aimed at discrediting me is really amusing. If you go through the article again, it would be clearer to you I did not equate being a transgender with tomboy/tomgirl. I simply highlighted that tomness attitudes tend to pave way for considerations to carpet-cross to another gender, which is very probable.
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 2:08pm On Oct 08, 2019
Depressed101:
Mr man save your Grammers, from my personal observations, kids start exhibiting tomness from their very early life, it's natural occurrence caused by hormonal imbalance and not necessarily a result of series of actions taken through out one's life...
If tomness tendencies are results of hormonal imbalance (deficiency) as you say, then patients need not nourish it, even till adulthood, by justifying the shift and attempting to behaviourally normalize it. Re-conditioning is the way forward, not hiding behind the "I was born this way" excuse.
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 2:12pm On Oct 08, 2019
GeoAfrikana:


The emboldened is a strong point.
What many people don't realize is that humans don't do things without reason.

A person dresses like the opposite sex but claims that it's only physical is the definition of "shying from the truth".
You can say that again. The psychological/mental and physical are so interconnected, yet some people either do not see it or choose to forget.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 2:15pm On Oct 08, 2019
xaggar:


Too much salt spoils the soup.

Too much grammar spoils the reading flow and goes ahead to kill/drown the message in the essay.

Come down my man. I see you are in such hurry to expose you literary prowess. Don't think I don't get what you are trying lay across but sometimes it's good to be simple.
You've been acknowledged.
Thank you very much for the feedback. It is well appreciated. Note taken.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Depressed101: 2:17pm On Oct 08, 2019
Kayceenaz:

If tomness tendencies are results of hormonal imbalance (deficiency) as you say, then patients need not nourish it, even till adulthood, by justifying the shift and attempting to behaviourally normalize it. Re-conditioning is the way forward, not hiding behind the "I was born this way" excuse.
there's no need to continue this discussion it's obvious you are bigot, clearly you can't accept that people cannot all be normal, making an excuse for your hatred for them, thereby profering solution for their *deficiency* as you called it.... Mind you they are not suffering, it is you who have an headache that is suffering and you need help to take your mind off them because they are one the best type of humans to be with.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Depressed101: 2:17pm On Oct 08, 2019
Kayceenaz:

If tomness tendencies are results of hormonal imbalance (deficiency) as you say, then patients need not nourish it, even till adulthood, by justifying the shift and attempting to behaviourally normalize it. Re-conditioning is the way forward, not hiding behind the "I was born this way" excuse.
there's no need to continue this discussion it's obvious you are a bigot, clearly you can't accept that people cannot all be normal, making an excuse for your hatred for them, thereby profering solution for their *deficiency* as you called it.... Mind you they are not suffering, it is you who have an headache that is suffering and you need help to take your mind off them because they are one the best type of humans to be with.
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by EmptyCoconutHead(m): 2:19pm On Oct 08, 2019
missjo:
Being a tomboy or tomgirl has no correlation with being transgender.
Tomness is exhibited in purely physical ways like in subtle dressing, sports, talking style. Trans is psychological and involves a total transformation across genders. What i mean is, a tomboy is still a girl and can choose to act girly when they have to,they just prefer behaving as a boy. A trans will stick to their new gender and does not make switches.

I take this personally cos i am a tommy myself,so take it from me and be careful about mistaking toms for trans people
upload ur pics make we see.
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 2:30pm On Oct 08, 2019
youngestgrad:
Females who behave like boys more often than not grow out of it, they get married, get pregnant and that is the end of the tomboyish nature.
Have you guys noticed that guys who behave like females hardly ever grow out of such behaviors they are the bobrisky and his likes we have today.

This is because female chromosomes are XX which rarely cause masculine traits so this tomboyish behaviors are mostly externally influenced ie Environment factors. The male XY well obviously contains the X.......well you get my point.
I get your point, and to be frank, it is quite convincing. Absence of "Y" in female chromosomes make females more liable to break ties with tomness, whereas the males find it more difficult to achieve same due to the presence of "X."

Well, regardless of the gender, progress can be made in shading off mannerisms warring against a person's "follow-come" gender by feeding one's mind and environment with corresponding materials.

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Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 2:38pm On Oct 08, 2019
Depressed101:
there's no need to continue this discussion it's obvious you are a bigot, clearly you can't accept that people cannot all be normal, making an excuse for your hatred for them, thereby profering solution for their *deficiency* as you called it.... Mind you they are not suffering, it is you who have an headache that is suffering and you need help to take your mind off them because they are one the best type of humans to be with.
I'm no bigot, bro. I meant if some people are not normal, which may be true, attempts should be made to correct the deviation. That two children are born as siamese doesn't suggest moves shouldn't be made to return them to normal, since remedies are available.
Re: Why Turning A Tomboy Or Tomgirl Is Self-Conflicting by Kayceenaz(m): 2:41pm On Oct 08, 2019
PeachtreeReside:
These are crossdressers and aspiring transgender.
As clear as crystal. You couldn't have put it better.

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